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I liked her at first, and the relationship was smooth for a while until it's not, I calmly told her on WhatsApp that I don't feel the same anymore that I would like for us to breakup, she acted like she can't read, she kept bringing other issues up and ignoring what I said, but I kept emphasizing, she had an outburst and sent me lots of notes, asking we meet at our favorite place to say goodbyes, I showed up out of the need to be a gentleman, only for her to start saying things and making a scene to guilt trip me into reversing my decision, but I didn't bulge, I told her we broke up, she left me alone for a while and I was so happy only for me to realize she's still stalking me, checking every girl that comments on my post and chatting them up, acting like we're still dating by calling and chatting me up Everytime, visiting me to do wife duties even when I made it clear we're not getting married, I asked her why she's still acting like we're still dating and her reply was "you told me you love me"

Trust me I never use the word love when dating or asking a lady out because I believe I have to feel a certain way about someone to know I love her, and since I was born I haven't fallen in love with any girl so how did I tell her I love her?

I have tried everything in the books, letting her down easy like a gentleman but she's so stubborn it ain't working, and she's chasing other girls away with her freaky possessive and attached behavior, it's like obsession, the type where they decide if I can't have him no one can, and it's scary, comrades I need advice, how do I run away from this lady, I don't have single feelings for her anymore.

Ps. I'm not leaving her Because of sex, girls are fond of saying he used me like it doesn't take two to tango, sex is overated, I'm leaving because I don't want anymore.

Lordedifice1:
OMG I just realise that I just spoke to an idiot
For you to come here telling us we the professionals,veterans,experts and experienced people that sex overrated shows that your demented mental psychosis brain is long dead. Tell us you dont know how to do it rather than criticizing what you have no idea of.

Oga you can't even construct a simple sentence, I won't be caught debating with an imbec.ile, so bye.

Lordedifice1:
No pre-intimacy
No romance
Sucking of whatever she sucked for how long?

Number 1:you sex hormones are dead form the day you were born
Number 2: you don't know how have intimacy with a lady,so therefore you are not man in enough to handle a woman on bed
Number 3:your mind is filled with junks
Number 4: stay off sex am i communicating comrade?
You can't come here and start running your mouth or crying and wailing on what you know that you are very inexperienced with.

Lol look how ludicrous you sound, where in the world did you learn that sex hormones can die? So dumb.

Intimacy is subjective, what's intimacy to you differs from the next person, like I said earlier, you're dumb.

Third, you're not my psychologist, so how could you possibly know the content of my mind?

You're not communicating, I don't speak stupid and I can't interpret psychobabble, so get your leash back on, thank you.

Adsexpert:
You got to deal with your mindset and free yourself from the beliefs of remaining virgin or hating against sex..

I guess you are a xtain.. feelings like this always happens in most scenario which is not needed all the time.. hating yourself and beating yourself up wishing if you could turn back the hands of time..

You are dealing with anxiety and fear if sex.. you are not forced to do it . But know that the 1st time sex is always like that it truly happened to me , the first time I had sex was when I was 20 years old.. and that day I wasn't able to cum cus it felt strange ..

You might decide not to have sex , but if u do it second and 3rd time that's when you get to know what sex truly is..and it's good sensation

Sex is not everything though.. but with the right yansh , pussy, dick and chemistry .. na bomb oh.. you didn't have a chemistry with her and also it was your first time , chillax .

This makes alot of sense, and it's exactly what I'm going through, thanks for this.

SenecaTheYonger:
Why are you being defensive?

I'm not being defensive, I have the freedom to choose who I talk to right?

SenecaTheYonger:
You just said you don’t enjoy sex with women. If your dick is working properly then maybe it’s women you don’t like.

Or maybe you’re asexual

Did you know how to read? I can't be having a conversation with someone that has your kind of IQ.

SenecaTheYonger:
Maybe try letting a gay man fvck your anus. You might enjoy it.

See how deluded and brain dead you are? Seems you do it, that's why you're so into it.

HenryDion:
Glad I helped

Yes you helped a great deal, thank you.

HenryDion:
Referring to me as the confused one is an involuntary defence mechanism you implored to prove you're straight.

Why do you need to prove your straightness if you don't already have insecurities?

Fact is, spaghetti is straight until it's hot. A straight healthy man feels sexual attraction toward his mate.

Since the female gender isn't working out for you, why not try boys?

Ok, I'm gay, you can go now.

HenryDion:
Lol.

Sexuality is fluid.

We have asexuals, pansexuals, gays, lesbians, bis, trans, and the most popular, heterosexual.

There are a bunch more.

But the point is, you're yet to discover your sexuality.

I see a confused man who's afraid that he might be alone in his ordeal.

You didn't enjoy sex with your girlfriend, nor have you ever enjoyed the thought of it, talk of to indulge in it unless pounced upon.

Doesn't that say something about you?

Many will say 26 years is still early to discover your sexuality.

Give it time.

Lol you're the confused one here, I'm as straight as a ruler, I'm strickly heterosexual so discovering my sexuality doesn't even come close to what you're seeing here.

Ade3131:
You ate the forbidden fruit and expect it to be sweet?


Bro, sex is sweet when it's done with the right one. You'll be alright. But to some extent, I agree with you that sex is overrated, and mostly by those who can't stay without it for some reasonable amount of time.

So I didn't enjoy it because she's not the right person?

Blablamalala:
So because you no sabi means say sex dey hyped

Is there anything in my post that suggest I don't know how to have sex?

Blablamalala:
Sex is life my brother

Lol, you're very wrong, this is the hype I was talking about.

Slynation:
Lol...My pre-intimacy dey last about 1hour...you need to work on so many factors tho

One hour? The time I'm supposed to use to better my life I should dedicate it to sex? You're funny.

Premiumwriter:
egusi is quite delicious.

But it's dependent on the cook.

Obviously with the way you talked, your mindset still need a lot of work before you can start enjoying sex.

So my mindset is the reason why I hated her and the sex afterwards? I'm still regretting.

Slynation:
You didn't do pre-intimacy and you want sex to interest you...?? It doesn't work that way bro

The sucking of nipples and bitting of ear is what comrade?

I created this account for anonymity, I am 26, and I lost my virginity very recently, I stayed a virgin this long because sex wasn't my priority, I was chasing money and education, I had several opportunity but it just doesn't feel right, even when I was in school I do sleep over at my girlfriend's but I never touched her or make a move.

It was alot of pressure then because I was the only Virgin in my clique, when my friends discuss sex I just say stuff I learnt online just to contribute and not feel left out, they all believed i am a pro who have had sex many time, I never told any of them that I am a virgin because they'll mock me, I was so troubled that I vowed to loose my Virginity this year, getting a girl isn't hard for me as I am average looking and doing a little well financially, I have dated girls in the past and I didn't attempt anything sexual with them, one even came to my place one morning, joined me on bed and tempted me till I got an erection but I didn't make a move still, one even left me because I didn't try anything sexual with her, I didn't know it was her reason until she told me five months after we broke up,

Fast forward to when I met the girl I lost my virginity to, we clicked so fast and within a week it became a serious relationship, at first I told her no sex, she pretended like she doesn't want sex too, until one day she came around and we were cuddling and she started touching me, asked me to lay down and she was kissing my nipples and bitting my ear, so I got aroused, lost control, when I tried to take her clothes off she let me, her bra same thing until she was stark naked, so I dived in without protection, it happened so fast and I wasn't even enjoying it, it was way different from what I expected because I have fantasized about sex alot,

After the sex, I became gloomy and filled with regrets and fear, especially when I started having muscle pain the next day with serious tiredness, I thought I have contracted something, so many things going on in my head,

First problem is, why did someone like me who is always careful make such a mistake having sex without protection, I was so scared of STDs but I wasn't thinking when it happened,

Second, she's not a virgin, she is a pro when it comes to sex she was only pretending at first, I felt used, I felt stupid, then I asked her about her period, something I should have done before sex, she said it's fine but I still don't feel relief, I just hurriedly put on my clothes and asked her to leave, she just looked at me with confusion, put on her clothes and left, then she chat me up in the evening, and mentioned the sex, that was when I realized that I suddenly hate her and I hate myself for same reason, I have been avoiding her since then, my only thought so far was, "shey na the sex sex sex people dey hype be this" it's not worth it at all, if you're still a virgin please cherish it and don't loose it until you're married, sex is overated.

Sorry for the long read.