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A real man surprise her queen in public. Hail her, pamper her, kiss and hug her.
A real man pray and support her partner, and not to bring her down just because she is more successful than you are.
A real man defend her wife not insult her in public.
A real man must be the one every woman is praying for not cursing him.
A real man will never show any woman his unclothedness on any social media.

A real man shows the world her beautiful queen not beating or cheating on her.
A real man take care of his home and family .
Try to be real and stop domestic violence.

Read full post here :-https://www.selfbrandpal.com/2018/10/who-is-real-man.html?m=1

Do you want to be that pretty woman that makes any man's knees tremble? Check these 12 ways to flirt with a man and melt his heart instantly.

Do you want to look cute and make any man melt?
Well, here are 12 tips that you must take into account to achieve this, but before continuing, you must first know that this tactics does not work for all women since it depends on your personality.

That's why looking cute works better for shy women. If you are not a shy woman, you can try to be a tender, sweet and demure woman.
If you want to look cute and make a man melt, use these 12 tips and adapt them to your personality. They will work wonders in a short time, and you will become a kinder and lovelier person as soon as you put them into practice.

1. Do not try to look sexy
Do not behave in a sexy way if you want to look cute. The beautiful ones are fragile and nervous. The sexy requires confidence. Those two do not mix very well.

2. The pastry shades
Avoid daring colors in your wardrobe, unless they are colors that blend well with other, more subtle colors. Pastry colors are softer to the eye and will make you look delicate and tender.

3. Play with your hair when you talk to him
Run your fingers between your curls or caress your hair, especially when you are thinking or deciding something. You can also place a lock of your hair behind your ear when you feel uncomfortable.

4. Delicate makeup
Wearing a lot of makeup makes you look sexy and glamorous, but you're not trying to be a seductress, so avoid heavy makeup. Use subtle colors and clear shadows that accentuate your innocence.

5. Speak in a soft voice
Do not speak out loud when you talk to the man you like. Instead, speak in a soft, low tone, and smile each time you say something.

6. Be fun
Always see the positive side of life. Be happy and you will have a happy and positive face that will attract people's attention.

7. Smile pretty
A woman who smiles always seems to be warmer and more accessible than cocky women.
Smile a lot and you will look pretty. You can also frown your nose or make some other sweet gesture(look yourself in the mirror and perfect your smile).

8. Learn to blush
Instead of hitting a man on the arm, or shrugging shoulders, smile shyly when you receive a compliment instead of ignoring it.

Read full post here:-https://www.selfbrandpal.com/2018/10/12-ways-to-look-cute-and-melt-heart-of.html?m=1

Female logic is extremely hard to understand. No wonder it's so difficult to imagine what makes the perfect man who can win a woman's heart.

Selfbrandpal made a list of male qualities that will make every woman lose her mind. If you have at least half of these traits, you are guaranteed to have successful relationships with women.

1. Caring and paying attention to them.

2. Have good manners.

3. Be intelligent
This is not about your education but your ability to think and make rational and smart decisions.

4. Understand other people.

5. Being romantic.

6. Be a dependable person.

Read 7 and 8 here:-https://www.selfbrandpal.com/2018/09/8-qualities-of-real-men-that-make-women.html?m=1

Everyone has either been in a relationship or would someday be in a relationship. Relationships can be difficult.

Some relationships can cause financial difficulties, physical trauma, emotional stress and other negative things while a good and healthy relationship can enhance your life in great ways.

Nobody is perfect, even most relationships fail no matter how hard we try to make them work because the relationship lacks the most important qualities that makes a relationship work.

The important qualities are

1. Good communication.
We receive the thoughts, opinions and feelings of another person through communication. Communication is very important in a relationship because communication determines how two people will connect.

It is instrumental in keeping the relationship alive and its the first thing to go wrong when the relationship between two people start failing.

2. Respect.
Men often take women for granted. Once we have gotten our price and the chase is over, it can be easy to forget about our partner's needs and feelings, and we no longer value and respect them like we once did.

In a relationship, it is important to value your partner's feelings and opinion otherwise, your relationship will not thrive.
Respect your partner with your words and actions.

3. Honesty and openness.
There will be no healthy and long-lasting relationship if you can't be honest and open to your partner.

Lies and deceit only breed mistrust. Honesty strengthens relationships.

When you are open and honest, your partner will really trust you but when honesty is broken, trust is broken.

Read number 4 and 5 here:-https://www.selfbrandpal.com/2018/09/5-qualities-that-make-relationship-last.html?m=1

If you are in search of better ways to show your man some love, then you are at the right place. Who says men cannot be seduced by romantic words?

Words are powerful and they have their own share of influence on men just the same way the looks of a woman has it's way with them.

Here are 20 romantic messages to text to your boyfriend to make him love you more.

1. I keep wondering why i'm smiling and then i remember it's because of you.

2. Hoping you're having a good day at work.

3. My heartbeats are very fast when you come closer to me.

4. Every day, i fall more and more in love with you.

5. I meet you every night with my colorful dreams.

6. I miss your cute smile.

7. I feel very lucky to have you as my boyfriend.

8. I'm going to rub your back when you get home from work today.

9. Thank you so much for coming in my life.

10. I love the way you kiss and hug me.

11. I want to spend my whole life in your arms.

12. I can't explain how much happy i am.

13. I dream of you every night.

14. Come to me and hold me.

15. If i can't be with you, i don't want to be with anyone else.

16. I can do anything to make you smile.

17. Value of a relationship is not how much you feel happy with someone, but it is how much one feels lonely without you.

18. Perhaps i have done something very good to someone, that is why God bless me with your love.

19. I want to thank God for sending you into my life.

20. Seeing a sweet smile on your face makes me forget about all my worries.

Read more:- https://www.selfbrandpal.com/2018/09/20-romantic-things-to-text-to-your.html?m=1

Before letting yourself go by the physical attributes of a man, think about all the advantages of going out with a "Not so handsome". To begin, the concept of 'beauty' is different for each person, but if you consider that the boy of your interest is 'unattractive physically', you should consider the following .

1. They are more sincere
Remember that physically attractive men have several women at their disposal, therefore, do not pay much attention to the conquest, because they conquer by themselves, instead those who are less graceful strive to conquer, have more charisma, are truly sincere and they worry about falling in love for real, he will hardly betray you.

2. They are not arrogant.
Think about it, do you know any super handsome man that is not presumptuous? the truth is few since any boy who sees that he has many women at his feet usually acts arrogantly, and with a guy considered 'not handsome', you will not have that problem.

3. They are more Charismatic
Feeling that beauty is not their main quality, men who do not possess great physical beauty possess other types of qualities that actually matter more than the first. They are more cheerful, friendly, gentlemen, they know how to get a smile, they care about you and make you feel comfortable with their company, in a few words, you will feel a real a real queen by their side.

4. They have more durable relationships
This type of men takes great care of their relationships, therefore they last longer. Imagine how much he will take care of the relationship because of the fear of thinking that he will not get another girlfriend.

The most likely thing is that he will fill you with compliments and pamper you.

5. Has attitude
In some cases, the less attractive boys are not considered as such, which makes them have high self-esteem and self-confidence, which results in them being successful when trying to 'conquer' a girl.

Read number 6 and 7 here:- https://www.selfbrandpal.com/2018/09/7-reasons-to-go-out-with-ugly-guy.html?m=1

She wants to feel free when she's with you.

She want to feel protected and safe.

She want to feel loved.

She wants to feel that she actually matters.

She wants to have an arm that when she's in it, she fears nothing.

She wants to have a shoulder that will be always there for her when she wants to cry.

She LOVES you and all she wants is you, all of you, No sharing, No cheating, No lies....

she did not asked for much!!!

Ladies am i right

Read more :-https://www.selfbrandpal.com/2018/09/what-do-women-want.html?m=1

1. Mature couples don’t “fall in love,” they step into it.

2. Immature relationships ask questions; mature relationships answer them.

3. Immature relationships leave you wanting something; mature relationships give you what you need.

4. Immature relationships lose their drive; mature relationships make you more motivated.

5. Immature relationships fight over text messages ; mature relationships are always face-to-face.

6. Immature relationships are threatened by everyone else; mature relationships enjoy meeting other people.

Read nos 7 and 8 here:-https://www.selfbrandpal.com/2018/09/difference-between-mature-and-immature.html?m=1

When two people are committed by marriage, complacency may be their undoing if they aren’t paying attention. The importance of romance in any marriage cannot be overstated; yet few are fortunate enough to avoid this phenomenon, since it is by human nature that romance waxes and wanes, often decreasing with time.

At one point or another, many spouses will question whether they can revive their love life, they may feel that their relationship is lacking in romance , passion, or intimacy . Although these are separate aspects, the three items are interdependent, mandatory conditions that must be consistently nurtured for marriage to work well.

Marriage as a house
Think of your marriage as a house, comprised of a foundation, walls, and rooftop. Without connecting each of these structures, the house will be incomplete and unstable. Your relationship’s passion is the foundation of that house. Now consider that the walls, holding together the foundation and roof, represent romance. The roof signifies intimacy; which involves affection, sexuality, and togetherness.

When the roof caves in
With just some passion and romance, but no intimacy , the house is not complete. Something is missing, even if you’ve been too busy to notice. Let’s say that the roof is leaking and the ceiling has been rotting away for some time. That’s what could happen to your intimacy, if it hasn’t already. Negligence is the only way a roof rots out. Likewise, if we remove one wall (romance), the roof will cave in on top of the foundation. Passion would then be corroded, as a result; obscured beneath the rubble so that we do not see the problem until we are tripping over it.

The metaphor may seem cliché, but it is not without merit. The fact is, successful relationships depend on romance, intimacy and passion – and that is why they are so important in a marriage.

Keep it real
Maintenance is the best medicine; keeping your house in good stable condition through a few regular activities will maintain your marriage, whereas negligence can lead to eventual disaster. Checking in periodically, identifying issues as they arise, and solving structural problems before they get out of hand, are the ways to maintain the stability of the “house” that is your relationship. Likewise, the importance of communication cannot be overstated when it comes to maintenance.

Rekindle the fire
Make sure to give romance the attention it deserves! Devoting time and attention to your spouse can rekindle the importance of romance in your marriage. Here are a few tips:

1. Kiss passionately – Kissing is great fun and a must. Indulge in deep kisses, but even touching and giving a peck to each other in the mornings and evenings, can help build a lot of intimacy between a couple .

2. Schedule time for sex – Romance in marriage requires commitment and priority. Scheduling time for sex is another great way to keep the spark alive . Of course, going on weekly dates or monthly getaways is also a special way to spend time with each other.

3. Fulfill your spouse’s romantic needs – Trying to meet your partner’s romantic needs requires understanding of their perspectives. Men mostly focus on physical intimacy and women like to romantic in different ways. Try to do things that please your spouse, and they are likely to do the same for you!

Here are some more romantic ideas that can be incorporated in your daily life easily:

1. Everyday, make it a habit to tell your spouse that you look forward to seeing them at the end of the day before they leave for work.

2. Write out and leave love notes (or anything sexy) in places for your spouse to find (like in their pockets, wallets, purse, etc)

3. Husband’s: Offer to shave her legs. Wives: Offer to shave his face.

4. Send them a hot text during the day . Use technology to your advantage.

5. When shopping, buy a couple of “surprise gifts” for your spouse. The next time he or she is feeling down, give them one of these gifts to uplift their mood. A thoughtful gesture, this will be appreciated very much for sure!

6. If your partner is having a rough day, take them out or make a special dinner for them. Everyone loves it when their partner makes them a meal.

7. Dance in the living room at least once in a week.

8. Read the sports magazine for him while wearing sexy lingerie.

Trying to meet your partner’s romantic needs requires understanding of their perspectives. Men mostly focus on physical intimacy and women like to romantic in different ways. Try to do things that please your spouse, and they are likely to do the same for you!

If you find that your marriage seems mundane or boring, or that it lacks the passion or romance it once had, have faith that it can be rebuilt. It will take work though – you must be willing to put forth the effort if you want to see results. Work on the importance of romance in your marriage and it may bring out the best.

Read more :-https://www.selfbrandpal.com/2018/09/the-importance-of-romance-in-marriage.html?m=1

No man ever wants a 'crazy' wife! It is only guys who want a 'crazy' girlfriend, so don't be deceived. A guy who wants you to party hard every weekend, expose your bosom, wear skimpy clothes, flashy makeups and getting down with 11 bottles of beer while he is on 15, he will NEVER marry you! A guy who talks dirty and wants sex
everywhere with you when he is not yet married to you will see you as a bed machine when the time for marriage eventually comes.

Have you ever wondered why some of these guys go for the 'timid' and 'local' looking girls when it comes to marriage but dump the sexy, sassy and gorgeous looking ones? A man wants more than beauty for marriage!Those boobs you are flaunting everywhere will eventually sag someday so invest on yourself! A man really wants a place he can call home, he wants a woman who is modest and can take care of his children and parents, one with whom the children can confide in, the one he can take major decisions with and tell all his fears. He wants a wife, mother and sister all in one.

I'm not saying that looking good is bad. In fact looking good is good business, but you have got to look beyond that and pay more attention to spiritual things that keep a home. If you truly want to attract a decent man, please be decent and do not let any man use you to pass time! At the same time don't settle for a guy who is not God fearing.

Don't even dream of being engaged to him if he's not closer to God.

Read more :- https://www.selfbrandpal.com/2018/09/looking-good-is-good-business-but.html?m=1

Nigeria is a country in West Africa having boundaries with Niger and the Chad Republic in the north, Cameroon on the eastern part, the Benin Republic on the western border and the Atlantic ocean at the southern end.

Nigeria, an African country on the Gulf of Guinea, has many natural landmarks and wildlife reserves. Protected areas such as Cross River National Park and Yankari National Park have waterfalls, dense rainforest, savanna and rare primate habitats. One of the most recognizable sites is Zuma Rock, a 725m-tall monolith outside the capital of Abuja that’s pictured on the national currency.

The official name of the country is the Federal Republic of Nigeria. The country has a population of 188,462,640 people, making it the 7th most populous country in the world.A land of diversity and opportunity, Nigeria is known as the home of hospitality and is considered to be the conference hub and cultural nerve-center of Africa. But did you know that Nigeria is also:-

Read more :- https://www.selfbrandpal.com/2018/09/10-amazing-facts-about-nigeria.html?m=1

1. Don’t Break Her Heart

2. Don’t Pretend You Love Her

3. Don’t Tell Her She Is Ugly

4. Don’t Compare Her To Your Ex

5. Don’t Take Her Love For Granted

6. Don’t Shout On Her

7. Don’t Beat Her

8. Never Cheat On Her

9. Don’t Disrespect Her

10. Don’t Waste Her Time If You Will Not Marry Her

Read morehttps://www.selfbrandpal.com/2018/09/23-things-man-must-never-do-to-lady.html?m=1]

There may come a point in one's relationship where you hit a bump in the road. To maintain a strong chemistry with one another, there are 6 tips on how to have a strong relationship.

1. Physical contact
Intimacy plays an important role in a relationship. Putting your guard down and becoming more vulnerable with each other by either holding hands, hugging or cuddling shows the other person that you have a great interest with them.

2. Open communication
Communication is key in a relationship. You want to be comfortable with your partner and be able to share your thoughts on any type of subject. Becoming a friend with the person you are interested before dating them can be a bonus because you know that they can be your best friend and you can be comfortable around them.

3. Humor
It's important to laugh together especially when times are tough and you are able to break the tension somehow. When you both laugh together, it creates a bond between one another and you are able to accept each other for who you are.

4. Emotional bonding
Having an emotional bond between one another is a good way to build a connection and be able to trust and care for each other. When you ask your partner how their day is or if they are feeling okay that day, it let's the other person know that you care which brings you closer together.

5. Making up after arguments
It's important to make amends after an argument no matter how small or big. Talking to your partner about the fight and how you two can resolve it is a great communication form and will only bring the two of you closer than ever.

6. Do not take your partner for granted
Letting your partner know how special they are and how much they mean to you can keep the relationship strong. Being there for them is a great way to show that you care. If a person is constantly letting their partner pay for everything and pushing away what they have to say, here is a sign they are taking that person for granted.

Caring about a partner can be really stressful. If the two of you really care about one another and see a future, do not let them go. A relationship can be difficult at times but I hope those tips can help you.

Source https://www.selfbrandpal.com/2018/09/6-essential-guide-on-how-to-have-strong.html?m=1]

1. When you meet a girl, don't think of sex first; don't ask for sex. Even if you are hot in pants, pretend that you are a monk for some time.

2. Don't go searching for a virgin, if you are not a virgin yourself. All the girls you have massacred, who will marry them. Besides, there is no record that virgins make better wives or are more faithful in marriage.
3. If you are a "modern man," don't look for a "village girl that knows nothing". Soon you will start complaining that she is too local to fit into your circle of enlightened friends. Besides, a village girl may "wise up" and trouble will start in your home.

4. Don't look for a girl that is afraid of you: a girl you can always intimidate. Fear is not respect.

5. Don't be carried away by a girl's physical features: beauty, height, complexion, shape, breast shape, size and firmness, etc. They matter but they are not critical. In the long run, child-bearing and age affect these features. Besides, when you have married a woman for some years, her physical features stop "turning your head".

At that time, what will attract you to her will be what is inside of her: intelligence, wisdom, self-control, patience, peace, gentleness, etc.

6. Don't be interested in a girl because of her wealth or her parents' wealth. Even if she is richer than you or her parents are richer, make it clear from the beginning that you will take care of your marriage yourself or that both of you will take care of your marriage together.

Don't accept your in-laws taking care of your family responsibilities. Let them allow you to build your own home. After all, many of them were poorer than you are now when they got married. If they want you to upgrade to their level, let them support your business, e.g by supplying their goods to you to sell and make your OWN money.

Source https://www.selfbrandpal.com/2018/09/6-golden-rules-for-men.html?m=1]

1. Ikogosi warm spring
It is located in Ekiti State. The resort is an enchanting natural beauty and is blessed with an array of palm trees. It has an accommodation capacity of 91 rooms and 4 restaurants with a swimming pool for visiting tourists.

The meeting point of a cold and warm spring is the resort's main attraction.

2. Kajuru Castle
This is located in Kaduna State. Kajuru castle is an exclusive and luxurious total gateway built in an early medieval style of Kajuru village.
This gorgeous architectural masterpiece with breathtaking ambience is set upon elevated peaks with staggering views.
Kajuru Castle is styled in a European and clearly German way with a baronial hall.

3. Yankari Game Reserve
This is located in Bauch State. The reserve is also home to the famous Wikki Warm springs.
This spring is always 31 degree Celsius all year round regardless of the season.
The reserve enjoys National status and is home to Warthogs, Antelopes, Hippos and the last of Nigeria's Elephants.

4. Afi Mountains
Afi Mountains is located in Cross River State. Cross River State Forestry Commission safeguards the mountain and it is also a sanctuary for the Drill Monkey specie only found in parts of Nigeria and Cameroon.
Afi Mountains is a campers dream with open-air camp sites, canopy walks and wooden camp cabins for accommodation.

5. Obudu Mountain Resort
Obudu Mountain Resort is located in Cross River State in Nigeria.
There are various ways to have a wonderful time at Obudu Hills from the Jacuzzi down to the cable cars which is one of Africa's longest cable cars which take you to more beautiful places within the resort.
It is truly a paradise in Nigeria.

Source:- [https://www.selfbrandpal.com/2018/09/5-amazing-resorts-for-honeymoon-in.html]

What are some of the myth about masturbation?

Masturbation is still a challenging topic to talk about. Even in the closest of romantic relationships, there may be struggles in regards to this subject matter.

Numerous myths still exist in our culture with respect to masturbation.

There are many myths about masturbation. What you need to know is that masturbation is okay as long as it does not interfere with your sexual intimacy with your partner.

[The truth about masturbation]:
Masturbation does not cause hairy palms.
Masturbation does not make your eyesight go bad or cause you to go blind.
Masturbation does not cause acne.
Masturbation will not cause your penis to shrink.
Masturbation will not make you go insane.
Masturbation does not cause cancer.
Masturbation will not make you sterile.
Masturbation will not give you an STD.
Masturbation is not self abuse
Masturbation is not a steppingstone to the homosexual lifestyle.
Masturbation is not unnatural.
Masturbation can also be referred to as

Play with oneself
jerk off or whack off
self-stimulate
Some other important point to know about masturbation is:

People still masturbate when they are in long-term relationships such as marriage
Everyone masturbates different amount. There is no right or wrong number.
Masturbation is a problem if it interferes with day to day life or if it is used as a substitute for real intimacy with another person.
Masturbation can help you learn what you like and don't like sexually.
Masturbation is something used to relieve tension.
If you believe you have any problem with masturbation based on what you have just read, you should see a sex therapist.

Source :- www.selfbrandpal.com

Imagine yourself with a guy who does not love you, a guy who does not respect you, a guy who does not go out of his way to protect you.

And he just see you as a woman who will do all his chores. Usually you fall for guys who are not worthy of your love and attention. But then, love is blind too.

If you love someone truly, then you would want to marry that person instantly. But marriage is a very big and life - changing step. So never marry a guy who has these eight habits given below:

1. Narrow minded.
A guy who does not trust you is always going to put a restriction on every little things of yours. He will not see the amount of loyalty you are showing towards him. There will be conditions for everything you do. He will stop you from doing absolutely each and every normal thing in life. Maybe because of fear that something bad would happen. Any such guy could ruin your life.

So dump such guy instead of marrying him.

2. Hates Animals.
Any guy who hates animals is not a good human himself. He does not have empathy. Having an allergy to something or some animal is a separate thing but hating them is just out of the league. If you are thinking about marrying a guy who does not like animals, rethink your decision now.

3. Does not consider relationship rules.
Every relationships have some rules. If the guy you are with is not able to remain up to the mark, that clearly means he has got no respect for you or for the relationship. If he does that again and again, then that is a visible indication that he is not worthy of your time and love.

4. Breaks promises.
If a guy keeps on breaking promises, then that means he is either making fool out of you or he is not interested in you. He has got no care for you. If something happens and he was not able to fulfill the commitment once then that is bearable but not for the second time.

5. Puts you on second number always.
Relationship is all about given and take. If you are continuously making an effort to keep the relationship going while he always put you down or put you on the second number, then it is a sure fact that he is not interested in you or does not love you. Never ever think about marrying such a guy.

6. No moment for Epiphany.
If a guy consistently thinks that the decision he took , every step that he takes, everything that he will do will turn out to be just perfect, then he must be living in a bubble as he considers himself Mr. Perfect. You should never seek a guy who does such things and does not realize that his thinking is wrong for marriage.

7. Excuses.
Excuses are the greatest way of saying 'i have got other important things to do and you really do not matter to me'. If he keeps on making excuses and try to cover the things by making up stories, then it is evident that he does not care for you.

8. Keeps the fight going.
Fights are a very usual path of any relationship.At times in a relationship, fights are important too. But if they never come to an end then there will be no room for commitment anymore. Life and relationships are always full of compromises and sacrifices and if he does not listen to your problems and instead keeps on fighting about the same thing over and over again, then you should know this relationship needs to end soon.

Read more herehttps://www.selfbrandpal.com/2018/08/never-marry-guy-who-has-these-habits.html?m=1]

1. Latex condoms, when used properly, are very effective in preventing unintended pregnancies and STDs. People who are allergic to latex can use polyurethane condoms instead.

2. Oil-based lubricants will weaken the condom and cause it to break.

3. Always pinch the tip of the condom before unrolling it.

4. After sex, a man should withdraw from his partner immediately, holding onto the base of the condom.

5. Condom can be used only once! Always use a new one if passion strikes twice...

Read nos 6 and 7 herehttps://www.selfbrandpal.com/2018/08/important-things-you-should-know-about.html?m=1]

The truth is, Everything is uncertain. We can't control time, we can't control the future but we can choose how we feel today. We can choose what we do today. We can choose who we meet today and where we go.

Stop waiting for Fridays. Stop waiting for Summer. Stop waiting for that ideal job. Stop waiting for someone to spot your talent.

It's not about waiting but about making the most of each moment right now.

Ask yourself, if this was the last day of your life, is this how you would like to spend it mentally?

You might not be able to change what you do, but you can change how you feel about it.

If you have to spend the day at work, ask yourself, how can i make it more meaningful?

If you are home with your family, ask yourself, how can i make it more fulfilling?
If you're around people you don't like, move. We are not trees. And if you are in a toxic environment, learn to protect yourself.

And no matter how little you have or how tough things are, see where you can be grateful.

That business that you want to launch, start it. That skill you've been wanting to gain, learn it.

Don't wait for the perfect moment, take the moment and make it perfect.

Never regret a day in your life. Good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience, the worst days give you lessons and the best days give you memories.

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There are obvious ways to wreck a relationship, whether you and your partner have gotten past the point of no return, or one or both of you are sabotaging it in ways you don't even know.

1. Keeping quiet.
Unless your partner is a mind-reader, then you have to open up. Otherwise, they're never going to know what you are feeling until you actually verbalize it. Complaining about your partner to your friend is okay, but if you are venting about your partner instead of to them, how will they ever know what is bugging you?

2. No longer listening.
If your mind is elsewhere when your partner is speaking to you, you are showing them zero respect. They deserve better.

3. Sweeping things under the rug.
If you let things about your partner slide and don't talk about or raise concerns, then it's only going to build resentment.

Like with anything else, it's never good to bottle up your feelings, so if something is bugging you, it's better to discuss things now than fight about it later.

4. Getting too comfortable.
There is something comforting about being able to just be yourself in front of your partner, but that doesn't mean you have to let yourself go. And while there is nothing wrong with a night in, you also need to go out too.

Whether it's a movie, a restaurant, a museum, or even just strolling around hand-in-hand.

5. Slacking on sex.
You get to a certain level of familiarity in a relationship but that doesn't mean it has to fizzle out.

It's normal to not be jumping each other's bones every time you see each other. But if you're more roommates than lovers, that's never good. Maintaining intimacy is vital in a healthy relationship.

6. Passing out on the couch.
While this one isn't sex-related, it is tied to a couple's intimacy issues. While falling asleep in front of the TV doesn't seem like a big deal, if that couch becomes a replacement for your bed, that's a bad sign.

Sleeping together might be annoying what with all the snoring, blanket stealing.

A physical distance, even one that's unintentional can have bad effects on a relationship.

7. Assuming they will always be there.
If you start taking your partner for granted, they might look elsewhere to get the attention they're missing at home.

8. Forgetting those special days.
Whether it's an anniversary, birthday, a promotion, or some other milestone that's worthy of recognition, find a way to celebrate together.

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Do you love your girl and you don't want another man to snatch her from you? Then do the following things:

1. Give her plenty of attention.
If you give her attention, she will not seek for attention elsewhere. Chat with her online via social media or else another man will.

2. Give her listening ears whenever she is speaking to you. Avoid pressing your phone or reading a newspaper when your girl is talking to you.

3. Do not promise her and fail. Do not promise her what you cannot do. It is better for you to say you don't have than to promise and fail.

4. Do not be stingy. Avoid telling her that you don't have, you don't have all the time.

5. Be caring. To be caring does not only mean you should be giving her money. There are many ways of showing care; e.g show concern whenever she is sad or in problems; be by her side when she is in problems, do not abandon her in her days of sorrow.

6. Tell her daily that she is beautiful.

7. Tell her daily that you love her.

8. Play with her and joke with her daily.

9. Don't be too hard and don't be too soft. Scold her a little, and pet her a little. Do not over pet or over scold.

10. Love her siblings, and respect her parents.

11. Appreciate her when she helps you to do something.

12. Allow her to advise you, seek her suggestions and respect her opinions.

13. Respect her.

14. Do not take her for granted.

15. Do not cheat on her.

16. Play with her hair.

17. kiss her on her forehead, cheek and neck. It will pass a good message to her.

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Not all men are scum.
I will advise you move on.

Encourage her to move on

The danger of pornography use isn't about right and wrong. It's about the effects that pornography has on the user, and the effects it has on the loved ones of the user.

Pornography use has serious, negative side effects.

1. Creates an emotional bond with artificial world.
All people have a critical need for human intimacy, and emotional connection with others. When someone views pornography, they end up creating an intimate bond with an artificial, fake world, and can actually lose the ability to bond with real people.

2. Sex without intimacy.
Pornography is about sex being used for the wrong reasons. Because it is sex without emotional closeness, the underlying hunger remains unsatisfied.
The viewer starts wondering what is wrong with their relationships and gets irritated or depressed.
They end up feeling emotionally empty and disconnected from those around them.

3. Unsatisfying.
While pornography use may result in a short term high, it eventually results in feelings of emptiness, low self-esteem and deep loneliness. It ultimately creates emotional distance in relationships.
Because the world of pornography is artificial and cannot satisfy the need for emotional intimacy, this basic need remains unmet, creating an appetite for more and more.

4. It Triggers addiction cycle in the brain.
Studies show that actual brain function changes in someone who has an addiction and the changes are the same in all addiction: alcohol, drugs, or pornography.
Because pornography use can become an actual addiction, viewers are not able to stop by their own willpower.

5. Unfulfilling
Using pornography to feel pleasure and escape feelings of low self-esteem, anxiety, boredom, and frustration create a gateway for addiction.
When the rush of pleasure disappears, the feelings a user is trying to escape from reappear stronger than ever, and they are compelled to repeat the cycle.

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A person's action speak louder than words. We are often too quick to judge and make hasty decisions without completely getting to know a person first. so, if you are confused about if a guy is really into you or you are trying to decide to take things further or not, or simply if you are wondering if a person is worth your time, these qualities will help you to make your decision.

1. He knows about all your favorite food.

If he knows what you like to eat, be it your coffee order, your favorite ice cream flavor or your favorite pasta place, it means that he pays attention to the little details about you and care about your likes and dislikes.

2. He lets you know where he is.

He lets you know where he is with a quick text saying when he is leaving work or if he'll be home late or going to friend's party. If he tells you his whereabout when he is busy somewhere, so you do not worry unnecessarily or just to check up on you, that shows that he is responsible and you are always at the back of his mind.

3. He takes care of you.

Let it be picking your dry cleaning, getting you an aspirin when you have headache or making you ginger tea when you're down with cold. It shows that he is concerned about you and in the future if something big happens, he will most likely take care of you.

4. He calls you first when something important happens.

Be it he qualified for a promotion or he found his favorite candy flavor that had been discontinued, if you are the first person he calls to give the news to, it means he prioritizes you and want to share anything good that happens to him with you.

5. He is nice to kids/Kids seem to love him.

They run to him whenever he is around. They are happy around him and he is happy around them. Kids are often good judges of people. If they like him, it is clear he is a keeper.

6. He's never too busy for you.

He makes it a point to spend quality time with you no matter how tight his schedule is.

7. He always respond to your texts and calls.

He acts like a responsible adult and never leaves you on 'read or ignores your calls. If he's busy, he lets you know he is busy and will get back to you as soon as he gets the chance.

8. He gives you personalized and well thought out birthday gifts.

He reminds you of how much you mean to him by giving you personalized presents instead of just buying you something expensive. Example include a signed copy of your favorite book or concert ticket to your favorite band. Its the little things that count.

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It is believed that the most commonly consumed substance in the world is Alcohol. Alcoholic beverages like beer, wine, spirits, and liquors are so commonly accepted that you are unlikely to go to a party or social gathering without them.

People suffering from stress, depression, anxiety, or other mental disorder can find it difficult to use alcohol responsibly.

Millions of people are affected by Alcoholism, but it affects the people you live with and love the most.

Alcohol affects relationships in almost every way, but the extent of the effect depends on how much you or your partner drink.

Alcohol and Emotions.

Alcohol help to slow down reactions, speech, muscles and memory. This is why many people use Alcohol to escape from stress, negative emotions and even heavy workloads.

Abusers of alcohol are more likely to be emotionally withdrawn and unavailable. This will result in the person becoming more egocentric and selfish because they don't need approval or outside support to get the feel-good rush of dopamine and serotonin to the brain.

Domestic Violence and Emotional Abuse.

Alcohol does not cause violence or abusive behaviors, it merely makes the abuser feel comfortable doing it.

People who are in relationships where alcoholism is common are more likely to experience domestic violence and frequent or recurring emotional abuse.

Frequent arguing, frequent belittling and complaining, ignoring a partner's emotional needs, and manipulating or controlling a partner are various examples of emotional abuse.

A vicious cycle.

Many people use alcohol to tackle some problems like stress, tiredness, or depression. But drinking only temporarily covers problems up and often makes them worse.

For example, drinking causes hangover, poor sleep, depression, anxiety, and poor decision making, all of which can dramatically affect mood and stress levels for the next day. This in turn leads to more drinking to cover the stress, creating a vicious cycle.

Alcohol and promiscuity

People who drink alcohol are more likely to flirt, cheat, engage in unprotected sex, or otherwise engage in promiscuous behavior that will harm their relationship. This can result in betrayal of trust, STD'S, lying, and even unplanned pregnancies.

Financial impacts of alcohol abuse.

Having one or two members of a relationship addicted to alcohol can put serious stress on a relationship due to financial difficulties. Alcohol users make rash decisions, and if drinking in a bar or restaurant, they spend significant amount of money on alcohol.

Financial difficulties will cause stress, difficulties keeping a home or apartment, and are often one of the largest causes of arguments, stress, and eventual separation.

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Once a year, go some place you've never been before.

Here are seven lessons you can learn from travelling

1. Traveling makes you a better learner
Traveling empowers the learner inside of us, increases our curiosity and humility.
The journal of personality and social Psychology found that kids who study abroad were more humble than those who didn't travel.

2. Traveling makes you sharper
Being in the outdoors refreshes your senses in a way that no office air ever could.

The latest evidence in the journal Environmental Psychology, researchers found that people who simply looked at a photo of nature for only 40 seconds had improved focus and performance on their next task.

3. Traveling increases your faith in humanity
Maddox found in his research that traveling the world increases your faith in humanity.
The more foreign countries people travel to, the more their sense of generalized trust increases.

Seeing all of the good that exists in the world makes it easier to trust that most people, for the most part, are just trying to do the right thing.

4. Traveling makes you more creative
A recent study from the Academy of Management journal found that people who worked overseas were more imaginative and inspired, than those who stayed in their home country.

People who integrate a new culture into their identities are more creative in the long run.
Doing as the locals do for an extended period of time opens up your mind, forcing you to think in different ways and bounce around in different ideas.

It's a concept scientist called, Cognitive Flexibility and the more cognitive flexibility you are, the more creative you will be.

5. Traveling gives you a wider perspective
Travel gives you a birds eye view. Traveling helps us look at our lives from a distance both physically and metaphorically. And when you do that, you're able to see things a lot more clearly.

6. Traveling makes us Happier
A new study from the Psychological Science found that anticipating an experience, before it even happened makes you happier than if you're waiting for something tangible like a new smartphone.

7. Traveling makes you more patient
Dealing with delays, mishaps, and different cultures during travels makes you a much more patient and understanding person overall.

And this is my favorite thought, at first travel leaves you speechless, and then it turns you into a storyteller.

There are three types of people in our lives. People in our life are like parts of a tree.

We have the leaves, the branches, and the roots.

1. The leaves
Some people are like the leaves on a tree. When the wind blows, they go with it.

When the seasons change, they change.

They are like the temporary friendships, a summer fling or connection, like leaves, they are beautiful in the beginning, but eventually they fall away.

When we think of this, we can remember the people that were leaves in our own lives.

We can appreciate the lessons they brought, we can have gratitude for the moments, and detach from any pain they cause.

They helped us grow at that time.

2. Branches
The second type of people in our lives are like branches. You have to be careful with these, because they can often fool you.

They will make you think that they're a good friend. They're really strong, and they are there for you.

But the minute you step out on them, they can break and fall.

We all have people who say to us "you can depend on me." "I'm always there for you." "I'm just one call away."

But when you follow up with those promises, you find that they were hollow.

In our own lives, we know moments where we've been branches to others, and had branches in our lives.

Often we may have promised a lot, and not been able to live up to it, because of our own shortcomings, and the same is true for others.

This allows us the opportunity to become more honest with ourselves, and more honest with the people around us.

We need to surround ourselves with people who contribute to our overall emotional, mental, physical well-being.

3. Then the third type of person are those that are like the roots.

People who are like roots of a tree are permanent. Friendships who go through everything.

Go through hell and back and grow through it. And still stand strong as friends worth keeping.

A good friend knows all your best stories, a best friend has been through them with you.

A tree in it's lifetime can have millions of leaves, hundreds of thousands of branches, but a few roots down at the bottom to make sure it gets everything that it needs.

When you get some roots, hold onto them. But the rest of it, be okay to let it go.

Reflect on this.

Who is a leaf, a branch or a root in your life and to who are you a leaf, a branch or a root?

And remember, you cannot change the people around you but you can change the people you choose to be around.

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Sometime when our situation changes, we change the way we treat people who've been there for us since day one.

When we get money, fame, popularity, a new position or status, we may start to see things differently.

When things change, don't change the way you treat people that have always loved you.

Stay humble and don't forget the people that helped you get there. They've been through way more than you know.

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Often times, you would wonder what your special someone truly feels about you.

Even after spending time together, you become curious about how much she cares about you, especially if both of you have not seen or talked to each other for quite a while.

Would she miss me?

Or would she seek attention from another man? These are the questions that you want answered.

If you are curious about how to make her miss you, there are ways that can help you find your answers.

1. Be funny.

A woman can never forget a guy who made her smile and laugh. Nowadays, women are more drawn to men with wit and humor.

The act of instilling positive vibes and feelings not only to her but also to the people around you would really catch her heart.

If you want to know how to make her miss you, you have to find her sweet spot and crack her out of her comfort zone.

When you are able to do these things, she will surely miss you and look for you when you are not around.

2. Be interesting.

If you can pick a woman's brain and make her think about a lot of things, you would surely be someone whom she would like to be around with more often.

When you challenge her mind, she would want to get to the bottom of things and would not let you go until she has found the answer. The key to this is to find something that she likes and ask her questions about it.

When she realizes that you are someone who she can talk to about anything, she will definitely look for you when you are not within sight.

3. Fill her mind everyday.

If you are wondering how to make her miss you, you should try filling her mind everyday.

Do things that will truly leave a positive impact on her each day. This may mean inviting her to do activities that she has never tried before or making sure that every minute you spend together is filled with fun and excitement.

Even when you have slowed down for a while, she will be the one who will be looking for an adventure for the both of you.

4. Stand out among other guys.

In order for her to miss you, you have to make sure that there is something that you can offer that other guys can't.

Make her feel different when she is with you.

You have to know what she cares for and is passionate about. Ask her about her interest and make her feel that you really care for her.

5. Remember the little details.

Every person has his own quirks and habits. If you are curious of how to make her miss you, you have to be the guy that remembers all the little details about your woman.

It may not mean much to you at first but you would soon realize that nothing moves a woman more than the gesture of remembering every little thing about her.

These little things serves as prove that you pay attention to everything that she does.

6. Follow a "routine" and go against it.

This may mean a little harsh but it would let you know what your woman really feels about you.

After creating a habit loop for sometime, your woman has become conditioned and can already predict what you are going to do next. Give things some twist by going against the routine.

This will puzzle her and would make her wonder what happened. However, do this only for a short time as she might mistake it for playing games.

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Every happy relationship needs two strong companion who are willing to go the extra mile and never give up.

Here are 6 interesting habits you should try in a relationship.

1. End fights quickly.

Argument happen in every relationship. When two people are together, they tend to fight every now and then. As a partner, it is your duty to know when it is time for you to calm your partner down.

A good couple knows when to listen and when to talk back. And a good couple never let's the fight live on for it to affect their future. A good couple doesn't stay fighting, they resolve the issue the quickest way they can.

2. One-on-one time.

Good couple always make sure they spend enough alone time with their partner. It's fun to be with them and their friends and seem like the social type but every once in a while, you will need to spend time with them where it's just the two of you, no phones, no laptops, just the two of you.

Healthy relationship tends to get stronger with spending more special time together.

3. Groom each other.

From personal experience, my girlfriend has taught me about life and how to deal with people in a better way. Couple are those who work on each other, make each other stronger and groom each other to making them the best they can be.

4. They trust without doubts.

The best couple are those who have complete trust and faith in each other. The couple who don't need to look at each other's phone everyday, who don't have to check their Facebook to see what they are up to, who don't ask questions that make their partner sound like they are in an interrogation. Infinite trust leads to infinite happiness...

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