₦airaland Forum

petitejolie:
are u kidding me? At 71 wants to return as governor? Ahhh na wa ooo

US President, Joe Biden is 79 years.

GenderMix:
Dear Esteemed Nairalanders of extreme wisdom, I have a 4+ year old daughter who is very curious and sleeps on the same bed with me and wife. Some days ago she almost caught me and wife having sex, so in the morning she asked my wife what I was doing to her…lol. Most times I hug and kiss my wife in front of her and do same to her (in her case, a peck and she reciprocates back). This is our normal lives. Sometimes, when I hug my wife before her, she gets jealous..lol

I think we made a mistake in not allowing her get used to her room from day one. We had tried to make her see reasons why she can’t continue to sleep on same bed with us but it’s all falling on deaf ears. At a point, we forced her to her room and when she woke up around 2am, all hell was let loose, I felt sympathy and told my wife to allow her into our room.


We can’t continue this way, so I need your advice (especially married couples with kids)

1. Did we make a mistake by letting her sleep on same bed with us considering she is just 4?

2. Is it too late to force her to her room?

3. How do we go about making sure she gets used to her room without disturbing us?

4. If she asks what we are doing at night, like the case where she almost caught us, what would be a good reply that would sound logical and educative for her own growth.

5. Is her jealousy normal?
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Thank you

I am in the same boat with you, my 6 years old can't sleep by himself, the 6months old has joined too. All 4 of us on the same bed. I want to make love to my wife, and also can't stand my son crying profusely, and be sad when we ask him to go to his room.

okofians:
I can hardly fanthom your write up....

I could not fanthom the write up too. I tell people, Akala was definitely not a Saint. Also, you don't have to like the way he lived his personal life, by the way, you live your the way you like too right? But, he made impact on the lives of thousands, if not millions indirectly. He positively imparted Oyo State regarding infrastructure, gave all areas within the state something to hold on to, imparted Ogbomoso like none before him, lifted many families out of poverty. Gave and supported people's aspiration. Neither him nor his government was perfect, but he was the best Oyo State governor I have seen in recent times. Let us be frank with ourselves. Ogbomoso will forever miss him!

Eval123:
Please I need advice.

I am a young guy age 28 currently in my final year hoping to graduate this year by God's grace. Am in a relationship in with a gal I love so much and the love keeps growing day by the day.

She is 30 years old and just graduated this year but she is talking of waiting for me so we can serve together. The thing now is that I wish to get married to her but am not ready now. But she says she can wait for me if only I won't disappoint her.

Now am confused, if she waits for me for 5 years she would be 35 by then and am not sure if it's right getting married to someone 2 years older than me and someone at the age of 35 or above.. to add to it, she doesn't look her age, even if someone sees us, they won't believe she is my senior..

Pls am really confused, have never dated someone who understands me like she do.. Note: she never knew my age, she thought we were age mate cause of my voters card she saw which doesn't carry my real age.

Hello bro, go with your heart.

Sorry Op, although am sure you have some shortcomings too which you did not mention in the write up. But, your wife has crossed some redlines which she should never have. My best advice is that you go ahead with DNA, be sure the kid is yours. If possible, get a mental evaluation of your wife, document happenings, secret audio and video evidences, go to court, divorce her, use the mental state to take custody of the child. Then, migrate to US without her. If you go with her, bro, you are FINISHED!

Joana222:
Good day fam.

Please help me with suggestions, I was having stomach discomfort, went for normal check up and I was told I tested positive to hepatitis C. (never heard of it before now) thought it was something I'd just take drugs but doctor said its a viral infection and explained to me after that I was shocked and felt very bad.

I went to 3 different labs again, 2 came out positive, I negative. Then I went back to my doctor, he said I should go for viral load test that it will cost about 30k for the test.

The doctor also said they have treatment but a month will cost me 170k and the treatment will last for 6months (that's over 1 million)

I can't afford that money and he also said that after treatment my test will always be positive but the viral load will be zero (meaning that I will be free of the virus but that the result will always be positive)

I have done some research and I noticed hepatitis c affects the liver, there are some people online that claim they have the drugs and that at the end of using their drug, I will never test positive to the virus again.

I am devastated and confused, depressed is an understatement. Please any experienced doctor or pharmacy or anyone that ever experienced such or know someone.

Please save my life....

Hepatitis C should only be managed by a sound health practitioner. Please, do not patronise all these online medicine men or practise self medication. Remember, hepatitis attacks the liver, so please do not stress or cause more harm by your actions. Stop alcohol intake and smoking if you currently indulged in them. Practise safe sex, and check your viral load. Hepatitis C has the normal strain and the fulminant strain. Reinfection usually makes it fulminant and that is very dangerous. Have lost 2 close friends to this disease and they both did self medication, indulge in alcohol and smoking. I still have people around me living healthily with it for decades. So, please go back to the hospital and follow through with treatment and counselling. You will be okay.

I am experiencing the same thing, used 13GB on my phone in a month. I was really surprised, so I decided to stop using the phone for data and use my WiFi instead. Thought my phone was infected, but to my surprise my 10GB on wifi disappeared in 6 days, I just browse for some minutes in the night after work. Called mtn, the officer was just saying gibberish. Very annoyed right now.

rosepetraa:
I understand your fears. Since you have till December, I'll suggest you make use of pre-arrival services. Google Canada pre-arrival services; there are so many that you can key into, do there courses and they help with job placements also. You may be fortunate to get a job before landing sef.

Will do that, thank you.

Hello everyone,

I honestly need some sort of advice, assistance or help. Presently, am in dilemma whether to relocate to Canada or not. Few months ago, I applied for FSW, I have a family of 3, we were so lucky, God intervened that it took just about 1 month for approval. Passports stamped, COPR received and all of a sudden am having cold feet.

My story, I currently have a better than average, but not fantastic job in Nigeria, own a decent house. Wife has a degree, 2009 and MSC, 2015, in Computer Science, still looking for job. Laying hands on a side business though. One day, after thinking it through, especially because of the kids, currently have one, we decided to 'port' to Canada.

Now, fear of the unknown is really hunting me, wife's spirit and soul already in Canada, but am afraid. Where are we going to start from? Which province or town are we going to settle in? How do we get Jobs? How are we going to survive? I also have a degree, Computer Eng, MBA with over 5 years work experience. I may be wrong but our certificates may mean nothing in Canada, would we then have to go back to school in CA?

We still have till December before the visa expires, I am really confused, almost in a state of forgetting about everything and keep struggling in Nigeria. To resign and start one odd job in Canada would be a nightmare for me. No doubt, I want a better future for my kids, and also I want my wife to be happy and fulfilled in life, but am seriously confused and almost getting depressed.

Sorry for the long post, apologies, please assist if you can.

Many thanks.

omambala:
I also got the same PPR mail, well, I observed that one can send to the nearest VAC in section 1 (preferred). so i sent to Ghana immigration office.
secondly, I noticed that It is a major requirement to send your package through aramex to dubai officeand to best of my knowledge, they are not in Abuja cos that is where i reside.

anyways just sent mine today and hoping for a positive outcome.

Hi, please how did you package it? Did you add the handling charges (bank draft)?
Kindly give me the full details of the things you packaged, how you filled the back of the envelops, courier service used and charges. Hoping to send mine to Ghana by tomorrow or Monday.

Thank you.

Hi, please I need 235/45 R18, 4 units, same brand, no snow tire or the one that has iron. Expecting your reply as soon as possible

I am just so shocked by some of the comments, all ladies want a rich, intelligent, charismatic, caring guy with a bright future or combination of most of those qualities. Now, my curiosity is why any lady would think her body or self alone should be worth that? What are you bringing to the table to justify having a guy with those qualities? If you want gold, be a gold.

Sup guy, am interested in the ride. Kindly let me know when it comes in, I hope it's not accident. Safe bro

Hi bro, do u av 04/05 325i

Yeah, am ready, it has to be Automatic, I am entering Cotonou on Tuesday, so if u can get like 4-5, just snap n send VIN, and your phone number.

Hi YK motors, I urgently need the price for an 03/04/05 bww 325i, it must be very very very very clean inside out. If you have one you can send me the pictures and VIN. I am buying as soon as I see a very gud one. Pls I don't want accidented or repaired. I want one that is like new. Thanks

Hi everyone, BMW guys I need your help. I am about purchasing a 2004/05 325i. Have never driven nor sit in one before. A friend suggested the ride as a very good one. Please I need someone to explain if this car is a good one in terms of maintenance, mpg, durability, ride comfort(Hate bumpy rides), acceleration( Learnt it's a 2.5v6) etc. I have always been an Honda person (04 EOD and Accord sport (Hate the excessively stiff suspension)). Kindly assist me, and please make suggestions. Thanks guys.

Trafford:
Thanks for the reply @eyop... He is actually buying the car but he is being discouraged that parts are very expensive to maintain as he is just started and also an average earner... not too low though and also it's his first car. Hence he needs advice, though he has made his mind up that if it's not Mercedes, He won't be buying any other car. So is it advisable to go for it as a low salary earner and also his first car. And yes it's German spec... Please I need your reply because we will be going to get it this week... All experts in the house @GAZZUZZ @SmartChoices @auhanson @eyop @cne010

I am also almost in the same shoes with@Trafford. Mistakenly drove a friend's 2005 c240 4matic and i was blown away. It was super quiet and comfy, we no dey feel potholes @ all, not too fast but adequate. Currently am thinking of buying a 2005 EOD (known Devil) or 2005 c230 kompressor, love how it looks or 2006 c280 (Unknown Angels). Some reviews say the 2005 c230 has a stiff suspension that makes driving over bumps and potholes very unpleasant, bumpy and jarring. I love the way my friend's car drives but there is nothing, i want to believe, i don't about the EOD problems (Used it some years back). Some say benz uses premium fuel which if in Naija you must always buy fuel treatment every-time you re-fuel. Some say electrical issues trail c-class. Some say the kompressor engine is bad. Please and please assist me by enlightening me more on c-class 2005 and 2006 models. By the way, I am buying it for my wife, so don't want a car that will make me trek if she takes mine. Also, want a car that i can occasionally steal away...Many thanks as you reply