I had to create a new account to seek you guys opinion. I’m a lady in my mid 20s I have been dating my fiancé for a while and it has been great. I see a future with him and I’m thankful I met him.

The issue is I’m a warrior(SS) carrier , that’s what we call ourselves. I look absolutely normal unless I tell you, I doubt if you would notice this. I live normal like every other person, my looks is fine I’m even chubby a bit although I fall sick easily which is normal if you a carrier
Lala please can you help push to front page

My boyfriend genotype is AA which makes us compatible. The issue is we are planing to get married very soon (next year December) but I’m not comfortable the way this man treats me. He doesn’t allow me do anything anytime I visit, even my own meals and laundry is forbidden it makes me look so lazy.

Back at home I do chores as a normal being. I cook for the family wash my own clothes clean the house and all. I do normal Chores although they don’t let me overwork myself but I still work.

The issue now is my boyfriend is against me getting a job saying he is scared because of my health. I told him if I can make it through strenuous uni days why can’t I work. I know when he is serious and he is very skeptical about this. I told him if he doesn’t want me to work he can get a shop at least I won’t do much and he said he is fine with that.

The issue now is the money he budgeted for our wedding next December is what he plans to open a shop for me thereby further shifting the marriage plans to December 2023. I told him instead of doing that why don’t he let me take a job and we should continue with the wedding and all instead of wasting money he doesn’t have

NB: I have an offer waiting for me for a paramilitary job and his fear is that I’m not strong enough. He is even ready to sell his car to set me up. He is a good man but I want him to understand I can take care of myself . Why set me up for a business when I can easily work on my own

Relass and be taken kiaroff

People like to stress themselves sha.

siofra:
Relass and be taken kiaroff

People like to stress themselves sha.

and what happens when he is fired or lose his job? You guys needs to understand this is the 21st century. Both genders are entitled to work. If he is the one who is SS will you advice him to sit down at home as well?

Lala please help me push this to front page

O.p as a Sickle cell anaemia patient...
too much stress can trigger your seizures...
I will advice you stay away from jobs that have too much stress...
I will advise you learn a skill like tailoring or any other petty thing that can give your life meaning...
El-Rufai the governor of kano state is also a sickle cell patient...

Just do what you can and believe in yourself....

Aunty enjoy urself while it last...This is what every woman prays for but unfortunately they find husband like kpokpogri

Ok

This life no balanciaga...what most girls are praying for.

Marriage is not thesame as dating you guys should sit down and plan your lives well.
He should let you get a job, love is not enough when it comes to marriage oh.

He dy pamper you, he dy pack your sh*t e fit no happen again when marriage starts or the kids starts coming.

OppyM:
and what happens when he is fired or lose his job? You guys needs to understand this is the 21st century. Both genders are entitled to work. If he is the one who is SS will you advice him to sit down at home as well?

PLEASE FOR YOUR HEART N MAKE HIM UNDERSTAND YOUR VIEWS CUZ ALL THoSE SAYinG ALL THeSe ARE EITHER NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP or just there.U are totally in point cuz 2 heads are far better than one o

If that's the case, learn something instead. Maybe like tailoring or hair dressing.

Bombastically00:
Aunty enjoy urself while it last...This is what every woman prays for but unfortunately they find husband like kpokpogri

Exactly
But the "What ifs" that comes in this kinda situation is a whole lot...

Op, why not tell him you want to learn a skill,so he can't help you register for whatever you wanna learn and still continue with the wedding plans as well..

One devil beside my mind is tellin' me he saw something for his commitment...


Lol or you dey lie ni? !!! That's cool if he's genuine we should learn to love and also probably this union between you guys will let you tell a story to yaa children when choosing their partner ,SS is very risky...

I've lost beautiful angel cus of it ...!!!

Did you say you want to get a para millitary job

OppyM:
and what happens when he is fired or lose his job? You guys needs to understand this is the 21st century. Both genders are entitled to work. If he is the one who is SS will you advice him to sit down at home as well?

Whateves!!!
It's the man's role to work like a horse for the woman.

siofra:



Whateves!!!
It's the man's role to work like a horse for the woman.

you are deluded you just don’t have someone to tell you. Is that how the men in your family works like a horse. To even think you are a man vomiting this gibberish. Please don’t ever quote me again your mentality stinks that’s why we have a lot of women suffering after thier husbands death. People like you misled them. Tufiakwa

Dicedpineappple:



Exactly
But the "What ifs" that comes in this kinda situation is a whole lot...

Op, why not tell him you want to learn a skill,so he can't help you register for whatever you wanna learn and still continue with the wedding plans as well..

thanks baby girl, he said he wants something that won’t involve stress that’s why we came into a conclusion that I should open a shop. I know a little about hair making though

OppyM, I'll never support that a woman stay and not work, SS or not. I know people who are SS that are old and are living fine. Please this is your life we are talking about. You've got to plan for eventualities. If he loves you, he should listen to you. At times with men, it may not be love, could be their ego ruling them. Convince him you wanna work. Both of you will save and plan your wedding and he won't have to sell his car or be indebted to anyone. Start your family early. 2023 is a long time abeg.

placeofallure:
OppyM, I'll never support that a woman stay and not work, SS or not. I know people who are SS that are old and are living fine. Please this are your life we are talking about. You've got to plan for eventualities. If he loves you, he should listen to you. At times with men, it may not be love, could be their ego ruling them. Convince him you wanna work. Both of you will save and plan your wedding and he won't have to sell his car or be indebted to anyone. Start your family early. 2023 is a long time abeg.

Thanks a lot my sister I really appreciate this

OppyM:
Thanks a lot my sister I really appreciate this

You're welcome.

OppyM:
you are deluded you just don’t have someone to tell you. Is that how the men in your family works like a horse. To even think you are a man vomiting this gibberish. Please don’t ever quote me again your mentality stinks that’s why we have a lot of women suffering after thier husbands death. People like you misled them. Tufiakwa

Op na your fellow baby girl talk that thing. Don't be surprised pls

JOACHINpedro:


Op na your fellow baby girl talk that thing. Don't be surprised pls

I don’t think so, his moniker clearly carries the M sign

OppyM:
I don’t think so, his moniker clearly carries the M sign

Welcome to Nairaland

OppyM:
I had to create a new account to seek you guys opinion. I’m a lady in my mid 20s I have been dating my fiancé for a while and it has been great. I see a future with him and I’m thankful I met him.

The issue is I’m a warrior(SS) carrier , that’s what we call ourselves. I look absolutely normal unless I tell you, I doubt if you would notice this. I live normal like every other person, my looks is fine I’m even chubby a bit although I fall sick easily which is normal if you a carrier
Lala please can you help push to front page

My boyfriend genotype is AA which makes us compatible. The issue is we are planing to get married very soon (next year December) but I’m not comfortable the way this man treats me. He doesn’t allow me do anything anytime I visit, even my own meals and laundry is forbidden it makes me look so lazy.

Back at home I do chores as a normal being. I cook for the family wash my own clothes clean the house and all. I do normal Chores although they don’t let me overwork myself but I still work.

The issue now is my boyfriend is against me getting a job saying he is scared because of my health. I told him if I can make it through strenuous uni days why can’t I work. I know when he is serious and he is very skeptical about this. I told him if he doesn’t want me to work he can get a shop at least I won’t do much and he said he is fine with that.

The issue now is the money he budgeted for our wedding next December is what he plans to open a shop for me thereby further shifting the marriage plans to December 2023. I told him instead of doing that why don’t he let me take a job and we should continue with the wedding and all instead of wasting money he doesn’t have

NB: I have an offer waiting for me for a paramilitary job and his fear is that I’m not strong enough. He is even ready to sell his car to set me up. He is a good man but I want him to understand I can take care of myself . Why set me up for a business when I can easily work on my own

Paramilitary job?No try am.

Try convince him to let you get a job that won't require you to walk too much.More like sitting at the computer working you get?
This is because of rainy days when finances wants to be a problem, you can easily step in.

Calm down... You think he will continue pampering you even after marriage? This is the honeymoon phase...

You're one of the luckiest women on earth right now. He knew about your condition, accepts you, and even cares for you to that extent. The fact that he doesn't want you doing heavy work because of your condition shows he loves you. You can start with the light-duty job he suggested.

My advice: Don't lose him and never take him for granted. You'll deeply regret it if you do. Hold him tight and appreciate every single effort he's made or making.

OppyM:
I had to create a new account to seek you guys opinion. I’m a lady in my mid 20s I have been dating my fiancé for a while and it has been great. I see a future with him and I’m thankful I met him.

The issue is I’m a warrior(SS) carrier , that’s what we call ourselves. I look absolutely normal unless I tell you, I doubt if you would notice this. I live normal like every other person, my looks is fine I’m even chubby a bit although I fall sick easily which is normal if you a carrier
Lala please can you help push to front page

My boyfriend genotype is AA which makes us compatible. The issue is we are planing to get married very soon (next year December) but I’m not comfortable the way this man treats me. He doesn’t allow me do anything anytime I visit, even my own meals and laundry is forbidden it makes me look so lazy.

Back at home I do chores as a normal being. I cook for the family wash my own clothes clean the house and all. I do normal Chores although they don’t let me overwork myself but I still work.

The issue now is my boyfriend is against me getting a job saying he is scared because of my health. I told him if I can make it through strenuous uni days why can’t I work. I know when he is serious and he is very skeptical about this. I told him if he doesn’t want me to work he can get a shop at least I won’t do much and he said he is fine with that.

The issue now is the money he budgeted for our wedding next December is what he plans to open a shop for me thereby further shifting the marriage plans to December 2023. I told him instead of doing that why don’t he let me take a job and we should continue with the wedding and all instead of wasting money he doesn’t have

NB: I have an offer waiting for me for a paramilitary job and his fear is that I’m not strong enough. He is even ready to sell his car to set me up. He is a good man but I want him to understand I can take care of myself . Why set me up for a business when I can easily work on my own

OppyM:
I had to create a new account to seek you guys opinion. I’m a lady in my mid 20s I have been dating my fiancé for a while and it has been great. I see a future with him and I’m thankful I met him.

The issue is I’m a warrior(SS) carrier , that’s what we call ourselves. I look absolutely normal unless I tell you, I doubt if you would notice this. I live normal like every other person, my looks is fine I’m even chubby a bit although I fall sick easily which is normal if you a carrier
Lala please can you help push to front page

My boyfriend genotype is AA which makes us compatible. The issue is we are planing to get married very soon (next year December) but I’m not comfortable the way this man treats me. He doesn’t allow me do anything anytime I visit, even my own meals and laundry is forbidden it makes me look so lazy.

Back at home I do chores as a normal being. I cook for the family wash my own clothes clean the house and all. I do normal Chores although they don’t let me overwork myself but I still work.

The issue now is my boyfriend is against me getting a job saying he is scared because of my health. I told him if I can make it through strenuous uni days why can’t I work. I know when he is serious and he is very skeptical about this. I told him if he doesn’t want me to work he can get a shop at least I won’t do much and he said he is fine with that.

The issue now is the money he budgeted for our wedding next December is what he plans to open a shop for me thereby further shifting the marriage plans to December 2023. I told him instead of doing that why don’t he let me take a job and we should continue with the wedding and all instead of wasting money he doesn’t have

NB: I have an offer waiting for me for a paramilitary job and his fear is that I’m not strong enough. He is even ready to sell his car to set me up. He is a good man but I want him to understand I can take care of myself . Why set me up for a business when I can easily work on my own

bro..wow .so u were pampers ...correct?...how old r u sir?(no oofenese)

OppyM:
I had to create a new account to seek you guys opinion. I’m a lady in my mid 20s I have been dating my fiancé for a while and it has been great. I see a future with him and I’m thankful I met him.

The issue is I’m a warrior(SS) carrier , that’s what we call ourselves. I look absolutely normal unless I tell you, I doubt if you would notice this. I live normal like every other person, my looks is fine I’m even chubby a bit although I fall sick easily which is normal if you a carrier
Lala please can you help push to front page

My boyfriend genotype is AA which makes us compatible. The issue is we are planing to get married very soon (next year December) but I’m not comfortable the way this man treats me. He doesn’t allow me do anything anytime I visit, even my own meals and laundry is forbidden it makes me look so lazy.

Back at home I do chores as a normal being. I cook for the family wash my own clothes clean the house and all. I do normal Chores although they don’t let me overwork myself but I still work.

The issue now is my boyfriend is against me getting a job saying he is scared because of my health. I told him if I can make it through strenuous uni days why can’t I work. I know when he is serious and he is very skeptical about this. I told him if he doesn’t want me to work he can get a shop at least I won’t do much and he said he is fine with that.

The issue now is the money he budgeted for our wedding next December is what he plans to open a shop for me thereby further shifting the marriage plans to December 2023. I told him instead of doing that why don’t he let me take a job and we should continue with the wedding and all instead of wasting money he doesn’t have

NB: I have an offer waiting for me for a paramilitary job and his fear is that I’m not strong enough. He is even ready to sell his car to set me up. He is a good man but I want him to understand I can take care of myself . Why set me up for a business when I can easily work on my own

Now listen, For ur own good. take the parimillitary job. Don't depend on him. Earn ur money so that u will earn the respect u deserve from him. Why?
1. U don't know tomorrow.
2. What if he loses his job?
3. What if he changes from who he used to be?
4. What if he starts experiencing difficulty financially? How would u cope? To avoid had i know, take the paramillitary job, because it's a govt job. Don't fear, U won't die. There are lots of women doing the job. Besides, they don't stress women like the way they stress men.

OppyM:
thanks baby girl, he said he wants something that won’t involve stress that’s why we came into a conclusion that I should open a shop. I know a little about hair making though

It's fine... You can use that...

U're welcome dear

OppyM:
I had to create a new account to seek you guys opinion. I’m a lady in my mid 20s I have been dating my fiancé for a while and it has been great. I see a future with him and I’m thankful I met him.

The issue is I’m a warrior(SS) carrier , that’s what we call ourselves. I look absolutely normal unless I tell you, I doubt if you would notice this. I live normal like every other person, my looks is fine I’m even chubby a bit although I fall sick easily which is normal if you a carrier
Lala please can you help push to front page

My boyfriend genotype is AA which makes us compatible. The issue is we are planing to get married very soon (next year December) but I’m not comfortable the way this man treats me. He doesn’t allow me do anything anytime I visit, even my own meals and laundry is forbidden it makes me look so lazy.

Back at home I do chores as a normal being. I cook for the family wash my own clothes clean the house and all. I do normal Chores although they don’t let me overwork myself but I still work.

The issue now is my boyfriend is against me getting a job saying he is scared because of my health. I told him if I can make it through strenuous uni days why can’t I work. I know when he is serious and he is very skeptical about this. I told him if he doesn’t want me to work he can get a shop at least I won’t do much and he said he is fine with that.

The issue now is the money he budgeted for our wedding next December is what he plans to open a shop for me thereby further shifting the marriage plans to December 2023. I told him instead of doing that why don’t he let me take a job and we should continue with the wedding and all instead of wasting money he doesn’t have

NB: I have an offer waiting for me for a paramilitary job and his fear is that I’m not strong enough. He is even ready to sell his car to set me up. He is a good man but I want him to understand I can take care of myself . Why set me up for a business when I can easily work on my own

I understand ur plight. But going for a paramilitary job is very risky and frightening please. As u have found your heart throb, don't do anything that will make him cry. Am not trying to discourage you but paramilitary is not suitable for warriors. Please don't make your man cry over you. You are extremely lucky he has ur wellbeing at heart. Something not everyone will do. You might be worried which business to venture into. I suggest you try applying for N-power programme or try opening a boutique, hair saloon or something. You have a really supportive man, hold am tight oo.