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Thanks to everyone who has given advice. Your comments and suggestions are noted.

mrblessed:
Your predicament is akin to most financially dependent house wives, who are well aware of the flirtatious disposition of their husbands but are sacred to death to quit the union due to the financial difficulties that would naturally trail separation and divorce. Which man will learn of his wife's sexual escapade and refuse to following her to the venue to catch her right in the act? As someone who decides to play the ostrich, you resorted to "making faces" at her after she might have warmed the bed of another man, as a sign that you understood her games and got the right reward. If you were keen on shaming her, what stopped you from monitoring her movement to the rendezvous and raising alarm if possible? You can't stand idly by and pretend that what you know didn't exist simply because of the fear of the unknown. Do something fast.

Since it is pretty clear that your unfavorable financial standing has rendered you impotent, why not concentrate on doing damage control, instead of asking strangers online what to do, when you are not willing to confront her with the irrefutable evidence at your disposal.

Thanks for this. But may I inform you that I finance my home. At present, the covid19 effects on the economy has affected my finance, even at that we still still do the spending together. Thanks all the same

[quote author=obiekunie2 post=93548375]what do you mean by this statement?

by "made out together" are you saying you knew your wife bleeped the guy?

and you are so cool about it?

SO WHATS YOUR STRESS NOW? SINCE YOU KNOW YOUR WIFE HAS TWO HUSBANDS - ONE A SIMP DADDY THAT SHARES A HOME WITH HER AND THE OTHER A PH BASED ALPHA THAT REMOTE CONTROLS HER.

Oga abeg just free us no time for all this simp guys stories - fuel price is now 162 per litre and nepa don increase nepa bill by x10 so we have too much issues on our hand now tht there is no time to console simp niggars.[/quote

You may need to read my post again. While courting, we had a misunderstanding and separated. That was when she met the guy.

Palema007:
Your foundation was faulty. While dating/courting she got intimate with a guy, you guys settled and got married. Did you make sure she cut off the guy before marrying her?

See, while I try as much as possible to be forgiving, two things I don't take is betrayal and cheating. While I may let go of the former with precautions i cant the latter. Cheats don't change! Let no one tell you otherwise, except the person gives his or her life to Christ sha.

Thanks but if you asked me before now, I will tell you she's not a cheat. We dated 6yrs before marriage. I took her virginity at the age of 27. I think she's been influenced by social media.

BakedCake:
the fact that you have kids is the only thing there if not ... I for advice you to free her ..so I would say focus on your kids and also remember NO HUMAN BEING is worth your happiness!

also without knowing you I can guess you are a predictable guy ... daddy daddy good guy guy ....women hate that shit... become unpredictable for a change ..

women are fixers they love to fix things ... give her something to fix... start having female friends ... don't cheat but hang with em ... come home and leave unexpectedly with a " I am coming " cruise and even if she asks where you dey go just keep saying the same shit haha .. it starts to mess with her mind and she go dey try figure you out .. you son give am work be that ......

kai this ogogoro strong oooo 43 %

when where was I ... my brother the lord is your strong.

You have analysed me perfectly bro. I think I am too weak a man. She can easily predict me. She noticed my countenance tonight and started trying to play around me. I have decided I am going back to my work station this weekend without informing her. My present financial situation also doesn't help.

Prof0fficial:
what do you expect when you marry a pretty woman. I can't see myself getting jealous for my woman when I'm 100% more cute..

If I consider beauty, she's the least I would choose for marriage. She was a friend, a Coursemate. I needed more than beauty when I married her. Maybe I chose wrongly

KristaPretty:
Find a way to catch her red handed, let her know that she has been caught in the act.

Secondly this needs a deep conversation between you both. During your discussion questions like what you are not doing right should be asked from you to her or what you are lacking that she needs you to work on in order to be better. Remember women are easily fooled by words they are told, try to complement her often give her enough nacks that she will be cripple. In general just converse with her heart to heart when there is a good mood in the house or at night.

Finally, please use magun on her so that she and any man she straffs will gum together
This is not a joking matter and infidelity should never be tolerated in Marriage. This is to save you from unnecessary heartaches and diseases!
If she is tired it's better for her to leave so she can do whatever ahe wants without hiding or giving you emotional
torture. she cannot eat her cake and have it!

I gave you options, chose one. Option 3 is fastest. no time.

I think the first option is what I will choose. I don't think she can even listen. Magun is a no no. I am not that desperate. . Thanks all the same

I am a young married man with 2 kids. The marriage is 6yrs now. Due to the situation of the country, we’ve not been staying together. I hustle in a University environment in one of the states in Southwest while she works as a freelance for some organizations in Lagos.

I normally come home (Lagos) on monthly basis. But during this lockdown, I have been in Lagos with my family.

Prior to our marriage, there is this guy she met when we had some misunderstanding. They started a date but later called it off when we settled. She didn’t give me the details but based on what I read on her phone back then, I knew they made out together. The said guy is now in Port Harcourt but I am aware he normally comes to Lagos.

Just today, I heard my wife giving someone a description of where they will meet somewhere in Agege (where she uses as her office). I was curious to know the person. I didn’t ask her because she would find a story to cover up. I found a way to check her phone and saw that her ex - the said guy was the one who called. May I say that we have fought over this guy several times even before and after our marriage. She won’t let this guy be in her past. She’s either calling the guy or the guy is calling her. This time, I chose not to raise my voice but monitor her closely. She left home for work today. I may not be able to give details but every surrounding clue indicates that my wife has a date today. She returned home and I found a way to check her whatsapp but alas she has deleted her chats with the guy.

Just this night again, she received a call from another man asking her when she would come to his office. She once told me that the man was asking her out. In all these, I want to believe my wife is up to something. Infidelity is the last I would accept in this marriage.

Should I confront her with all these observations? Please, I am confused.