One thing I noticed is people don't usually make it in their homeland maybe due to comfortability etc. I never made it in my homeland even with much. So I advice south africans to travel out and leave their comfort zone.
AdisGlobal01: I did a DNA test on my four children and God so good they are all mine . But i have a issue .None of them looks like me .
I have always wanted to see my replica,a child that would look like me .But they all looked like their mother
I'm always embarrassed each time I go out with them because they are all fair in complexion and skinny too like their mother .But I'm a tall dark man with a bold body . They didn't look like me at all .Each time I go out with them it's always like they are not my children or they are my brothers children .There's no atom of resemblance at all .
Infact many people usually tell me to do DN a in which I letter did infact in two places to confirm my claim .
Now the issue is that I have asked my wife again to get pregnant and let's see if that one will look like me but she refused .
Please don't blame me yet only those in my shoes will know how heartbreaking it is having 4 children and non looks like you . It affected me mentally that I do not even have fatherly bond with them even after the DNA . I look like my father ,my father looks like his father . I do not want that look to end with me .Infact I don't even mind if it's a girl that would look like me .I just want my look alike
I planned marrying another wife since she refused to get pregnant again .
Kindly post for your followers . Their advice and suggestions will go along way .Shes also one of your followers so I'm sure she would see people's advices too .
I'm not a bad man but I can't just stand 4 kids not looking like me . I have an handsome face and body .Those who are in my shoes will understand. #marriage #marriagestory #lifestyle
What did you this Man should do, I will like to hear you in the comment section.
My contribution to this topic is, that the woman has a high genetic than yours that's why your children has her trait. Another point is that genetically, offsprings may copy the genes of their lineage like relatives, grandparents, piblings etc. So you don't expect your carbon copy's always.
AntiChristian: She didn't cut out her Bobs away or has Jesus replaced the twin bobs too?
Anyone could achieve this without necessarily involving Jesus! And many have! The transgender illness is curable through therapy, conditioning and environmental changes.
You definitely need help and a mental health assessment.
Ride on bro you are truly the price to be chased "If you reply me with 'k' again I will not chat you again"! Lol, no bro c'mon keep chatting me, you are adding more value to my life
Chummynoni: LoL . How do u know God fearing person? Someone that goes to church? Don't play bro
From peoples action you could decipher who is God fearing and who is not, how they speak, in situation, how they treat others and how they deal when it comes to money etc are few ways to know a persons true identity and character.
Toolegit123: Good day my fellow Nairalanders. Of late,my fiancee and I broke up and I've been considering about going into a new relationship. I must really say all the time I was with my ex,I was so commitment to her to the extent that I didn't even have time for any other woman. She knew that and Peru that must be one of my weaknesses she saw.
But the truth is that it's been over a month we ended the relationship and I really long to go into another's relationship as an escape route for me to stop thinking about my ex.
So,my questions to you my fellow Nairalanders,how long should a man wait before going into another relationship after a break up? Is it right to find love as soon as possible considering the fact that the it was my ex who ended the relationship for reasons only known to her?
Go get sex and stop thinking about relationship, I mean what do you get in being in relationship if you remove sex and ocassional social media hype?
Pukkalolo: The bolded part shows you’re still missing the point entirely.
I want you to understand that, Frank Edoh’s wife didn’t cheat because he kept malice.
She cheated BECAUSE SHE WANTED TO CHEAT
That’s the ugly truth most Naija men refuse to swallow.
When a woman decides to sting you, whether through cheating, disrespect, betrayal, sudden breakup or withdrawal… she will always cook up a perfect excuse to play the victim and paint you as the villain.
She’ll cry to family, friends and the public:
“He’s toxic.”
“He keeps malice.”
“He’s too controlling.”
“He’s whatever story that makes her look innocent and you look like the monster who failed her.
It’s a classic, calculated move. Even when the man did everything: provided, sacrificed, loved hard, stayed loyal… she’ll twist the narrative so she can leave with a clean conscience and public sympathy.
Bro, have you even asked why Frank Edoh started keeping malice? Do you know what got him to that breaking point?
I’m not defending him, but let’s be genuinely honest right now: if she was truly submissive, respectful, and honoured him as her husband, do you think he would have reached that breaking point?
A lot of women are masters at manipulation and emotional blackmail.
They can take a good man who gave his blood, sweat, and future for her and still make him feel like he was never enough. They can turn a devoted provider into the villain of the story.. both in her head and in the eyes of the world.
This is why so many good men leave relationships feeling broken, guilty, and lost, asking themselves in the dead of night:
“What did I do wrong?”
The painful answer most men are too scared to accept is this:
Most times, women don’t cheat or leave because of something you did.
They cheat or leave because they want to… and then rewrite history to make themselves the victim and you the monster.
Be wise, brothers.
MetalJigsaw: "Being nice to a lady you intend to win over".. How are you different from the other guys who are playing the same card?
That alone is a clear sign you're begging to have her and it will be crystal clear to her bro.
Be different: Logical because alot of men deal with women with their brains upside down and their dicks upright.
Strike a convoy with her about something you find in common with her. Let her talk more while you listen. Women love men who listen to them. It shows intellect and humility.
Work on your looks. Its very important.
Bravo to anyone who spends time and resources to observe traits and patterns of women and their behaviors and then assumes every woman around the world behaves and react the same and exhibits the same characteristics, same should be said about men. But my candid advice to everyone out there is to be successful, have money and be able spend your money wisely. Success naturally brings friendship and love while failure does the exact opposite. To any young guy out there who wishes to see success be it in life or relationship, the first and important rule is not to bother yourself about relationship or love when you have no tangible business going on in your life, this will surely saves you a whole lot of trauma in life. I remember when I opened my first and second business, the before and after experience were never the same and even the experience I had after I closed them down. In summary no one would settle for less neither prefer poverty over comfortability and hardwork.
According to the redpiller guys, everything is normal and okay once you follow all their golden rules, well am not a guy who is ever obsess about any female no matter her beauty, race or financial background maybe I could have been obsess about a crush in nursery/primary school (not about sex actually but about true love) but never in secondary or tertiary or outside the four walls. This doesn't mean I haven't had my fair share of women,maybe am highly interested in a lady once I have beded her but never before I bed will I give attention or a stare maybe I am only interested in the the sekx part, but one rule that as clearly worked for me no matter how I met her or approach her is never giving her a single dime or spends on her ( I mean she has to prove why she is entitle to my finance) unless we have been intimate before and am trying to reignite the passion. Once I have done anything financial for a woman its automatic friend zoning for me.
And this “be nicer to win her” nonsense proves you still don’t truly understand women.
Do you think Chike was “nicer” to Frank Edoh’s wife before he slept with her?
Hell no.
Frank Edoh was the nice one. He was the one trying to secure the relationship. He built a whole business for her. He provided. He committed. And she still stung him: cheated on him.
That’s brutal female nature when a man makes himself too available and nicer to her.
Any girl who accepts you because you’re nicer to her isn’t genuinely interested. She’ll enjoy your niceness, then sting you the moment a more exciting or higher-value man appears.
If being nice was the secret, every guy would have women chasing him. Instead, women consistently leave or cheat on the men who are nicer to them than anyone else.
Wait, let me even ask you…
When women masturbate, do you think they do so thinking about the guy who's nicer to them?
Of course No.
They fantasize about the man who’s slightly out of reach. The men who make her nervous and make her wet. The men don't care about being in a relationship with them.
Here’s the truth most men are too scared to accept:
If a woman truly wants you, she will make it easy for you.
She’ll invest. She’ll make time for you. She’ll move mountains to keep you.
If she’s not making it easy, then she’s not that into you. If you have to be nicer to her in order to secure a relationship with her, then she doesn't like you.
If you think being nicer to her is the solution, you'll regret it. You'll probably learn the hard way.
There's literally no long-term benefits of being nice to a girl. I mean, literally... none.
Look, I love women. But I also deeply understand their wicked, deceptive and manipulative side.
A lot of women are like cobras in human form: feminine, seductive, poisonous and ready to strike the moment you lower your guard.
I never suggested been nicer to a girl you've already got but been nice to a lady you intend to win over, that way, she will think you are different from the other guys who's begging to get her attention. Once she is committed you set in the manipulative game, this makes her think she is not good enough for you and tries to up her game to please you.
'Philosopher' guy was talking about nagging a lady and also getting all the benefits he could get from her and I strongly disagree with that as it would only lead to domestic violence, broken home and cheating. Same is the case with frank edoho and chike, I believe at a point he was definitely nagging, playing mind games and keeping malice. After enough self-servicing she will definitely look for an easy prey and that's where chike came into play. On a normal dating level, chike won't be able to keep her as his main chick that's why you see him settle for the side guy role.
Lummid: Your first statement insulting my mom tells me everything about your upbringing, character and intelligence. There's no point indulging you further.
I won't insult you any further but rather was pointing to your Hasty generalization which of course is a big fallacy. Everyone argues they had the best family yet jumps into stereotyping once they read fictious stories online. If women are not worth marrying then your mom, sis and relatives too ain't worth starting a family or life with. Same way you want your family members to be worthy people to the society is the same way other parents are training their children to be useful to themselves and the society at large.
Lummid: What do you think will be the outcome if all men did mandatory DNA test on their kids?
Your statement "Do make person collect your girl marry" already validates my point that women can be taken.
But clearly you have blind faith. No worrry your eye go soon clear
Well, I understand your painment I mean your mom already cheated on your dad with her sweethearts but is it enough reason why you shouldn't be birthed? As for me, I accept God's will in my life that anyway I had to be birthed. As for DNA, note one could posses and carry traits of uncles, aunts, grandparents etc of either couple.
Lastly, na you dey find person girlfriend/wife attractive why you no go fear for your life?
Lummid: Look up the divorce rate as women increasingly get empowered and promiscuous. Marriage only made sense when women were virgins. Now you're paying bride price for a lady that at least 3 guys have put in different sex positions and she has moaned hard for. She has probably given them head and other nasty doings too.
During that your marriage preparation be on alert incase one of those 3 guys try to tempt and seduce her because they know her weak point. Lastly, remember no matter how well a woman gets over her previous sex patners there's always at least one that gave her an unforgettable sex experience that you simply can't match.
One more thing, remember the more sexual experience a woman has the lower her chances of falling deeply in love with you due to emotionally damage and broken trust. Anyway, if you don't marry virgin whatever you do try to save money for DNA test because one those 3 guys I mentioned will likely come back to finish work.
Do make person collect your girl marry whether you go smell her pants again.
and just to remind you √ There's a difference between being in a relationship as a man (being manipulated and controlled) and getting se.x (manipulating and controlling the opposite gender). I rather be in the second one and my score count as being in the ratio of 1:99.
Pukkalolo: “As a guy you need to be nicer to the lady you intend to keep for a serious relationship…”
I disagree with that part.
As a Man, You’ve already lost the moment you think you need to “be nicer” to secure her commitment.
Men Are The Gatekeepers of “Serious” Relationships, Not Women.
A man with real sexual options does not really care for a serious relationship. He doesn't even have that goal from his own end
So if a woman wants a “serious” thing with him, she has to earn that position by being better than the other options he has.
As a Man, when you make “serious relationship” your goal from early on, you’re telling her: “I don't have sexual options. Please choose me.”
In her mind, she thinks: “This one is easy. I don’t need to bring my best self.”
That’s why she starts billing you harder while, and keeping her options open.
Men, here's the correct mindset is:
You should be the one always scanning for a better woman: the one who is nicer, more humorous, more submissive, more sexually enthusiastic, and more willing to invest in you.
While she should be the one waking up every day trying to make sure you don’t find that better woman.
She should be the one nicer. She should be the one funnier. She should be the one dressing better, cooking better, fucking better, supporting you better… because she knows you can walk away at any moment and still be fine.
That fear keeps her on her toes. That doubt keeps her loyal. That tension keeps her wet.
Be wise brothers.
I laugh in swahili! What you wrote would definitely happen in a well scripted movie whose aim is to portray male dominance over the opposite sex. In real life, this will never happen no matter what she intends to get from you, be it monetary gain, value, promotion, or material thing. Every female from birth are wired to believe she holds dominance over the male due to her pu.ssy. No normal man turns a down a pussy, even those who patronize brothels yet complains of poor service and not enjoying the s.ex still goes back there in a matter of second. When you see a man walks out of a relationship, it is definitely because he wasn't getting the sex. If you think you will manipulate a woman because you wants her to worship you then trust me a young guy is out there fuckin svckin and taking her to cloud 9 while she enjoys with you while it last.
Only hardworking that I inherited from them. The rest I learnt from their mistake. Like trusting without test, being overly generous (n0t even during church donations), lesser empathy (if I was in their shoes no one would care), giving out loan (noone would loan me either) etc
L1TTLE: Theres this girl i am getting along with, we had a connection so I thought cuz everything was easy, she likes talking to me, she gave me her number without me asking for it, we got along very easily like I've known her for long.
I had the feeling that things are getting serious so I i asked her if she's single before I waste my time, lo and behold she's not, I then asked her what's the purpose of all this then? She then shamelessly said we can be besties, I i told her point blank with disgust that I don't need a bestie, someone she can be billing while her boyfriend stays wherever he is, boyfriend duties but you're the besty, naso this girl vex and started saying everything has changed simply because she told me she's in a relationship.
What was once a delightful interaction is now resentment, we don't talk again sef.
Goldrosewine: You wanted to farm my attention so hard that you just had to comment.
and you just couldn't resist the urge to respond, shows you are the whole field. What makes you think I would be seeking validation from an online warrior like you who heap praises on herself online yet quickly fold into her shell while offline. Problem with people online is them thinking everyone who bleach is attractive.
Goldrosewine: This does not imply sexual interests, abeg o just bored today on this holiday and I have decided to rant here, since I saw a similar post recently about a guy saying confidence is what a lady cannot resist in a man. I won't appreciate any unsolicited messages🙏
Dentition: Gap teeth (you know what I mean, especially a small one right between the central incisors) or just between the lateral incisor and canine)
Thick wrist (not fats deposit, just wrists with a wide circumference)
Minimal or no bodily hairs. Yeah a lot will hate me for this, just my opinion which may change or not. But those beards, chest or armpit hairs? Taah!
Height. However you must not be too tall. I am 5:9 so anything from 5:6 to 5:11 is perfect.
Modesty and awesomeness (not extreme masculinity) I am not a feminist abeg. I like guys that are gentle, pull the chair for you at the restaurant, hold an umbrella for you, hold the door open for you, just being a gentleman. Absolute modesty and simple too. Not a show off dude haha!
Healthy lifestyle. There is nothing I dislike more than a guy who smokes or drinks or do both. I don't just dislike them, I h-word them. Take your good health seriously guys, go for rehab if you need to.
Small inner circle. Guys with few or no friends. The introvert who enjoys his own company.
Respectful. The guy that still prostrate to greet his dad at 30 years, still run errands for his mom at 35 (not necessarily because he is living with them, but maybe sometimes when he visits or when they give him an emergency call) that level of respect is the norm for every omoluabi.
Not bald. As much as I dislike body hairs, e no reach head abeg🤣
Belly fat. (Not pot belly) I love belly fat in a man, especially the type that gives him the wealthy boy vibe when he's in a native. I don't know but in Benin republic, I once saw this muscular, six pack guy that bullied people and he had an altercation with this gentle guy who looks ordinary, he even had a fatty belly. Against what people thought, it was the muscular guy that needed saving o, see blue black beating. Lol. It kind of left an impression on me.
Speech intelligence. Even if you no know book, just have good oratory skills and be eloquent. I would like to see my man on a podium speaking with great eloquence while I sit in the crowd or assembly just admiring him and looking at how other ladies are admiring him😊🥰🥰🥰 aiish
Phobia. Scared of snakes or rats or spiders or cocroaches lol even my cousin would tell me I will never find this trait in a Nigerian man. But I am not scared of those things. So I would really like a guy that has such fears, that way I would be able to do something for him and it would make me feel good🤦🙈 it's hard to explain honestly.🥲🥲
Ambitious. he dreams big, not jealous of success, just envying it and ambitious to reach the top too.
Laughs a lot. That would be golden!
He cries. Like, weep Take this from me. If you ever express your sadness in tears while in your girl's arm, it does something to her heart... she'd start clutching to you so hard. Don't be manly all the time. Sometimes, just let the feelings flow. Life is already hard for everyone, talkless a man.🥺 I feel u guys.
Straight legs No vex but I dislike wobbly legs... and many guys have come to have a sort of disfigured legs due to bad walking posture, trying to copy one silly trend or so, etc.
Gentle with kids and pets That would be another golden trait!
Extremely decent with words and actions when in public The way he eats, talks, interact, just everything. Especially in Nigeria where people judge you by your countenance and how you 'carry' yourself.
You know the sort of guys that gleefully talk about women's body parts in public? That's so uncouth and all ladies detest such.
Honestly op, I would never notice you in a crowd so why should I care about your likes and dislikes, attraction and turnoffs? Am only interested in a lady who would give me head every now and then whether she be slim, chubby, fair or dark
Bro put call regularly, especially during the evening when you think she must have returned from work and prolly relaxing. Crack silly jokes, inquire about her day/work, tell her you want to visit, ask her to visit you, talk about feeding. Don't act shy, only drop sm messages in the morning., people have tight schedule bro and prefers to speak rather than chat then also wants people to know they are talking to someone. Don't call (often) in the afternoon if she works.
Love800: So what job are you doing in the village?
I am basically a trader, buy from local farmers in smaller quantity, store it then sale to factory/manufacturers in large quantities. Raw Food business moves too, these farmers own large farms and basically never runs out of cash.
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Ride on bro you are truly the price to be chased 
