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fairest: Op if I had met U̶̲̥̅̊ b4 now we would hv worked out smtin. I like U̶̲̥̅̊я kind of person.

i guess you are taken then

andromida: yeah looks like some rebranding is in order. Your A game things.

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Kindly explain

andromida: Nothing wrong with crying I do too. If you say you are not a sissy then I guess its just a matter of time before you find your right fit.

thanks..am just tired of searching and trying..just wanted to know what i was doing wrong,maybe i needed to rebrand myself

andromida: I think you are cool. You may need to ramp up your masculine side if you are too feminine the truth is we women lose attraction we want A MAN not a chic like us there is nothing wrong with being you, you will just be more attractive if you enhance your masculinity. We like you kind,compassionate,attentive to us but not tooooooo nice that you are following in the relationship not leading.

am not a sissy, am strong and assertive..and for the guys making a big deal about crying, i never said i cry with my ex, nah, i only said i cry sometimes when i watch movies that are quite touching, just to buttress my point..am just being honest here people..

valmunich: All these dudes wif female like attitudes Is just a no no! They always look stupid to me... Spits on thread!

dude, whats female like with being caring and romantic?

lertee: The only thing with such men is they seem too clingy in a way and that is the only reason a woman may not find them attractive. In other hands,some women appreciate such men because they won't have to do most house chores themselves at least there will be a help.

In all,you don't have to be overly feminine to attract a woman,women sometimes like a man that has a mixture of strictness and flexibility.
Women don't appreciate a softie neither do they find a jack attractive.

i am not clingy..everyone deserves some privacy every now and then..but i just dont know why a woman doesnt appreciate it when you treat her like a queen..

achinaboy: well, am not a lady,but i fall in same category as u, but crying together when watching movies, na that one u go comot for me ,u are not a wuss,,but with my personal experience on dating field,women are not that into guys like u,they will lie to u alot,and they will always want u to beg and run after them, but in other way round if u were a pot head,they will run after, i don't know why,,so on the marriage side,most women, i mean experienced women would like u as a husband.

..Yea, thats true..i dont know why its so..Ladies love men that toy with their emotions and lie to them, but if you are kind, and good, they take you forgranted..Thanks for your comment

This question has been going through my mind alot..Men who are kind and caring are said to be in touch with their feminine side.It does not mean you are gay or effeminite..I believe that describes me..I cook, clean, i used go to the market with my ex, come back home, help her in the kitchen..help her losen her braids, even make her braids for her, cry when watching a really touching movie..very romantic, and caring, am not overly aggressive or a macho etc..my female coworkers always tell me..wow, you will make a great Husband...I'm fairly well-rounded emotionally: empathetic, but stable,
and not aloof like some men..but the funniest thing is that i havent really been lucky with the ladies..and i just want to ask the ladies in the house...Do you find guys who are intouch with their feminine side attractive? Or does that make me a wuss..Am i doing something wrong? Do i need to change who i am? because i really want to find a lady who will appreciate these qualities and love me for who i am..Please drop your comments..thanks