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CursedNsukka:
Firstly, Oga your writeup is very confusing, you're portraying a married man's portfolio whereas you're yet to even get married,so correct that.
See bro there is nothing like happiness and peace of mind, if abroad is what you desire why can't you work towards it yourself than putting your happiness at stake. You will get there now under the roof of not so friendly woman and become more frustrated because their laws favour the women more, you better be careful op.

I will rather marry a village girl who will give me peace of mind and respect than marry someone just for abroad without respect, I won't try that.

Thanks for the observation/comments. We're not yet married.

Hello All, permit me to add to the avalanche of marital issues that have graced the front pages of nairaland lately. I will try not to bore you with too much details, but the volume of these issues sometimes makes one think this whole 'Happy marital life' thing is just a mirage.

Have been in this relationship with this lady for quite some time now. I met her through a close relative. My family members have always wished that I marry a lady from my tribe. Although I have never been fixated about that, I thought this will also address my parents concerns.

About a year into the relationship, she moved abroad for a BSc program. Unfortunately she didn't meet my immediate family before then because I felt it was kind of early. But my family knew about this.

Honestly, she's one of the most ambitious and hardworking ladies I have had any serious relationship with. However, she's got this nagging, abusive and unforgiving attitude that tend to have overridden the positives. In fact, this was almost soiling her relationship with my family if not that I keep most of these issues away from my family (because some of these abusive attitudes were being directed to my family members whom see erroneously believe have all my attention and my finances).

A little about me: I am generally calm and quiet and typically find excessive talk tiring. I am generally doing well in Nigeria, with some attractive 6-7 figures salaries.

Marrying this lady gives me a golden opportunity to start my family abroad (especially considering the poor prospect in Nigeria for upcoming generations). But the nasty attitudes (that are worsening by the day) have been massive concerns for me.

Interestingly, I am even beginning to look at other ladies that seem to be better off in terms of attitudes, even though they haven't achieved what this lady has achieved.

So I have been battling with several questions in my mind: should I sacrifice my happiness for moving abroad? Should I give a chance to those that truly love me for who I am (and am beginning to really love)? Note that divorce is not an option for me.

Please note that we're not yet married.