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I already did ,even bfore now we had issue in former apartment when i knew he was having and affair with neighbour ,i moved out,bfore he travelled back he begged me as well ,but family member had to settle d ish,and already paid for my apartment,was tinking he had changed wen he came back dis period ,wasnt really bother i knew abt the babe because whenever i leave for work am always wondering wat hes doing at home ,left my tablet at home just to record everytin and anyone conversation,i noticed he was on video with a babe o didnt even confront him althru his stay over look it sef nt until d video came in i realized he was d one dat paid for d ticket,nd forming broke for me.

stacyadams:




Well get ur self an apartment,any day him brain reset he will come looking for u


Make he no giv u disease.

Am working ,am very ok with out my man financially .

stacyadams:
Are you working?

Tanks alot ..

Acme45:
Dear i understand your plight You are the one wearing the shoe right now like i said earlier some marriages are founded on love, some on Deceit and some on understanding. The only marriage that survives the test of time these days are the ones founded on understanding not even love. My case is a typical example: my wife lied on the about her age to me before i wedded her only for me to discover that she lied to me. I was able to find out three years ago. Just few months in marriage she started complaining of stomach pain. After taking all kinds of ulcer med no solution. We went for scan only to discover she had fibroids. To cut the long story short after the surgery till date no issue for the past 6 years but still I will never lay a finger on her. No member of my family is even aware of the age issue because if i should tell them my wife is a gonna. Lesson 1 : if I send her parking she may decides to take her life or do something foolish to herself or even to me. Lesson 2 : Some household enemies will be happy with her out of the house and they will still be the first to tell me " look at this one that cannot even keep your home or impregnate your wife. Lesson 3 : forget about the lies on the ground of age and move on because if i look around i ve never seen a woman who can fill her space in terms of neatness and hard work. Like I said earlier , there's no perfect marriage on earth it's just our ability to understand and complement each other. My own decisions is to get another woman outside to give me a child first and I'm equally planning on IVF for her. The only issue I have with her now is not even her age, had it been she has been able to give me children to hell with her age. No perfect marriage most of the people commenting are not even married, though not everyone that is married are matured again so it's a very critical issue that must be handled with care and maturity. It may take a very long time for your husband to come back to his senses but your life is equally important for the survival of your child. Every woman's private parts are the same it's just the sizes so men wise up, if your father's behaviour is like yours today probably you may not even be alive or what you are today. My dear has � ( ant ) ever bites you very close to your nipple before and how did you killed that ant � ? So it's a very critical case that requires critical thinking. If you leave to your parents house for now, so that we will not see anything like RIP. If your husband been thinking with his penis rather than his brain pls leave, the one that happened in lekki is still fresh. Pls pardon my errors

Very terrible advice hanhan,y cheat when one can end it and start a happy life,or focus basically on career and child nt dickson .

kelvinrhs:
Niniolahabby


For the sake of your children, I'll advise you to not leave the marriage, it is not easy to train children when you are seperated.





My advice to you is to get a Young guy with nice qualities that you are looking for and cheat right under his nose(Be discreet and play safe though).

Find someone that will show you love, compassion and good acrobatics in the oza room (Cause it's obvious cheating men don't always pay attention to their wife in the bedroom)


You get to live with his nonsense and you will still be happy with your side_dick

You deserve to be happy you did not come to this life to suffer

Distance is not even the issue of the marriage,why is dat when hes around for 2weeks or a month he always misbehave when hes with me aswell.

Openbusiness:
Oga madam this is the source of your problems, long distance relationship or marriage don't work. Devil must surely enta d mata, only a matter of time. But I like your attitude and maturity. You can still save your marriage and still change him to the man you fell in love with and still love. But the first step to achieve that is both of you must find a way to live together. So either he must relocate back to Nigeria (won't advise this since 9ja is a shit hole), or you relocate to be with him. But before you relocate, make sure you have some personal money with you and also try get a job or find a business and do to have saying for yourself in case things get damaged beyond repair. But as it is now, you can still save your marriage.

He really need help,he is begging crying if i dnt hv dose videos he will change it for me calling me liar that i framed him up,i have forgiven him severally because it normal to argue and settle dispute.

Nwabundo38:
Your husband is a narcissist. You need to leave for your own mental health. Advice him to go for a therapy. Mind you that once you leave, he will start begging and acting all nice. Don't you make the mistake of giving him another chance. He will never change. They never change.

I neva did anything to him at all,because i usually ask him am very quick to forgive and i dnt keep things in my mind,am nt perfect but i just wanted things to work out well btw us ,i only read stories on this platform i dont comment but for some days now i just need to let it out cant tell my colleagues at work because if i even say it some will say u cant face such a lady like u ,ur man cant cheat.

EVILFOREST:
In as much as I detest RUBBISH from Ladies....
I can't imagine the reality of what you said.
I Find it hard believing LADIES......
Hope what you told us is the Truth...?
Are you really sure of what you said..?

IF it's true, I am DEEPLY SORRY....
That's too BAD...
Did you do anything terrible to him...may be in the Past....??
My WIFE did something terrible to me but I forgave her and moved on because she has really sacrificed a lot for me too, but since then she harbors fears in her that I may retaliate in future.

Thanks alot marriage nt easy but require patient ,and if u have a good man who cherish you and appreciate you ,a man can pretend for years after u have a child tru color start coming out ,d funny part is we don even leave together its wenever hes arund he usually say am on vacation wen am in naija i want to enjoy my sef,if he was doing it codede i will nt mind but no respect wen hes done cheating he go thru my fone even its a male colleague am discussing wrk issue with he will call a meeting on my head tell his parent nd my mum accuse me wrngly ,paint me bad ,God wanted to expose him,because he was trying to save all d video on icloud unknown to him dat his mail have been opened on my phone bfore that was how all the videos enter my phone .

Acme45:
my dear, no marriage Today is made in heaven. I understand your plight and you need to pray very hard before you take any decision. God will comfort you and your child. Again no marriage is perfect. The unmarried should look very well before jumping into marriage. Because Jumping into marriage is very easy but, jumping out is much more difficult. Am not saying you shouldn't get married , many are having a happy Home ,while some regret the day they ever made that decision. Look very well, as a man if you know you cannot tolerate the woman, don't even think of marrying her. As woman if you know that you can't control your mouth and respect a man, that means you are not ready for marriage. Husband love your wife, wife submit yourself to the authority of your husband ( not as slave, but be an helper). Man if you know that you cannot control your Anger then you are not ready for marriage, because your wife is not a punching bag. Control your Libido as man to have a great and happy home. Woman l pray God will comfort you and give you direction and if you know that you can no longer bear with him anymore pls move to your parents house to avoid long story.stay safe and God bless

Tanks for ur comment,am in my late twenties am nt the Instagram queen because he told me nt to use social media ,nd i dont ,have been so good to him gave him every thing if am nt good he wouldnt be beging i just feel cheating and misbehaving is a part of him,if i leave him today another woman will replace me,he always play is fatherly role,av neva been a bad wife i always want tins to work btw us because i dont wanna leave him.

Onlinefarmstore:
Dear Op, I know how it hurts, believe me it could be fustrating to put in more efforts and at the end of the day, husbby isn't reciprocating, while marriage is a collective responsibility from both parties, I see no reason while you should let it consume you. Judging from your remarks of being five years in marriage you shouldn't be more than thirty five or fourty years in age. You still have a long way to go. By building your life and career, believe me men then to do things more when they see that it pains the opposite sex, pick the pieces of your life, am not saying you should breakup your marriage but stand it to your marriage responsibility for example, while posting it here isn't all bad, but have to laid it on the alter of prayer, have you command the spiritual... Let me tell you this is a satanic manipulation, (believe it or leave it), watch closely, if you have a child your husband might be avaioding your child(ren) no care, stop crying and pick the pieces of your life!!!!! Command your marriage the way you want it. Bibble saying:Have I not said I will perfect all that concernth you?
Bring God's word back to him.... Also ask your self what made your husband to cheat, what kind of wife are you? Cheating is one thing, but another is bringing another woman from another part of this world to Nigeria for sex!!! What is going wrong!!! Are you an Instagram wife, or what does your husband want, believe me this story is one sided, but God will take charge only of you invite him.... Time to behave like a wounded and hungry lioness.....
Am available if you need more guidances.


What do I know, just strawberry and raspberries farming.

How do know i usually pondo yam for him he cant change anymore .,funnyyou

poshestmina:
Pray for him ,love him ,always wear RED PANTS AND BRAS to remain attractive to him , keep forgiving and make sure you pound yam with fresh soup everyday ..





...till you end up a DEAD ,MAGGOT INFESTED CORPSE >:

Give yourself some break biko ...if you don't have anywhere to go ,squat with a friend or family for a while till you know if he's changing or you like the toxicity ,slaps and Diseases.


Good luck

Amen tanks.

debayun:
First I really wanna apologise for that sorry misguided excuse for a man. You must really be in pains and for that I'm deeply sorry. I really pray that you find joy deep within you and not from your external environment Amen.

Yes tanks...

Manpoly:
Sure..u are welcome...pls get better soon and stay alright pls

My dear my tears dnt mean anytin to him anymore ,i feel its his nature to maltreat pple ,feels hes better dan everybody and u have to beg him even if hes wrong ,all 5yrs of my life i was tinking he doesnt know wat hes doing or dere something spiritual abt his behaviour do u know yesterday wen he called me i got to know he is doing everything purposely ,he said it by him sef dat he knows he usually curse me ,nd i have been patient no woman can ever be patient and he knows he neva said sorry rada i say sorry he usually take d pissed most times ,while me was tinking dere is a demon some where disturbing my marriage,very funny .

Manpoly:
are u sure u guys communicate well?
.

if u do...pls find a way...if it is in d midnight.. ask him y he is maltreating u and doing this things to u,that he is hurting u alot...pour ur mind...cry to him and if he doesn't feel remorseful or doesn't change.. pls leave him alone... stop giving him attention....and don't av any sex with him to avoid any form of sexual transmitting disease....pls take it easy

Tanks for contributing to ma matter cant even tell my story to pple around me ,i feel better discussing it ,just need to let go with all the tinking ..

Manpoly:
I know it is not easy..u just have to b strong as a woman, don't let it weigh u down at all...pls try to get over it and pls do things that u know makes u Happy, even if it is going out with ur son, or ur friend's place or something ...just do things that will make u Happy and won't make u think about d man pls...and u did the right by bringing it here,.just look for an opinion that suit u well and follow it

I shuld have left him during d domestic violence days but i still stayed in it ,its nt bcis of the video because i know abt the relationship with him and d babes i know all his gfrd because he talk to them in my present at times i just dont care ,have had enough.i was depressed last year after i got to know he was having sex with my neighbour i confronted him he denial it till i sent d audio record wen he used my fone to call her in to the apartment ,he beat me dat day ,family got involve dey pleaded i forgive right now am tired of his drama.

Manpoly:
y will u b depressed. because of a man?? .u saw d video fine..u were supposed to act as if u didn't even see it initially.....but that has happened.. to get over anything, pls don't pay him attention, let him do whatever he wants to do...just channel all ur energy on ur children and business..u don't need to divorce him since he is not abusing u domestically,... pls don't look at his side at all...just focus on ur children and ur work(business) and see aw things will work for u

Its nt easy to see a video of ur man with another babe,i know he cheat but i dnt let it dusturb me ,am after my wrk and business ,nd son.After i saw d video i had to tink abt it all yrs of marriage d maltreatment insult no respect ,i got married at early twenties and i have neva had 5months happyness in marriage ,i just had to make a decision and move on ,i just need to pour it to some1 dats y am here discussing abt it.

Manpoly:
y will u b depressed. because of a man?? .u saw d video fine..u were supposed to act as if u didn't even see it initially.....but that has happened.. to get over anything, pls don't pay him attention, let him do whatever he wants to do...just channel all ur energy on ur children and business..u don't need to divorce him since he is not abusing u domestically,... pls don't look at his side at all...just focus on ur children and ur work(business) and see aw things will work for u

I ask him same questions put me in ur shoes if u see a video of me with anoda man having sex wat his gonna do he culdnt talk.

paulolee:
would show her the video and walk out on her...wen she's done watching, she should jus pack her tinz n follow the man..

Am just talking generally ,may be cause of my calmness he took advantage of it .

hgnbello:
Intresting,
So If U Are Nt Calm, What Would U Do To Him?

Over salute

princeade86:
Will salute him

He cant nt try dat again,at times its nt too gud for a lady to be too calm in a relationship.

hgnbello:
Hehe.
If He Cms Bak U Cn Still Take D Beating Nah.

Tanks alot ..its so painful because i love him so much nd he knows dat,he take me for granted but am done dis time i watch d video am digusted abt it all d same man i married can be like dis for a girl whos nt upto me in every area no be say i no dey give am do oo,dis one na dog.

Ningen:
Good to know you've had enough.
People like him will never ever change.

Forget about what people will think.
Divorce him abeg.

If you as a human being can stay faithful to him then what's his excuse? Time to end his 5 years of serving you misery. It's never to late to leave.

Better to be alone than to be miserable.
And married to the wrong person.

He cant beat me up,funny part is dat hes nt based here,wen hes in naija dats wen he treat me like this

hgnbello:
Dammn Niga. Dats Wicked.
Am Sure If U Try 2 Confront Him, He Will Beat U Up Join.
Just Calm Dwn Nd Leave Evrytin To God.
If U Are Bless With Child Already. D Child Shld B Ur Partner.

Am nt ok tolerating him,i was scared of wat will pple say but right now i dont care anymore,i keep forgiving him and hes taking me for granted because he knows i will always forgive.he even tank me for been so patient or stupid for 5yrs .

Ningen:
Domestic violence too??
You've several evidence & you're still with him?

Why woman? Why??


Yes. What you're into is scam. Not marriage.
And seems like you're okay tolerating the scam.

Am d one whos tired he aint tired of d marriage dats y am surprised my five year of marriage he neva said sorry to me,he said sorry because i have evident of him and hes embarrassed,i just need to talk to someone its shameless telling my frnds abt it,i always make it look like i have a perfect life to everyone,but i dont.

hopeforcharles:
Sorry about that but don't let it make u lose yourself or walk out, show him the the video, don't fight, if he is tired of the marriage maybe u guys separate in an amicable way, but please take it easy

I have several evident if it for divorce oo,domestic violent pics medical report sef ,marriage na scam sha.

Ningen:
Use the video as evidence and seek for divorce.

Haaaa very funny.

MightySparrow:
Clap for him and say, welldone.

I did dat,he always begin trying to give excuses and hes nt sorry at all.

ghettokid1:
Just tell him that there is God and move on

Tanks

ghettokid1:
Just tell him that there is God and move on

Hello house had to create another user ,am really depressed,sad,right now a marriage of 5 yrs full of maltreatment but i just decided to endure all ,am very aware my man cheat but i didnt let it disturb me or let it affect me,nt until i saw a video of him having sex with a disgusting lady,he even paid for her flight to naija,and he was the one doing the video....i just need to talk to someone right now...