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USA is vast becoming a crime infested place for immigrant. But I trust my Nigerian people to conceal this. If what happened in the US last week happened in Nigeria, the whole Internet will be brimming hot by now with takes of how nigeria will soon collapse. News of mass shootings in the abroad will plague the Internet and you'll see Nigerian excusing such attrocities with "gun is their right". But if a road accident in Nigeria, you'll get tired of seeing curses being heaped heavily on Nigeria. Japa ambassadors let us realized how there's zero crime in the abroad. But it's all the usual propaganda

I know this post will be deleted by the mods and I'll be blocked from viewing nairaland. But had it been I shared a bad news about nigeria, everyone will celebrate it and it'll be taken to the FP

This is a good news about nigeria. I hate to see it. Please share bad news about the country, let's rejoice

USA is vast becoming a crime infested place for immigrant. But I trust my Nigerian people to conceal this. If what happened in the US last week happened in Nigeria, the whole Internet will be brimming hot by now with takes of how nigeria will soon collapse. News of mass shootings in the abroad will plague the Internet and you'll see Nigerian excusing such attrocities with "gun is their right". But if a road accident in Nigeria, you'll get tired of seeing curses being heaped heavily on Nigeria. Japa ambassadors let us realized how there's zero crime in the abroad. But it's all the usual propaganda

I know this post will be deleted by the mods and I'll be blocked from viewing nairaland. But had it been I shared a bad news about nigeria, everyone will celebrate it and it'll be taken to the FP

MufasaLion:
Yes, it might be lonely but however, you seem not to know what you want.

If you're in Nigeria, there are only few businesses you can do that will generate steady and good revenue for you but what about the quality of life and other basic things?

And as you're in Canada, there are things you definitely will benefit that those living in Banana Island can never benefit with their billions.

Everything in life has sacrifice and focus. Know what you want! This loneliness bla bla bla is stale. It's no more news. Stop the comparison and focus on positive things.

For your reads. People don't die in the abroad. They live forever. Most of you have never stepped out of your hole before and you'll never

planetx:
More than 90 Canadian doctors have dropped dead over the last two years, the Western world right now is an harvest of death. Don't let me even quote the deaths from cancer and heart disease over the last 2 years. So this dumbos should keep thinking people are immortal in Canada or the US.

This is part of what we're saying but Nigerian who have not stepped into airport in their life will tell you there's no crime in the abroad

Hmmmm all I see on this thread is hatred toward what OP shared. No tangible advise. Just the usual "Life is better in Canada than Naija". From reasoning, it's really better to nurture your pain yourself. Nigerian can't understand what OP us talking about. All they don't want to see is your snow picture to serve as a motivation for them to Japa too. And that's why Orion back home try as much to satisfy our cravings with pictures so we can know they're happy with the decision they make. An average Nigerian just want to see abroad pictures. We all have this inferiority complex, including myself.

Learn to stomach your suffering. No one cares.

ednut1:
Bringing a spouse to Canada you have to sign an undertaking that you will be responsible financially for the person for 3 years. If your friend takes a student loan or car loan and refuses to pay she will be held liable. If he moves out of the house and govt has to house him they will send her the bill. She has more to lose sha. The 9ja female in Canada shakara usually ends at 35 to 37. After that they are open to even bringing an okada man from Nigeria. Your friend too doesn’t sound like a good fit or person lol. At this point for her all die na die, matches on dating apps have dried up. It is well

She's proven to be genuine since the time we've been talking. But yet, the way we've seen women treat men over there is a thing of concern to me. In doing reasonably well here, and can't be controlled by a woman. But nonetheless, she's a good woman or, to qualify things, she's proven to be a good one

pansophist:
Your outlook is quite pessimistic, and understandably so, but as I see it, what you describe is less likely to happen because of one very strong reason, which is that she carries the burden of performance.

If a woman carries the burden of performance that is traditionally masculine, then she is truly into him. flying to Nigeria to marry him, then back to Canada to file for him, while spending a lot in the process is an expression/proof of genuine intent.

And considering her age, she is past the phase of games and playing around, which is evident by her need to settle down even if it cost her a lot. I know two cases of ladies going to Africa to import a man.

One lives in peace and are expecting their baby soon. While the other broke off, and it was the guy that left. He used her to migrate. She can't seems to recover from that yet even if it happened years ago.

If I was him, this is what I'll do. I'll go ahead if I consider her a good wife material. But I'll never loose my position of strength. I'll be hoping for the best, but prepared for the worse.

So it's either she relocate and live with me in Nigeria, or I join her in Canada while still making sure my business and establishment is still intact. To fall back on if things go bad.

Also, standing on your position of strength is a deterrence to disrespect and "see finish", because when people wants to punish you, they calculate your options/next move, to know your next step. If you're doing fine on your own, you'll hardly be forked over.

A man must not depend on a woman no matter what, never loose your position of strength. Being a Canadian should have no bearing whether she is good for a wife, but her character. To be with someone due to her citizenship is a looser mindset.

And yes, western world is a very lonely place, especially Canada. Canada is the loneliest of all. You can't pay me to live there. Canada is bigger then Nigeria x10, but Lagos and Kano has more population than Canada. It's no surprising why about 30% of new immigrants leave Canada.

People live far from each other, and it's damn boring, cold and dark. And even though it prides itself as a multicultural melting pot, it's all advertisements. People hardly mix, and different nationality stick with themselves.

Thank you so much. This advise is useful. The person in this discussion is me. Actually I have no doubt as to her genuineness. I've spoken with most of her friends in Canada and in fact met with her sisters here in Nigeria and they all seem reasonably good people overall. I'm just scared about what how things will turn. I told her to relocate to Nigeria, not permanently, since she's a Canadian citizen, we can go there to have babies and also visit occasionally. I have the means to take perfect control here in Naija but can't say the same if I'm on Canadian soil. But still, I'm in the capacity to make full decision as she's proven to be a good woman generally

SLOVFO:
Well, a lot depends on your friend too. Is your friend marrying her for Canadian citizenship? Does your friend love her? Just don't be fearful for your friend also think about the lady in question. If the relationship is built on materialism they will have issues in the future unless God intervenes.

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My friend (32) is a single father of one in Nigeria with somewhat okay career in Nigeria. Few months ago, he hinted me about a lady he has been talking to who resides in Canada, but she is a Nigerian but now has Canadian citizen. They met online and the conversation has been decent and fruitful. The lady in question is single and she is 38yrs. According to what he told me, the lady has been in search of a partner to no avail. My friend is a goodlooking man, with excellent gift of the gab, the type that will make a woman drool. I wasnt in the know of how their communication shifted to dating, but it looks like the lady has interest in dating my friend. Their agreement was for her to come to Nigeria while they make arrangement toward getting married and all of that. And after some times, she will arrange for him to come to meet her in Canada.

This looks good on paper. But I have fear for my friend. We all know how Nigerian women are. If this woman has option of men in Canada, there is no way she will show interest in my friend. Ordinarily, Nigerian woman who secure job in Access bank will think of herself worthy of no man except gods because she is now independent and can take care of herself, not to talk of the one in Canada that will think herself undeserving of a man in a 3rd world country. Yeah, I have most of them as friends and this is usually their line of reasoning. Women dont date for love, they date the ones that are perceived better in look, finance and worth than them. Seems the inability to find a commited partner in Canada pushed the said lady to start making such decision. What if this man relocate and she pull the guilt card on him? Letting him realized how she brings him to canada

My friend (32) is a single father of one in Nigeria with somewhat okay career in Nigeria. Few months ago, he hinted me about a lady he has been talking to who resides in Canada, but she is a Nigerian but now has Canadian citizen. They met online and the conversation has been decent and fruitful. The lady in question is single and she is 38yrs. According to what he told me, the lady has been in search of a partner to no avail. My friend is a goodlooking man, with excellent gift of the gab, the type that will make a woman drool. I wasnt in the know of how their communication shifted to dating, but it looks like the lady has interest in dating my friend. Their agreement was for her to come to Nigeria while they make arrangement toward getting married and all of that. And after some times, she will arrange for him to come to meet her in Canada.

This looks good on paper. But I have fear for my friend. We all know how Nigerian women are. If this woman has option of men in Canada, there is no way she will show interest in my friend. Ordinarily, Nigerian woman who secure job in Access bank will think of herself worthy of no man except gods because she is now independent and can take care of herself, not to talk of the one in Canada that will think herself undeserving of a man in a 3rd world country. Yeah, I have most of them as friends and this is usually their line of reasoning. Women dont date for love, they date the ones that are perceived better in look, finance and worth than them. Seems the inability to find a commited partner in Canada pushed the said lady to start making such decision. What if this man relocate and she pull the guilt card on him? Letting him realized how she brings him to canada