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My ideal lady for a relationship that could lead to marriage should be working (in a corporate entity or doing a legitimate biz) in any part of the country preferably Lagos.

So, a full-time housewife is a no-no:

> not more than 34yrs old
> single or single mother or widowed; and
> tribe and religion will not be a problem.

I'm reachable on oludairo@yahoo.com for only that serious lady, please. I'm sure we will have a lot to talk about and great if we click together.

Life's about happiness and marriage is not meant to be endured but enjoyed..

Good morning NLanders, I took some time off just to clear my head.

I decided to inform her, she saw my evidences so it was easy for her to blame the devil and that it was just one-off. As a Christian, I opted to forgive her but forgetting this issue is a nightmare and she's doing little to help. I remember this dent daily and we are not really living like a couple for a long time now.

Now, I have expanded my option to include remarrying so as to finally push her out.

My ideal lady must be working (in a corporate entity or doing a legitimate biz), a full-time housewife is a no-no, not more than 34yrs old, single or single mother and tribe and religion will not be a problem. I'm reachable on oludairo@yahoo.com for only that serious lady, please. I'm sure we will have a lot to talk about and good if we click together.

Life's about happiness and marriage is not meant to be endured but enjoyed. My parents are now aware and they are in support of my next action.

Good morning once more, NLanders.

Thank you very much, Bro

movement2020:
Good the court are not in process. Good, you also have patience to ask on how to handle it perfectly. I appreciate that in you. You are manly.

Now, to the solution. It's going to be a hard one. I don't know how you can handle what am about to advise but with your patience and manly stand, I think you would be able.

Op, this life, we are faced with different tribulations. Yours will differ from mine. To be frank, you went too far and now you have to be bold enough to face the consequence. It's just like couples checking each other's phone. They will definitely see something they never planned. Either get depressed or break up.

You have two options but before you take any, let the children in question be your first reason to decide

The first option is, tell your wife and seek for divorce. If you divorce, your daughter would live separately which is a problem to you because rarely would have the chance to train her.

Second, take it as your destiny. The greatest secret you will take down to your grave. Accept fate, forgive and move on as if nothing happened. It's easy said than done but that's the truth. We all have secrets and this should be added to yours. Love your wife as well.

nuelyoyo:
Please how much did you pay for the DNA test?

Father is 40 - 50k and same amount each for each child whereas mum is free.

The above is for PERSONAL whereas LEGAL is about 10k - 20k added for each. LEGAL is tenable at embassies and courtrooms while PERSONAL is basically for peace of mind as the name connotes.

There are many labs taking swab samples in Nigeria and the price is negotiable.

I hope that clarifies.

NoToPile:
@bolded Oh really Death nko.

As for the OP, so sorry you are passing through this betrayal, just ensure you confirm the child wasnt swapped or something, do a DNA test to confirm if its truly her own child.

God help you.

Thanks for the question.

I was in the hospital labour room (theater) when the baby was born, cleaned up in my presence and handed over to me. It happened in a private hospital and ours was the only birth that day. There was absolutely no swap.

I really appreciate all the (good, bad and ugly) comments here which would help me in taking an informed decision in the next few hours.

Yes it is a real life story (yes 99.9999% true) and it can only happen to the living and it is only the living that can find a workable solution.

The MOD here can help push this my story to the front page.

First, this moniker was created for this purpose.

So here is my true life story...I wedded my wife (white and traditional) in early 2004 now a little over 15 years ago while I was around 25yrs old. The courtship was about a year and there was no premarital defilement which was encouraged by long distance relationship and above all our Biblical belief.

Now we have 2 children, a boy and a girl, and the first (i.e. a boy) does not look like me at all. He was conceived while she was schooling in one of the south western states (and living off camp) whereas I was in Lagos hustling to pay our bills. She took in immediately after her service and our first child is 12yrs plus.

Due to the free time caused by the CORVID19 effect I decided to clear my worries by doing DNA test on my 2 children and below is the summarized results:

1) SON
- Combined Paternity Index = 0
- Probability of Paternity = 0%

2) DAUGHTER
- Combined Paternity Index = 5,008,715,850
- Probability of Paternity = 99.99999998%

I have known about this result for almost a week now and I intend to file for divorce but the courts are virtually closed according to my lawyer.

Truth is DNA does NOT lie so should I still confront her with this my concrete evidence before the pending legal action?

Should I be bothered about what happens to the (innocent) boy?

Is there anything like mercy or forgiveness?

What else should I do at this moment?

Abeg, I do not want to commit murder during this period....please help!

Very mature advice-s could be sent directly to oludairo@yahoo.com