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Foreign AffairsRe: Pictures Of London Riot Looters! by newid: 4:38pm On Aug 10, 2011
Rgp92:
I know who. It is 190 angry angry
chop knuckle jor wink

LMAO @ the guy in the last pix checking out the size of that pair of leans he just stole  grin
Jokes EtcRe: 20 Things We Have Learnt From Hollywood by newid: 10:31am On Aug 08, 2011
wait, this thread is almost 6 years old shocked
Jokes EtcRe: Calculate This! by newid: 10:21am On Aug 08, 2011
@ op, the N100 is in ur pocket undecided
Jokes EtcRe: All Na Fasting by newid: 10:29am On Aug 02, 2011
undecided
Jokes EtcRe: The Wheelbarrow Joke. . .must Read by newid: 9:41am On Aug 01, 2011
angry
RomanceRe: What Do I Need To Be A Ladies Man by newid: 3:52pm On Jul 30, 2011
exactly
RomanceRe: What Do I Need To Be A Ladies Man by newid: 3:36pm On Jul 30, 2011
hmmn, every man to his problem! just c this one's problem huh
AutosRe: 2009 Honda Accord 2.8 Million by newid: 1:19pm On Jul 30, 2011
Sweet ride u got there, good luck in your sale
wldn't mind picking it but i don't like the 4 door model, do u have a 2 door model (coupe) preferably Red exterior color?
RomanceRe: 5 Signs He’s About To Dump You! by newid: 12:42pm On Jul 30, 2011
@ op, nice write-up, however, i'd like to dis-agree on some if not all of the points cos there are times a guy might feel like he is being choked up and wld need a little space, he might exhibit some or even all of the above characteristics, that does not mean he wants completely out of the relationship, now does it?
RomanceRe: Now They Don't Want Me To Get Married by newid(op): 4:43pm On Jul 29, 2011
Goldieluks:
haba,naw,i didn't meant it that way.Phate is my guy tbh. cool
ok, i wldn't want to step on toes here with my being new and all that sad
RomanceRe: Now They Don't Want Me To Get Married by newid(op): 4:38pm On Jul 29, 2011
Goldieluks:
Tufiakwa angry



Phate is my one and only,i don't want him to shoot somebody
that's all. cool
ouch
RomanceRe: Now They Don't Want Me To Get Married by newid(op): 4:30pm On Jul 29, 2011
iyatrustee:
definately not between your legs cos you need those to remain being Hor.nny grin grin
right, by the way, i c u're married in the romance chat room cheesy
RomanceRe: Now They Don't Want Me To Get Married by newid(op): 4:28pm On Jul 29, 2011
Phate07:

Can i test it on you? undecided
what are bros for? go ahead, but not in between my legs sha  angry

Goldieluks:
enough of the crap sweets. undecided
Allow him test his new toy na cheesy
RomanceRe: Now They Don't Want Me To Get Married by newid(op): 4:15pm On Jul 29, 2011
ronkebp:
Am definitley sure there are things that you might not like about her when you get married that she exhibits now, but you are not taking note of,
she is not perfect, off course she's got some flaws, but thet are things i know i can live with,  sad

Phate07:

I need to test my brand new gun. undecided
ok

iyatrustee:
you should be happy that finally you get to meet 190! you have spoken much about him remember tongue tongue
yeah, i think i like him though, he is fun cheesy
RomanceRe: Now They Don't Want Me To Get Married by newid(op): 3:51pm On Jul 29, 2011
ronkebp:
Hmmmmmm!!!! i would rather you start studying her personally, then if there are things you do not like about her, then you can now bring that in a converstaion, or better still, you get a better way of letting her know how you feel about some situations and circumstances, without necessarily attaching them to her, she would definitley have that at the back of her mind.
if there's anything new to discover after 9 years of dating, then i must ve been blind, wouldn't u agree.  sad

190:
yawns!  embarassed
undecided
RomanceRe: Now They Don't Want Me To Get Married by newid(op): 3:44pm On Jul 29, 2011
Goldieluks:
newbie,i didn't meant to haha. cheesy

when are u visiting the chat room again? smiley
i'm actually there, just observing though  smiley

iyatrustee:
he is always there in the spirit cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy
u know in a way, i kinda like ur person wink
RomanceRe: Now They Don't Want Me To Get Married by newid(op): 3:38pm On Jul 29, 2011
Goldieluks:
Lmoa@
u too have joined ronkebp in acquiring free land ba?  grin

ronkebp:
it is different definitely, but that does not mean that it would affect the way you truly feel for her, truth be told, so many things will unfold when you get married, you may either love what you see and get or hate it, and by so doing, the latter affects how you feel for her, but notwithstanding, it is better you know from the onset what you are getting yourself into.
wow, u shld be the next oprah,  wink , i'll have to start to think real hard about my future, i just dont know if it wld b a good idea to talk to her about how i feel though.  huh
RomanceRe: Now They Don't Want Me To Get Married by newid(op): 3:30pm On Jul 29, 2011
iyatrustee:
yes! but truth be told, i tink i prefer this your cool composed self to that your other nairaland wizard of Oz username wink wink wink
so, this person u think is the one i'm impersonating is also a nairalander, this is getting interesting cheesy , what is his/her user name, if u dont mind?
RomanceRe: Now They Don't Want Me To Get Married by newid(op): 3:24pm On Jul 29, 2011
ronkebp:
Like i said earlier, just because some peoples love has grown cold, does not mean that yours' would, if you have loved your fiancee for 9 years now, and it has not grown otherwise, what makes you think your love for her can not remain the same for another 9 years and another 9 years, ? wink
"dating her for 9 years and leaving under the same roof with her for the rest of dear life is different" , this is what a friend of mine said  huh
RomanceRe: Now They Don't Want Me To Get Married by newid(op): 3:18pm On Jul 29, 2011
iyatrustee:
yeah! i see he has been reading up a lot of thread considering the fact that he registered just yesterday kiss kiss kiss kiss
pardon my intrusion, but do u work for some sort of investigative agency?  cool

Goldieluks:
iya stop it jor! he's a newbie cheesy undecided





newbie the post is kinda long that's why,i think you should be happy and not be scared. cheesy



ronkebp i hope you are not planning to blind our eyes,with this wasted pages?? shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked
LMAO, u're hysterical, my though was that she wanted to use the space to build a duplex grin
RomanceRe: Now They Don't Want Me To Get Married by newid(op): 3:14pm On Jul 29, 2011
iyatrustee:
our bro from chatroom,  grin grin grin
i'm really luving this forum, but i don't understand y u ve me confused with someone else

ronkebp:
I enjoyed reading the story, funny and interesting.

1. I think you are too young to get married now, (but who knows, i may be wrong), if you are made and think you can make a good husband, no sweat, ride along.

2. Do not judge what your home will be like by what your friends are going through, you do not know what their problems are, marraige is not a bed of roses, you know! undecided

3. If you are comfortable with the fact that your present girlfriend, would be a good wife ( good cook, neat woman, romantic, spriritual, sexy, gentle, loving, would be obedient, respectful, hardworking, not a trouble maker, not a drunk, not the too much going to parties type, not a spend thrift, manages, classy, beautiful, and so on) then you do not have anything to worry about, go ahead!!! but i do not know your spiritual level, for me personally, everything needs prayer and a good home is based on love, committment and prayers!!!.
thanks a lot, i knew i would get someone to understand my predicament. i was reading this earlier and i got more scared https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-721560.0.html
RomanceRe: Now They Don't Want Me To Get Married by newid(op): 3:07pm On Jul 29, 2011
@ Iyatrustee, u again from the romance chat room, u actually think i'm someone u personally know, wow! that's strange! anyways it could be possible after all, this world's a small place. and by d way, what evidence are u gathering? i dont stay in gwarimpa!  undecided

Goldieluks:
@OP, what advise do you seek?
hi, u here too, aw wonderful  cheesy
@ bolded , i c u did not read the whole story, well here it is ~ the question here is (am i supposed to be scared considering i have a lovely sole mate?) ~
Forum GamesRe: ╚►will You Eva Date D Person Above U?◄╝ by newid: 10:25am On Jul 29, 2011
cool
RomanceRe: Now They Don't Want Me To Get Married by newid(op): 9:27am On Jul 29, 2011
Edited for those who had trouble going thru it, and like i said b4, u can just read the summary if u dont have the time to go thru the whole bla bla bla. peace

tpia@:
was that typed in english? huh

couldnt make any sense out of it.
yes, maybe too complex for your grasping though. sorry.  sad
RomanceNow They Don't Want Me To Get Married by newid(op): 1:49pm On Jul 28, 2011
Ok here,

this is more of a story than an “I NEED HELP” post

But if u’ve got no time for my long and boring bla bla bla, here’s a summarized version

"Two out of my 3 very close pals got married 6 month ago (2 weeks interval for the weddings), I warned them NOT to get married though with so many good reasons, but they took my advice with one ear and it fell out the other ear after they both went back home to suck the br3asts of their so called fiancés.
*fast 4ward 5 months later* the both of them are now advising me not to go ahead with my own marriage plans if I have any and that they should have listened to me earlier."

Now for those of u who like to watch nollywood and bollywood(Indian) movies, here’s the long version, take note that the actors here are not the common ones u see on African Magic.

b4 i start, pls and pls again, spare my English or use of it, i am not a writer

*rewind, 6 months ago*,
4 single guys, all very close friends, 3 of them working in the same firm and all 4 of them are single, they all hang out after work all the time, gist, and get tipsy and drunk sometimes, non is promiscuous in nature except for 1, though they all individually have girlfriends who they have been dating for quite a while except for 1.
B4 I continue, WARNING: THIS STORY IS NOT INTERESTING; I’LL ADVICE U READ THE SUMMARY ABOVE AND SAVE URSELF THE TROUBLE OF GETTING BORED.

U still wan read am, Nigerians sef, una like long tori oh,  any ways sha, *pls take note that I wld sometimes decide to use pidgin English to spice up the write up*, back to tori:

These four young and gentle men (I’m the youngest among all, 26, the eldest being 28) all share like terms, they all were enslaved (NYSC) the same year “2008”, three graduated from same university, two, same department, and all are living a slightly above middle class status with regards to leaving condition in the FCT, Abuja. (Translation for non FCT residents: they are big boys, shikena!)

I’m not going to expose the identities of anyone in this story, but I’ll try my best to give u an idea of their kind of persons (personalities).

Joseph(me) NOT REAL NAME: He is the one who has no work to do right now and instead of reading a book or doing something beneficial with his time, he is busy typing this whole load of crap even while he is in the office. He has been dating Esther {NOT NIGERIAN AND NOT REAL NAME} for 9 years now.

Charles NOT REAL NAME: 28, aje bota, huge but not muscular, baby faced,  met him in first year of uni, same dept, been close friends since then, he started dating Janet NOT REAL NAME 2 years after we met. He is currently married to her (6 mnths old marriage). Did not use to do alcohol until we met, I’m not one that can be described as a bad person or influence but Janet hates me although she tries so hard to hide it, she hates me because Charles always listens to my advice and suggestions like “hey, bro watz up, it’s TGIF, lets go clubbing & offcourse, it’s going to be men only, no girlfriends! He wld be indecisive but at the end he wld go with the idea since everyone else (my other 2 pals) were up 4 it”. My Job description requires that I travel out of town from time to time, sometimes I spend up to a week at site, Janet would call me somtyms in the pretense to say hi, but she really want to know how long I’ll be out so she can be sure for how long she can have her BF(Charles) to herself (ladies and una tiny brains sef!)

Philip NOT REAL NAME: 28, slightly older than Charles, met him also in second year of uni, usually a quiet guy but can blow 2 much tori when hin don high! Has had series of gf’s since I met him, 3 I think, but was hooked on Agatha [b]NOT REAL NAM[/b]E since during service year, they are married also (6 months old marriage, two weeks after Charles and Janet’s). Contrary to Janet, Agatha likes me because I always tell her the truth about what the guys have been upto together without the girls, he and Agatha actually met through me, she was in my cds and I was eyeing her (even when I had a loving gf somewhere, na wa 4 we men sha), I eye her so tey we became friends but it did not go beyond that, I had to let Philip step in, to overcome tempteyshun.

Richard NOT REAL NAM[/b]E: 28 also, same month as Philip, Now this is the Original Bad boy (although he thinks I shld be the one with that label amongst us, I however beg to differ), graduated from a South south university, not sure how many gf’s he has had as he is not usually a straight forward person, he lies to ladies a lot and he has trouble telling the truth even to his guy pals, can’t really say much about him but just that he is one h3ll of a lady hater, he says stuffs like, “every lady born after 1980 in Nigeria is a ho”, “I no go marry any girl wey dem born for Nigeria”, “I f0ck that chik so tey her pussey comot trowey for bed”. He is soooo sooo vulgar and he never shuts up, funny thing is that all the stories he tells us are always about how he did this chick, how he nack that babe bla bla bla, but we, his close pals no dey see the babes wey hin dey refer to oh!! We go just laff, leave mata to die. He is currently dating Barbara [b]NOT REAL NAME and we hope she can change him, we do see some signs sha.

I, Charles and Philip all work at the same firm but Charles and I are in the same dept. Richard runs his own Small IT firm.

I don’t believe in luv @ first site, h3ll I don’t even think I believe in the whole concept of luv itself, but 9 years in a relationship and no major break-ups, no reason to doubt loyalty to each other, I mean it’s got me thinking, sometimes, she says things like “honey, if we don’t end up spending the rest of our lives together, then it means one of us died along the way”, I wld just laff, but deep within me, I know I can never have the kind of feelings I have for her for any other lady, she grew up in her home country until after her secondary school then came to Nigeria for uni where we met (she has a dual citizenship, cos her mom is Nigerian and she was born here too). No offense meant, but she is not like the BB Demanding, Brazilian weave wearing type like most Nigerian girls out there, she’s is very content with whatever she gets and she refuses to allow me spend flamboyantly around her or on her.
My friends envy me because of her and they say things like “guy, if u no marry this girl after all the luv she don pour for your body, we go gather u beat u die”

Now these same friends are advising me not to even get married at all.

OK, Janet is a bit naggy in nature, but Agatha is a very good wife material or so I thought up until about six months ago, now my two supposedly married friends are never smiling when the reality which is going back to their wives at home creeps up, they are scared to go back home to their so called lovely wives, they dont discuss their marital problems in detail and I don’t pry but they warn me everyday in and out to stay single for as long as I can. Although I have plans on getting married b4 I get to 28 but it looks closer than I anticipated and now I’m beginning to get scared.

the question here is (am i supposed to be scared considering i have a lovely sole mate?)

FOOT NOTE: if u have anything/advise to say, feel free, and thank you in advance

also if u have anything insultive to say, then let me tell u dis b4 hand “WORDS ARE NOT ENUF TO DESCRIBE HOW LITTLE I GIVE A F0CK”

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