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Politics › Re: PDP Loyalist Misleading Peter Obi To Help Atiku - Kwankwaso by NLElder: 10:22am On Jul 05, 2022 |
Can we hear word on this Kwankwaso trash? He should go his way and let Peter go his own. What is it  |
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Sex...always bringing about the downfall of supposed great men! |
Health › Re: Man Commits Suicide In Jigawa After His Girlfriend Married Another Man by NLElder: 11:25am On Jun 14, 2022 |
robinso01: Wetin he go tell baba God for killing himself. He died for nothing. You have so much wisdom. If you were a woman I would have married you� |
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Politics › Re: Bola Ahmed Tinubu Visits Ahmed Lawan by NLElder: 8:49am On Jun 12, 2022 |
naija4life247: Do you ever see Osun indegenes selling Gala and La Casera inside Anambra holdups?
I see them sell agbo and satchet hot drinks in every city in the south east and south south. So? |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 11:57am On May 28, 2022 |
Thanks to everyone that genuinely gave me advice and thanks also to those insulting me....it's all good.
Honestly I feel better vomiting everything and listening to some hard truths, advice, and insults (i deserve them I know). For those asking me to resign my job....loll. I should resign and now depend on wify abi? Another problem in marriage... allowing your wife be the provider of the family. For those asking where she was all through the two years...I might have messed up, but I don't joke about my family's welfare. I have never neglected them even during the period I was with this lady. Communication is key in long distance marriage and I give myself 100% in that.
And to answer the question of those asking why she can't visit with or without the kids, well she said it was risky moving up and down on a 5 hr journey to be visiting me with small kids not up to 6yrs old with the kind of roads and Nigeria of today. We lost our 1st kid and it was hell conceiving to get the 2 we have now and we are so protective about them. If you have looked for kids u can relate. And finally, those asking her to resign a federal job were she has grown in ranks just to come and sit at home in the name of keeping marriage, come on be more realistic.
I messed up and the obsession and heart torture seems to be part of my punishment so let me live with it while I await for TIME to heal as most of you assured. I really thought I would get over the whole thing with a wave of hand. I think one of the challenges is that environment I live and work in makes me keep running into her and her guy. I won't move my office location naaa.. Can you all believe that yesterday as I was leaving my office, and was about to enter my car, lo and behold see the lady in question with her guy ileaning on a car parked some distances from mine. They were holding hands and chatting happily. She looked at me and our eyes met and I just kept a straight face. Later, I saw her again where I stopped to buy something from a shop. She wasn't with the guy this time. She greeted me and I responded. She was like she greeted me earlier around my office axis but it seemed my mind was not there(I honestly didn't notice cos it seemed that was before I now saw her with her guy). She entered bike and left while I drove off. The fact that she, me, her guy and our work places/residences are minutes away from each other honestly doesn't help my healing process, but I am progressing. God forgive me. |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 7:32pm On May 27, 2022 |
Ninisun: Take a one month leave immediately so that you can partially forget about her. Delete her numbers, social media contacts and have a new sidechick for the time being after you're back from your leave. Let the sidechick not be a serious one or live in your house cus you are too emotional.
This is what being faithful does to a man or woman, if you get a good opposite of your spouse, story don change ooo and that is what has happened to you. Please leave the lady alone for your sanity But I made it clear I have left her alone naa. That is not the issue of this post pls. |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 7:27pm On May 27, 2022 |
Xcelinteriors: Obsession is not love. If you have your way, you can kill her. I once had an ugly jobless fool that was so obsessed with me at a time and thank God I cut him off totally and he got pained and promised to destroy me. If you have the chance, you will either kill or destroy her. Just allow her be. Go back to your wife Obsession is not love, true. But kill her? Loooool...u missed that one. Never possible. |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 7:18pm On May 27, 2022 |
Rickmann: You see, this love thing can be cruel atimes. We don't choose love , it claims each man as it will. Its sad you both were victims of circumstance and I felt ur pain while reading through but this is ur reality my bro and you've got to move on.
Like she said , take every sexual fantasy you enjoyed with her and ignite them in ur wife, that will be a good start to moving on. It's easier with a marriage u people live together. I don't wish long distance marriage even on my enemy. If u experience it, you will know it takes only the grace of God to endure. |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 6:54pm On May 27, 2022 |
Opeyemic01: My own is imagine your wife doing all this rubbish you are doing right now. How would you feel?? The pain you will feel seeing your wife throwing herself at another man as you are doing right now with the lady, should be enough for you to kill whatever feeling you have for the other lady. Atleast you have explored and enjoyed yourself with her. So if you are not a devil and selfish being, allow her to go for the umpteenth time, I have allowed her to go. That is not the issue I am seeking advice for! |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 6:49pm On May 27, 2022 |
DKM123: I hate that word, "simp" but you are the perfect definition of the word. A so called alphamale who cheats on his wife will know that love is not part of the deal but you simps, just two or three back thrust and you have fallen in love yakata with your side chic.
You saying she was a well brought up girl that had values shows you are not very smart in the ways of the world. Well brought up Kee you there. Well brought that moved in with a married man for two years and is engaged but collecting dciks from a married man.. Values indeed. Your gullibility is on steroids. No wonder you are falling in love with your side chic.
The girl was poor and even though she was 30 and knew the relationship wouldn't lead to marriage, she nonetheless didn't give a flip cos she NEEDED you to take care of her financial needs. She knew what she was doing ALL ALONG when she offered to come and cook and clean and sleep in the house of a married man.
She was NOT in love with you, don't be silly. You were just a means to an end. She needed you to SURVIVE. The monthly stipends and the roof over her head and the other financial help including her mum's hospital bill were very vital at that point in her life. You think say she for send your papa yansh if you weren't doing all that?
A woman that is in love mostly becomes TOTALLY FOOLISH cos they are emotional. She would have stupidly stayed with you and be disgusted with the touch of another man. That's how women are wired. That's why some side chic never marry cos they fell in love with thier Aristo. Women don't easily move on if they are TRULY in love even if the man panel beats them with plenty beating twice a week, they will still blindly stay and make excuses for him. She left your ass cos she was done using you and needed to upgrade her life. You are still busy taking your own life backwards..
You better wake up from your foolishness and move on before you do something that will ruin your life. If not, you will continue seeing her take pictures with her husband and kids while you would have lost your own family. Ode. It's good to point out that you are not entirely right. I made it clear that even when she got serious with her guy, she didn't want me to really know and still comes around to my place and by then I wasn't giving her stipends anymore. So I can tell u I wasn't a means to an end. |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 6:41pm On May 27, 2022 |
LordIsaac: Divide the number of years you dated her by two, that's how long Psychology says it would take to get over her. Please, I beg you, that lady is over 30! I commend her for not roping you with pregnancy....she seems to have a good heart; let her go! In the equation, you're the most selfish. It is time to prove you have a heart....let it go! For Heavens sake, I have let it go. I am only seeking help on how to stop obsessing and looking at her social media, posts, status, etc etc every now and then and how my heart skips as I know her wedding is drawing close. It all looks abnormal to me. |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 6:32pm On May 27, 2022 |
VlamesIffect: Let her go my brother, let her go. That experience was part of life. I'm glad you both had a good time while it lasted. Time to move on. I have let her go. What I need help with is to stop obsessing with her, checking her social media, status,etc etc every second of the day. It's driving me nuts! |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 6:30pm On May 27, 2022 |
haggai247: Op wan monopolise the pussy cat.
Single men out there learn from this one oooo baba dey bang on a steady why the girl dey build her relationship with a suitor.
She's 30+ and soon to get the ring, lord help that brother man.
Wetin man no go see for this life You speak as if I am still doing anything with her. |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 6:28pm On May 27, 2022 |
Babamide: Wedding day chairman of the occasion. Hope you are still assisting her with monthly stipend and some other things. In my own opinion, there is no end in sight for both of you. She just needs time and space to get married before she falls back into your loving arms. How come your wife and kids didn't notice your divided attention? It is either your story never happened or your FG civil servant wife has her own side piece Cos I can never abandon my family for anything and like I said, I pay them regular visits fortnightly then and later monthly. |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 12:10am On May 27, 2022 |
Kiddogarcia: Time will heal you sir,you have happiness at home,let her find happiness too. Na we be your best plug for everything sexual enhancement tho thanks. Lol...@ sexual enhancement. No be when u see sex u talk of enhancement?? |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 12:05am On May 27, 2022 |
Bluezy13: Imagine if your wife was going through this with another guy somewhere without your knowledge. I never proud of what happened and look I tell u it could happen to anyone especially if circumstances keep u away from wife 80% of the time. Don't be quick to judge buddy |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 12:00am On May 27, 2022 |
zukky79: TIME. That is all you need. With time you will gradually forget her. Focus more on things that will your mind busy. Thanks |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 11:57pm On May 26, 2022 |
M speechless You av to move on, she already did Everything is just infatuation, obsession, and lust and maybe love... Am confuse sef I think you missed avin ur wife wit you... You need to put some dirt on her in your mind, forget abt her good part mayb you can move on... And your marriage, i think ur wife need to give up on her job to move in with you... Help her find a job in that state. She need to remember you're married you can't live like a single guy. To take ur mind off her only time will tell  [/quote]My wife can't quit her secure federal government work to come stay with me here. I am in tbe private sector and can still get a job out of where I am today. So we made the city she works and lives with the kids our base. U get? |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 11:53pm On May 26, 2022 |
Elporo: Love is tragedy  I totally agree |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 11:52pm On May 26, 2022 |
Thanks for not being judgemental. I have tried out your advice of putting some dirt on her by telling her she was just using me to hold on and get what she wants(which I knew wasn't true). This was part of what led to our big misunderstanding and quarrel which finally ended the whole thing officially. I later sent her voice notes of apology and wished her well in her upcoming marriage and totally stopped communicating with her. She too apologized and went an extra mile to start chatting and calling occasionally and sending me pics and other things which I told her should be limited now that is over between us. She just doesn't seem to make me an enemy on her journey of life. We have moved on truly, but what I need to stop is this obsession and strange jealousy of her fast approaching marriage. quote author=Sweetvie post=113205970]Wow M speechless You av to move on, she already did Everything is just infatuation, obsession, and lust and maybe love... Am confuse sef I think you missed avin ur wife wit you... You need to put some dirt on her in your mind, forget abt her good part mayb you can move on... And your marriage, i think ur wife need to give up on her job to move in with you... Help her find a job in that state. She need to remember you're married you can't live like a single guy. To take ur mind off her only time will tell  [/quote] |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 11:51pm On May 26, 2022 |
Thanks for not being judgemental. I have tried out your advice of putting some dirt on her by telling her she was just using me to hold on and get what she wants(which I knew wasn't true). This was part of what led to our big misunderstanding and quarrel which finally ended the whole thing officially. I later sent her voice notes of apology and wished her well in her upcoming marriage and totally stopped communicating with her. She too apologized and went an extra mile to start chatting and calling occasionally and sending me pics and other things which I told her should be limited now that is over between us. She just doesn't seem to make me an enemy on her journey of life. We have moved on truly, but what I need to stop is this obsession and strange jealousy of her fast approaching marriage. quote author=Sweetvie post=113205970]Wow M speechless You av to move on, she already did Everything is just infatuation, obsession, and lust and maybe love... Am confuse sef I think you missed avin ur wife wit you... You need to put some dirt on her in your mind, forget abt her good part mayb you can move on... And your marriage, i think ur wife need to give up on her job to move in with you... Help her find a job in that state. She need to remember you're married you can't live like a single guy. To take ur mind off her only time will tell  [/quote] |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 11:24pm On May 26, 2022 |
Why would I invite her over for the last time when it's over between us. All that made me write all these is how to break free from obsessing about her...seems so abnormal that I can't seem to break free from that. I don't want her back. I just want my sanity back! priceactionx: What of if you invited her to your house for the last time and things got worse and she died in the process. You will be in the prison, everything you were hiding will be well opened, you will bring shame and reproach to your innocent family., you will loose your job, family, happiness, freedom and everything else you can think of. You will be shadow of your self. You will now remember that why didn't I let go that time? It was a good sign for you to get back to your track and start a new life. Don't think twice about it, thank your God it happens. Close your eyes totally and SIMPly ignore her totally. Don't be a Simp. |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 11:19pm On May 26, 2022 |
seanwilliam: By the time she gets pregnant for you , and she begin norn pikin , she go tire you . Leave her, let her go. Love hurts I have let her go but I need professional advice on how to stop obsessing about her and being jealous about the fact she would soon get married. It doesn't look normal to me! |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 11:17pm On May 26, 2022 |
seanwilliam: By the time she gets pregnant for you , and she begin norn pikin , she go tire you . Leave her, let her go. Love hurts Love truly hurts. It's always better it never started. |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 11:16pm On May 26, 2022 |
Friend22: If you were Muslim na to marry that lady no need for all these foul play. Monogamy is a scam.
I thank God I am Muslim ooo. Sincerely I think that's the only good thing in Muslim! |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 11:15pm On May 26, 2022 |
Vinnie2000: OP, let me not lie. Couldn't read all of diz ur very volumnious story! But will advise you to Stick to your Wife and manage her! This Single lady will NOT be too different if u decide to 2nd Wife her! Use ur Sense Plz. Too different in what please. And for my wife, yes, I have been and will continue managing her. It's not her fault or mine either that she was genitally mutilated. That nonsense has killed many otherwise happy marriages. |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 11:12pm On May 26, 2022 |
ajekpaks: you'll lose the love of your life because you're married? I don't understand? |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 11:10pm On May 26, 2022 |
nighter: In all of these, it's your wife I feel for. Well, what has been done cannot be undone. Just keep your mouth shut kpekem. No tell am anything o. If you don't want her to die before her time. And don't tell anyone about your affair, not even your pastor cos only you can give yourself peace. Surely! Thanks |
Romance › Re: Married But Dated A Single Lady For 2 Years Now I Am Loosing My Mind! by NLElder(op): 11:09pm On May 26, 2022 |
decatalyst: This looks like a poorly written book. No paragraph or continuity.
Click LIKE if you want me to summarize it and SHARE if I should not. I initially wrote in a hurry. It's edited and paragraphed now |