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HacheNoire:
One can tell dude was a book worm!

Most people with big head are always brilliant, and for the first time in the history of Nigeria, Our president and vice President have big heads.

Major reason why I didn't vote for Peter, was because he had a small head.

I am certain Nigeria is heading for heights

Lol lol lol this your theory will make Head lines. Yeye man lol lol

Staphylococcus:
I am not talking about their friendship. I am talking about his business reputation and shareholders perception and interest

Elon is the US and knows better. He is not best at that card he is playing.

And seems you are not a Nigerian. Cos once you JJC’s just enter airplane, the next thing is “Una for Naija”

Elon Musk is not US, Elom Musk is actually from Africa. “Una for Naija” cracked me up.

The story is touching and it is not a good place to be in. I feel you and i wish things were different between you two. But let's look it at this from another perspective because it is easy for us all to sympathize with you as we only heard your side of the story and nobody heard his side of the story and the side of the real story. Stories are always in 3 parts. Anyways, this is my conjecture. Your husband didn't change overnight, He has been reckless with money and financial decisions, you saw it but you felt it is something you can take advantage of because at the time of courtship, he spends big on you, and give you good time but your judgement was blinded by all the activities and cruises you were catching with him so you quickly tie the knot so that he is permanently yours. What you did not know was his financial standing and he have no savings, he can get a million naira today and blow it with you same day. In your Math you add one and one together then assume he is loaded. As the marriage set you now realized that all that glitters are not good. ( meanwhile he didn't lie to you about his financial standing, it is just that you didn't ask him you placed him on level he is not in yet). As time goes on in the marriage wear and tear begin set in, you just had a baby, you are pissed (psychologically - post partum depression). Your body don't the feel the same, sex is boring then your senses are now amplified to extent that all you see is fault, fault, fault. This financial issue is that looks tangible and one way to provide you escape in the wrong decision you made in marrying him. So it does not look like it is your fault you are about to leave him. This is my conjecture, i stand to be corrected.
But here's my advice, you don't leave your marriage for the sake financial hardship, it will prove that you were there only because of the money, if you leave he will blow again and you will regret ever living him. If it was a question of infidelity or physical abuse. I will tell you to call the families and sever the marriage. Since it is a money problem, it can be solved. Probably that is why you two are married. Call him and take inventory of all the people he is owing, have a seat down with them with a lawyer and discuss terms of payment, since he is not financially discipline take over the financial management of the house including his account, teach him how to make budget, teach him that he doesn't need to impress you anytime he have small money then he blows it, teach him that he doesn't need to live a champagne lifestyle on beer money. Get this mess cleaned up and you will see in less than no time you will see how you two will grow and joy will come back to your marriage. I don;t know but it seems he is a lucky guy too but doesn't know how to manage money or hold on to things - even the marriage, if you tell him you are done, he will say ok and move on. But He is your King and you are his Queen. You if you play chess you will understand how Queens move. Wake up and smell the coffee. It is now your marriage have started. You will laugh lass lass. As per the depression it will fizzle out soon. I have already prayed for you before replying. It is well. Take it easy.