Many thanks to you all. I'm grateful for all the contributions.

Micki83, thanks for giving me ideas. My mind is made up to let her know the truth & my confidence level has increased. I'll keep y'all posted on the outcome.

Thanks again!

Many thanks to you all. I'm grateful for all the contributions.

Micki83, thanks for giving me ideas. My mind is made up to let her know the truth & my confidence level has increased. I'll keep y'all posted on the outcome.

Thanks again!

Hello Nairalanders,

I intend to keep this as short as possible. I tested positive to HIV some eight months back. To say the least, it was devastating! I cried openly for the first time in a very long while. But thanks to my family, esp my parents whom I had thought would bring down the sky. They were very supportive and have been with me every step of the way since then. After series of counselling, I got over the initial rude shock and I live a normal life. My CD4 count is good, so no ARVs yet.

Now my main problem is telling me fiancée about my health status. We had been hoping to get married by the end of 2013 & I was to meet her parents early next year. I think its best to tell her before meeting her parents so she could also submit herself for testing since we've had unprotected sex before my discovery.

Since I discovered my status I've not had sex with her. I admit I've been careless with 1 or 2 girls in d past & suspect she might be carrying the virus (I seriously hope she isn't) because we rarely use protection.

Sometimes I forget that am living with a deadly virus, but her reaction on knowing that I'm positive scares me more than the virus itself!

Please advise, what's the best way to disclose my status to her?