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adanny01:
I am disappointed in you

Your own out of wedlock child cannot possibly disappear because of your wife and children.

Be a man, it's either your wife accepts the baby or leave you to your responsibilities. If your wife is a reàsonable person, she will do what's right

Thanks. She said she want to see her this evening and will accept her if the DNA confirm that I am her father. I will do it this Friday

Jesuisbelle:
Tell your wife

OK thanks. She is aware of the situation

aroundtheearth:
It does look like the child is yours if she has those features that are unique to you. That said, confirm your assumption with a DNA test and once you've ascertained she's yours, have her stay with you and you take care of her yourself there in Senegal where you're based. If you can't do that and I don't see why you shouldn't, find an adoption agency and have a loving family adopt her.

While you do have to tell your wife about this child at one point because this isn't a secret you can keep forever, sending her to Nigeria for your wife to take care of when you're in Senegal wouldn't be a wise decision. If you were in Nigeria living with your family, then having her stay with y'all wouldn't be a bad idea, as you would be there to see how your wife treats her and to put her in check if she maltreats her, but you're not there. Unless you're planning to return to Nigeria anytime soon, then take her along, tell your wife and keep a watchful eye on how she treats the kid; otherwise for the sake of the child, don't send her to your wife in Nigeria without you being there.

OK thanks. Just want to clarify that my wife is not in Nigeria, she is here in Senegal.

crackhaus:
There's no proof that you kidnapped the little girl, don't let fearmongering get to you please.

Even if anyone accuses you of kidnap (highly unlikely), there's no proof of that simply because it never happened.

Relax yourself and go get a DNA test done.

Thanks. Am going to do the DNA on Wednesday /thrusday.

Mindlog:
What of the phone number(s) you used to communicate with her when the affair was going on, the number she blocked you from?

The child in your custody is enough evidence for the police. Be the first to visit the police and make sure your wife knows what is happening, before the police visits you.

Please change the illegitimate child on your title to my child out of wedlock.

OK thanks once again.

Mindlog:
You must immediately go report to the police, provide them with the pictures of the woman, if you still have access to them and the phone number(s) she was using to communicate with you when you both were intimate partners because it is way beyond going to beg your wife in order to bring the child home....it is a police case.

Unfortunately I don't have any of it. On the day she drop off the child she gave me a number which was wrong. Have been calling the number with no avail. I believe she is somewhere heren in Dakar. she has been stalking me for a long time now that's why she had my office address because there is no way that she came to Dakar just to drop off the child. Can I still report to the police without any evidence?

Mindlog:
OP, you have a very long journey ahead of you....
since you said you are in Senegal, I am assuming your daughter's mother is Senegalese, which also makes your daughter a Senegalese alongside a Nigerian. I believe the child's birth was registered, so you need to search out the woman and where the birth was registered as you have in custody a child that you can be accused of kidnapping even if your DNA matches.

Thanks for your suggestion. It will be very tricky for me to do all that because I don't have much details about the mother and I don't even know the child surname or date of birth but I will try to do some research.

culf:
I'm happy she kept the pregnancy. That child needs love and care. what you're doing to the little baby is wrong please
Confess and plead for forgiveness from your wife. if you're not bold enough, talk to someone she respect to help you out.


goodluck

Noted thanks

Gloriagee:
@OP, You used HER whenever u can sounds so degrading. Is she an object?

Sorry, what i meant to say was that I used to visit her whenever I can.

sisisioge:
Biko if you perceive that your wife may not care for the child well, please let your mom, sister or any other female in your family care for her. Her silly mom already abandoned her, biko dont abandon her too. It is well.

As for your wife, na tell you go tell am. She wont kill you.

We are based in Senegal and my family are in Nigeria. There's no way I can take her back to Nigeria right now.

sweetmelanin:
You're calling this child illegitimate.. but how are you certain the ones your wife has for you are "legitimate"? Conduct DNA on ALL your kids before you start labelling them...

I am 1000% sure they are all mine because my girls look exactly like me but my son look like my wife but they are mine. I have no doubt about them even my illegimate child I am 1000% sure she is mine because she look exactly like me and has a birthmark in the same spot as me.

zangaozanga:
What ever you do remember that child is innocent

Thanks. I know she is innocent that's why I don't want her to suffer and I am also confuse because I don't know how to give her a better life without loosing my wife and children.

KidDarkness:
Best thing you can do for your daughter is to take her to your home ASAP because she's your flesh and blood but first sit your wife down and confess your shortcomings. Next time tuck in your dick

Thanks. I am scared I don't want to loose my wife and children. I have learnt a lesson and I have never cheated again.

FairlyUSEDpussy:
Nothing Oo brother.......
Yo child remains yo child.....
Yo blood is yo blood......

Just take responsibility of the kid okay........but before then just make sure u conduct DNA test on her first to clear yo doubts.......

Who knows..........she might even be your only biological child...........just saying anyway......

Thanks. She look exactly like me and she has a birthmark in the same spot as me. I am 100% sure she is definitely mine but I will also conduct a DNA later just to be sure.

Six yrs ago I left my city to a different city for a greener pasture, I left behind my wife and 2 children. I was a faithful husband to my wife and used her whenever I can everything was peaceful. Then come 2018 I have had planned to return back to my city in 2018 ending because I have had saved a lot of money to start business over there. Then the devil came to tempt me by sending me this beautiful woman till now I don't know how I gave in to her because I have vowed all my life to never cheat on my wife. But this lady won me over. We started dating and always sleep with her with condoms on to make sure that she doesn't get pregnant. But I was shocked jsut three months into the relationship, she drop a bombshell that she was pregnant, I was confused and I asked her what about all the condoms that I have been using and there's no way she could be pregnant but she insisted that I was the father. I told her I wasn't ready for the baby and I am married all I could ever do for her is to give her the money to terminated but she refused. She wanted to keep the pregnancy so I told her to keep it at her own risk because I will have nothing to do with her or the baby. I gave her the money incase she change her mind and decided to opt for the abortion she can use the money. She left my place in tears and she blocked me. I didn't know see her again till I left the city back to my city, actually I knew her house but I didn't bothered to go look for her. It has been 2 years plus since I am back with my family and I have never told my wife anything and she has never found out about my affair too. Last week I was in my office ( I am self employee) to my suprised the lady I had an affair with show up with a small girl who just look like me first time seeing her I was in tears . I was in shocked  and started wondering how did she know my office I was angry what if my wife was there but I decided to keep my cool and listen to her. She said she was attending a funeral jsut 10 mins away from my place and she begged me to watch the child for her and she will be back in an hour. I asked her about the person who gave her my office address but she didn't respond she said she will tell me when she return back. She gave me her number to call her incase of any problem. Honestly I don't know how I have accepted to watch the child for her thinking that she will be coming in a hour like she said, but she never came back. Her number was not reachable she also gave me a wrong number. I was shattered and I didn't know what to do with the child, I was at my office until 10pm trying to figure out what to do with her. At the end I have to drop her at my cleaner house where she is now. My cleaner hasn't been coming to work because she is taking care of the child and I am restless because I have no idea what to do with her. I blamed the lady for everything when I have asked her and given her the money for the abortion and why did she choose to keep the pregnancy then later to abandoned her with me when she fully know that I never wanted her in the first place. What will I tell my wife and will she forgive and accept her that easily. I love my wife and kids so I don't want to this my illegitimate child issue to break my home. Please house advixe me.