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Sexxkillz:
[color=#000030]One thing you should know is, if you allow your mom choose who you marry (whether from your tribe or another) you are finished as a man and will always run to her for everything. She'll cause problems for your wife. She'll cause problems between you and your wife. If an ant bites you, your wife caused it. Your wife's food will be too salty to her. Your wife's food will be too peppery to her. Your wife will also lose respect for you, even though she never says it to your face.

You cannot marry your mom. One day, your mom will die and leave this world(everyone will, my mom too). When she's gone, you'll now be left with the consequences of allowing her make a decision for you. It could be that you my never love the girl she forced you to marry, and you'll forever regret allowing your mom to come in between you and your happiness.

In as much as I love my mom and respect her, I'll never ever allow her make such a decision for me. That she gave birth to me doesn't mean I'll please her, and displease myself.

You have to put your foot down and make a decision. Never ever make a decision that'll leave you unhappy till the day you die. . . Your life, your choices.[/color]

Spicylate:
Honestly I'm in this situation too. Their only reason is his tribe. That don't even want to know who he is or what he does. They were even like if they hadn't renewed my rent, they would have sent me to my home town.
I'm still going to bring up the topic when we all arrive the villa cosI have embraced the life. It won't be easy but I'm ready and we are going to the whole ironing. There must be a conclusion. I'm praying on it too. Also cos I believe it's important to have my parents blessings.
I think you need to take a time off, settle down and think. If it's settled that you can embrace such race, have a number 2 meeting. I pray you get favoured.

newsphase:
But, forgive me you talk like a mama's boy, or a spoiled child who doesn't have a stand..

You even said she warned your girl to stop seeing you... meaning that you are still living with your parents? I was watching an episode of tinsel today when the mother wanted her son to go for a conference and he refused.. she ordered him to, but he refused according to the fact that he is a man and has his own say, then the mother let him be...

So have you made your own say known to your mum... also check out the girl it may be more than just her tribe, as mothers are kind of very perceptive

sinaj:
This is 2016 nt 90s.

It's not right to avoid a person because of his/her tribe as if she chose that tribe wen she was created


Ask ur mom why she doesn't like the tribe, if she has no reason, go ahead nd follow ur heart.

You might not love another the way u love her.

Your mum might evn get along with her later on when she see her good side.

lytech1:
Going against ur mum wish might be dangerous coz she knows more than you think you know..
Further more,tribe or no tribe issue might not be the main reason she is kicking against the relationship..
There might be something hidden she didn't want to reveal to you about the lady (that's the power of age and experience).


Following her wish might inturn hurt you in the end....

Advice: play along with the relationship behind the scene and let's God will prevail.

newsphase:
Am so sorry to ask but please tell me


How old are you?

rose54321:
Hmm, y'all weren't aware of this before, passing through the friend phase, dating phase, courtship phase??
Interesting.

onoslove:
How I wish I could talk to your fiancee, this is the same mistake a cousin of my made, until she became 43. My aunt have to call their head pastor to plead with the pastor that since they will not allow her marry somebody out of Christ Embassy, then the pastor should look for a husband for her. When a man finally came, the first question put before her is if the man is from Christ Embassy. She said no, and then they came up with, oh don't marry somebody that is not a member of Christ Embassy. But this time around, she have to take her chance. And she never discuss the marriage issue with the church again. She just went ahead and did traditional marriage. Your fiancee should be wise. And let me advice you, I am a woman, do not ever let her pull you away from your church.

donbenedict:
it dies brother. no hard feelings. She clearly doesn't even love u sef. Dunt even knw why u are here killing urself abt somthn dat don't exist

donbenedict:
Panther pls go and marry a Catholic! Jeez!

inositol88:
Somebody has to make a sacrifice!!!!!!

when u marry her, she leaves her father's house and surname, and she takes ur name, meaning that she is ready to go with u wherever u go.

I feel since she is getting married to u, to stay with u and be with u, then she should make the sacrifice of joining u .

my personal opinion oh!!!!!

but u can do otherwise

ladyF:
Lmao!

And why is that? Because I am the supposed "weaker" sex? Abeg it is a collective decision. If he wants to follow me to my church, he is more than welcome.

I have never been so particular about churches so it really won't be a big deal for me changing church. The only reason I will strongly object is if I don't consider their doctrines reasonable to me. There is a particular church I can never step foot in, and I won't mention the name before their members will start to rain down incantations But at the same time, it's the same religion, so...

vizkiz:
never mind, focus on the solution given.

ashmanpolo:
Op, if you borrow your best friend N5m to do facial surgery. After the surgery how will you even identify him to collect back your money?
Only prayers o!!!

Pray your way through and this dysfunctional salience in doctrinal religion b/w you and your fiancée will be a thing of the past.

#teamCatholic#

vizkiz:
christ embassy? Hmmmn.... You sure your lady is furcking the pastor?

On a more serious note, I think you both should change the churches you attend and come to a conclusion... Redeem isn't that bad.

ladyF:
Change to her church Sir. It's all about sacrifice. Besides, it's still the same religion.

KINGinVAHALA:
Mumu, na man they follow woman to her church after marriage or na woman they follow man to his church? why did you even allowed her give you an option to choose from? We re talking abt marriage here bro, and you alone is suppose to be responsible for any decision required to make the marriage come to past and not any woman.

Cutehector:
Men of nowadays... I just wish she can see thatGod gave u wisdom, please kindly use it. Shebi it is d same love Dat made king Solomon to worship Baal because his "wives" who were idol worshippers demanded so of him right? D same love that made God to banish Solomon


Look let us not fool ourselves in the name of love here.

As a man, ur wife is meant to submit to u, if not anythn else.. not the other way round. If she wants to be a pastor in her church, den she should go and marry her church. Kpomkwem!

damilareoye:
if you guys really do love each other, both of you should be able to reconsider your grounds.

Normally, she should be the one to leave her church and join yours.

Daniel2289:
I support ur advice. Since she don't want to follow u, and u don't want to follow her, wat do u expect next Separation of course.

Macclane:
M brother go and think twice.

misspicy:
End the relationship now before it gets too late