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Well to me, it can be a strong reason for you not to be progressive in life. I know all of us have weaknesses here and there and but remember, character is what makes us or destroys us. Sir try and stop, its demonic and so the enemy will tie you to it so you don't become successful in all your endeavors

Oboy.......

enemyofprogress:
dey play

Gbamsolutely.
Or he should work on himself and be better.

Dear brethren, try and work on yourself to be the right partner and in due time, the right man/woman will meet you. Shikenan.

Peakdesign23:
If you dey find that perfect woman, broda benerd go build am yourself.

Hmmmm, i reserve my comments. Ok oooo. Hahahaha

And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’

There you have your answer.

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Leave story book. Is it God that has been receiving the tithes people have been donating? Yes or No question[/quote]

GASKIYA.

CJStarz:
She should have just kept quiet!

Hahahahahhahah

CHAQUR:
Tah...! Give him akpu or eba. Wait for it at the next pooing.

Is this one wearing skirt or he did not wear his trouser well?

Thats commendable I must say.

Fortunately, it was God who says inner beauty exceeds outer beauty. So God should punish himself by himself abi...? Go and marry only external beauty without nothing upstairs and let's c if u will not complain here on NL.

Urgent1Million:
God punish those people who say beauty is on the inside!
Inner beauty my deekhead!!
Externally pretty woman or nothing!!

100 BILLION GALONS OF OIL DEY YOUR HEAD SIR.

Rubyjade:
Real Masculinity Builds, It Doesn’t Dominate.
Marriage isn’t a battle of power or survival. It’s a partnership. And while men do make mistakes in marriage — the real errors are often rooted in outdated thinking, pride, or fear. Let’s unpack this:

1. “A woman must love, a man must provide.”
False binary. Love and provision go both ways in a modern marriage. A woman can contribute. A man should show affection. Reducing relationships to transactions is why a lot of marriages feel like business contracts instead of emotional homes.

A man who only provides but doesn’t emotionally connect becomes a stranger in his own house.

And no — it’s not her job to chase you after marriage. If you stop pursuing your wife emotionally, someone else eventually might.

2. “You must always look like a god.”
Yes, personal hygiene and appearance matter — for both partners. But a healthy marriage allows space for comfort and vulnerability.
Looking good shouldn't be about fear of being left; it should be about self-respect and mutual attraction. If she’s only with you because of your beard oil and boxers, the problem is deeper than your look.

3. “You are the lord. Let her have a say, but have your way.”
Bro. That’s not strength — that’s domination disguised as leadership.

Real leadership listens.

Real men build with their wives, not over them.
Being decisive is good — being dismissive isn’t.

4. “She’s not a mind-reader.”
True. Communication matters. But it’s not just telling her what you want.
Try asking her what she needs, too. Love isn’t just about managing expectations — it’s about understanding and growing together.

5. “Women love conflict.”
No. They love connection. What looks like “random conflict” is often unmet needs or emotional disconnection.

Avoidance kills intimacy.

Mature couples face tough conversations together.
If you treat conflict as drama instead of dialogue, you’re missing the deeper issue.

6. “Prepare for the rainy day; never let your wife be the breadwinner.”
Prepare? YES.
Fear her success? NO.
If your masculinity collapses when your wife earns more, the issue is insecurity, not identity.

Strong men celebrate their partner’s wins.

Marriage is not a competition — it’s coverage. Some seasons you’ll earn more. Other seasons, she might. That’s life.

7. “She’s not your best friend.”
Why not?
If you can’t laugh, vent, dream, or be your full self with your wife — who are you even married to?
Friendship is the foundation of lasting love. You don’t lose your masculinity by being emotionally close — you lose it by being emotionally unavailable.

✨ FINAL WORD:
Real men lead, but they don’t lord.
They provide, but they also protect emotionally.
They pursue wisdom, not ego.
And they build with their wives, not just expect to be served by them.

We need less alpha performance, and more emotional maturity in marriages today.
You don’t lose your role by listening — you strengthen it.

I fear nothing; what you fear comes to reality, its biblical.

I don't have any fear; cause that which you fear comes upon you. It's Spiritual.

Nyash abi?

Ok o.

Food for thought for me oooo. Thank you for this analysis.

IceColdVeins:
I have had about six commited relationships in my life and only one of the ladies had an active and responsible father.
See the breakdown below:

Barkat: Deadbeat father
Beazy: father ran away overseas
Tola: Deadbeat father, still died eventually
Princess: Very responsible father, but VERY wicked and deadbeat mother
Harbee: Dead father (had numerous wives when alive, so no hope for redemption even if he was raised from the dead)
Current one: deadbeat father (overtly and audaciously runs another home outside his matrimony)

Observations;
All are muslims except Princess
All of them are loyal to a fault
All of them are decent and respectful except Princess
All are wifey-materials except "You know who"

Inference:

I'll leave that to y'all and your analytical skills

fman:
Then we go read your suicide note here on nairaland and type RIP.

Hmmmmm.my dear

neolboy:
Getting married last year December and ending it this year January. Just 9 days in

Chaiii. After spending Heaven on earth you ended it in 9 days? But you could have been more patient now, things would have change. Anyways am heart broken 💔 but its well.

Your testimony encouraged me the more to keep being true and genuine in my place of work. Thank you sir. More promotions for us all.

I love this piece. OP God bless you. Interesting debate which the fahers will never win. I think nature played a role. Am a blessed mama. God bless the fathers for their hustle too.

Congratulations sir. Indeed his word is true and is everlasting. Hallelujah

Hahahahaha

Globad:
21 men!

plus the husband = 22

plus the ones the hubby doesn't know. let's assume this to be 10

22+10 = 32

almost three dozens!!!

she deserves a three-dozen-body-count veteran award!!!

na joke o

Hahahahaha

jetguy:
Next time, he should try and bring Lion🦁, nobody will dare to suspend him

Having a relationship with the creator of the universe is the most amazing gift one can have. Only those who know what am talking about will understand. Matters of the faith is not for the foolish cause spiritual things doesn't make sense to them.

Know God for yourself and you will be gald you do. HELL IS REAL, HEAVEN IS REAL. MAKE A CHOICE TODAY, ITS NOT TOO LATE. HAPPY SUNDAY FAM.

Both. So becareful in everything, watch and pray and also ask for mercy from Yaweh.

Dear Heavenly Father, we pray and cry un-to you for the release of your dearly beloved daughter who has been in captivity for 7 solid years, put her tormentors in confusion and lack of peace and set your angels on the mission to bringing her back to her family and Nigeria as a whole. Lord put your enemies to shame and silence them in their hidden places there by bringing them open in Jesus name. Amen.

Leah ur faith isn't for nothing, you encourage me when ever i remember you. You are always in our heart ❤ and our prayers. We love you.

U just scrathed where is itching me ma/sir. God bless you. God at work here and am LOVING IT ALL THE WAY. Hahahaa

ScamDemicEra:
..... I just wish the embassies visa refusals target government officials and their families more while approving more visas for the average Nigerian.

I understand that no marriage is perfect, we men and women no one is perfect either, please to my fellow women that are married or intending to get married, help us stay decent now.......... our husbands and wives may not treat us well but we can decide to live a faithful life because of God or our children. Las las what is hidden will eventually be exposed

I love the move..... restore decency back to our sane society sir. I wonder why some of you are saying its a misplaced priority, would you like if all women wonder around without clothes? Its like u enjoy calling us olosho aka borehole according to someone here.

I don't know what to say but i pray for annie for quick healing to pass through this phase in health and strength and to be able to pick up the remaining pieces and put them together to move on for her herself and the kids. Tuface, i pray you find whatever it is that you are looking for. My candid advice, u should have given it time a bit before moving ahead with ur plans. E get y.


Some of us that keep speaking peace peace peace, what do u know about peace? If u cant find peace within u, it means you are not mature enough. Let's learn to grow without expecting from other people. Let's be contented 💖 with ourselves biko.

ReacherSaidNoth:
Avoid drugs and anger

Gaskiya......... anger has led many to eternal condemnation. Please let's try to be mor patient with issues of life and exercise self control biko.


Anger only destroys. Instead of getting angry and doing something wrong thst will make u regret later, just walk away and when the atmosphere is clear come back.

iamherenow10:
First Dubai trip, how many more to come before the end of the year…

Hahahahaha. Its well dear, what has a beginning, also has an end. Surely