₦airaland Forum

Hi guys,great to be back.

@Razorr,
Take your mind games to the Onitsha Head bridge.

@Ruudie,
Brilliant post.

@Jackal,
Well done.Hope you won't go awol again.

@Somze,
Hi.What you guys gunning for now?

@Gunners,
Congrats on winning the Emirates Cup
@Reds,
SAF has made a statement of intent.He is already preparing for 2-3 years hence. The buys are not without reasons some of which are:
1.To retain the League(naturally)
2.To launch a more credible, sustained and effective attack on Europe(about time).
3.To ensure no vacuum is created when the older guys leave due to age or begin to depreciate in quality(SAF recognised the mistake he made after 99-02 by not starting early enough).
4.EPL is getting tougher by the day.You can't wish for success by hoping others will fail. Baba is making his moves now.Hope it works out well.

Now this puts immense pressure on us and the key will be how to handle the pressure that comes with all the expectations. Can we?

NB:
Tevez WILL become a Man U player come August(Somze, please read August this year )

@SAF,
Please pay some money to any club and allow Silvestre and Saha to go.

Can't wait for the games to begin!!!!!


WAN UTD

thanks people.
I have tried convincing my brother but he finds it difficult to let go.
He feels down because he allowed his wife a lot of freedom travelling around the world and feels betrayed. I have told her to let him be but keep reassuring him that she did not do anything.
I've never seen a guy feeling so hurt.
I tend to believe her though(I linked them both when I was in school. . .she was 2 years my senior and a decent girl). I have a lot at stake.

Thanks for the help so far.

@Ruudie,I don't quite understand.
Is John crying wolf where there's none or do you think she could actually be having an affair?

I did not check through her phone .Her husband did.

Hi fellas,I need your help.

I am unmarried and used to live with my elder brother(I will call John) ,his wife(Jane)and their 2 kids before I moved to Kaduna on transfer last 3 years ago .They been married 8 years and cut the picture of an ok couple.He works in one the top 5 banks and she does her own business travelling to the US,Europe , and Dubai.


He seemed to have had some suspicions about her lately(for reasons I really don't know) and checked through her phone recently and came acrosss 2 text messages to a guy in the Dubai(let's call him Jack).In fairness he never used to do that or so he says. He felt the texts had words whose meaning can be easily misconstrued especially if it had been the other way(ie from a lady to him). She explained it away that there was nothing , just a close biz friend and things died down after a while.
Last week again he stumbled on some of her mails(while working on the PC) and saw in more detail words of affection which he felt should be reserved for him .(Why he checked her mails at all is another story)


My brother is modern but can also be a bit  old-fashioned . We are quite close and he shared the contents of the mail with me.(He knew I'd mention it to her)If my girlfriend wrote those things I 'd believe the worst. Words like I love you ,I miss you really are not light words to be used by a married woman to another man.

I am fond of Jane and she cuts the image of a decent woman but honestly cannot explain the motive behind some of her  musings. She is in her early 30's and my brother was 40 this year. They seemed so perfect but you can see the strain now. I was there last week.He simply does not believe her. He insists that if it had been written to me he would not have been bothered because he knows we are quite close. He is extremely angry and jealous . He wonders who else could be so close to his wife.

I know my brother is not perfect(which man is )but he is finding it a bit hard to take. I am a very close to his wife and do not think she is capable of extra-marital affairs(however I am not her husband) I have to admit though that her communication with 'Jack' was flirtatious at best.

My brother says he's going to stop all her travels Though he can comfortably take care of his family without the added income,I told him that won't stop anything if indeed there was something.

But really,could she be cheating on him after 8 years of marriage and 2 kids. She swore to me that she only needed a listening ear. I cannot but believe her but that is not who she needs to believe her.

She says John does not give her attention but he  insists that she does things he abhors:dressing to please herself and not him,maintaining a high standard of living,nagging. . .you know the works. But they looked so perfect or at least everything seemed so fine.


Is it possible for a married woman to say(or rather write) I love you to another man and not mean it THAT WAY.
Is it possible for the man in his response to use words like sweety and 'never leave you' and nothing's gwan
Is it proper for a married woman to have a close personal relationship with another man(If so,is it advisable)

Really,could she be cheating on him?