Really?

Say she insults your parents horribly, abuses you emotionally and even physically when she can, slept with your boss and had a child for him and you guys got separated for that reason at about 35yrs of age.

You will forever remain single and CELIBATE for the rest of the 50-60yrs you have left on earth because marrying another wife will be adultery?

Really LOUIS?

LewsTherin:


Strange, isn't it?
Do you know why I got married? I married My Lady because I was tired of not having her around 247. Kids were never on the list of reasons. Heck, if I could get away without having children, I would. 3 years before our first child and as at now, no plans to add another. My mother complained then, and she complains now and I told her if she really wants a baby, her husband is still alive . I married at 29, a virgin, even though I had some of the "baddest" friends on campus. It was a choice I made. If I could stick to it then...... The only difficulty I see in that scenario is the absence of a great companion. A void I can try filling with lots and lots of video games!!!

cococandy:
Really?

Say she insults your parents horribly, abuses you emotionally and even physically when she can, slept with your boss and had a child for him and you guys got separated for that reason at about 35yrs of age.

You will forever remain single and CELIBATE for the rest of the 50-60yrs you have left on earth because marrying another wife will be adultery?

Really LOUIS?

Because I am extremely conscious that its just 50-60 years on Earth but an eternity after that. It doesn't profit me much to satisfy my sexual and personal cravings here and loose an eternity with the One who died for me. If I didn't believe in Him, it would definitely be a different thing. But I do.

LewsTherin:


Because I am extremely conscious that its just 50-60 years on Earth but an eternity after that. It doesn't profit me much to satisfy my sexual and personal cravings here and loose an eternity with the One who died for me. If I didn't believe in Him, it would definitely be a different thing. But I do.

Oh. Ok

cococandy:
Really?

Say she insults your parents horribly, abuses you emotionally and even physically when she can, slept with your boss and had a child for him and you guys got separated for that reason at about 35yrs of age.

You will forever remain single and CELIBATE for the rest of the 50-60yrs you have left on earth because marrying another wife will be adultery?

Really LOUIS?

Lol. Naughty girl!

But really, am I the only one that believes Lois?

[size=4pt]*sorry Lews, had to get in on the joke*[/size]

Compliments of the season everyone!

ileobatojo:


Lol. Naughty girl!

But really, am I the only one that believes Lois?

[size=4pt]*sorry Lews, had to get in on the joke*[/size]

Anyway right now I believe him. He sounds like Obadiah777. That dude is drunk on the scriptures. If Louis is remotely related to Obadiah, I believe him. Kpomkwem!

Compliments of the season everyone!

Same to you dear

mprexx:


Please explain. Because for all I know, all the heart does is pump blood...

Scientifically correct. But generally the heart is attributed as being responsible for decisions based on emotions and sentiments. The brain calculates logically. So the brain give you a clear-cut Yes/No. But the heart complicates it.

Most of these women know what exactly to do but the grip their hearts have on such matters is stronger than any logic the brain can conjure up.
So the brain tells them to quit the abusive relationship, but the heart makes pleas and so the average woman judges her case with the sentiments/emotions of societal beliefs, children, tradition, the thoughts of another woman taking over her place etc against the backdrop of permanent physical injuries to her and even being killed.

This is typical of an average woman in abusive relationship around us here.

lilmax:
You guys keep saying the same thing every time
.......some ladies see these bad traits in them before marriage and yet they still go about with getting married, so tell ladies they should erase the idea of dating a bad guy and thinking he will or they can change him after marriage

You dey mind them?


And point of correction : Marriage WONT bring you HAPPINESS if you aren't happy to start with. People get this wrong everytime and with high expectations too.

What a thread

@OP: Your friend definitely gets high on abuse, please leave her

@ LewsTherin: I get where you are coming from though I doubt the Bible considers remarrying on ground's of divorce due to adultery a sin.

If separation occurs (God forbid) and

1. I have kids: will forget marriage and invest in excellent dildos

2. I have no kids: will pray for clearance to marry... none forthcoming; adopt a kid and invest in....

@lilmax: a lot truly see these signs however if mommy & daddy's marriage was like that, what do you expect?

Some ladies sure saw the signs and well went ahead

cococandy:
Really?

Say she insults your parents horribly, abuses you emotionally and even physically when she can, slept with your boss and had a child for him and you guys got separated for that reason at about 35yrs of age.

You will forever remain single and CELIBATE for the rest of the 50-60yrs you have left on earth because marrying another wife will be adultery?

Really LOUIS?

Festive greetings Coco, how far?

Lews has laid it out straight. Even the transgression of adultery is forgivable. And if you choose not to forgive, the permission to divorce does not pre-suppose remarriage. True Christian marriage is until death do part.


TV

Ewuro4:


You dey mind them?


And point of correction : Marriage WONT bring you HAPPINESS if you aren't happy to start with. People get this wrong everytime and with high expectations too.

Hi Jide, long time. Hope all is well with you. Great to have you back. Such festive cheer.


TV

TV01:


Festive greetings Coco, how far?

Lews has laid it out straight. Even the transgression of adultery is forgivable. And if you choose not to forgive, the permission to divorce does not pre-suppose remarriage. True Christian marriage is until death do part.


TV

I'm really good. Merry Xmas to you too.

Well of course I know adultery is forgivable in the face of true repentance.
How about if the culprit is unrepentant?

And in case of seperation, I wonder how except joining a monastery or nunnery a divorced or separated person intends to remain celibate all their life.

I know I'm seeing the world through my personal lenses right now but it is still damn hard to believe.

stag:


Scientifically correct. But generally the heart is attributed as being responsible for decisions based on emotions and sentiments. The brain calculates logically. So the brain give you a clear-cut Yes/No. But the heart complicates it.

Most of these women know what exactly to do but the grip their hearts have on such matters is stronger than any logic the brain can conjure up.
So the brain tells them to quit the abusive relationship, but the heart makes pleas and so the average woman judges her case with the sentiments/emotions of societal beliefs, children, tradition, the thoughts of another woman taking over her place etc against the backdrop of permanent physical injuries to her and even being killed.

This is typical of an average woman in abusive relationship around us here.

Nice write up... I see it as a case of logic vs stupidity though.

TV01:


Hi Jide, long time. Hope all is well with you. Great to have you back. Such festive cheer.


TV

Thank you kindly. All is well. Good to see you around.

Compliments of the season to you and yours. Regards to madam and TV Jnr.

bukatyne:
What a thread

@OP: Your friend definitely gets high on abuse, please leave her

@ LewsTherin: I get where you are coming from though I doubt the Bible considers remarrying on ground's of divorce due to adultery a sin.

If separation occurs (God forbid) and

1. I have kids: will forget marriage and invest in excellent dildos

2. I have no kids: will pray for clearance to marry... none forthcoming; adopt a kid and invest in....

@lilmax: a lot truly see these signs however if mommy & daddy's marriage was like that, what do you expect?

Some ladies sure saw the signs and well went ahead

Honestly, I don't get it. I would do same thing you just wrote here if I were in her shoes. It won't be easy, but in life what is?
She has stated she hates him but can't leave him because ...the Lord hates divorce... I don't think I can do that!

mprexx:


Nice write up... I see it as a case of logic vs stupidity though.

Fundamentally.

cococandy:

How about if the culprit is unrepentant?

Separate

cococandy:

And in case of seperation, I wonder how except joining a monastery or nunnery a divorced or separated person intends to remain celibate all their life.

I was celibate from the day I became a Christian until I met my wife - and it was a long time . I'm sure I've testified as such previously on NL. But more to the point, when I was searching for a wife, and even more pertinently when it seemed at times I may not find one, I always knew a lifetime of celibacy may be on the cards and I was totally at peace with that. And I knew I wasn't settling for any ole' wife.

Before I actually became a Christian, I was all but one. I just couldn't wrap my head around the no GF thing. Once I became one, it was quite clear to me what my faith demanded. I said "no problem", if that's what you desire Lord, pray help me - I didn't even pray as such, just affirmed it within myself - and He did. The Lord is no respecter of persons. His grace is freely available.

cococandy:
I know I'm seeing the world through my personal lenses right now but it is still damn hard to believe.

The scriptures are clear - and plainly so. What people choose to believe, how they choose to express their faith and the amount of trust they have in God, is indeed a personal thing

Christian marriage is until death do part, divorce is possible in the event of adultery, remarriage only in the event of death of one of the spouses.

TV

mprexx:


Honestly, I don't get it. I would do same thing you just wrote here if I were in her shoes. It won't be easy, but in life what is?
She has stated she hates him but can't leave him because ...the Lord hates divorce... I don't think I can do that!

Well well

Let's say: she gets a high when she is beaten et al

ileobatojo:


Lol. Naughty girl!

But really, am I the only one that believes Lois?

[size=4pt]*sorry Lews, had to get in on the joke*[/size]

Compliments of the season everyone!

Didn't get the joke at first but then my nephews were creating enough noise to raise the dead. Very funny, ha ha!

cococandy:

Anyway right now I believe him. He sounds like Obadiah777. That dude is drunk on the scriptures. If Louis is remotely related to Obadiah, I believe him. Kpomkwem!
Same to you dear

Who is Obadiah777? Sounds like a character in Isaac Assimov's Nightfall

LewsTherin:


Didn't get the joke at first but then my nephews were creating enough noise to raise the dead. Very funny, ha ha!



[b]Who is Obadiah777? [/b]Sounds like a character in Isaac Assimov's Nightfall

A nairalander. Calls himself sukkot these days .I think. I might be wrong about that though.

He's A character alright.

cococandy:


Anyway right now I believe him. He sounds like Obadiah777. That dude is drunk on the scriptures. If Louis is remotely related to Obadiah, I believe him. Kpomkwem!



Same to you dear

walahi talahi i am only drunk on orijin


compliments of the season to you

sukkot:



compliments of the season to you

Same to you too

cococandy:


A nairalander. Calls himself sukkot these days .I think. I might be wrong about that though.

He's A character alright.

THAT guy? Who keeps predicting a nuclear war since the 27th of November? Heck no! No no no no no double no!

LewsTherin:

THAT guy? Who keeps predicting a nuclear war since the 27th of November? Heck no! No no no no no double no!

siddon there. war done start for ukraine. na to spread remain

LewsTherin:


Didn't get the joke at first but then my nephews were creating enough noise to raise the dead. Very funny, ha ha!

Hi nephews!

So obadiah is now sukkot?

I hv taken notice. Missed him a lot. He usually take me to religious section then.
Now it's frosbel. Those guys r something else

Hello jidegirl. How r u and family?

I like this lewistherin o.
If I'm married to him,i will be behaving anyhow

moca:
So obadiah is now sukkot?

I hv taken notice. Missed him a lot. He usually take me to religious section then.
Now it's frosbel. Those guys r something else

Hello jidegirl. How r u and family?

I like this lewistherin o.
If I'm married to him,i will be behaving anyhow

heyyyyyyy moca i troway salute. compliments of the season. na my new name be this na

EfemenaXY:


1. And I bet you those kids are damaged.

2. The boys would see such abuse as the norm because it's what they grew up seeing, and it's all they know.

3. The girls will also see it as normal and would expect their husbands or boyfriends to treat them in exactly the same manner.

1. Definitely, but not beyond repair.

2. I disagree with you here. It is very unlikely it's all they've seen, they have neighbours, friends, tv and such. I'm sure one of them(or a sister) must have recorded the happenings of the day in question. I doubt they consider it the norm, they most likely find it disgusting and embarrassing. What I'm curious about is why they leave their mother in that home at their age.

3. You couldn't be more wrong. If anything, they more likely detest acts of violence and would not tolerate even the slightest hint at violence or abuse.

TV01:


The scriptures are clear - and plainly so. What people choose to believe, how they choose to express their faith and the amount of trust they have in God, is indeed a personal thing


TV

Merry christmas, egbon. Fresh_Dude, here. You were gone for quite a while. How have you been and how's the family?

moca:


I like this lewistherin o.
If I'm married to him,i will be behaving anyhow

Hang on! So if you get the "God-fearing Man" you ladies cry on about, you'll take that as an opportunity to "behave anyhow"?

Hey hey @ lewistherin, cool down
Most times I play and joke.
Such was one of those moments

Sukkot,i will be looking for ur trouble soon

moca:


I like this lewistherin o.
If I'm married to him,i will be behaving anyhow

Sweetie, abeg define "anyhow".

EfemenaXY:




Sweetie, abeg define "anyhow".

Cooking, cleaning, caring for the kids and in-laws, getting down every night and on demand...... you know, stuff like that