babyosisi:



If calling you stoopid can get you so mad as to hit then then you are a violent person
No ifs or buts

tearoses:
Do not insult him back
Do also not ignore the verbal abuse

Your hubby sees no wrong in what he does. He was probably brought up where this kind of language is used all around him. Maybe that is the language his parents used on him when he made mistakes.
Peoples upbringing does play a lot in their way of behaviour inspite of all the degrees that one may have. So you need to train him that this is totally unacceptable behaviour.

you have already seen that its not going to be an overnight change, especially if this is something that he has lived with for many years.

My advise to you . . .as its not your nature to be insultive, (dont let him change you into what you are not) continue to have these discussions with him and let him know how exactly these words make you feel. Explain to him that he is supposed to be your number one fan, and it isnt right for him to use words that outsiders would not even dream of using on you. Tell him that you are a part of him and anything negetive that he calls you is infact a reflection of him too.
he choose to marry you and it doesnt make sense for him to have married a silly or stuppid woman or whatever negetive word that he uses on you. a case of 1 finger pointing out and 4 fingers pointing back.

The result of all these things I am saying depend on how you say it, when you say it, the tone of voice you use and your body language. I am sure you understand what I am saying.

Teach by example. Show him the right way to deal with conflict. You are not a mumu, far from it. you are only investing in the longer term peace and stability of the marriage. You are also teaching your children what sort of language should be used in a normal home. You will reap the fruits in the long run.

All the best.

mrssho:
the fact that her husband insults her has nothing to do with whether she works or not I know that bc i am speaking from experience. My husband used to do the same and I work and I earn as much as he does. I cautioned him several times, I even insulted him back a few times but it wasn't until I got someone older who he respected to let him know that it is wrong that he stopped

siegfried99:
Find a way to drive home ur points.

Simply means he isn't taking the issue serious as you do.

Richy4:
i discovered it was the female folks that were commenting more on this thread

What ever you do that makes your husband or friend to refuse meal or skip sleeping on the same bed with you, please stop it. do not be quick to say he is immature. he was running away from beating the devil out of you. so let him be at the moment.

OracleMxNelson:
and why do I feel strongly that it's not her... it's you... Anyways...

OracleMxNelson:
and why do I feel strongly that it's not her... it's you... Anyways...

diamondspooky:
@nicequeen use a plate and spoon to feed ur baby dats what i do till date shes 5months nw.u only chang d milk if. they react to it.i hop iv helped.

tchiwinnie:
My baby too refused taking milk after exclusive breastfeeding for 6months. I just put d milk in his cereal/pap.No need to waste d milk.

ladygogo:



I think parties are highly unnecessary and makes less sense when you cant comfortably afford it.

My dear,you can further convince him by highlighting the pros and cons of throwing a party. And who doesn't know the cons far outweigh the pros.

You can make your hubby realize he can put that money in a RESP(Registered Education Savings Plan) for your new born rather than spending it on some frivolous party. Now, thats good borrowing.
Does he know how much tuition fees are especially in a place like Nigeria where you have to pay through your nose for primary and secondary education?

Please sit him down and let him ponder on the future of that baby.

Profcamsey:
Poor niggas be like "celebrating child dedication is a sin and spiritual".