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Mzezkay:
So dis post brought me out of ma peeping mode.i just want u to know u re not alone.Ma baby will be 6months old in a week nd we re still on dis breastfeeding issue.He started sucking with d nipple shield wen he was almost 5mnth old but guess wat,he has started refusing it again.All wat u re going thru is wat i av gone thru and trust me i still get worried once in a while.Try not 2 get all so worked up abt it(easier said dan done but try.) cos dere is more 2 being a moda dan breastfeeding a baby .Ur baby loves u regardless of weda u breastfeed or not(u might not be convinced naw but u will find out soon enough).Try putting him 2 suck wen he is sleepy or early in d morning after bathing him.Av more skin to skin contact with him.He will suck it might not just happen always but kip being hopeful,dnt be discouraged ...dnt try too hard wen he doesn't cooperate(i made dat mistake at first and it only made matters worse)take a brk nd try again.He will suck.

thanks mama I feel encouraged

bookholla:
Please u don't need to feel so sad that u can't feed ur baby just yet...he will eventually Co e around. First,check if he is tongue tied cos dt could make him not to latch well,if dt is ruled out just continue to put him to d breast and drink a lot of hot pap,tea and water so as to increase lactation. ..while at dt express and still give him formula till he begins to suck well.
Once again,don't feel bad, uv not failed him...my son also ddnt suck until he became a month old. During dt period I expressed d little I could and gave him forumla to augment. Right now we are strictly ebf.

thanks mama

spiceeamiee:
Mama please calm down. You have not failed. You are a first time mother and believe it or not, these things take time to get used to. Check your nipples, if they are inverted or pointing inwards, get a 10ml syringe, cut out the pointed part and place it on your nips then draw the tip (the way it's done by nurses when they want to fill a syringe injectible drugs). You will see your nipple getting drawn out. Stop when it starts becoming painful and immediately put your baby to the breast that the nip has been drawn out. Repeat several times in a day. By the end of the 3rd day , your nips would be permanently erect. If you are not lactating well, try pap, palm wine, oats, carrots. However, I would say supplement with formular until your Breast milk is fully established and you can pump at least 150mls from each breast then you can now decide to EBF if you want.

thanks mama

helovesme:
I personally think you have a big issue on your hands to resolve.

It seems her family were looking for where she can stay and be looked after and stylishly used the excuse of “helping you out as a new mum” to bring her in.

Does she have a personal carer/maid looking after her or is that responsibility all on you ?

I will suggest you try as possible not to leave her alone with your baby and you must be very vigilant.

That said, you need to really relax, be happy and try to put all stress and worries behind you as this will help your milk flow. If you are stressed, tensed and unhappy,your baby can feel the negative vibes.

Some women (like myself) do not have much luck with expressing milk but with baby sucking the breast directly, milk flows very well.

I will suggest you feed your baby with formula and after she’s fed, put her on your breast and have her suck. It’s best done when you are sitting upright with pillows at your back and under your arms for support. Do this after every single feed as it will help her to master the art of sucking and she will also be used to the texture of your tips.

Take a lot of hot drinks/meals (tea, oats,semo) and massage your breast with fairly hot water.

Make sure you have her bottles, preboiled water,formula, etc ready and look out for signs that she’s ready for another meal. That way, she won’t be left hungry and wailing for the next bottle of milk.

You can try making a note of the quantity of milk she’s had as well as the time as this will give you a good idea of her feeding pattern and you can estimate roughly when she’s due for her next bottle of milk.

It took me almost a month to get my son to breast feed properly and also establish my milk flow. I went on to breastfeed him for over a year and I literally had to force him to give up breastfeeding.

So do not worry. This is a phase that will pass.

thanks for your contribution mama I appreciate

LadySarah:
Hi sweetheart,you are the best mom to him so dont allow any situation to make you feel less.my 2nd son took over 2 weeks to adapt...it was strenous including the backpains that came with it...we even used torchlight during the day to get the exact O of the mouth(lol),i also used two pillows to lift him almost to my face untill we got it right.
pls check if he doesnt have earache by pressing both sides of his ears to see if he,ll flinch.
Aged mum in law staying does not concern you,do the ones you can do and get your rest.If leaving your baby to attend to something will make your heart not to be at rest then back him(I started at 2wks).in.all milk isnt bad while trying
my ppl will say jisike!

thanks mama

hunniesuzie:
We need a voicenote option here oh. Cue tough love
Sis, you need to pull yourself together. While breastmilk is best, formula fed babies are healthy as well
1. Stop crying
2. Make formula for your baby let him eat
3. Once both of you are calm, go to a private space, where no one will stress/distract you and try to feed your baby, put the nipple plus the black part (areola) in his mouth. Watch YouTube videos for a guide on proper latching. Don't try when he's too hungry so you both don't get worked up
4. To help yourself lactate better drink hot water (Jazzyjazz's remedy), hot pap also helps. You also need to eat well AND STOP CRYING. Your mental and physical wellbeing is important
5. You have nothing to be ashamed of, stop thinking that rubbish please

I have no comment wrt your MIL, sabi mamas who are patient and have more home training than me will advice

thanks mama

helovesme:
Olorimorenike

Dry your tears.
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How long is grand ma (mother in law) staying?

How close are you to her? Do you two gist, watch TV together?

Did you tell your husband about what she did? What was his reaction/response?

I don't have an idea how long she's staying

we are not close because she is in another realm already

My mum told me not to cos she has been causing Ish between DH and i

JGracious:
Please stop telling yourself that you have failed as a Mother. This is just the beginning of journey in motherhood and there's still plenty work ahead of you.

The paramount thing about taking care of a newborn baby is for the child to be healthy, happy and active.

Yes, it is true that mothers are encouraged to EBF but don't get it twisted when it isn't working for you. Thank God for the alternative of formula milk which works well in providing nourishment to babies. Maximise its use and be comfortable with it if that's what is working for you and your baby.

Again, you are not a failure. You are the best mother your child can have. Be in the right frame of mind to be able to give your child the needed support.

Oya, shine your teeth

thanks mama I did shine my teeth

zaynie:
@olorimorenike, stop beating yourself up please.
For me, I won't actually sweat over grandma putting breast in my baby's mouth, you have bigger fish to fry mbok.

To breastfeed a baby that isn't latching properly, you aand baby need to be calm, try it when he is hungry but not too hungry. Hungry enough to want to feed, not so hungry that he will be agitated.
Secondly, you need to be in the right frame of mind, fed and rested. And tell yourself it is not a do or die affair.
I have dug some pictures up for you, try to see if you can follow the steps.


Now I have 2 kids, the first was exclusively breastfed the second wasn't.
For the first, he visited the hospital at least 4 times in a year till he was 3. For all kinds of illness (malaria, boil, fever, infection, ear ache, chickenpox). His sister is 2 and the only time we went to the hospital was when her brother dashed her chickenpox.
Both were skinny, they don't start adding up till they're on the way to 3.
My first is smart, very but his sister shows promise of beating him by a long mile.

So don't beat yourself up over formular feeding abeg.
One more thing, don't take too long in making his food. He was probably crying inconsolably when mama chook the breast to silence him.
Always have a prepared bottle in a warmer a few minutes to when he is due for a new meal.




Good luck

thanks mama I appreciate your contribution,God bless

Giddyperson:
Eyah calm down please. I can imagine the aged breast in your baby's mouth, even I am traumatized by the picture. Please embrace your SMA gold. My baby took Nan1 for three weeks before she and I finally fully settled into EBF . As long as she's accepting formula please make it for her whenever she's hungry and keep your hot water ready in a flask so it doesn't take much time to make. Put him to the breast when he is not so hungry and gradually he would get the hang of it. If that doesn't happen then let him drink formula, more babies would come to suck breast

thanks mama

Fyngal1:
calm down mama. take a deep breath. you have not failed your son. you are not just a good mother, you are a wonderful mother. there's nothing to be ashamed of.

when i had my lo, i almost fell into depression cos he couldn't latch properly and i had to give formula. just like you, i felt ashamed cos i had
vowed to exclusively brestfeed; i was worried sick untill my mom scolded me seriously that stuff like that happens and some babies take time to master the sucking reflex. i remember the day i almost fainted from worrying too much about it. my husband was crying,begging me to take it easy and my mum threatened to leave my house if i continued like that. you should see my son now; he's a pro at sucking. infact, he knows how to bring out the brest by himself

continue giving your son formula while teaching him to latch properly. don't listen to any old wives' tale. google is your friend and the mamas on this forum can also help out.

as for your aged MIL puting your lo to her brest, well, let me leave other sabi mamas to chook mouth for that one because e pass me.

thanks mama

mamas please help me I'm loosing it, my baby is yet to latch on my breast at first I thought my nipple was too big for his mouth but when he was born but he is two weeks today and yet anytime I put him to suck from my breast he will start crying. A day to his naming ceremony I was forced to get him SMA gold when I found out the breast milk I'm expressing for him is not enough for him,please mama as i type right now I'm in tears I feel I have failed as a mother,what brought me here last night my baby was crying and i went to make his food before I got back my aged mother in law of like 80 years of age put her breast in my baby mouth,i lost it, I went mad,i started crying, i failed, please what can I do, please help me, some people are saying I should go to herbal,i have done that yet have not seen difference, my mum told me not to tell my husband,I'm confuse,I'm sad,I'm failed my son, please help me I'm using a different account to say this cos I'm so ashamed of myself, why is my baby not sucking, why me,I'm don't know what to do,please help me, this woman is someone that can't even help herself we help her with everything even to use the loo, at first I was like why did they bring her to a nursing mother home,i can't explain,I'm sad please just advice me,im so down since midnight

Rizmo:
I am so grateful to God for taking me off the labour market even before I step into it.
I started applying for jobs early last month. Got an invite for the last application. It was a very tough interview sessions. Got interviewed by 3 different department inclusive of the MD. The MD curiosity was based on how I got his private email.
Long story short, I was asked to give them my date of resumption. I will have my POP as a worker. All glory to *God*. I want to use this medium to thank the nairaland crew, xfire (learnt so much from his thread "getting the dream job" Debbie for her posts, www..com (their cv formats and tutoring work), the internet (third time I am getting a placement via the internet), Seun (the nairaland brain), lalasclala and all nairalanders.
#happymood#

congratulations op please can you send me a copy of your cv thanks in advance
effisydamsel@yahoo.com