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Married for a while, a wife travelled to the Uk two years ago and during the time, . Her husband sold one of his properties for around a million naira and only paid for her tuberculosis test which was less than 80,000naira at the time. Only the wife’s mum was the person who supported her in travelling.

Fast forward few months later, wife is pregnant, mum dies and wife has started supporting her husband with all her income for husband to join her. Husband successfully joins her and life is good.

Fast forward to 4years later , husband and wife are saving for a major investment in Nigeria, but due to the amount needed, it seems both of them would have to take more time before they can save up for that investment.

Now husband is asking wife to use part of the saved money to build on one of his own properties;(property is solely his and was bought before they met), whilst still saving for the major investment.

Wife doesn’t feel up to it? Should she allow him or not?

Honestly I'm not scared of divorce. Just needed to hear some other opinions. Today, it's buying a landed property, tomorrow it will be something.
I'd rather be financially secure. Marriage is not a do or die affair. Thanks

He has continued building on this assets. This is something I have been meaning to do even before I got married. I don't think marriage should deter me from achieving a long term goal of mine. I just want to know if it's wrong. Cos regardless of whether I am in a marriage or not, I have the right to financial security as long as I am keeping the goals of my family in check.

He had gotten a few before we got married. At the time. I wasn't able to afford one. But now I can, with my own earnings. He hasn't financially supported me since we got married in fact. My mum single handedly sponored my trip to the uk and i have been fending for myself in the uk whilst pregnant. Now that I can, I want to get an investment.

I want to get just one. Alot of wives hide it o but I don't want to. He has a few and i wouldn't mind having one in my name as well.

Hello everyone.

I am a newly married woman of less than 2years, 26weeks pregnant and I'm going through alot.
My husband and I were having a discussion. We have plans of investing together and he has a few assets however i told him that I would want to purchase a land in my own name so as to be financial secure for myself, the family and the children if anything happens in the future.
But he says he wouldn't let that happen and the moment I purchase a land in my own name. He would believe I am asking for a divorce and would divorce me.

Please is it wrong as a wife to have an investment in my own name,at least one?