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Please who has link for COS for someone outside the UK? I would be happy if you could send me a pm or connect me with anyone. Thank you.

cooooooks:
I was discussing with my girl today about this and we did a bit of research.

https://www.antislavery.org/slavery-today/domestic-work-and-slavery/

Excerpt from the site:
Domestic workers perform a range of tasks in private homes including: cooking, cleaning, laundry, taking care of children and the elderly and running errands. Some domestic workers also live in their employers’ homes and are often considered ‘on call’ to undertake work for their employer 24 hours a day.

The pay is often very low, with wage payments frequently delayed. Some domestic workers may not be paid at all or only receive ‘payment in kind’ such as food or accommodation.

For some domestic workers, the circumstances and conditions of their work amount to slavery. This happens when employers stop domestic workers from leaving the house, don’t pay wages, use violence or threats, withhold their identity documents, limit their contact with family and force them to work.

I doubt if you know what's operating in UK at all?? Domestic workers are different from Care assistant and also different from Child minders. Care assistant is different from live-in-carer and nanny. Everyone is proud of their profession and no one , I repeat none of the above can work , save £15,000 for school fees within 9- 12 months , and sponsor themselves with both feeding, accommodation and living expenses.

elektra:
The two options are risky. Use the masters money to pay for professional child care and have peace of mind.

Thanks alot for this advice.

cooooooks:
What do you mean by:

"a few days a week from 8 am to 2 pm"?

How much will you pay either your sister or your boss's daughter?

Would the UK govt characterise the relationship you wish to have with either lady as "modern-day slavery"?

Why I am asking is because you are looking for house help. Your sister/parents may not stand for it while the daughter of your boss may appreciate it....if you don't overdo it.

Inviting her over is applying for student visa through MSc route which cost over £15,000 and I see no evidence of slavery there.

I don't need any house help, but just a childminder. I have been paying childminder here but thought it will be additional advantage to someone else inform of tuition fees instead of paying over £700 every month for childminder . The only agreement is to pay their school fees direct to the school account in exchange for the work.

donbachi:
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Please how do you mean?

LilMissFavvy:
Pick the humble girl and forget your sister, it's better not to let your parent/sister know, otherwise they will feel bad. Last born ''syndrome'' isn't a joke o, most last borns have been over pampered and they can hardly cope with hard work.......most especially the ones from well - to-do backgrounds. Remember nanny work requires patience.

thanks. I will hide the whole thing from my parents. Last born are always over pampered and most doesn't have what it takes to work for their family.

HarunaWest:
Invite the latter.
Like you said, your sis is spoilt. That means you wouldn't be able to direct her.
But the former, it's more like a contract agreement. So she will conform to terms.
Cheers

Thanks for your advice. I think I will go by this advice. It's a contract and my boss daughter will conform more to it than my sister.

donbachi:
Ur sis would have been a better choice..but she fit leave ur child for house go groove for pubs and ice-cream parlour..as for ur daughter,how much do u know her,in character.to avoid someone sexually abusing ur child...on a second thought,carry ur sis.

No, I only met her all through my 3years training in her mom's shop like 8 years ago. The mother and her daughter still called or chat me up often to say hello to me, always asking about me during this pandemic, without asking or demanding for money or anything. My sister only call me whenever they are broke at home or my parents are sick.

annex1:
From all you've explained. Well, your former boss's daughter would be the perfect fit.

But on side ask yourself; if your former boss was in your position. Would she choose you or her own blood - sister?

Best of luck!

thanks. That same question has been on my mind too. I don't know what will be my parents reaction if I ever mention to them that my boss daughter was invited. I am planning of doing it as a secret without informing my family, but again... I am scared of what might happen later on.

Hi Everyone,
I have been paying high money for childcare here in UK and its giving me a second thought. My husband is a medical doctor and I work as a nurse for half days in a week, so we don't have to work all day and time to be financially okay as this is our first child and she is just 8 months old.

I can only afford to sponsor one person for MSc and the person has to be assisting me in childcare as a compensation.

I have a younger sister whom I am 6 years older than, she is a graduate but not currently working. She is a spoilt child been the last born and I am the first born. I found it very difficult to control her as an elder sister while in Nigeria. She is a graduate, and she is tired of Nigeria, she is also a burden on my parents as she has been living and feeding on them. Most times I send them money she spends 80% of it for herself and she is been treated as a pet been last child. I am afraid I won't be able to control her as my sister when she comes over.

I have another lady, she was the daughter of my boss where I was learning Tailoring in Nigeria. She and her mother were so respectful and caring. They are very poor and have no support anywhere so I am thinking of inviting her over for her MSc abroad and to also be taking care of my child for few days in return for her school fees.
Note : that is aside from their 20 hours work per week allowed on their student visa, so they can also work and have money.

The childcare is just few days in a week from 8am to 2pm. And I am hopeful it won't affect their studies.

Who is the right person to invite? Please I need your advice . Thanks all

luminouz:
Lies...you created this moniker TODAY!!!

Yes..I created it to write up this comment...do you need his facebook Id and his wife Facebook id to confirm the story ?

Hmmm...Mine was a bit weird. I met this man along the road and we exchanged number. We started communicating and I realised he is always happy to call or chat when he is at work and till he is on his way back home. Whenever h enters home it's another story, either no network or no light.
We have met like 3 times and invited him to come and meet my elder sister I was staying with, if truly he was interested in relationship cos he look like a decent christian and also a choir leader in his church.
He met my sister like 2 times and we started the relationship, one day he invited me to his work and I said I won't make it . So later on, he invited me to his house and on getting there he entertained me at the sitting room, I realised he was very tensed, not just himself and we started talking about life in general. I just asked that I wanted to pee, he asked me to wait and quickly went to park somethings out of the bathroom not knowing it was his wife underwear, I didn't even know anything. I saw the house was more organized as a married than a single guy, but I kept quiet. After everything, as I was about to leave, I just said let me peep at your bedroom... OMG!! I saw things ... his wife wrapper, pants, underwear, bra, high heel, ladies skirts, etc. I kept calm and asked him about it, he told me it was his younger sister that was living with him ever since their mom died and her sister also lost her husband, she was disturbed so he asked her to be staying with him. He went further to joke that other 2 brothers of his were living with him, so I just said okay.

I got home and my spirit was disturbed, I told my sister about it and she was like not possible for someone to even come and meet her, introduce himself to her . So I started social media search and I realised he was on facebook... I saw his wedding pictures , his wife picture and recent picture they even took together. I was mad but kept quiet. As usual, another day came and he came to see me again, after some minutes of discussion I asked if he was married again and he said no... I was just smilling and brought out my phone to show him his wedding pictures, he was dumbfounded and left immediately. He blocked my contact immediately. Although I copied his wife contact details from facebook and told her about everything that happened and how her husband brought me home on a particular day and was telling me all sort of lies. I said I was very disappointed in the man, she asked if I didnt see any wedding pictures hung in the sitting room, I said no...she said the husband must have hid it then, The woman was very angry and that was my last communication with him or her.

Fear man...Fear men... Fear them ... always do your research well before going further with them

But some men are still very good and loyal