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placeofallure:
I can't stand a relationship where we'll just sit, no convo. That's situashionship

I once dated a guy. We were cool before. We talk and get along well but I outgrew him kinda. I was considering starting a relationship with someone else but I was hesitant cause I don't like to disappoint my guy. I eventually did left him because all of a sudden, things just turned awry with us. Because my mind wasn't with him anymore, we don't gist, we don't chat, we don't play, anytime I go see him, we just try to be civil with each other and that was it.

For me, relationship is more of your ability to communicate. Gist, chat, talk, laugh, play, talk and more talk. Anything short of that, you are business partners, engagement of convenience. My hubby and I can gist for Africa! We woke up around 1:27 am, we've been gisting and about to go back to bed now. You are right to leave the relationship. Sex is awesome but it's not everything in a relationship.

Now this is what I am talking about, you get it, the whole not talking thing kills every vibe no matter how strong, I ain't a talkative though but I love the feeling of a meaningful and deep conversation, even if its about a trivial topic, this one doesn't even discuss sex, I am a great listener, and I chip in always, but she's just there, eventually the sex became boring too, she just comes and we exchange pleasantries that's just it, I'll be the one asking her questions, she manages to answer with one word and short monosyllabic answers, it's so draining.

NoNaw:
Take note OP. This person here is just a perfect example of that girl. He see's no importance in a matching energy. Mind isnt open to flows, ideas to have an intelligent conversation. Talk, vibe, flow..

Lol yea, I can sense the vibe too, boring as f*ck.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
u sef
That's why man is man

And woman is woman!

She simply naturally doing woman things, those are classically what women love.

Is that the reason why we have nothing to talk about? How can you be dating someone and you can't have a meaningful conversation because she's doing women stuff.

NoNaw:
Thats not your woman, just your Bleep buddie! A real Relationship is based on good freindship, healthy conmection, mutual vibes , all those things makes it fun. I cant blame her, knowledge and real exposure. Is based on family oreintation, expose or personal growth and intrest. Too bad shes not solid on that part

Yea, I thought it was exciting at first, but the sex gets boring after a while, like we're just friends with benefit, we only meet to have sex, nothing deep or meaningful.

NoNaw:
Look. She can say all she wants but for the fact that shes not even smart enough to realize that yall enegy aint matching and she is seeing nothing wrong with yall vibe. Means shes just quite low in thinking compared to you. Its hard to date someone that cant match ur energy, knows nothing about the foriegn world, poor knowledge about the outisde world.

Video Games ? Probably never heard of Mortal kombat. ... Ask her what she thinks of Game of thrones, and shes like .. whats that ? Is it a game ? Or what she thinks of Alicia keys voice , and shes like whos that?

So many un matching energies will drain u slowly

It's really draining, I sometimes try to initiate such Convo, but she'll just nod passively then divert into something else, she thinks it's boring, I wish she's ready to learn what I am interested in or make it work

NoNaw:
Shes not the woman for you and youre not the man for her. Yall both have different energies that cant match. You sound like a cool dude that needs a girl with a better exposure. Dont get trapped by her body.

that's why I broke up with her but she's saying she didn't do anything yet I broke up with her, it's making me feel guilty.

I dated this girl one time, we broke up few months ago, and I was the one that called off the relationship, my reasons are we're only sexually compatible but not compatible in other ways and relationships isn't only about sex, aside the sex it's empty, it's like she's a total stranger because we don't communicate much, she doesn't have my kind of intellect, she's not dumb, she's intelligent in a different way, I love philosophy, science, space, aliens, tech, video games and the likes, and I can debate about it non stop, but this girl has no interest in such stuff, she's only interested in fashion, looking cool, making money and the likes, so whenever she visits we have nothing to talk about, we just stay in silence, I tried spicing it up with movies but she doesn't like my kind of movies either, I'd want us to watch marvel avengers and she would want us to watch one stupid Nigerian film and when I object she would pick offense that I am forcing my lifestyle on her. I don't talk much but she loves gossiping about her friends even though she's too insecure to let me meet her friends, for some reason she thought I'd fall for her friends or worse, cheat on her with them, but I find the whole cheating stuff exhausting, since we have nothing to talk about or enjoy together we always have sex whenever she comes around, we would just greet and it's straight to intimacy, I was enjoying it at first until it became generic, now here's my problem, I am addicted to the feeling of having sex with her, like we're sexually compatible but that's just it, aside the sex nothing, she will come around and we won't chill or have any conversation, just sex, and when we're done we sit in silence until she leaves, it's so boring and there's nothing to remedy that, am I the problem? Have you been in such relationship, what did you do?

They're so many mentorships and vids on YouTube that I just don't know where to start, I really want to learn forex, I want to skip all the time wasting and get the real stuff and start trading in few months cuz mehn I need money badly.

advanceDNA:
I ddnt say be wicked
Dont be too nice

Too nice dey cause see finish leading to no reason to know you more....
be mysterious, it keeps a lady wondering and she willing to come closer...

good points, noted

advanceDNA:
Stop asking them out naaa...

And stop being too nice to women....

so being nice is the reason for the attitude

Why do girls seem to be nice to me and show interest in me only for them to turn down my advances when I pick interest, they'll keep being nice and checking up on me as long as I don't ask them out, but the moment I pick interest and try to make a move try start showing attitude and playing hard to get.

jetwonder:

Pi scammer

You're an idiot, go elsewhere with your mindset, I'd have shown you screenshot but a goat who eats grass isn't capable of comprehension.

eepeepook:
What were you doing before you bought the laptop?

School

eepeepook:
My ex-girlfriend that year was a blogger who started on her phone. Getting a laptop made thing easier because of a complete keyboard.

A guy I knew was a graphic designer who started with his phone. Getting a laptop made things efficient due to the larger screen and more powerful hardware.

A close friend used his phone to freelance as a content creator. He purchased a laptop because he had the capital available. Left to him, he’d remain on his phone since he knew the ins-and-outs of the device. He doesn’t regret the upgrade as he can play video games on the computer.

See where I’m going?

You should have created the skill already with your phone. Modern smartphones are as powerful as laptops from 2001. Transitioning to a laptop would turn out seamless.

transition isn't my problem, what to do with the transition is.

I have of over 1k but for almost 5months now they no gree migrate me to mainnet after passing kyc, how do I solve it so I can sell the pi?

Edipet:
1000 of things, you can use it to learn

very helpful, thank you, lemme go and learn 1000 things, after I said no bs.

Jashub:
There are many things you can do...

Pls like what, I'm tired of beating about the bush, time dey go, used my entire savings to buy a useless laptop, money no dey again and I'm in dept.

I asked this question in this section because I want responses, so I saved for a long time to buy my laptop, and ever since I bought it I haven't earned a dime online, I was of the impression that with a laptop I can be exposed to alot of earning opportunities but I was wrong cuz one naira I Neva make, and it seems like a trick when I hear people saying they earn online, please what are you doing with your laptop to earn consistent income online, pls no BS, just go straight to the point cuz, and I don't want to go into illegitimate stuff, pls help a brother and show me the way, I am open to mentorship, anything you want.

BentizilL:
This is good...
Asiwaju will lead Nigeria to greater height ✅

How is this asiwajus doing, phool.

Nice2023:
Since u say there is no God,then do as u like.

Wetin concern agbero with heavy load.

U are simply irredeemable man...my pity goes to goes to ur father who rejoiced and celebrated the birth of a son only to be a disgrace to him and society.


I am not a churchy person neither do i frequench but there is God whether u agree with it not.

Pls,go for rehabilitation.

Yes, you're too good, I know you'd sit by the right hand side of God, like I said earlier your judgement means nothing to me, he who has no sin should cast the first stone, atleast mine is addiction, who knows what you do behind close doors, hypocrites are the worst people to walk this earth, but that isn't mine to decide cuz unlike you I don't judge people for Thier choices cuz I don't know Thier circumstances nor Thier struggles, you wey better pass abeg carry your better for head.

MrBrownJay1:
bro, no substiute drug will get you off, you need to change your environment, change your friends, change your way of life...before its too late.

Ya I'm doing something about the environment and friends, thanks

Kobojunkie:
1. This is very funny coming from the one who made the following judgments in his very own OP
You seem to want only help that fits in with your current mindset. Goodluck!

Those are judgements? I'm describing my situation, did you even goto school at all or u don't know what judgement means, pls leave me alone abeg.

Kobojunkie:
1. Yes, I have seen and experienced what withdrawal does and it isn't too much for any human to overcome. You make a terrible mistake when you assume you alone know how hard something is or feels. And you make even more terrible mistake when you assume we must all see this and experience it all exactly the way you expect.

You created this thread here seeking an out of your current situation I presume or where you instead looking for everyone to encourage you on the path you have been on all this while?

Yes I created the thread seeking advice, but all you've done is judge me like it'd change anything about my situation, if you don't have something to say just shut up.

Merch:
yeah that’s because there are so many fake trams in circulation now, btw don’t allow all this hypocrites here judge you because they all do worst behind close doors we go dey alright bro

Thanks bro, I appreciate, let them keep judging, I alone know the series of mistakes that led me here, atleast I am willing to do something about it.

Zonefree:
Your redemption is far, then.

Your opinion.

Merch:
You aren’t alone bro, me sef dey dey battle my own condeine and trams addiction, i blame stupid buhari for this

I tried substituting it for tram too, but tram doesn't even affect me, I can take 10 and still not feel a thing.

Mindlog:
Look for a rehab to get yourself admitted though there is no guarantee you will not relapse.

Ya I can't do that, because I need to work and feed.

IyaebeTheGreat:
There is and I pray you encounter him soon

Ya I pray so too, where was he when life subjected me to so much trauma I had to resort to drug use, I'm not going to tell you my story because I'm not soliciting for pity and sorry parties, I am way past pity now, I just need to do away with drug abuse, it has ruined me financially, emotionally etc, I spend over 15k weekly on this addiction stuff.

Kobojunkie:
Help with the withdrawal symptoms? Why must you use help for the withdrawal symptoms? Why not accept the symptoms as punishment for the addiction so you can finally overcome it all?

I am not against drinking alcohol for recreational purposes but using it as if a drug? You need to stop living controlled by your pleasures. Life is beyond all that.

Easier said than done, have you seen what withdrawal from drug abuse does to your mind and body? I don't need to explain it to you cuz you won't understand, not when your small mind is already caged by ignorance and stereotype, keep your beliefs to yourself, it won't help my life.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Hmm this is serious, this one is above me. May God deliver you

There's no God

I am addicted to an opioid drug, it has been a three years struggle, trying to overcome and relapsing, making an effort to abstain but at the end I go back to it, now I am a shadow of my old self with bruises all over my body due to constant piercing of needles for intravenous injection of drugs, I am an addict and I know, I have tried substituting it with alcohol but it didn't help, now my next line of action is to try CBD or cannabis to help with the withdrawal symptoms, I need advice, you can bash me if you want, but I really need to end this.