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lari03: if you are advising him to take the medical route how should he go about it? cos the woman will definitely not take kindly,any insinuations that she is mentally unstable. the other issue is that it seems the op's wife has her mother as her best confidant which is not in the best interest of their marriage.

I think her mother is brain behind all this cos it got out of hand when she came.

I appreciate your comments. To answer some of your questions; I don't cheat on my wife and she knows it. She changed immediately after our marriage that was before she conceived and it got worst when her mother came but her mother has gone. Presently, she is not answering my calls neither do she call me after our argument about two weeks ago.

Thanks all for your contribution. I think she does not want opposition in anything she wants. Things must go her way all time which is practically impossible.

eagle,eye:
My dear, no woman really want a divorce. Like I said above, you need to stoop to conquer. Allow her have her way for sometime, then have a heart to heart talk with her. Once you point out the rolee reversal she is clamouring for, she will most likely come to her senses.
Makee it look likee she is the one voluntarily giving you authority over the marriage. Also try and find out, if there is no outsider feeding her with rubbish opinion about marriage.

Thanks for your concern and advice. Things got out of hand when her mother came for child birth visit. I think the nher mother have been influencing her but her mother has gone.

She threatened divorce not long ago. I think she is fed up with our marriage cos she is not having her way as she wants. There is always quarrel whenever things are not done her way cos she want to be in control.

Thanks for your concern and contributions.

My wife and I have been married for about two years now with a son, we reside in Calabar and I work at Eket. I spend some weeks at work due to the nature of my work. We dated for more than a yr before we married but knew and dated when we were in the university for few months. When we were dating, she was nice, respectful, understanding, caring and tolerating.

Things changed when we married, she became hot tempered, impatient, stonehearted, unforgiving, isolates my friends and rants angrily if things are not done her way. She complains whenever I present a gift to her either is too expensive or too cheap (fake). She cannot be pleased or satisfied; its either what I did is too much or not enough. She has issues with neighbours and the previous places we have resided.

She has issues with almost all her siblings, she don't trust anybody not even me, and she suspects anybody when negative incident occurs and thinks everybody around her is diabolic. She is very economical and complains when I spend money on my people but wants me to be spending money on her people and on her. She told me that she don't have feelings for me again which shows in her.

Things became worst when her mother came for child birth visit, she became more aggressive in everything, she nags a lot and would keep on talking for hours even if I decide to ignore her, in-short, the more I ignore her, the more she talks. During any argument between us when I’m at work, she cuts the phone on me and does not answer my calls nor call me for days or weeks until I come back home.

Previously we resolve our differences within a day but this had changed. She wants to do all the talking while I just sit and listen to her, when I speak, she would want to raise her voice on me and as I resist her, she would wear a stony face, snub me and start crying moments later, the snubbing will continue for days.

I need advice from this house on what to do, I can't continue like this. I don't know how my child is; I don't know what is going on in my house as I'm in Off Shore. My wife has changed into what I cannot explain, she want to have the final say in my house and control me but I've refused. What do I do cos, I must confess, it disturbing at work and I don't know the future of our marriage.