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[quote author=Donald3d post=81677320]I am not happy when people say things like "wait", "keep calm", in situations like this.

Whether you choose to accept it or not, a marriage would blossom better and faster when both partners put each other first in everything.
When things like this get tolerated they become full blown problems, and it usually gets harder to resolve .

I once read a post here were madam refused to allow Oga do "strong thing" in the other room, because her mother always complains that they are loud and embarrassing her.The house belongs to you and your spouse, not anyone else.

Sir, she is your wife, regardless of who is there.

Please Sir, have a conversation with your wife.I don't understand why Nigerians don't understand boundaries, what is she(the cousin) doing in your bedroom ?

She is not even your wife's direct sister...cousin sister ?. Even if she is your wife's immediate sister, she should not be in your bedroom for any reason, couples should please see this region as their "sacred place", its a forbidden zone for both of you alone !.
Call me old school, but only your kids should have access to your bedroom, and it should be highly restricted, "once in a while" and monitored access.

That being said, I don't understand why your wife ALWAYS wants her cousin to be there when she is dressing and undressing !. Then she covers up on noticing your presence ?. Something is off, I may be wrong but something is off.

The most confusing is the issue of both of you no longer bathing together, I don't get it, is the cousin there when you are bathing together ?

Are you sure, I mean very sure she is your wife's cousin ?
I hope its not what I am thinking.

From what I can deduce, its either you stay in a very small apartment(no offense intended) and your wife is just being extremely and awkwardly shy(the fact that she dresses in front of your cousin kind of rules out shyness) OR something very unthinkable is going on .

Please answer my question about how confident you are that she is actually her cousin.....


I don't mean to scare you, but its not normal at all

If there is nothing "unthinkable" happening, probably you have been trying to resolve the issue the wrong way. Don't try to make her change or adjust with the attitude, instead ask her WHY she is acting the way she is. Asking and knowing why makes it easier to resolve.

I don't mean to sound harsh, but whichever way you try to look at it, the cousin has over stayed her welcome. Anything that threatens romance and closeness between couples should be resolved with immediate effect, it should never be managed.[/quo


She is actually my wife cousin and we live in a small apartment but this cousin of hers already have 3 yes old child gotten through unwanted pregnancy

Blackivy27:
Im not. But women know women okay. The ladies commenting are stating the truth nothins amis. When i started growing up(maturing sexually)i suffered in the hands of my aunts and mum. Women are like that. What guys might do and get tagged as gay females do just to bond.
double standards. Besides if you and your wife had a good sex life before then she isnt a lesbian.

Thanks for ur concerns

Blackivy27:
Nicoo why are you hitting on the "she likes getting naked around young girls?" its making this thread smell fishy...

Don't get offended,, I have live with her for six years now, this issues have been a source of concern to me.... All signs deplays before me , make me worry .. It elivates when fellow women come to see her

I wana see if I can put a stop to it..... Either I work on myself or her

czarina:
it's completely normal. Especially if she grew around females.


Just be patient.

Thanks dear


Don't you think she may be prone or fall victim to lesbian attack

czarina:
If she doesn't change, just manage it.

You'll survive. It's just a month left. Let's hope she doesn't do that when other visitors come around.

It depends on the kind of person that comes around, I noticed , she love exposing herself to fellow women she is familiar to especially younger girls

czarina:
If she doesn't change, just manage it.

You'll survive. It's just a month left. Let's hope she doesn't do that when other visitors come around.

Thanks

czarina:
How long is she staying? Time never reach for her to comot?

One month more to stay

Blackivy27:
Maybe as an adult to her younger relative who is a female she wants to cut back on the sexual stuff not to give the teenager any ideas.
women dress in front of women dude no biggy.

Her cousin already had a male child gotten through unwanted pregnancy

madridguy:
How many thread you wan open bros

Pls make u advice na

It has been a month ago, my wife cousin sister 18 years of age, came for a visit , since then I notice that our romantic lifestyle had change. My wife can't sit close to me nor touch me in the presence of her cousin, . she feel uncomfortable when i do .our bathing together stopped. But then my wife will always want her cousin to be around when she is undressing and dressing especially in the morning thus replacing me.. Or wait for one another in order to dress together .... Many time she do expose herself in her presence and adjust when she notice my presence... Although , I have talked to her, but still the same, ...
Pls is it normal? Your advice ,, thanks

It has been a month ago, my wife cousin sister 18 years of age, came for a visit , since then I notice that our romantic lifestyle had change. My wife can't sit close to me nor touch me in the presence of her cousin, . she feel uncomfortable when i do .our bathing together stopped. But then my wife will always want her cousin to be around when she is undressing and dressing especially in the morning thus replacing me.. Or wait for one another in order to dress together .... Many time she do expose herself in her presence and adjust when she notice my presence... Although , I have talked to her, but still the same, ...
Pls is it normal? Your advice ,, thanks