Accounting students in the faculty of managment science/Administration

Payroll accountant in a company

A chartered accountant

Hr manager

A supervisor in a shoping mall

A new bride

Students of most federal universities in Nigeria

Chief bride's maid

Openbusiness4:
This upcoming generation of boys go brutal ohhh. See dem for dis thread, am juz laffing here. I pity all the young girls in their time. D seed of bad parenting by all dis indomie and feminism mothers will be ripe soon. Na women go suffer am. Thank God I don't have a daughter

True. No one with good parenting reasons this way.

I appreciate all who has commented, I will take my time to make any decision as regards settling down. I know I actually get into the second relationship due to lack of attention from the first guy, its not really my heart desire as I am the type that don't really look at a man's pocket before dating him, but the stress in the first is making me even want to consider a man's financial status, but in all and truth what matters to me is true love; a sacrificial love that is balanced where both partners love each other and not a one sided love.

More comments are welcomed.

Regards.

OK. Thanks.

Mandyvicky:
I think your boyfriend is a shy person
Like him get shame as a man... and he doesn't want you to see him as a weak man or look down on him cause he doesn't have

Because if he was just using you to pass time
He wouldn't mind you sending him card
Like he will accept any money from you

Driving is risky... maybe that's why he doesn't want to accept the job

Just try and understand him ....cuz he needs you now

Just saying shaa ...

I don't know why Some guys speak so Ill about ladies. Maybe your experience and environment has a lot to do with that, Change your mindset.

And to your statement, note I have not slept with any of these guys or any guy I have dated in the past, so there was nothing like whoring stage.

I might be feeling a bit pressured to settle but it does not make any man unlucky to be with me at this stage.

quote author=iTearHerToto post=92437205]Heheheh ladies and gentlemen

The hoe phase is finally over and the clock is hastily ticking.
Should I start mourning for the luckless man that'd get tied up in marriage a fraudulent scheme with some late night newspaper or should I mind my business?
Thinking.....







OK lemme go for the latter
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Homeboiy:
The guys brokenness is the reason why he is avoiding you.

And again he is still staying with his family.

Do you think a guy can love you and still avoid spending time with you, because at times I get scared.

Though I have had a dream about twice where he wasn't paying attention also to me in this dream, could it be my imagination or a revelation.

Thanks. I will work on that, I will take the fear off my mind.

UDUJ:
Note: I am in my late twenties.

The boldfaced above. What has that got to do with anything?

You Nigerian ladies in particular get so shit scared when you are in your late twenties, why? You guys pay too much attention to what the ill informed society says and in the rush to get married make bad decisions that you live with for the rest of your lives.

Damn you guys need to work on this.

I have female colleagues that got married in their thirties and I never for once noticed them acting all desperate.

I am in a relationship with a guy. When I met this guy we were living in the same compound, he asked me out, I refused because we stay in the same place to avoid fornication but we were very good friends that people thought we were dating. So I travelled for a few weeks and came back and he had started dating someone in the same compound, I felt bad though but I had to move on. So after one year we all relocated to different state, he also relocated to the same state. Then at a point he started communicating with me asking me to give him a chance again. At a point I accepted.

The issue:
For over two years after service he hasn't gotten a job. Though he engages in contract jobs. Also he had no accommodation of his own so visiting hardly happens.
He always calls, but we hardly see each other because each time I mentioned about visiting he gives one excuse or the other.
At a point i simply told him that he had been avoiding me. He said no, it is because he does not have a job and no money.
Even on my birthday he came because he felt I might be angry, not because he really wants to spend time with me. One excuse or the other usually comes up, so we ended up seeing only twice last year.

In January I had to request to visit him and his family, he was reluctant in the first place saying there is was no money for transportation, but I said I will foot a part so he agreed. I saw his family during the visit but I wasn't really introduced.
My problem:
We don't spend time together, before I thought it was because he was in a nearby state doing a contract job, but now he is back to the state I reside since December. After that visit in January I had never set my eyes on him but if I complain he will say money is the issue or gives excuse, though he still engage in some contract job. At a point he even asked me what plans I have for our relationship, and I told him as the man he is the one to decide. I once send him airtime and he told me not to try it again that I make him feel less of a man and I stopped.

Note: I had helped him apply for many jobs but non is working out, he can drive and also can install Dstv, but when I suggest him taking a driving job, he didn't make a move.

So recently i lost interest in this relationship.

Another guy in my current vicinity has been asking me out and I am not really into him but he is nice too, but I haven't fully unravel his character so I just had to accept though I don't really love him for now but hoping that the love will develop but that joy that comes with starting a love relationship is not there.

Note: I am in my late twenties.

Should I forget this new guy or still give him time or continue with the first guy. My mind is not really at peace.

Please your advice is urgently needed, particularly today.

[/color][color=#990000]I work in a supermarket where I receive a little above 50k, recently a guy I know working in an oil company wants to connect me to same company since there is a slot.
The issue:
The job requires health and safety certificate and I don't have one, so I told him I can start the training immediately and get one, but he said I should rather get a backdated certificate let's say one year and still undergo the training.

Secondly, the job requires an age I am above and he said I need to lower my age.

I know the job will pay quite high, but I am not comfortable reducing my age or backdating the safety certificate.

Please Advice, I am confused. I want to tell him to submit my CV like that without any modification but he is feeling that I am not serious nor want the job. I have to send him feedback today.

What should I do.

Please nairalanders where can one buy ear plug and eye mask in nigeria, particularly in Port Harcourt. Please it is urgently needed so as to cope in a noisy environment. Thanks

Please nairalanders where can one buy ear plug and eye mask in nigeria, particularly in Port Harcourt. Please it is urgently needed so as to cope in a noisy environment. Thanks

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