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Jasonharvey:
I understand ur plight. But going for a paramilitary job is very risky and frightening please. As u have found your heart throb, don't do anything that will make him cry. Am not trying to discourage you but paramilitary is not suitable for warriors. Please don't make your man cry over you. You are extremely lucky he has ur wellbeing at heart. Something not everyone will do. You might be worried which business to venture into. I suggest you try applying for N-power programme or try opening a boutique, hair saloon or something. You have a really supportive man, hold am tight oo.

than you very much for this I’m really great full

JOACHINpedro:
Op na your fellow baby girl talk that thing. Don't be surprised pls

I don’t think so, his moniker clearly carries the M sign

placeofallure:
OppyM, I'll never support that a woman stay and not work, SS or not. I know people who are SS that are old and are living fine. Please this are your life we are talking about. You've got to plan for eventualities. If he loves you, he should listen to you. At times with men, it may not be love, could be their ego ruling them. Convince him you wanna work. Both of you will save and plan your wedding and he won't have to sell his car or be indebted to anyone. Start your family early. 2023 is a long time abeg.

Thanks a lot my sister I really appreciate this

Dicedpineappple:
Exactly
But the "What ifs" that comes in this kinda situation is a whole lot...

Op, why not tell him you want to learn a skill,so he can't help you register for whatever you wanna learn and still continue with the wedding plans as well..

thanks baby girl, he said he wants something that won’t involve stress that’s why we came into a conclusion that I should open a shop. I know a little about hair making though

siofra:
Whateves!!!
It's the man's role to work like a horse for the woman.

you are deluded you just don’t have someone to tell you. Is that how the men in your family works like a horse. To even think you are a man vomiting this gibberish. Please don’t ever quote me again your mentality stinks that’s why we have a lot of women suffering after thier husbands death. People like you misled them. Tufiakwa

Lala please help me push this to front page

siofra:
Relass and be taken kiaroff

People like to stress themselves sha.

and what happens when he is fired or lose his job? You guys needs to understand this is the 21st century. Both genders are entitled to work. If he is the one who is SS will you advice him to sit down at home as well?

I had to create a new account to seek you guys opinion. I’m a lady in my mid 20s I have been dating my fiancé for a while and it has been great. I see a future with him and I’m thankful I met him.

The issue is I’m a warrior(SS) carrier , that’s what we call ourselves. I look absolutely normal unless I tell you, I doubt if you would notice this. I live normal like every other person, my looks is fine I’m even chubby a bit although I fall sick easily which is normal if you a carrier
Lala please can you help push to front page

My boyfriend genotype is AA which makes us compatible. The issue is we are planing to get married very soon (next year December) but I’m not comfortable the way this man treats me. He doesn’t allow me do anything anytime I visit, even my own meals and laundry is forbidden it makes me look so lazy.

Back at home I do chores as a normal being. I cook for the family wash my own clothes clean the house and all. I do normal Chores although they don’t let me overwork myself but I still work.

The issue now is my boyfriend is against me getting a job saying he is scared because of my health. I told him if I can make it through strenuous uni days why can’t I work. I know when he is serious and he is very skeptical about this. I told him if he doesn’t want me to work he can get a shop at least I won’t do much and he said he is fine with that.

The issue now is the money he budgeted for our wedding next December is what he plans to open a shop for me thereby further shifting the marriage plans to December 2023. I told him instead of doing that why don’t he let me take a job and we should continue with the wedding and all instead of wasting money he doesn’t have

NB: I have an offer waiting for me for a paramilitary job and his fear is that I’m not strong enough. He is even ready to sell his car to set me up. He is a good man but I want him to understand I can take care of myself . Why set me up for a business when I can easily work on my own