Premature ejaculation is one of the most common cause and side effect of dysfunctional lovemaking

Men’s Experiences of Sex: for many men, sex means penetration, intercourse and orgasm, preferably for both partners. Sex is “doing” something either with or to their partner, so that they can both get relief from sexual tension.

Feeling turned on for men, through kissing, cuddling and stroking each other, is often not considered adequate on its own and men with premature ejaculation may particularly avoid it because they fear that it will result in their ejaculating even more quickly than usual after penetration.

Women’s Experiences of Sex: For many women, sex means sharing intimacy, being close to their partner, and achieving a lasting emotional and physical connection with each other. This isn’t just about romantic love, but about sharing a special physical and emotional union.

The reward women seek from sex is usually more than just the physical pleasure associated with intercourse. Kissing, cuddling, holding and stroking each other are important to many women and can be enjoyed without intercourse; indeed, some women find pre-intimacy more pleasurable and important than intercourse. They may find it frustrating if pre-intimacy is avoided by their partner, whose only interest seems to be intercourse.

Premature ejaculation is one of the most common causes and side effect of dysfunctional lovemaking. It is defined as when a man reaches climax (emits sperm) in less than a minute; although most ladies will complain when it is less than 2-3 minutes.

Normal range of ejaculation is between 4-6 minutes after penetration, with an average of 5 minutes (just count 1 to 300) and then you are good. To put this time into good use, it greatly helps to prime the woman with pre-intimacy, try different positions and increase physical fitness, eat healthy meals.

Premature ejaculation can be Lifelong, this is present since first sexual intercourse, or Acquired, with symptoms developing after a period of satisfactory ejaculatory function.

Premature ejaculation is caused by combination of factors not limited to past history of recurrent ‘guilty’ masturbation, performance anxiety, spousal conflict, having too little sex, stress, a genetic predisposition, elevated penile sensitivity, urinary tract infections (prostate infections and diabetes), use of some medications or even alcohol.

Treatment of Premature Ejaculation requires a combination of treatment interventions that includes; psychological behavioral, educational and then use of medications.

1. Start exercising: Core body exercise (planks) and sit-ups are great. They help the pelvic floor and abdominal muscles which are the most involved with sex. Aerobic exercises help to increase blood flow to the penis and sustain erection longer.

2. Kegel exercises: The muscles you use to hold a fart or urine. The exercise needs to be performed multiple times each day, for several minutes at a time, for one to three months, to begin to have an effect. It is usually done to reduce urinary stress incontinence especially after childbirth and reduce premature ejaculatory occurrences in men, as well as to increase the size and intensity of erections, (Women can contract this muscles during penetration to increase friction/vaginal tightness for better stimulation).

3. The Start/Stop Technique: This involves stimulating the penis and stopping just before you feel you are about to ejaculate. Stop the stimulation for 30-60 seconds and start again once you feel that you have regained control. Repeat this process 4-5 times, stopping and “resting” every time you feel that you are about to have an orgasm. Finally, let the ejaculation occur, so that you can identify the “point of no-return”. When this is combined with kegels as a form of training, it achieves great result. It is not advisable to do this with urine as it may lead to infections.

4. Position: Allowing the woman to be on top can relieve the pressure on the muscles utilized during intercourse and allow the man focus more. It can add between 30 sec- 2 minutes of extra penetration time. Explore other positions.

5. Diet: Certain diets, if you pay attention, can aid the strength of an erection and consequently improve ejaculatory time. Based on feedbacks, sea foods and dairy products help. Certain refined foods may reduce potency (Kellogg’s cornflakes), coffee (light) 2-3 hours before sex has been shown to have positive effect as well as fried eggs.

6. Environment: This plays a part, as undisturbed privacy, warmth, comfort and allowance of adequate time are very important. Time of day may also be an issue. Lovemaking late at night, when one or both partners are tired, is often not the best option. Some couples find that they prefer morning or daytime sex (When the man will have automatic erection); A bath or shower together before lovemaking can be both physically relaxing and sexually arousing. Take time in cuddling and pleasuring each other before trying penetration.

7. Medications: You can always consult an Urologist or sex therapist for help.

Summary

Sex is a healthy, natural activity and central to most loving relationships. It is important to both men and women, whatever their age, their race, creed, color or their sexual orientation. Our cultural and religious background may affect the way we perceive sex, but it will always be an important part of the human experience. Sexual health is just as important as other aspects of health and if you have a problem, you should not be afraid or embarrassed about seeking professional help.

Source; https://medicalhelponlineng.org/2016/08/28/the-art-of-lovemaking-combating-premature-ejaculation/

PLZ.......FOR MATURED MINDS ONLY

I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all years round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else.
Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with.
In those times, love will not help you; self control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.
You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do!
But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.
You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.
We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you'll realise that the feelings have dropped, it's now your responsibility to make it work, not love's responsibility.
Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment.
Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that.
That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions.
Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream. It's always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can scale through the trying time by being focus and committed.
The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong and be self disciplined!.
Sticking to one person is not natural, you must develop yourself to do that. It works great and perfect with people of like minds, people of the same beliefs and people that share the same school of thought..
May Almighty God guide us all to the right path..
[b]PLZ.......FOR MATURED MINDS ONLY

I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all years round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else.
Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with.
In those times, love will not help you; self control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.
You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do!
But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.
You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.
We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you'll realise that the feelings have dropped, it's now your responsibility to make it work, not love's responsibility.
Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment.
Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that.
That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions.
Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream. It's always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can scale through the trying time by being focus and committed.
The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong and be self disciplined!.
Sticking to one person is not natural, you must develop yourself to do that. It works great and perfect with people of like minds, people of the same beliefs and people that share the same school of thought..
May Almighty God guide us all to the right path..
[/b]PLZ.......FOR MATURED MINDS ONLY

I have discovered that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person all years round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else.
Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with.
In those times, love will not help you; self control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.
You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do!
But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.
You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.
We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you'll realise that the feelings have dropped, it's now your responsibility to make it work, not love's responsibility.
Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment.
Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that.
That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions.
Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream. It's always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can scale through the trying time by being focus and committed.
The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong and be self disciplined!.
Sticking to one person is not natural, you must develop yourself to do that. It works great and perfect with people of like minds, people of the same beliefs and people that share the same school of thought..
May Almighty God guide us all to the right path..

A huge percentage of the country complains about lack of money or funds.......I guess the money is just where it is.

Its quite infuriating wn threads like dis gets 2 d front page everytime, and well meaningful and educative threads gets neglected or pulld bak in2 d archives. Very disappointing........one of d tins I dnt apreci8 abt dz forum.

I guess u can't really tell if they existed or not, your faith is all that matters. That's all we've got as a being, our embodiment as a person.
Your Opinion............that's all it is.

I came across this, and decided to share it amongst you Nairalanders in other to get your inputs and opinions, so we can be more knowledgeable and informed.
This thread wasn't created to wage wars of criticism between the two religions, or show a mediocre of disparity between them, but to educate ourselves the more about the imperative aspects of our religions.
I understand how sensitive the issues and matters of religion is in this our great country, that's why I would be really glad if we could thread cautiously and not be obliterated with skepticism in the process of reading and also posting comments.
Let's just have fun, post our views and also educate our brilliant minds the more.
Ps.............Religious Bigots, pls stay clear !!!

A 31-year-old businesswoman, Nneka Nwachukwu of Dape Village, Abuja, told a Wuse Zone 2 High Court, Abuja, that she poured acid on Peter Nwogu, because he raped her.

Nwachukwu, led in evidence her Counsel, Moneka Azubike, told the court on Tuesday that Nwogu, the defendant came to her house and forced her to sleep with him.

The defendant was first arraigned on April 11, 2014 by the police for the offence of culpable homicide contrary to Section 221 of the Penal Code.

She said that on Dec. 1, 2013, she went to her town meeting at Wuse and came back around 10 p.m.

``When I came back, I warmed my food which I came back with, then I went to see my landlord Ikechukwu Obi to pay my house rent.

``I came back to my room and saw Peter Nwogu who is my church member in my room. He told me that he travelled but couldn't reach home because it was late.

``I welcomed him as a church member, he then asked me if I have food, I gave him the food I warmed and I went to take my bath.’’

The defendent said when she came back from the bathroom, she saw the deceased with only his boxer and he made love advances to her.

``I tried to stop him, but he did not stop, we argued and in the process he forced me to sleep with him. I was shouting but nobody heard me.

``I bite him, he bite me too, he was so strong that I had to pour him acid that was in my room and I ran out to my landlord's room.’’

She added that she explained to her landlord what happened and he followed her to her room and saw the deceased who asked for help.

``The deceased asked my landlord to give him water, my landlord took his clothes in my room and gave him and I went to church to tell my parish priest what happened.

``I did not know that the acid I poured on him will lead to his death.

``I kept the acid in my room becasue I have been a victim of rape and there have been complains of breakings in my area.

``On Dec. 2, I went to Life Camp Police Station, Abuja, to report the matter but I was told that the matter has been reported as the deceased was already death.

The Prosecuting Counsel, Patrick Ogele, cross examined the defendent.

Justice Mamman Kolo adjourned the matter till July 1 for continuation of defence. (NAN)

After an eight month long negotiation, MTN has agreed to pay N330 billion ($1.7 billion) to the federal government over a space of three years.

The telecommunications outfit confirmed this in a statement issued on Friday, saying henceforth it will comply with the directives of the Nigerian Communications Commission (NCC).

MTN also said it will ensure the listing of its shares in the Nigerian Stock Exchange (NSE). The company pulled out of NSE amid the crisis, and later issued a statement to debunk reports that it was considering getting listed again.

“Further to several weeks of negotiations between MTN, NCC and the federal government, the following agreed terms have been announced. MTN will pay the NCC the sum of N330 billion in full and final settlement of the fine in line with an agreed payment plan,” MTN said on Friday.

“In addition to the monetary settlement, MTN Nigeria undertakes to: subscribe to the voluntary observance of the code of corporate governance for the telecommunications  industry and will ensure compulsory compliance. The company also undertakes to take immediate steps  to ensure listing of its shares on the Nigerian Stock Exchange as soon as is commercially and legally possible.”

The agreed sum is a third of N1.04 trillion penalty MTN got from the Nigerian Communications Commission (NCC) for failing  to comply with a directive to disconnect 5.1 million improperly registered lines.

Although the fine was subsequently reduced to N780 billion, MTN failed to pay the penalty, and even filed a suit against the government.

It eventually withdrew the case, and paid N50 billion toward a possible settlement.

Commenting on the settlement, Ferdi Moolman, chief executive officer of MTN Nigeria, said: “MTN Nigeria once again offers its most sincere apologies for the series of unfortunate events that led to the imposition of the fine” Elaborating further, he said, “It was of critical importance to reach a solution that would be of universal benefit to all stakeholders given the importance of the ICT industry in Nigeria and its tremendous impact on socio-economic growth. Along with the authorities, we believe that has been achieved.

“MTN Nigeria is undoubtedly one of Nigeria’s success stories. Broader public participation exemplifies this.”

President Muhammadu Buhari failed to comment on the sanction imposed on the telco until President Jacob Zuma, his South African counterpart visited the country in March.

Buhari had said the failure of the company to comply with the directive of NCC had an effect on the battle against insurgency.

“This is the first time I will be personally, as a president, making a public comment about it. The concern of the federal government is basically on the security and not the fine imposed on MTN,” he had said.

“You know how the unregistered GSM are being used by terrorists. And between 2009 and today, at least 10,000 Nigerians were killed by Boko Haram.”

Source : https://www.thecable.ng/breaking-fg-mtn-finally-resolve-fine#.V1q1YmE3Q2I.twitter

Minister of Information Lai Mohammed stated this at the ongoing inaugural town hall meeting holding in Abuja. The event, termed "Buharimeter" organized by Centre for Democracy and Development is aimed at assessing the one year in office of President Buhari and his administration.
Four other ministers, Babatunde Fashola(Power,Works, and Housing) Audu Ogbeh (Agriculture and Rural Development), Amina Mohammed (Environment) and Udo Udoma (Budget and National Planning) are also present at the town hall meeting.

A group within the Peoples Democratic Party, Concerned Stakeholders, has advised Governor Ayodele Fayose to focus on finding solutions to the unpaid salaries in Ekiti State rather than criticise the policies of the Federal Government.

The group, while reacting to Fayose’s recent criticisms of the Federal Government, said the governor was only seeking political relevance.

It said that Fayose continued to comment on national issues while the self-inflicted crisis in his state needed attention.

The group, in a statement signed by Prof. Tayo Akinyemi, on Wednesday, said Fayose should be proactive in resolving the state’s inability to pay workers’ salaries.

It said, “Fayose should adopt result-oriented negotiation skills and resolve his internal governance issues before considering what President Buhari has done right or wrong. Ekiti is only one of 36 states. If all the 36 states have to monitor the President’s steps, there would be commotion in the country. The governor must concentrate on governance with best practices in his state.

“President Buhari, according to our investigations, was pressurised by international organisations and well-meaning groups to adopt dialogue in handling the militancy in the Niger Delta, as it is done in the developed countries.

“As a listening President, who is ready to try other democratic options, Buhari yielded to this piece of advice in line with international practice. Buhari’s decision, therefore, has nothing whatsoever to do with Fayose’s statement.

“Fayose has no relevance in national issues and will be best advised to look for another way to achieve his political aspirations.”

Source : http://www.punchng.com/resolve-ekitis-problems-pdp-group-tells-fayose/

A new militant group, Ultimate Warriors of Niger Delta, has emerged with a threat to continue to attack oil and gas facilities across the Niger Delta region unless the Nigerian government agreed to award 60 per cent oil blocs to the people of the region.

The new group which spoke for the very first time on Wednesday also demanded that the federal government allow the $16 billion Export Processing Zone otherwise called Delta Gas City project begin operations in earnest.

It, however, gave the government a two-week ultimatum to ensure that their demands were adequately met for a lasting ceasefire in the region.

Spokesperson of Ultimate Warrior, as it chose to be addressed, Sibiri Taiowoh, in a statement obtained by our correspondent, said if the FG truly wants peace in the region, it should award 60 per cent oil bloc to indigenous people from the region as its primary demand for a ceasefire.

The group further asked for commencement of academic activities at Federal Maritime University established during the regime of former President Goodluck Jonathan.

Warning further, it said failure to meet its demands, would warrant total shutting down of vital oil facilities including Chevron BOP, Okan Platform, MEREN Gas Gathering Compression Platform and Chevron Tank Farm.

The statement added, “We are also behind the recent pipeline bombing in the Niger Delta region and I can assure you we will not stop until the EPZ project and the Maritime University are totally completed and start operations.

“We want to be the ones to be safe guarding oil pipeline in our area so as to create more jobs for our people. We would resist any attempt to give surveillance contracts of pipeline in our backyard to foreigners. We want the pipeline jobs to be given to our indigenous people.”

“We also want 60 per cent of the oil blocs to be allocated to the Niger Deltans just as the Federal Government has also allocated 80 per cent to those who are not from the oil producing area and just as 50 per cent of the resource was used to develop the non-oil area when we were producing cocoa and groundnut as main economic resources, the same 50 percent should be use to develop the Niger Delta region because we are the ones suffering the brunt of oil pollution and degradation in the region”, it further added.

Source: http://www.punchng.com/new-militant-group-emerges-demands-60-oil-bloc/?utm_source=&utm_medium=twitter

Dz shldnt b dt hard 2 phatom, we cn al c dt ders a camera man behind d images takin shot of d scene on d 3rd pictur.I gues evry1 jus wna bring up trivial topics 2 tlk abt ere on dz platform, n also b on d FP. Grow-up plz.......

Most ppl given comments ere dnt sim 2 undstnd wts rily goi on, i b'liv if one of ur fam members or friends r dead @ d hands of deze so-cald BH, i b'liv u wldnt b goin against deze nothern elders givn d FG an ultimatum. Bt u guys r in ur state whr dere aint any prob, tell me ow u wldnt run ur mouth n fingers recklessly 2 tlk n also type rubbish wn pple r dying 4 stupid reasons. We al nid 2 grow-up. Cz i rily weep 4 dz country. We r awfully blinded by hyprocrisy, greed n selfishnes. So plz alwys tink carefully b4 leavin comments...............

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