₦airaland Forum

My Husband's Death Led Me To Street Trading - Go and Die Widow

Mrs Ifijeh spoke with us after receiving her appointment letter. Excerpts of interview:

How do you feel being employed by the state government after your encounter with Oshiomhole?

I thank God for the appointment. I thank Oshobaba, even if he does not do any other thing for me, I am okay with this gesture. I have already forgiven and forgotten what happened. I believe that this is another way God wanted to bless me. If not for this incident, who am I to meet Oshiomhole face to face? I only knew him from afar during the election when we all voted for him because we respect him, we don’t see him like other people who will come and they will not lead us well. I thank God that used Oshiomhole to help me, I am not angry with him. I heard that the PDP said they want to give me money, I don’t need any money again and they should stop using me to campaign. I am okay with what Oshiomhole gave me. I think that if the PDP is genuinely serious about helping widows, they should give that money to another widow in Edo State.

Background and husband
I am from Emein Ora in Owan East Local Government Council. I don’t really have details of how my husband died because it happened in Lagos. They said he died in his office, he was a mobile police officer. We have four children, two girls and two boys. He also had a Yoruba woman but I am his first wife. We were married for twenty two years. But it has been difficult for us to get his gratuity. I have been managing through buying and selling and that is how I have been able to take care of the children. We went to Lagos to write about my husband’s entitlements but we are yet to get response from the police authorities. We married in 1991 and I am 40 years old now. I am also appealing to the police authorities and individuals to help me so that they will pay us what is due to my husband because he died in active service. His name is Godwin, an inspector. He was just promoted to the rank of inspector when he died.

The PDP said they sent you N250,000. Have you received the money?
They did not give me any money. Like I said earlier, let them give the money to another person. I am okay with what I have. I don’t want them to be using my name up and down. I don’t need their money.

So how do you intend to start your life now after your appointment?
I will start the campaign immediately. I will be moving to the markets to inform people to sell inside the markets and not outside because the state government spent money building these things. Personally, I don’t even like selling by the walkway because it is not hygienic. I understand that the Comrade Governor was very angry because he felt that what he is spending money on, people are destroying them and anybody who genuinely wants to work for the people will feel that way. So I will start the campaign in all the markets now that they should keep their environment clean and respect the law. The Comrade Governor means well for the people, I have seen it.
Which church do you attend
I attend all the good churches including Catholic, I don’t really have a particular one. I always go for prayers so that God will help me, even Bright my son is a son of the Catholic.

Did any pastor give you a vision that you could be rich?
No, but it was my son that had a dream that I had an encounter with Oshiomhole. In that dream my son saw that I went to the market and had an encounter with Oshiomhole. My son was staying with a Rev. Father that day and he told the Rev.Father about his dream. He said the Father told him that maybe God wants to bless his mother. I was already at the market when the incident happened and I called my son that the governor had packed all my things. It was later that day that he now told me about his dream. I was really touched. But it was later that they called me to come to Government House for my goods. I called my son to come along with me and we were very happy.

The day the governor called you, you came with your landlord and sister. Were you scared that you might be detained?
Up till now I am still scared. I just said, ‘whatever wants to happen, let it happen’ but I believe that God wants to help me train my children because I have really suffered since the death of their father. As a matter of fact, the fear started when I saw the governor behind me. I noticed that somebody was behind me at the market and I was trying to push him so that I will have space to carry my goods, not knowing that it was the governor. I was shocked when I looked at his face and that was when I started shouting ‘God, this is Oshobaba’ and I knelt down immediately and started begging him to forgive me

Politics aside, I mean PDP or APC whatever, I'm just thinking about the woman at the center, I mean God works in ways humans cannot comprehend and that is why He is God. Come to think of it, what if this woman was obedient to the law and stayed at home? Whatever that is going on now will not come in existence. Another thing, what if Osho saw her and had pitiful wish on her and said woman don't do this again I understand you are widow so be careful go your way, nobody would have known that he met her. What if the PDP didn't make it a political issue? And what if there is nothing like social media to broadcast what happened? Just because Osho said go and die, which is just like a common language among Nigerians, I mean an everyday language. Now go and die has become "go and live". My advice is that whatever that happens on our way we should wait and see what God wants to workout of it. "For all things work for good to them that love God and .............

jhidey08: free dis guy na, he said he is in Abroad, wot does dat remove 4rm u Or r u jealous?

I can't be jealous at all I know where I am just like to talk some sense into his little brain.. cos youths like him suppose not be so bias with religion..... the boy is a very big liar...

IamDebola: Hahahahaha... See where your BRAIN is hanging! Can't believe I'm exchaNging words with a FOOL @ 40!
Choi.. I just dey shake head for u.. So u meant to tell me that @ 40. U neva get money to travel out or to do sensible things..

Because if you can.. Then you'll know everyone can..

Nairaland is not a place to carry out your sham/scam deals... there is no MUGU here to catch.... u are under ikeja bridge pretending to be in abroad... street boy!

IamDebola: Bros I don't need to think of anything.. Because the future is here already. Why should I be thinking? Another way to give person Blood Pressure?
The only thing I think of is how to please Almighty God more and more, not about NIGERIA!

And how to make more money. Not about You or Nigeria..

The future you dont have because if you have, you cannot be in another man's country and be begging for their citizenship whereas you have a country. Your country has denied you every right you have as a citizen and you are pleased to settle for crumbs from the table..... shame!

IamDebola: You know what? I left Nigeria a long time ago, So count me out if you're basically talking to Nigerians because Ima be getting my citizenship very soon..

No carry politics enta this one.. if u carry politics enta i go tell you to Go and Die, and you never threw up those words to trap anyone.. na 1 chance u enta..

U no sai u don enta 1 chance for my hand, by the way do you know I'm just 18 years old? Continous argument with me is Trash because Ima keep replying you like a kid.. Like a toddler rather..

So you can keep arguing with me till evening... I wan take short nap.. See you later..

That is how senseless you are ... so you are proud of getting another country's citizenship while your country is being wasted.... your are proud to settle for a third class citizen ........very shameful! That is y I said u are a big big big fool!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! person wey d pursue Rat wey Papa house dey for fire ....

IamDebola: You know what? I left Nigeria a long time ago, So count me out if you're basically talking to Nigerians because Ima be getting my citizenship very soon..

No carry politics enta this one.. if u carry politics enta i go tell you to Go and Die, and you never threw up those words to trap anyone.. na 1 chance u enta..

U no sai u don enta 1 chance for my hand, by the way do you know I'm just 18 years old? Continous argument with me is Trash because Ima keep replying you like a kid.. Like a toddler rather..

So you can keep arguing with me till evening... I wan take short nap.. See you later..

u no go anywhere u dey under ikeja bridge make we hear something....

IamDebola: Agreed I'm a fool & You're a fool also. But I'm just 18, by default you're not less than 25.
So who's the BIGGEST FOOL bros mi? Na You nau!

Even if you said something that favoured me in a stupid manner, I'll still call you a fool.

At your age you should be thinking about your future that is blinking in that country your country!

IamDebola: How I wish you had BRAIN!

I threw the above words out as a trap for some fools like you to know how they regard the ordinary people and here you are falling into it. I like to see Nigerians cogitating about their future, how it has been mess up by the so called political and religious tussle and dichotomy leaving the entire country unproductive and baseless. I like to see Nigerian youths dissecting on ideas that will uplift their educational, health, economical and social standards not talking about religiosity that has over the years created deep animosity among the people called Nigerians…. I think nairaland should stop taking/ allowing this kind of thread.. It does not help to unite us rather causes more grievous division among us.

IamDebola: How I wish you had BRAIN!

I don c ur sense reach ... na ur sense they take build third mainland bridge ye ye, because I never say the one wey favour u abi...u dey here de argue about religion wey u no no how it take come.... big fool!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

idnoble135: Topics like this can easily make one appear naive. It could even make one an object of displeasure and anger, but..... That will not suppress the truth.
My take on the issue goes thus is very very simple and straightforward and it goes thus:
Muslims can make heaven, so can Christians. The gates of heaven are open wide to both groups.
Howbeit, it is written,

That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath
raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is
made unto salvation. Romans 10:8-10
The above is all i know that is guaranteed of making heaven. So, making heaven is not a function of bearing the title of a Christian or Muslim. If you do the needful above, you are good to go.

You are confused... any Muslim wey don confess Jesus no bi muslim again e don become christian. dat particular person if ask am watin ebi e go tell u say nbi chriatian......u dey here dey confuse people abeg commot

harbiola1: Exactly, I mean, if a person wan't to be sincere like you and I.


I swear by Allah, this's 100% correct.


What about those that came b4 Jesus, how were they saved?


Do you knw the meaning of a Prophet (as)? Oh! you think those ones that Bible said they skinned 200 men to get 1 wife, that fuc.ked his daugters or rather his daugters fuc.ked him, that worshiped an idol, that made a golden calf, that killed his sodier's wife to snatch his wife which God later killed his first born and other childrens along. Or you believed that God along with his angels really ate wheat bread with Abrah and his wife and Wrestled with Jacob in which jacob appeared a winner and all those rubbish in that Book.

Guy? u'd better wake up, what's called "A Prophet" is millions far from those filthy things let not talk of Almighty God.


As much as i knw, u're talking about christians. Jews and Muslims are till this minutes practicing Jesus teaching.
May be you can give us three examples of Jesus teaching which u as a person is practicing and muslim populace are nt practicing.



Not "they believe" it's they knw is the New prophet(saw) even with strongest evidence. Though u may nt see it because even after 2000 years, out of those hundreds of prophesy which spoke about the coming of Jesus as the messiah of the jews they haven't seen just one to take out as an evidence to whom God called him.


I'm speaking on behalf of world muslim that we believe the fact that Jesus is the breath/word of God and Holy Ghost or Holy spirit according to christians. And that's why i and every other muslims is being called muslim.

And if Jesus is a son of God then we don't have "Only Son" if nt Two or more with very very very sound undisputable proof from the bible.


Lol, all the Apostles were damned for nt acknowledging Jesus as the Lord. Or did they? then lets see ur evidence


I wish u could see hw i'm laughing at u. even Apostles neuer heard of name "Jesus" let alone of Jesus himself. And besides, there many Jesus b4 the Messiah, so can you see serious Gobe. Even muslims have better name for Him "Iesa" (Alaysalam)

If ur mohammad and all the Muslims believe in Jesus, why eno follow d path of Jesus ... e come dey fight people dey kill dem make dem believe in him..... Jesus talk about peace but ur muhammad never allowed peace to reign in all the middle east and persian region till e conquer all and shad their blood and force dem to believe na waa 4..dat guy.... the guy na real player... e come like women well --- well come dey screw dem the way e like... anyone wey fine belong to him evn go stretch him hand to minor after e come tell him followers to dey marry only four but na only him marry pass four.. abeg make we hear word about religion in this country... d one wen dey worry us pass make we thinkam they say dem wan sale una refineries, dem wan sale everything 4 dis una country, una no go talk about that one? na religion come become una palava yeye de smell.... abeg make una no kill me .... dis my mouth too sharp, sorry if u dey vex.

My own bi say sex no dirty at all na dey best thing wey happening b/w man and woman. Without sex man and woman no suppose dey together watin they go dey do?

This is the only thread and topic I have seen on Nairaland that people are discussing in a decent manner.... I beg make una carry go I luv u guys

Kay 17: I'm glad you saw sex and its abuse as two different subjects, however I was discussing sex alone. If sex is something beautiful and divinely powerful, should we propagate it more, should its beauty be declared daily?!

I agree say sex beautiful but na when you dey doam with the right person... but make I ask u dis question if u dey do sex with minor e good? if u dey so sex make small children dey see am e good? and if u dey do sex make people come dey watch you as u dey doam e good? Na the abuse we talk so..

NoProphecy: And the essence of human existence is dictated by a dusty old book written by barbaric, land-grabbing desert savages? What has the s.exual repression from these people gotten us? Psychosis, ignorance, hate, and fear. You have no justification for your backwards beliefs outside of this book. If you cannot connect your beliefs to human pain, human suffering, or human well being, I could care less about what you think.

Men how can we ameliorate human suffering without putting in place solid norms that will act as watchdog against human excesses? Most of this things wey we talk na him dey help generate these pains …

tpia@:
its also an addiction i should think.


people who are used to exposing their bodies, do not feel comfortable covering up.

they might feel ugly by so doing, perhaps.

If na addiction make dem go for rehabilitation center go cure themselves. make I give one solution here if na addiction, it is possible to change, first step is to change the kind of friends u keep and another thing na to remove any material wey go make u do that again, then make friends with people wey no like something like dat, before long u don commot from habit.

NoProphecy: So it is indecent when animals have sex? Did they all learn this from watching married humans? Should I force my cats to get married so that they won't go insane?

Was Solomon a crusader of porn with his 700 wives (and 300 "concubines"?

Sorry. You have given no real reason for me not to continue having sweet fornication and enjoying hot MILF p.orn. "Because my God said so in a book" is not a convincing argument. Tell me, specifically, how my life will be better if I stop fornicating and watching hot, sweaty, girl-on-girl p.orn.

But dis Solomon wey u quote so, later in his life talk say all those things wey e do na vanity. This shows say u wey dey do these things and also dey encouragam so will one day say i regret all dis wey I did. Make u learn from this man Solomon e better.

maryam8080: You can't just crucify human values on the cross of money making. That people are washing down their dignity and pride does not mean that human ethics and standards should be short changed. We need to stand firm on what is right so that rightness will endure in this world that is fast embracing the part of evil.

u wan tell me say if one of these artist or celebrities march go church or any place of worship and make an offering dem go telam say make him take him offering back. Whether u talk go up or down na moni be di problem.

Honestly i no dey e support of all these things but wen u talk about dignity and pride which people neva destroy dia dignity and pride? talk of politicians, civil servants, the entire public there is no dignity and there is no pride. All are making their moni and they believe that they can purchase their dignity and pride back after they have made the moni.

novicali: All these noise about making money through this kind of immoral act is worthless. How many of this Indecency people could be counted as among the riches in the world? Somebody is destroying his or her pride and dignity as a human and you are talking about making money.

Make u talk true if dis people after dem don make the moni use the moni for charity purpose you no go praise dem. And even the people wey dem go give the moni go happi say God beta dia life.

bigdiva: I was responding to this your post. Not to the topic. Don't shy away from defending your post. I'm in agreement that minors should be protected, but a full grown adult, why i sex s bad, something to be regulated and all that stuff you put

I like this guy. u mean say we suppose to dey nak the thing here and there. Well I hail uoooo! But u no think say too much of everything is no good?

bigdiva: I was responding to this your post. Not to the topic. Don't shy away from defending your post. I'm in agreement that minors should be protected, but a full grown adult, why i sex s bad, something to be regulated and all that stuff you put

I like this guy. u mean say we suppose to dey nak the thing here and there. Well I hail uoooo! but u no think say too much of everything is no good?

NoProphecy: I fornicated last night and just looked at p.orn a few minutes ago. They were both awesome! These are only bad if someone was hurt in the process (only a condom was injured). People have been fornicating for as long as there have been people and people have been enjoying p.orn for as long as they have been able to create it. Please tell me (without any arguments from authority) why this is a bad thing?

A repressed God that is obsessed with sex and sexuality needs to grow up and get some good sex. It needs to create a woman, or a man (or both) and have a good romp. It will be singing a different tune afterwards (and likely smoking a cig).

I bow for u.ooooo na baba God u take dey make joke because u think say u dey have fun... is gud make u call yam yam nau

maryam8080: Recently we've seen some of our local celebrities following the footstep of their western counterpart in sharing their unclad pics, this is fast spreading because their is an avenue to spread it. The social media is in fact an agent of this unbecoming character and they should be checked. I am seeing many of our female artist joining the bandwagon soon and that will be a moral disaster.

Me think say dis people dey use the media dey themsef popular and the media is also making dia moni... u never read from Bible say "Money answers all things" it is a hard to make clean money! No money no immorality!

Nigerians like to spend their hard earned money on things that doesnt matter so much. Dnt be surprise this man children no dey go beta school at all.

E bi like say nigerians don dey wise up small small..... well sha may be na because they were praying to God and no one would like to side evil in the presence of God. This is a very big way to demonstrate to Mr president that Nigerians are not happy at all with this woman.

spencerwilliams: so what ar u tryin 2 say now, do u suport d idea of postin does pics and videos 4 peple 2 watch?

Maybe u didnt read ma statement well. i said it is an immoral act. so am not justifying it, but on the other hand one can still do what he likes afterall life is about making choice.

Emphatic NO! QED

Well sha.. watching these things are just immoral ....... but waitoooo dey de force one make e watcham ... u can say no to it if u like

What is praise and what worship? They are the same, just that people coined a named for slow songs and fast songs, they are ways of worshiping God that is all.