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Who would believe that this face is behind all these crazy topics...
You look too intelligent to be insulted on a daily like this

Don't use the fact that her mother is no more as a leverage to spoil her and don't think because the 17 year old has both parents she should also be spoilt
Society has played it in our minds that the step mother is always evil, films, books, songs name it, they are all the same script
The OP is still hurting, he needs to get his head right and understand that his wife wants the best for him and their child.
There is no marriage or in fact relationship on earth where there are no fight, arguments or disagreements the only difference is how it is managed
I repeat once again EVERYONE IN THAT HOUSE HAS A FAULT INCLUDING THE FATHER!

A good FATHER is one that can organize his household without even the neighbors hearing about it.
No one has ever solved a problem by sending it away, the solution is always stay there and fight it. Period.

The only time you can make such a decision is if after teaching them all the things I stated in my last reply and they still act irrational then and there your conscience is justified and you know you have tried.

mrNelsonT:
The life of one kid is just as important as those of the other 4 kids.

Am a father. I've of a 7-yr daughter and 5 yr old son. I can't imagine my kids losing their mother, then me remarrying only for my daughter to be maltreated. Won't be under my watch.

Should this woman leave, the 4 kids will still have a living mother n father. U can't say the same for the 10year old girl who no longer has a mother. The other four kids are too witnessing the chaos in the home. You cannot remove the kid, she's not the problem. The woman n her daughter abusing little kid, are. Reason why single fathers needs to be careful before remarrying any woman

You can read op's post n tell he's a good father, has been a good stepfather to the abusive 17-year old. Money no be problem for him, he go still perform his duties for the other 4 kids he has with the woman.

Everyone in that house needs to be enlightened including you
You beat your stepdaughter she beats your daughter, it's a very simple circle
Coming from a 17 years old and currently living with children btw the ages of 7-12 I can tell you that these children say things that hurt me and pretend to be all good when their parents arrive. Yes she's wrong for beating her to that point but you are the elder and you messed up from the top
Simply call both girls, tell them how much you love them, tell them to be nice to each other, monitor them, tell the older sister to get gifts for the younger, be nice to them, tell them to apologize to each other and teach the older one to laugh whenever they start misbehaving or simply walk away from the environment. Apologize to your wife, teach her to love your children as well.
They stay with them longer than you do and you have no idea the shit they hear everyday trust me.

Do this and you will have your peace.
Sending either of the daughter's away is the first seed to destroy your marriage and Peace of mind.

Boldz:
Good evening all , I created this account because I desperately need advice from you guys.

My wife and I got married 6 years ago we both had children from a previous relationship , my daughter is 10 years old and my step daughter is 17 years it’s not that my wife is older than me but she just had her daughter when she was still in school which the father denied the pregnancy. I was married before but I lost my wife wife during the childbirth of our second child both mother and son didn’t survived, loosing my wife and baby was very hard for me I suffered from depression and blood pressure which I am on medications till now , I didn’t want to remarry but my family had pressured me to remarry so I can bear more children.

I met my wife 2 years after the death of my wife I knew her because she was working in a restaurant just closer to my workplace I was a regular customer , she told me about her child and I have accepted like my own child even before we got married I use to pay her school fee and buying her clothes just like a father can do for his daughter. My wife and I courted for 2 years we got married both traditional and church wedding and we are blessed with four beautiful children 2 boys and 2 girls.

My wife loves my daughter a lot just the same way I do love her daughter I take care of her I am paying her school fees , I buy her clothes , I sub her phone every week and I give her pocket money but I
Noticed that she doesn’t like my daughter she keep beating her even in my presence I have noticed how she talks to my daughter as if she is not a part of the family and my wife doesn’t scold her in fact she will blame my daughter for making her daughter angry and when I caution her my wife thinks I am harsh on her . I don’t flog her anymore but I do punish her by taking her phone away the last time I took her phone and keep
it for a month because of the same problem of her beating and being rude to my daughter but my wife was not happy but I didn’t care because I can watch my daughter being abuse in her own father house so I cautioned my step daughter.

I have been away since April I couldn’t come home because of the lockdown so I only return back 2 weeks ago , only to find her right eye was swollen , I asked my daughter what had happened to her she kept mute so I asked my wife she said she hit her head while they were playing and she said she had taken her to the hospital
And there’s nothing to worry about. The next day I was home playing with my children and was asking them how they been while I was away and just normal chats with the kids and my 5 years old son told me everything was bad because their big sister had been treating my daughter bad to the extend of punching her on her face so this swollen on her face was due to her punching her but my wife lied to me

So I called my step daughter since she was at home asking her why did she pinched her sister for and she told me my daughter insulted her and she has reported to my wife and she told her to beat her but I knew she was lying about the part that my daughter insulted her because my daughter doesn’t even insult in fact all my children knows that is not good to insult themselves including elders , so I asked my daughter my daughter said she didn’t insult her but it was my step daughter who was insulting her including her dead mother so my daughter gave her a dirty looks which made my step daughter to start hitting her even taught step daughter was trying to deny everything but I become angry and I had my belt next to me which I flogged her and took away her phone and have decided not to give her back anymore.

When my wife returned she got angry why did I flogged her daughter that my daughter is becoming very stubborn that her daughter as her older sister has the right to beat her we had quarrelled exchanging harsh words I told my wife her bastard of daughter has no right to insult my dead wife at least my daughter knows her mother is on the graveyard and what about her a bastard who doesn’t know where her sperm donor stays but she thinks she have the right to abuse my daughter in her own father house and I told her she will not longer stay in my house that she has to leave by next month and my wife said if her daughter leaves the same apply to my daughter too they should both stay or if her daughter leaves and my daughter stay she will show her hell

I reported her to her parents which her parents had agreed for her daughter to go and stay with her which she left yesterday being Sunday and my wife has given me the option to send my daughter to my parents in the village or to my sister in
Port harcourt or she will leave with the children . Have told her she is free to leave alone without my children but she is still threatening to leave when I am away from home last night we didn’t sleep she fought me all night saying my daughter must leave I almost hit her but I thank God I didn’t do it because it’s not my nature . Today she has started again but I have been ignoring her and if she continue I will arrest her and send her out of my house. How do I deal with her please

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