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the world we live in today is such a funny place.... something NORMAL is now seen as an achievement aka buying a gift to your spouse (as if you wont be sitting right next to him when he drives that car lol), but better yet, people need to flaunt it on social media for all to see, in order to receive the irrelevant praise/accolades from total strangers (as if it will make any difference)

i am sure this man didnt come on social media every single time he was buying gifts to his wife...

no sir, what you are is a confused immature person who cant take a MATURE decision in his life and rather claim that he loves both women. whether you love both or you love even 100women at the same time, you must take a decision as to WHO YOU WANT TO BE WITH?! its a difficult decision but thats what need to be done.

here is a simple clue: would you take the chance to play them both (and ultimately look like an immature brotha) OR make an adult decision to drop one and be with your chosen one? by trying to have your cake and eat it too, you will lose both.

as money is the most important thing for you then good for you sir... and good luck!

its your life, your career, YOUR choice!

drug overdose.... of course. no 34yr old man would just drop dead like that.

EreluRoz:
Who is wrong?

they are both wrong and both part of the problem... they feed of each other. same as who is to blame for prostitution (prostitute/customer)? or who is to blame for drugs (dealer/addict)?

DanielAlhassan:
SHE IS LIKING ME , FALLING FOR ME BUT SHE ALWAYS COMPLAIN ABOUT MY QUIETNESS, SHYNESS AND INTROVERTED LIFE , I CANT CHANGE MYSELF WHAT SHOULD I TELL HER OR DO

you should simply tell her: "sista... this is who i am , take it or leave it, and stop pestering me about my way of life. this version of me is a work of art that took decades to create and i certainly wont change for anyone. there is someone out there that would love and cherish that side of me, rather than look down on it (like you do).... and if it aint you, then so be it, but stop trying to turn me into what YOU desire in a man."

COMMUNICATION is the key... aka to have a mature honest discussion about the issue with her.

Lalami3232:

If I recall correctly, there's something called "the law of diminishing return". Economics say If you've been eating eba, rice or a particular food for too long, you tend to lost interest in eating it at a point.

very true... but thats easy to fix. just sprinkle a few spices here and there, to make this old "eba" feel like a brand new different dish

TRIBALISM, RELIGION, CULTURE, SOCIETY, POVERTY and NIGERIANS THEMSELVES are all to blame for whats happening in Nigeria.

...and i doubt anything will ever change in the next 100years.

they should get the death penalty instead...a life for a life!

Tinubu doesnt really care because he still has 3+ years to empty the coffers of Nigeria and leave his presidency as a billionaire 50times over. Tinubu's family next 10generations will benefit from his presidency.

Clara16:
Okay.
But How much did you pay charging your phone?
If is costly to charge EV, I believe with time it will be affordable. I don't remember paying huge amount of money to charge my phone. We need to develop. Nigerians should not be struggling because of this resources called oil.

stick to the issue....phones are irrelevant here.
when they sold us the EV dream, they were all saying we have to change cars and buy electric, that it was good for the environment and much cheaper bla bla bla.... but sadly that was a BIG FAT LIE! now that price of electricity is so high everywhere on earth, you sometimes have to pay double (in electricity) what you would have paid for a similar journey with gas.

here below is the reality of this issue:
With all that's required to mine and process minerals — from giant diesel trucks to fossil-fuel-powered refineries — EV battery production has a significant carbon footprint. As a result, building an electric vehicle does more damage to the climate than building a gas car does

as much as a wh0re needs to be fukced (and must be fukced), remember that someday somebody may also fukc the wh0re you "may be" married to.
TIT FOR TAT!

https://www.reactiongifs.com/r/2013/07/stay-alive.gif

in country where constant electricity is NOT available, the above is a waste of time.

BTW if you check the price that people are paying today to fast charge an EV, then no wonder so many want to go back to using normal gas vehicle. in the real world, if you are fast charging your car today, it costs more than filling up your tank

nlfpmod:
There is also a new story awaiting further confirmation that in 2018, the suspect’s ex-girlfriend was killed in same manner. Also that in 2020, the suspect’s own biological sister met the same fate, and the same thing has happened to Christiannah in 2024.

if the above is remotely true, then SERIAL KILLER he is indeed. only DEATH can fix the issue.

Merry100:
The fear of being used and discarded is one of the reasons why some Nigerian women demand money in relationships.

how does demanding for money before sex solves the above problem (aka being used and discarded)? if you demand for payment for sex then you present yourself as a wh0re, thus why you WILL get fukced and discarded as nobody wants to date a wh0re.

Lagos is an expensive city, and as a result, the lifestyle can be quite extravagant. There is an abundance of bars, clubs, and other nightlife options in Lagos compared to other cities, which has led to a culture where sex is overhyped and frequently demanded. If the emphasis on sex were reduced, the demand for money and other financial gestures would also decrease.

women who ask for money before sex will do so whether Lagos is an expensive city or not.... its their lifestyle/hustle/habit, and wont change.

In Lagos, many guys prioritize sex greatly in relationships. Some even date women whom they don't perceive as their ideal spouse, solely because they need a sexual partner. A guy can utilize a lady as his girlfriend just to satisfy his sexual urges for up to six years, breaking her heart. Many women in Lagos are already aware of these tactics. That is the reason some choose to date men who can spoil them with material things, ensuring they gain something from the relationship. This way, they won't feel used if they happen to fall into such an unfortunate situation.

again, the minute a woman asks for money before sex, she categorizes herself as "that type" of woman, and no man wants to marry such type of woman. you cant act as a wh0re and expect to be taken seriously. you have to choose your hustle.

religion/society/culture etc are all part of this whole marriage agenda, as if it is a life achievement and/or it will make someone's life better.

they dont really care about Ukraine or how many Ukrainians will perish in this conflict... they only care about using Ukraine to weaken Russia, but sadly Russia is tougher to weaken than they had imagined. with all their sanctions and embargoes, Russia is stronger than ever.

thus why they have decided to lie to the entire world with their biased media (for the past 2yrs) that Ukraine is winning....

just because you had a bad experience with people squatting at your place, doesnt mean we all will.

i have no problem with people coming over to stay for a few nights (i had a friend over last week), but you have to tell me beforehand how long you wanna stay, and when your time is up, you gotta go...

probably they need more time to empty his bank accounts and selling/stealing his properties.

why would you have an arrest warrant for someone, if you had no tangible proof to prosecute him as soon as you got your hands on him?! makes very little sense!

Candidlady:
How do you mean shy/uncomfortable in marriage

meaning that...
- its ok for someone married to be shy around their spouse
- its ok for someone married to want the light off when they get undressed in front of their spouse
- its ok for someone married to feel awkward and uncomfortable while getting undressed in front of their spouse
- it sometimes take YEARS before someone married is comfortable naked around their spouse
- some people out there married to them "holier than thou" ladies (who claim their body belongs to god) have never seen their women's naked body.

there is no time limit to when a married person can/should be comfortable undressing around their spouse

what type of GREEDY BASTARD is this, that doesnt want to share this community toto...? now he will end up in jail while injured man continue to sample the babe all by himself (until she brings other brothas to her harem).

Taigaban:
A friend is troubled about the wife 's behavior lately. He is worried that the wife consistently hides her unclothedness from him. He needs help. No need for insult. It can happen to anyone.

whats wrong here? cant someone be shy/uncomfortable in marriage any longer?

the saddest part here is that (if this was true), you would now go hustle and if/when you finally make it, you would ty to get back with that same useless ungrateful low life pay as you go olosho (instead of staying well away from the animal)

EreluRoz:
Sidechicks are really trying enduring nonsense

these women are the nonsense themselves... if you are dating a guy and fully well know he has a gf, then you are part of the problem (by allowing this low life cheater to succeed in his nonsense).

the reality of this issue is that so many women out there think they are "the one" that will make this guy leave his woman (to be with you)... not understanding that, if this remotely happened, then you would now be the main GF and he would be cheating on you with other babes (until he drops you and upgrades to the new one).

imagine a woman, deceiving herself thinking that she is special to this man, not understanding that she is just a tool used by this man to further his yeye lifestyle... and when he is done with her, he switches to the next deluded woman. PRICELESS!

the stench in that building must be EPIC.... Chinese love to cook too much, always smell of food in their buildings.

EreluRoz:
😂

but the most important part IS:
- if you always compare yourself to her, while she probably doesnt even know you exist... then you are most definitely the sidepiece!

the above is only PARTLY true....
- if he introduces her to all his friends and family as his gf but only meets you when he is drunk and/or h0rny.... sista, you are the sidepiece!
- if he lives with her but only meets you in hotels... sista, you are the sidepiece!
- if he wants to spend all his time with her but often tells you he needs his space (with you)... sista, you are the sidepiece!
- if he always pick up when she calls but often miss your calls... sista, you are the sidepiece!
- if he respects her but wants you to do all the dirty nasty stuff in the bedroom... sista, you are the sidepiece!
- if he cares about what she thinks, cares about how she feels but dont give a damn about your life issues.... sista, you are the sidepiece!

sista, move the fukc on with your life...