Thanks everyone for ur advice, there was no faith in the union and that played a part. We were together nine years.

Thank you very much Ronald4lif! ur advice will be of benefit to me. We didn't have kids together as we were busy working and studying, I have a child of my own who is 11 (not his). Life has to go on I guess....

We were both based in Ireland, I'm Irish, he relocated to Canada. I have no clue where he is now

Thank you, we lived in Ireland were I'm from , he had a very good job here already. I meant to say I travelled to Nigeria on va ction many a time over the years. Time is a great healer and hopefully all in good time I will accept things better.

Hi everyone, I was married to a Nigerian Igbo man for eight years.. we had a good marriage and he decided to travel to Canada. When he left I asked him if everything was okay and he said yes of course. However, he told me three months after he travelled that I should move on that he didnt want me to follow him to Canada. I suffered a mental breakdown. We owned a house together and the bank took it and sold it without us even knowing. He left me in Aug 2012, I know its been three years but I still miss him very dearly. I have tried locating him through relatives but with no success. I really want to be able to move on. I used to travel to Nigeria and was a very good wife to him.