@ diane2222:

I hope I did u (us) justice.

@ chic2pimp:

Will do just that,

@ chic2pimp:

Ok. sorry for the misunderstanding.
Thnks 4 clearing that up 4 me.

@ MPEROR:

Thnks will do now!

OK. so what is the huge scam that i'm extremely naive 2. hUH!

O! i know he needs his papers rt.? O! wait I know he needs his green-card. O! wait he has fam bk home w/kids and a wife.

Again like I said ask me and I'll tell u anything u want 2 know.
BUT ppl like u WONT ask, u'll just continue on w/all of ur generalizations 2 make urself feel better.

Unlike everyone else on here, I'm the only one going bk and forth w/u. IDKY.
IF YOU DNT WANT 2B REPORTED I SUGGEST U LEAVE ME ALONE! THNKS.

@ strangerf:

Who do u say I come across as extremely naive?

So what do u suppose he's going 2 do? huh! run some huge scam on me? What does being Igbo hve 2 do w/anything?
Pls. enlighten me?

Pls. B4 U assume Pls. ask.
I know what i have in him and us and u know what i dnt hve the strength 2 go bk and forth w/u.
If you want 2 know something about him just ask me, I'll let u know. BUT pls. dnt assume, ASK. It just looks better.

@ strangerf:

OK ur the 2nd one of ur kind that i've encountered on here. Do u not understand what the topic was about? It's about expressing how u meet ur mate not bashing them. K!

If ur trying 2 say something mean w/o saying then i suggest you come 2 a screeching hault, NOW!
Why are you being so mean 2 me. I hve not complained about one thing on here. Why are u coming only after me, there are others who hve also meet their b/f OR g/f on various sites, (facebook, yahoo.etc.)

Did you read once that i never meet this guy but i'm head over heels in love w/him? Let me ans. that 4U NO!
Did you read once that he's asking me for money 2 put in some foreign bank account? Let me ans. that 4U NO!
Did you read once that he wants 2 meet me in some mutual country & then go on 2 Nigeria 2 wed? Let me ans. that 4U NO!

So if you could pls. do me a HUGE FAVOR! Leave me alone. Thnks!
It's ppl like you(in every race) that make it bad for the good one's. Like stated B4 i <3 this man & if I hve 2 defend him against ppl like you. Well hey, let the games begin!

P.S. Why are you following me 2 every post? Do you not hve anything 2 do w/ur tyme? My goodness!

@ strangerf:

What does ur response mean? Are you being sarcastic?

Awwwwwwwww man

I almost got xcited until I saw you were in Lagos. I need a caterer here in the States. Any suggestions ?!?!

Hello my fellow nairalanders

I will be getting married 2 a wonderful Nigerian(Igbo) man 10/11. But my biggest concern is the food!
I currently live in[b] IL (Chicago)[/b] and I'm looking for a [b]Nigerian Cater OR either a Nigerian restaurant[/b]er who is licensed and insured.
I want 2 incorporate Nigerian food into the menu BUT i'm coming up short w/who to use?

ANY SUGGESTIONS ARE WELCOMED!!!!!!!!!!!


THNKS GUYS

Or any good Nigerian Restaurants in the Chgo-land area?

Thnks Again

Hello my fellow nairalanders

I will be getting married 2 a wonderful Nigerian(Igbo) man 10/11. But my biggest concern is the food!
I currently live in IL (Chicago) and I'm looking for a Nigerian caterer who is licensed and insured.
I want 2 incorporate Nigerian food into the menu BUT i'm coming up short w/who to use?

ANY SUGGESTIONS ARE WELCOMED!!!!!!!!!!!


THNKS GUYS

{{*~! THE BEST BIRTHDAY GIFT EVER !~*}}

He sent a message to me via facebook. "Lady,u look 2 good to be single,owell am just trying to know u,am also in ___________,i will like to know u that's if is ok 4 u ok,pls.send me me a message back." Because I was a little skeptic of the whole internet dating thing I didn't respond right away; I waited until the next day lol. "Well hello there " He responded back, "hello lady,good morning and how u feel,r u in a relationship now, i kind of liking you." I started thinking to myself, "go ahead and give this internet thing a try & he's CUTE!" So I responded to his message, "Well hello. I'm currently single and yourself?" He responded, "am single 2, i wasn't looking 4 somebody from fb but u got my attention when i saw u and u stay in _____________,u can call me now so we can talk". {{Mind you this was at 1:30 am, LOL!}} Because it was so! early I decided to text him the next morning ~!*

We meet a few dys. later & on the 17th of December it will mark 6 MONTHS! STRONG!
I <3 this man and wouldn't trade him for anyone in the world

@ dayokanu:

U can say that again,
Thnks 4 the compliment and for hve my back.

@ DaRapture:

I didn't come on here to complain about anything!!!

Did I say that I'm in <3 w/a man online that i've never meet?  Did I say that, uh! NO!!!!!!!!!
The man I'm dating and soon 2B married 2 lives here N the states, I see him all the tyme. He's been here for over 10 yrs. so b4 u lump me in a category w/all of the other AA women who hve come on her 2 make complaints ask me, DON'T  assume!

THANK YOU!.
BTW! have you read any of my posts?! Is there a complaint on any of them?! I dnt think so.
My only advice 2U is grow up and quickly.
That is all!


@ Eddy2222:

Thnks for hve my back.

@ armyofone:

Ok. got-cha.
I've known my igbo man for over 5 mon. and if there was any sign of false emotion I would of figured that out before the end of month 1. (I'm a great judge of character!)

@ DaRapture:

Do me a favor PLS. Dnt come after me w/ur foolishness.
No i'm not gullible! enough 2 believe just any ol thing. (I joined this website/community for informational purposes ONLY! not 2 get N2 conflict w/any1)

YOU SHOULD!!!!! re-read my posts before u make judgements. (Just like u wouldn't want some1 2 make judgements about u, hey! u should do the same)

That is ALL!


@chic2pimp:

What do u mean by "Cheesy emotion"?

@ eddy2222:

Ok. thnks 4 clearing that up 4 me.

@ DaRapture:

What do u mean "I'm easy! "

@ gree-die:


Ok. Got it Now!

Thnks 4 all ur hlp.

@ gree-die:

Yes I'm an AA woman living in America.

I apologize if I seem 2B asking the same ques. over & over again. I just want 2 make sure that I understand completely.

So what i'm hearing is that the male is expected 2 foot the bill(s) for the wedding and I (the bride 2B) can hlp out as long as I dnt disclose this info.?

Am I correct?

@ eddy2222:

You've said enough. (I've taking everything that i've learned from you and others 2 heart.)

O! not I don't think he has any secrets or any hidden agenda.
My goal for joining this website is to simply learn more about his cultural so I can respect it. 2 me respect (on any level) is a must.
Well I believe that I can count myself lucky. (We're getting married nxt yr. YEA!!!!!!!!!!!!!) (He tells me ALL the time that he is w/me 4EVER!)


Thnks Again

@ gree-die:

So do the same traditions apply when he's marrying a American gyrl?

Does he still foot the entire bill?

@ eddy2222:

So ur igbo male. Tell me something about the igbo male.

@ eddy2222:


1.would she love to get married in America?

Hmmmm, this ans. really depends on your lady. Speaking from personal preference. (I want 2 get married in the US. I have much fam and friends whom probably cnt afford to travel to Nigeria for wedding.)

2.how would i relate with her family members?

Again speaking from personal experience. My family simply loves my b/f. It's all about being True 2 Urself. Dnt try 2B some1 or something your not. We respect the real person not the phony one!


3.if she has a kid what should i watch out for?

If she has a child(children) the thing you may need 2B mindful of is her baby daddy (father of child). You will need to ask her what is the relationship b-tween the father and child. This is necessary so the father of the child will be aware that there maybe another male figure in the his child's life.

4.if she is so spiritual that is not a problem for me what should i lookout for?

Most african americans fit N2 one of these religious categories:
1) Apostolic
2) Pentecostal
3) COGIC - Church of God In Christ
4) Baptist
5) OR Non-Denominational (Meaning All About Jesus! no titles just Jesus!)
You May Want 2 Double Check W/Her 2 See Which One if any she belongs.

5.finally if she is independent would she sometimes want to be the boss cos that never allowed in my culture.

That's a great ques. some independent women 4get the need for a man in their life becuz they have needed 2B the boss for so long. They may want 2B the boss BUT if you stand your ground ((not harshly)) they may understand that a man's hand is def. needed.

**THE TOP THING IN ANY RELATIONSHIP IS COMMUNICATION, **



? Are you igbo male?

@ eddy2222:

What are you looking 2 know about the Chgo lady?

Most AA Women are:
smart, intelligent, respectful (2 herself, family, friends and boyfriend OR husband) hard-working, independent, friendly & beautiful.

NOW!!!!!!! what to look out for is what we in the states call "GOLD DIGGERS:"

There are two basic types of Gold Diggers out there:


1) The women who don’t give a crap about you.
This woman is only interested in herself and what she can acquire.

2) The women who give a teensy little bit about you.
This woman is only dating you because she thinks you’re the best she can do at this moment in time; she probably “likes you ok” but she will never love you.


The Top 5 Signs 2 Watch Out For. (Pls. Note That There Are Exceptions 2 Every Rule BUT! Most Of The Time It's Right One)

1. She only knocks boots after you’ve bought something for her.
This is the Gold Diggers way of repaying you. It’s also her way of classically conditioning you: You have to pay before you can play. Depending on your financial status, this may be something as small as dinner in a moderately priced restaurant, or it may mean jewelry is required before she’ll drop her knickers. Either way, she’s your own personal call-girl, whether you realize it or not.

2. She has a temper tantrum if you refuse to buy something for her.
This sounds obvious, but it’s a very common with gold diggers. The tantrum may be subtle – giving you the silent treatment, for example – but it tends to start at the moment of refusal and lasts until your next purchase.

3. She only suggests expensive restaurants, hotels, etc.
If she’s too good for the occasional burger, this girl is a gold digger. Mind you, that’s metaphorical; there are plenty of vegan gold diggers out there, believe it or not. The point is, she never selects a destination that will be kind to your wallet.

4. She earns a very modest income, yet everything she owns is very expensive.
This is less obvious than it sounds. A good gold digger knows how to network, and she knows she needs some kind of job, lest she look like what she is. She’ll probably work part-time somewhere, and supplement her income with your donations. All those shoes, clothes, etc – you better believe she didn’t pay for them herself.

5. She never offers to pay the bill, not even her share.
Now… I fully believe a man should pay for the first date. Period. However, I also believe that a woman should always offer to pay for herself from the second date forward. Regardless of whether or not you agree with me, let me assure you that if she’s never offered to pay in any capacity, she’s a gold digger.

@ Anyone Who Can Hlp:

Igbo Traditional Marriage - What Are The Steps Involved? Pls Help.

I'm an American woman who's currently dating a Igbo male here in the states & we're looking @ marriage for 10/11.

I'm interested to know who PAYS 4 WHAT ?!?!

What are the Steps Involved?!?!

I've done some research on Google but I just want 2 make sure that what I've seen is accurate. So what better way then 2 get hlp 2 my ques. from my Nigerian bros. and sis.

Thanks Guys

@ dayokanu:
Ur absolutely rt. This is the best (blk) man Ever!!!!!!!!