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She is not all that far,if only she had a face that complements the physique.

Happy married life to them though,some very beautiful ladies are yet to find a suitor.

Great movies,I've seen quite a number.

carammel:
This means that women only show they love their fellow women outwardly but deep within them,they would never support a woman to become a leader.

Modern-feminism will have a hard time staying.

Modern feminism will never stay.

America women have proven this,African women shouldn't trust them.

This is the reason women want to be heard and respected.
The op has supported immorality on the part of the man while he castigated the women.
Op, it is not every time a woman would stay, she has every right to leave and find happiness elsewhere.
Single mothers, divorced women, Exprostitutes get married every weekend, if you don't desire them, another man would.
A woman should always Learn to leave when her man is abusive(physically, Emotionally, verbally) especially when he is unrepentant.
The society made women become shy around their exes, everyone points finger like the woman had killed someone.

I'm not supporting immorality in women or men neither advocating for divorce but in genuine cases where her relationships become a threat to her emotions and her life then she should Leave.

Dyt:
You love her don't you?
That's probably her own flaws
We all have where we are lesser

I do love her sincerely, reason I'm this hurt she had to lie and give flimsy excuses just so she wouldn't get herself involved in anything tasking.

Dyt:
Very rich I don't mean billions na
Me and montezz can manage

Are you tall, slim and bald?
Are you left handed?
Do you stutter?
Don't worry we can walk around it but you must possess at least 70% of it

Bald? Left handed?
Lol, some of your likes are funny.

Miami11:
People do not change unless they decide by themselves
You are looking at taking her the way she is
Or moving on.

My worst fear actually, taking her as she is or I move on.

Majesticniyi:
Its not about the fact that she doesn't have a certificate bro, the issue is that she doesn't know what she wants from Life and lies to cover that up. Op is ready to be with her even if she learns a trade. The underlined word here is the GOOD you talked about. There are issues you overlook in a woman, living a purposeless life isn't one of them.

You understood my post perfectly.
Lies and lazy behavior towards herself. If she's this lazy as a single lady, what would happen once she's married.

Naughtysite:
Thank you.

Everyone must not go to university..

It is not about going to the University, it is about being useful to herself and imparting and bringing up the kids with an independent mindset.
In her case, she only wishes to sit home all day without challenging her brain. If it is for chores, a maid can easily do them.

Dyt:
Hmmmmm
She doesn't wanna go school
No handiwork
No business
Battling eyelashes


Abeg me I am business minded oo
Single
Independent and very ready to mingle only if you are very rich sha

Very rich? That's a big clause for now.

Oma307:
With time she will get to know what sort of help you have been rendering to her, maybe you are sending money to her consistently so she feel relax

I don't know how to stop giving her money for upkeep since she isn't doing any work in particular.

PheezyLee:
Does she like di.ckson? Do give er back2back!

You are funny .

Sexytemi:
You should try and find out what she likes doing e.g cooking( caterer), making up(make up school), loves dressing( fashion school) e.t.c, when u are sure that u know what she loves n wont get bored doing, then secretly enroll in any of the classes, and tell her she must graduate from the course and become useful or she can kiss you goodbye.

She is yet to know if she should learn trade or handiwork.

Vyolet:
It is very important that a woman gets useful for herself, what you have described is not new, there are some ladies like that that think everything they do in life should be catered for by men.
You seem to love her, you can try again and see how she will handle it, since you are even back, you can monitor her better.

Yes being useful for herself is all I want and I've been pushing hard for that, sometimes I feel I push too hard.

Hello everyone, I'm not exactly new on the forum, I've always been a guest and I appreciate the way some Matters are treated.
My girl has been showing attributes of laziness and I'm beginning to think we might not work out, I love her a d wish to marry her.
She told me when we started four years ago that she was in the university but had a problem which made her drop out, I tried to encourage her to try again, she lied once that she was already admitted again, when I found out, I scolded her but forgave her. I sat her down to ask what she wants to do, I could set her up for business, she could learn any handwork, she said she doesn't want to do any of those, she is yet to figure out what she wants in life, she's 27.
I was outside the country for two years so I couldn't monitor her much but we talked everyday, I sent money to her to take jamb last year and she told me her admission clicked and I paid for her registration and other fees. On getting back to Nigeria, I found out she has not been in school, I suspected though But I wanted to give her benefits of doubt. She only talks about marriage and never how she'd be useful for herself.
Now, it's not like I have a problem being the sole provider in the marriage but what happens to that relationship itself,I would Come home to meet a woman with the same story of how she cleaned, cooked and wash everyday(superboredom) or what happens to her or my children if eventually I die?
I admire a woman with an independent mind, a woman that can take decisions whether I'm there or not. I find myself wishing other intelligent women were my babe and that is how cheating starts which I don't ever want to do.
I'm about to call off the relationship, I just want to know if I'm doing the right thing.

tsephanyah:
yep, u are doing the right thing,

I thought so too, thanks.

Hello everyone, I'm not exactly new on the forum, I've always been a guest and I appreciate the way some Matters are treated.
My girl has been showing attributes of laziness and I'm beginning to think we might not work out, I love her a d wish to marry her.
She told me when we started four years ago that she was in the university but had a problem which made her drop out, I tried to encourage her to try again, she lied once that she was already admitted again, when I found out, I scolded her but forgave her. I sat her down to ask what she wants to do, I could set her up for business, she could learn any handwork, she said she doesn't want to do any of those, she is yet to figure out what she wants in life, she's 27.
I was outside the country for two years so I couldn't monitor her much but we talked everyday, I sent money to her to take jamb last year and she told me her admission clicked and I paid for her registration and other fees. On getting back to Nigeria, I found out she has not been in school, I suspected though But I wanted to give her benefits of doubt. She only talks about marriage and never how she'd be useful for herself.
Now, it's not like I have a problem being the sole provider in the marriage but what happens to that relationship itself,I would Come home to meet a woman with the same story of how she cleaned, cooked and wash everyday(superboredom) or what happens to her or my children if eventually I die?
I admire a woman with an independent mind, a woman that can take decisions whether I'm there or not. I find myself wishing other intelligent women were my babe and that is how cheating starts which I don't ever want to do.
I'm about to call off the relationship, I just want to know if I'm doing the right thing