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Thanks for the comments.But I've since moved on.This problem has been resolved.The brotha is gone.And I am very happy as hell.Thanks.

Osama12? Nothing prevents me from being a first wife, actually, this is something that I cannot answer right now, since this is just a question I just threw out into the air.

Wow interesting thoughts, but I guess it's really up to the individual that is actually involved in this type of relationship.I think there are pros and cons to this type of thing.I've heard someone tell me once.If you never open your mind to all possibilities, then you have never lived at all.Hmmmmm, something to think on,

I am curious to what anyone thinks on this subject.

It all comes down to this, one day ago, he called me to come get a few of my things.So I went over there, and before he knew exactly what was going on, I told him I wanted all I had left there.He really didn't have too much to say.Cause the whole element sort of surprised him.He knows me to be submissive towards him, oh well, my dominate side came out.I was very polite, did not use bad language, and I even returned his things to him.We switched items, and I got in my car to leave, he stood watching me, and this is when I told him, "I am not coming back." He was pissed.It was written all over his face, I know when he gets upset.I then said to him, "Take care." Then I left.So, yes, it's over.I will take this time to heal, then I will move on.For those of you with the encouraging words and thoughts, once again, you all were my rock.LOL.On to the next one, LOL.

I'd like to take the time to thank all of you kind people for your comments, and advice.You have all been a big help to me.And I appreciate all feedback.And compliments.ZIM DRILL for you I have a special message, so listen very carefully ok? I didn't post anything up here that I didn't want anyone to know, so when I said, he doesn't have a car, this does not mean that I put anyone down for what they do or don't have.What I am saying is, where I am from grown ass men are suppose to have themselves together by the age of 40 years old.This man is 40.OK? And if I want to go out.Why should I be the driver all the time?Furthermore, since you asked, I own 2 cars, a mini van that seats 7.A small family boat, a house, my own land, 3 kids that I raised alone, one has graduated high school and is attending college right now.The other 2 are A and B students.The father is not in the picture.I happen to be an independent female and have been for 12 years on my own.I ask no one for anything.Especially a man, all that I ask is CAN A BROTHER GET ONE CAR?Is this asking too much??And if you don't believe all I've just said, pass me your email address , I got pictures, Anymore questions?I mean, are we clear now

Wow, I just opened up a whole level of hate didn't I? Listen carefully this time.My so called man Randy, lives with his mom, does not have a job, I have not seen him look for one, since I've known him.He lives in my state.But he is from another state, he's lived here for 2 years.He calls himself a Muslim, but I have heard him cussing.I have seen him smoking, he pays no bills, he lives with his mother, she told me, he was not suppose to be living with her.He has no car, can damn sure fix one, but no car.He has been married before, has a child with her.And another kid with an ex girlfriend.He does not support these kids, because this was a question I asked him beforehand, he told me he worked out something between the moms.I had my doubts on this one.He has borrowed money from me, has not paid me back.This guy is not pitiful, he is not innocent, he knows exactly what he is doing.I've gotten to know alot about him and from what I've noticed is, he is a lazy, good for nothing bum, who preys on innocent victims.It has been a couple of weeks since I last saw him.But he makes sure he calls me daily.Called me this morning, around 4a.m. cause he gets up to pray around 3a.m., and I just told him that I just need to go to his house and get my things I left there.I told him this was all I wanted.Then I slammed the phone down.So, I think he understands that I am leaving him.My point is, the guy is a jerk.And I intend to find someone else.This brokeback brother, is not down on his luck.He is a USER.And I am done with guys like this.I deserve better.And no, I am not white.(LOL.) Sounds like I am huh?(LOL)

Wow, I never meant to start an arguement online between any of you, all I wanted was some advice.Please let's keep the peace as we try to help each other, along the way, problem solved, We all know I should let him go, which I did this morning.It's done.It's over.His ass is out of the picture, now can we move on

Let me explain further.I am a single parent, that has raised 3 kids on my own.I am also a divorced female.Don't go to clubs, don't go to bars.Matter of fact, I don't go anywhere but to appointments, and the grocery stores.I am not the party type of person.I am more interested in what my kids are doing then hanging out with so called girlfriends.I have none.And I have a reason for that.But anyway, I don't plan on having any kids for anyone in the near future.My thing is, I don't trust many people as it is, and I was trying really hard to not miss judge Randy.But I am no damn dummy either, I guess I allowed him to do this to me because, I don't want to take the time to get to know someone else new,I mean damn how many guys do I have to go through before the right one comes along?Are all guys the same, I keep running into the same ones all the time.Hell is it me?Am I too excepting? I mean, I am happy one way or the other, I have lived with a man and been happy, and I have also lived without one and been happy.So, I am just being me.Who I really am.And who I really am deserves someone that will want me the same as I do him. thanks for opening my eyes to the truth you guys, one love, always, PEACE.

I am currently involved with a gentleman who I will call, Randy.Randy and I met about 6 months ago online.We got up a good chat, actually he saw me on a dating site, and contacted me.As we chatted together, he seemed like a dream to me, he said all the right things.And I was impressed.(Ladies, when a man sounds too good to be true.He usually is.) Anyway, I was a little nervous meeting him for the first time.But when we did meet, it was as if I were getting back to my best friend.He is involved in a religion that I am not use to.Now when I met this guy, I knew what I was dealing with, on the surface that is.I knew why he didn't have a car, was not working at the time, had been married before, had 2 kids, by 2 different females, and was living with his mother.I gave him a chance anyway.He turned out to be a good guy who just needed a little push on things.Turns out after knowing him some more, he does not plan to get a job, he does not plan to get a car, he never has money, he always has to ask me.What the hell am I doing still with him? I do have feelings for him.But he never seems to want to be with me now.All he does is hand me one phone call a day.It feels as if he is just giving me enough attention to make me stay around a little longer.I am a good woman, I always try to do the right thing by people.And I feel like I am being used.Am I this man's fool