hmmmnnn my brother pls exercise patience and try to communicate with your lady her fears..your worries and see how you can finetune it, i experience similar thing when i newly got married, the fear that grip me is out of this world, thank God my hubby was calm with me even though we bought diff jelly,visit our family doctor for counselling and all, thank God for my man understanding which finally gave us access to the THING, ..pls dont be fed up with WHATSOEVER YOU MIGHT HAVE ENCOUNTER BEFORE NOW,its a gradual process and collective effort entering her treasure island,pls ensure you calm her down and let her know its your right to consummate as couple,i am certain she will crave for her babies which wont fall from heaven but through this means...give her lots of pre-intimacy, let her calm down , lubricate each other very well and at once penetrate her jerusalem, fine it could be painful but the hidden pleasure is waaaawu..all the best bro