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Goldrosewine:
This does not imply sexual interests, abeg o just bored today on this holiday and I have decided to rant here, since I saw a similar post recently about a guy saying confidence is what a lady cannot resist in a man. I won't appreciate any unsolicited messages🙏

Dentition: Gap teeth (you know what I mean, especially a small one right between the central incisors) or just between the lateral incisor and canine)

Thick wrist (not fats deposit, just wrists with a wide circumference)

Minimal or no bodily hairs. Yeah a lot will hate me for this, just my opinion which may change or not. But those beards, chest or armpit hairs? Taah!

Height. However you must not be too tall. I am 5:9 so anything from 5:6 to 5:11 is perfect.

Modesty and awesomeness (not extreme masculinity) I am not a feminist abeg. I like guys that are gentle, pull the chair for you at the restaurant, hold an umbrella for you, hold the door open for you, just being a gentleman. Absolute modesty and simple too. Not a show off dude haha!

Healthy lifestyle. There is nothing I dislike more than a guy who smokes or drinks or do both. I don't just dislike them, I h-word them. Take your good health seriously guys, go for rehab if you need to.

Small inner circle. Guys with few or no friends. The introvert who enjoys his own company.

Respectful. The guy that still prostrate to greet his dad at 30 years, still run errands for his mom at 35 (not necessarily because he is living with them, but maybe sometimes when he visits or when they give him an emergency call) that level of respect is the norm for every omoluabi.

Not bald. As much as I dislike body hairs, e no reach head abeg🤣

Belly fat. (Not pot belly) I love belly fat in a man, especially the type that gives him the wealthy boy vibe when he's in a native. I don't know but in Benin republic, I once saw this muscular, six pack guy that bullied people and he had an altercation with this gentle guy who looks ordinary, he even had a fatty belly. Against what people thought, it was the muscular guy that needed saving o, see blue black beating. Lol. It kind of left an impression on me.

Speech intelligence. Even if you no know book, just have good oratory skills and be eloquent. I would like to see my man on a podium speaking with great eloquence while I sit in the crowd or assembly just admiring him and looking at how other ladies are admiring him😊🥰🥰🥰 aiish

Phobia. Scared of snakes or rats or spiders or cocroaches lol even my cousin would tell me I will never find this trait in a Nigerian man. But I am not scared of those things. So I would really like a guy that has such fears, that way I would be able to do something for him and it would make me feel good🤦🙈 it's hard to explain honestly.🥲🥲


Ambitious. he dreams big, not jealous of success, just envying it and ambitious to reach the top too.

Laughs a lot. That would be golden!

He cries. Like, weep Take this from me. If you ever express your sadness in tears while in your girl's arm, it does something to her heart... she'd start clutching to you so hard. Don't be manly all the time. Sometimes, just let the feelings flow. Life is already hard for everyone, talkless a man.🥺 I feel u guys.

Straight legs No vex but I dislike wobbly legs... and many guys have come to have a sort of disfigured legs due to bad walking posture, trying to copy one silly trend or so, etc.

Gentle with kids and pets That would be another golden trait!

Extremely decent with words and actions when in public The way he eats, talks, interact, just everything. Especially in Nigeria where people judge you by your countenance and how you 'carry' yourself.

You know the sort of guys that gleefully talk about women's body parts in public? That's so uncouth and all ladies detest such.

Gold🌹🍷


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0-95cqxPow4?si=RfwAJTJ6f6g1w_fg

Honestly op, I would never notice you in a crowd so why should I care about your likes and dislikes, attraction and turnoffs? Am only interested in a lady who would give me head every now and then whether she be slim, chubby, fair or dark

I always see businesses thrive in community where ayo thrives.

Food stuff! High patronage, no need to buy food. Can make tailoring 1week profit in 2days.

Bro put call regularly, especially during the evening when you think she must have returned from work and prolly relaxing. Crack silly jokes, inquire about her day/work, tell her you want to visit, ask her to visit you, talk about feeding. Don't act shy, only drop sm messages in the morning., people have tight schedule bro and prefers to speak rather than chat then also wants people to know they are talking to someone. Don't call (often) in the afternoon if she works.

We did love them regardless.

Love800:
So what job are you doing in the village?

I am basically a trader, buy from local farmers in smaller quantity, store it then sale to factory/manufacturers in large quantities. Raw Food business moves too, these farmers own large farms and basically never runs out of cash.

She snap with another guy and posted when she has never posted me. Na once I block am come ghost am join.

Una no dey catch babe online like for fb you follow am talk?

I throw salute for people who still do relationship. If I pity you too much we can be distant friends with nothing involve. The last person I was romantically involved with, after tolerating what I normally wouldn't take for too long, I withdrew, change mobile and WhatsApp numbers, deleted fb acct. Its been 5 yrs now and i just added her back on fb out of pity but would never message her

Am not sorry for her. Make she go learn work wookup no dey pay forever and her love isn't enough.

Wotowotoman:
See lamba. This Ogbeni 👆wey soapy don peel all him preek finish

I can bet my balls you don't know what a p ussy, I mean toto feel like with or without condom.

What our guys fail to realize is that keeping malice is and has never being the solution in any type of relationship platonic, romantic, workplace, siblings and should not to even be considered in marriage. Communication they say is the key for a successful relationship. If you communicate how you feel with your partner or the person you intend to keep malice with and the person do not amend their way the best solution is to let them know you are breaking off.

COOL10:
I intentionally decided not to pay much attention to the whole Chike - Frank Edoho cheating scandal because I knew Nigerian women and some simps would always find a way to blame Frank Edoho for it.


Since too many people have been talking about it online, I came across a recommended video that talked about how Nigerian women are justifying Frank Edoho's wife's cheating because he called himself the "King of malice". Some also claim he cheated on his ex wife.


The important thing the "low IQ hoes" fail to realise is that women are the main perpetrators of malice and silent treatments. Have they ever thought about what would become of their lives if their boyfriends and husbands decide to cheat on them because of this?
The fact that they even think they have men in a tight corner shows how ignorant they are.



As a redpilled man, you should never let a woman deceive you into giving her your power. If she wants to cheat because you're giving her the silent treatment, let her go and cheat. This is why you should always have options as a man. Never forget to use protection as well because these daughters of eve are in an almost relentless pursuit to enslave all men, but it's inevitable that they shall all fail.


Stay strong, Stay redpilled 💪💥😎

Not having a clear solution is why chike won even outta the bro code.

Tenrack:
six "serious" dates ke...who still dey take women seriously? Una dey try oh

maybe you are a type who tries to impress a woman either too much, by showering her with praises, hype, getting into her too much too early, never wants to keep just friendship with the opposite sex, spending on her to impress her, being shy around women, not doing away with fair women or trying to keep a permanent r/ship with a fair lady, staring away from her gaze. All these acts won't get you or make you keep a permanent girlfriend. If you think love doesn't work around certain women then tell me haven't you ever seen a beautiful lady or a woman you admire having and taking Care of kids for some guy you think would have never got her, the trick is that some these guys date these girls and provide her needs before she had even turn the legal age of 18, this way the girl doesn't see the need to cheat on the guy and the guy too doesn't nag or controls her much till she has gotten in for the guy. I am 30, and in my entire romance life, I have dated more than 30 ladies and slept numerously with a good number of them. Some of them had and still had me like their serious date, I occasionally stalk/ check up on them and realize am the or was the only serious guy in their life. Back in uni days, I dated two bannys who were friends and gist partners and from the same department, namesakes too. I never knew if they found out I was the same guy they were obsessed with. I fcked the plum one like an hoe while she sqitt on my mattress every time she called me to tell me she was ho:ny, later I will see the both of them discussing about the escapades while the dead gorgeous one was always dead over me all the time tho she couldn't afford such luxury of living large and wild then. I still dated other girls in the school while a whole lot of them had crush on me. I fvked the ones I could and left the rest to God. In my secondary school days, the most beautiful girl in my class was my best friend all because she always wanted me to get her new type of p@rno all the time and she was really obsessed about our free time. In my own case I keep many women because while option a might be too busy for me option c or D would be available. As for girls who would love you its because you are keeping just her and that gets boring for her and the relationship.

We were dey for village are mostly not affected by tinubu's govt policies, we use firewood from bushes for most of our cookings, we cultivate our cassavas and mill our oil. Since I moved to the village about a year ago my life has never remain the same, I now have more saving, I have added weight, am not addicted to any lifestyle, am no more shy or feel to exposed. When people from my city sees me now they hardly believe its the same person. In fact the average village people saves and keep more money than those in the city except those who have a stable business or high paying job.

Rillycool:
What numbers do you regard as too many women?

Well, to me keeping between 6 serious dates upwards is a waste of your time, as you will not have satisfaction choosing the right one. Everyone has flaws as we all know.

She is an online feminist period

Truth for mental and emotional well, infection nko even if used protection. While younger, I slept with too many ladies that I forgot whom to choose to settle down with, always looking out for the best when the last is gone. Today I stalked social media profiles and become ashamed of myself, some are stalkened, some now have trust issue cos they once trusted someone with their dignity. Then we did it to suit our ego.
Even now, I presently have 3 ladies whom I communicate deeply daily, they've never had a guy and I convince them to be with me. even though I am ready to settle down they all think they are the ones

As a guy, keeping too many women instead of focusing on building with one will not make you settle down faster nor make your life more better. You are simply a caricature wasting away your youthful life, future on mere vanity and a supposed addiction.

As a guy you need to be nicer to the lady you intend to keep for a serious r/ship but not overly nice, appearing needy, forcing yourself, doing it too oftenly.
Reasons:
1. It takes women some times to be fully committed to a guy while it takes a guy few minutes to ask her out. She need reasons to be committed to you over other guys
2. Other guys are hitting up on her, if the other guy is nicer, humorous, more presentable than you. She will definitely wants to be with the other guy.
3. If she's already in a r/ship with you but later finds a guy who is better than you she will definitely break up with you or worst cheats on you with the other guy that's if you weren't good enough for her.

I tell guys if you keep another woman outside your main woman, never let your main woman finds out because women never forgets, if opportunity presents itself she will do worse but if she has no evidence fear of God won't let her especially if she has kids with you.

You will argue women have no emotions, they are worst than some men yet a wise guy will take her, set her and get that good girl working and starts making kids with her while you are shouting I can never date a second hand girl forgetting you weren't good enough. worst case you will dream of taking her away again but that's in your fantasy. Point is no one is perfect and you cannot afford the most perfect person cos someone made them perfect.

Na mumu dey forgive, once you cheat I don move on

cyberbro:
You have a point, cos dating an under 25 lady could be pretty tough especially if they're not ready for a serious relationship, but at the same time, if you find a well-mannered lady, even in her early 20s, she would still make a good partner, so there is no fixed formula for this thing called marriage. What works for A might not work for B.

There are many ladies in their 30s that are still not mentally mature for marriage, some of them are carrying baggages from failed relationships, some have turned to bitter feminists, some of them cannot be convinced, at their age whatever they want to do is final, they are the boss. Better to marry a younger lady than such combative women cos u no go enjoy the marriage.

Cum4me:
Most times it's not all about aged. Some girls are in there 30s and are still foolish. Why some 23 years are far more matured. Who raised a girl child matters a lot.

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Dating the younger lady is not a guaranty that she would be any better. Any lady who has no paying skill, trade skill or anything legit to foot her bill before herb24 will definitely end up like the 30yr old with a bitter experience because no matter the love a guy has for her he will definitely leave once he notice she is a bug and liability. But some guys will spend foolishly on a lady ignoring this red flags, go as far training her without marrying her proper only for her to later dump them for a guy who has done nothing for them. Guys in our generation need to wake up and not be led by emotions and beauty(beauty itself fades away).

..writing my own experience.
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I opened this thread to help enlighten Other young guys on relationship choice and how your choice can positively or negatively shape/define your future. As a 30year+ old man there is some reason why you should avoid dating a lady under 24years old as they say love alone is not enough to keep a marriage or relationship.
Once you clock 30years as a man, you are no longer a kid neither are you getting any more younger and these are times you should seriously be planning on raising your own family for your own good and a better old age.
I see guys in these categories date a girl who is or just barely 20years and I frown about it. Reason is except you are keeping them for just fun or you both live in the villages (I mention village because girls in the villages tends to legally marry and give birth earlier than those in the urban areas) So my reason is that girls around these age are not mentally, psychologically or even physically ready for marriage unless you have money to woo her family and also be able to keep and control her.
So if you go ahead to invest your resources and time to date a lady who is lesser than 24 years then you should understand that the chances of commitment and reaping off your investment is quite and very slimmer which means you might have to wait till your late 30's to get anything tangible. Secondly, girls at these age will mostly never mastered demanding skills which would help you both in raising a family.
But being with a lady who is up to 26years, she is already thinking about settling down, must have acquired working skills and have learnt one or two about life.
Your opinions are welcome.

I disagree with 3 and 6 and I think 10 is about the lazy women out there. As for 3, I will only marry a woman I like age difference doesn't really matter but I would never marry my age mate instead I date an older woman.

Its not about natural stamina my bro, it's to put both of you in the mood. For example, if I take a woman home for an all night, I will be with her naturally through out all the night till morning without any enhancer but same cannot be said when I leave my comfort zone.

heartbraker:
I met a girl through a friend and we’ve been seeing each other for a short while now. She has come to my place a few times, and when we’re together there is clear physical attraction and comfort (kissing, cuddling, SUCK BREAST etc.).

However, things haven’t progressed to sex yet. It feels like there is interest, but at the same time she hasn’t fully taken it further, and I don’t want to push or make her uncomfortable

My question is:
In a situation like this, how do you usually handle progression naturally without forcing it or overthinking? And how do you know if it’s just slow pace vs lack of full interest?

I’m trying to be respectful but also not misread the situation.

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How do you convince a girl to come to your house? What do you promise her?
It's been real I Bleep a normal girl, all wants marriage promise and real love.

If my mama choose for me what should I accept?

Tekashi89:
Hey guys, my dating life sulks, I haven't been really lucky with girls ever since my secondary School days. Since I was born I've only dated two girls and that was way back in 2016 and last year in 2025.

I tend to attract more guys, single mothers or older women (very old women tend to like me).
I don't know what's it with me that tends to push away younger girls (note I'm 180cm 60kg) light skin most people say I'm handsome. But I don't know why I can't attract young single girls.

Where ever I go I tend to attract only single mothers and when a young girl even start getting attracted to me I'll later discover that she acts that way to every other guy around so there's nothing special about me.

I'm thinking of going spiritual but I just thought I should post it here first.

So guys I need your advice on this issue pls

you have a spiritual wife, pray about it.