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I see the word 'investments' was misunderstood. The context it is been used it is definitely different from your perceptions. I couldn't find a more suitable word in my panerphalia of words however what I meant wasn't the normal 'golddigging money induced' term rather something like investing in a bride price or something of that sort, thanks.

Meestique: Before August 31st, ur topics would be competing with Abraham's seeds...

Cool pics..!

Thanks.

majamajic: I like April. ....

Aww thanks. I'm a shorts kinda person, really not into skirts and the rest and people often say I look good in shorts lol

MANGAM: Beautiful! Will u be my sweet August?

lol The end of august determines

Largas:
Incase you don't mind following back.

Sure, you're cool.

Largas: you know where you belong.

I don't wanna go about openly classifying people as though it was my job.

Good

Largas: Nope. God created woman(Eve).
Society used some women as slaves. Other women rose against this and turned feminists and activists.

I think I know where you belong

Well our differing premises arrived at the same denouement so yeah you are right too, and where do I belong?

Largas: Olivia111, tell me your mission on NL.
Are you some activist?
What campaign are you pushing for?

I am thinking Feminism, on the other hand, Anti-Racism, Equal-Race?

God created 3 Women - Eve, Feminists and Slaves.....go figure

farano: Wow! like d last pic by the right

Thanks farano.

Eyop: Cool but you look different compared to the pic on your DP

Yeah Largas is correct. Probably the angle.
Thanks for viewing.
I love this site, so interactive.

Lol I'm just bored

There are certain things one needs in life in order
to grow up emotionally healthy. Because our
culture has this deep seated hatred for Black men
and, at the same time, an irrational worship of
Black masculinity, we, meaning Black society,
raise our little boys in ways that dishonor their
proper maturation process. We set the stage for
them to be horrible fathers and husbands in
childhood with practices and patterns that are
nothing more than diseased remnants of slave
teachings. Then, we give them power, autonomy,
and tell them that whatever they think, do, say,
and believe is law because they have a penis.
Because, however, these practices are accepted
as standard, and touted as healthy, we, in
essence, manufacture emotionally disabled Black
men.

Pretty Hausa Girl,
Manhood is having integrity, fulfilling your
responsibilities, being honest when you realize
that it’s not the easy way out, and being able to
release patriarchal roles and treat people like
human beings and equals, not as objects to
manipulate. The idea of treating women as
equals is a scary thing for a lot of black men
because they feel like they will lose power, that
they will be weak if they don’t rule over women.
We’ve been raised to think that manhood is tied
to oppressing women. You can’t form a healthy
relationship if one partner thinks that they have
to rule over the other for genetic/religious
reasons. Women were not created to be the
hand-servants to men, no matter how many male-
authored religious texts want to insist that is the
case. Inequality of the sexes is a belief
perpetuated for thousands of years for no other
reason than to appease the egos of men. It’s time
we think rationally for a minute and ask ourselves
why the Creator of All, The One Most High, is as
petty and immature as human beings assert.
Why would God be so insecure that the
oppression of over half of the earth’s population is
needed in order for men to feel good about
themselves? Right is not better than left, north is
not better than south, hot is not better than cold,
and man is not better than woman. They are
compliments, not rankings.

icedee1: I don't believe this is coming from a lady,I thought no one notice this trend among black ladies

We do notice. And we thrive to bring our reservations to the fore. Feminists I mean by 'we'

akatekpe: swear to sango or amadioha that u av eva asked a guy for sex

Whatever that is, I have not . I am no slut and sex isn't a priority for my physical/metaphysical existence.

Our sexual identity is largely shaped by what we
learned in slavery. Christianity and the entire
concept that a woman was created for a man
HEAVILY dictates the perceptions of what an african
relationship is supposed to be about. African
women still hold on to very strict, very limiting,
indeed very detrimental beliefs about what it
means to be a “real” African man and their
expectations thereof.
All too often, Black women want to use their supposed “gay dar” to identify any man who isn’t hyper-masculine. They make
up the most absurd, most childish things, things
that have nothing whatsoever to do with a
person’s sexual preference, to call out men who
aren’t “real men”. Black women hold men to this
ideal and have no tolerance for any deviation of
the sort, quick to emasculate them if they show a
tiny sign of vulnerability. They end up in
relationships with men who are emotionally
immature, men who are “hard”, who are not really
men but boys in the bodies of adult males and
then they cry and moan that there are no real
men and lament about the frustrations of a
relationship with someone totally incapable of
being committed and partnered.
They are the same women who are MOST apt to want the traits
in men who are the most detrimental to a healthy
relationship. They want a man who is hyper
masculine, who will pay all the bills and provide
unlimited access to funds with no strings
attached, who will blow their back out in bed, etc.

Men who identify their manhood by rap songs,
movies, and video games are immature. Men who
are obsessed with money will not share it freely,
and men who are addicted to sex will cheat on
you faster than you can blink an eye.

goalburner: just dat guy's are bold enough to express their sex life, buh ladies aren't.

It is extremely chauvinistic of you to state that women are cowardly

Why is Men's idea of social comforting sex?

Why does his social media preference have to bother you? I sense insecurity. Do not date a Man you feel insecure about. You could live a healthy live alone with no Male attachés.

Love entails defence and protection which you failed to provide.

[size=16pt]sure is a welcome development[/size]

If you’ve ever wondered why it seems that
men are okay with no-strings-attached sex
while women tend to suffer with this
arrangement then we're are most definitely thinking on the same line.

I keep wondering why most women allow themselves to be easily waned by sweet talking males and let them pop their cherry so easily knowing fully well they'll be at the receiving end of mockery and moral bashings.

My advice is not to tell men that they shouldn’t sleep with women; it’s to tell women that you must
have men make a greater investment in you as individuals before having sex.

Mr. It is her decision and you have to respect it or move to someone who shares your views.

Late bloomer I started 3 years ago - 15

Largas: Olivia, be the change you desire.

Make a difference for the black woman.
Perhaps you can start by becoming a black woman of substance on a US Tv Show, so other black women would emulate you.

I think Michelle Obama should be role model for black women across the world, and not some Tv showstars.

Thanks Mr. Largas, I am currently a fashionista and my works are all towards the depiction of a responsible, less mundane, independent black woman. Already headlined too Teen Black Culture shows in Miami, I shall thrive to make a mark.

If there was some sort of balance in the depiction
of Black women on TV I wouldn’t take so much
issue with the CRAP that is on TV. There is NO
balance. There are NO examples of Black women
on TV who are not immoral, immature, superficial,
ghetto, materialistic, and stank. I think the thing
that hurts me soooo much is that Black women
not only don’t care that there are no positive
depictions of Black women on TV or in the media,
but they want to emulate these “women” as if
they are the ideal. They want to be like Mary Jane
and all those Basketball wives and Housewives
who do nothing domestic whatsoever. All Black
women care about is the wardrobe and the shoes
and the makeup and the things that are shallow
and meaningless, the life of wealth riches that is
depicted on TV, to hell with the fact that all the
women on TV are cheating, immoral whores.
Black women want immature Black men as long
as they are rich and attractive.

There isn’t one show on TV that shows Black
women of integrity. There isn’t one show on TV
that shows Black women who are not blinded by
money and things and being beautiful. It’s all
good to be beautiful, I am not hating on attractive
Black women, but none of the Black women on
TV, on reality or scripted dramas, has an inkling of
what it means to be a woman of substance, who
knows how to cultivate and nurture a relationship
beyond looking good. Even the Doctors of Atlanta
or whatever the hell that horrid show is depicts
Black women as little more than materialistic and
shallow gold diggers. It is EXACTLY like Black
women are slaves on the plantation, trying to
emulate the slave master, like they are aspiring
to have the wealth and status white people have
but ignoring every single solitary meaningful
characteristic or trait that makes a Black woman
truly empowered. There is an entire generation of
Black women who think that life is about wearing
the most expensive dresses and shoes and
shopping and backstabbing. It doesn’t matter if
they can’t form a sentence properly, if they are
pathological liars, if they bring nothing to the
table other than a rich husband. It’s all good as
long as they have a face full of MAC and red
bottom shoes. We are a nation doomed