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So I have this childhood bestie...we went through secondary school together and I really adore her..our parents knew one another and we are family friends
We are both same age...23years..

We go out and do almost everything together..
So it happened last year I was dating a guy though I wasn't really into him .at first I told him I only liked him as a friend and he said I should just try him and give him a chance...

one day he asked me to visit him but I didn't want anything to happen btw us so I told my bestie to go with me.. She agreed and we went there, cook, eat watch movies and when it was evening we left..fast forward to two weeks later..
My bestie came to my place and after gisting and all..she asked me if I was still dating the guy..I replied yes but we don't communicate often like before...

So after a while she slept off and her phone was on her chest..I took it and it was not locked so I went through her gallery..a message came in from WhatsApp and I checked and behold it was the guy...I found out they were in a relationship.. It didn't hurt much since I wasn't attracted to him but I was disappointed she did that behind my back..and besides she has a boyfriend and I know him..we chat sometimes on WhatsApp but I never did that to her...although I kept it a secret and didn't tell her nor her boyfriend.. We continued being friends...

Three months after... I ran into the guy and we talked for a while.. He said he was sorry for going for my friend bla bla bla and they broke up some weeks ago..said he want us to start over and I told him I have a boyfriend now...we still talk till date but just friends nw..

So now after my bestie found out about my new bf and I showed her his picture.. It seems she didn't like him cuz she doesn't greet him most times she sees him...there was a day he came over and she just waved and walked away which I don't relate with her bf like that...they don't like each other and my bf told me to stay away from her without telling me why...I asked my friend why she doesnt like my bf and she was just giving excuses..it got worst when my bf proposed to me and she told me I should have said no cuz he isn't trustworthy...I was really confused and I asked my bf to tell me what's happening btw them but he said he just doesn't like her naturally..

Just three weeks ago she told me there is a girl at her workplace who had a rich bf and the guy asked her out and she agreed cuz she needed money...I wasnt comfortable with it and since then I stayed away from her but my dad has been asking about her and her mum calling me if we had a fight..but I said we are okay...she also called to tell me she is sorry if she did anything that made me stop talking to her.

I still can't seem to cut her off and she is not really that bad cuz she is nice to some extent..
Is it really necessary I stop being friends with her or am just overreacting...I love her as my friend but can't tolerate her getting close to my bf this time around...
Should I have told her about finding out about the first guy?
Now am scared there might be something btw both her and my bf are not telling me?
And now she is going to stay here for two weeks with me and my dad since her mum isn't around .
her bf has been complaining to me that she is behaving somehow towards him but i didn't tell him anything cuz I didn't want to disturb the guy.

Pls advice
Thanks..