Hmmm

Nice thread.
Lets face the fact: more women will be earning more than there hubbies in the years to come. Girls go to school as much as boys these days. And considering temperament girls tend to do better than boys in career and education.
The situation should have first been judged well in courtship. Later in marriage, money issues should be worked at and solved. If not there will be unhappiness and maybe divorce.
I think it really doesn't matter who makes more. But if the wife does, it will be a test of her ability to submit and a test of the man's ability to manage his ego. I only pray we pass the test: as anyone can find his/herself in that situation.

DejiYesufu:

Nice thread.
Lets face the fact: more women will be earning more than there hubbies in the years to come. Girls go to school as much as boys these days. And considering temperament girls tend to do better than boys in career and education.
The situation should have first been judged well in courtship. Later in marriage, money issues should be worked at and solved. If not there will be unhappiness and maybe divorce.
I think it really doesn't matter who makes more. But if the wife does, it will be a test of her ability to submit and a test of the man's ability to manage his ego. I only pray we pass the test: as anyone can find his/herself in that situation.

True!

OAM4J:

didnt hear about it. hope you've not finished the cake, pls send mine asap.

Anyway, happy belated birthday! I wish all your dreams come through and that this new year of your life will be better than all the former years.

Tnx

Inked_Nerd:


Submit to what?

Submit to the Head of the family which is usually the husband

dayokanu:

Submit to the Head of the family which is usually the husband

Sounding like a broken record!

Inked_Nerd:


Submit to what?

I guess you would need a lecture on the fact that regardless of who earns what a wife should submit to her husband and the husband should love his wife. And there is no need to raise a new argument on that; if you don't believe it, and choose to ride your own husband, I wish a happy wedded life!

hold on oo, if God forbid she dies who inherits the money? me and the kids right? ok then why should she have issues keeping it with me in the first place when she is alive? To be honest i respect a woman who earns , it shows she knows what she is doing and is being paid well for it, it would make me proud and i will boast of her anywhere , i wont even want to touch her money but we will have a joint account where we can both save for future plans for the kids and all that at her own consent .

I agree with Deji yusuf . It doesn't matter who earns more. Naturally the man ought to earn more by the virtue of his leadership in the home. Responsibility of care rests upon him primarily.

The only problem is the fact that some women have inability to humble themselves when they earn more. There is tendency to become bossy. The other side is that some men find it intimidating and it makes them feel they are losing leadership. Even if the wife is humble , some weak men feel insecure by it. So such things should be discussed during courtship. If it's a church wedding. Most churches have marriage classes and such topic is art of the topics dealt with.

My own,

I personally wouldn't be transferring my salary to my husband acc why would i do that?

Secondly, just because i earn more does not mean he can't afford to pay for the household expenses. People are jumping into an assumption that if the women earns more the man is poor, that isn't necessarily true, some men earn more than enough to pay for the household expenses and still have some left over.

However if the case is that he is poor then the best solution is just to sit down and decide who pays for what , simples!, they just need to share the responsibilities.

All these people going on about love, trust blah blah blah, i'm telling you when money is involved no matter how trusting the couple is, there will always be arguments i believe the key is just communications, simply device a plan of which individual has which responsibility to take care of.

Lastly, I believe that i dictate how my salaries are spent, obv I wouldn't be just spending it any how, but i won't feel comfortable if the man is telling me how to spent me money (it may sound like i'm getting a big head but at the end of the day if you want to be earning lots of money no one is stopping you from doing so)