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Kalulu44:
Good one there for the testimony

Good evening, Mr Kay

OgwuEgo:
Did you vote for her son?

I didn't only just vote. I campaigned, mobilized votes and also spent the little I had.

Wow ... What an achievement

This is not unusual

See werey abeg.
Who be dis one again?
Doris my foot

A woman that took good care of me 10years ago. Lived in her house for two years without paying rent

I am starving seriously

[quote author=Babastrong post=140005369][/quote]Amen sir.

I feel suicidal

AngelSlay:
This doesn't sound like hard work—it sounds like exploitation.

Working long hours is one thing. Being expected to work virtually 24 hours a day without proper rest, being verbally abused, denied dignity, and constantly on call is something else entirely. No employee should have to sacrifice their physical and mental health just to keep a job.

The biggest red flag for me isn't even the workload. It's the pattern. If four predecessors left after serious disagreements, no former employee has anything positive to say, and even contractors complain about not being paid, then the problem is unlikely to be the employees. The common denominator appears to be the employer.

A good leader can be demanding while still treating people with respect. Constant insults, humiliation, unrealistic expectations, and intimidation are not signs of strong leadership—they're signs of poor management.

If you have the opportunity to leave, it may be worth prioritizing your wellbeing, even if it means earning less temporarily. Money can be replaced over time, but prolonged stress and emotional exhaustion can take much longer to recover from.

Everyone deserves to work in an environment where they are respected as a human being, not treated like a machine. I hope you find a healthier workplace soon.

Thanks so much for your input Sir.
I'm really really entangled in this mess. There's no day I don't get insulted and verbally assaulted. Sometimes he even acts like he wants to get physical with me. These are insults I've never heard in my entire life. He's the most petty human being I've ever seen. He claims to be meticulous, yet doesn't issue Appointment letters to any of his staff. If you want to use five naira for anything concerning the hotel, you need to make a requisition for it. He must approve of it , before then, be ready for insults and public humiliation on/offline.
This morning, I got booked/fined because he called and I wasn't able to pick. Why? I was in the restroom. He expects me to carry my phone everywhere. I have now been booked for 6 times since the start of this month. No staff ever gets their complete salaries

Jimmy231:
My brother have faith that God can supply all your needs according to his riches in glory and you will have it. In prayer and supplication let your request be made known unto God

Phillipians 4:6

Bro, you won't understand.
I don't have any means of survival today

I need a miracle in my life. I need a change of story. I'm tired of my situation.
Everyday, I have to struggle to feed. I work like an elephant, yet nothing to show for it.. I'm tired

thomasfrank:
I kept thinking about the part where every former employee left on bad terms. When the same pattern repeats over and over, it's usually not the staff that's the problem. I hope you find a workplace where you're actually appreciated.

Amen Sir.
Thanks for your prayers. I'm tired and frustrated here.

Nlfpmod

Kobojunkie:
What job is that? And why are you convinced that your problems are a result of your boss and not your choices?

If you are dealing with verbal assaults and no physical violence, have you considered shifting the focus of the assault back on the man and away from your person? For example, maybe the reason he calls you names has more to do with his not experiencing love as a child from his parents? Maybe his wife does not love or cherish him at home, his children see him as nothing at home, so in his delusion, he is convinced that insulting you is the way for him to feel more like a man(I know how ridiculous that may sound, but that is what many Nigerians actually do). Maybe your boss was simply raised terribly by his parents. 😒

Of course, while you shift the focus of the insults back to the one giving them, you still have to do the inner work necessary to help relieve you of the depression, frustration, and at the same time make you become a better worker, irrespective of your boss's actual shortcomings.

Your words mean a lot to me. Thanks so much for this piece. I'm indeed grateful. I am adopting this advice immediately.
Many thanks 🙏

Sometimes, I'm wondering if it has become a Crime to work for people. This accounts for why we have so many youths indulging in fraudulent activities. It's really disheartening.

All my life, I've never seen a Boss who is as inhuman, insensitive and callous as this. I'm tired of everything about life.
I work 24hrs without rest, not even at night. At night, I'm monitoring energy/power consumption, switching over to Public light, inverter or Generator, keeping records and preparing same report ahead of daybreak. I do administrative tasks, clean the pool, assist and guide the housekeepers in cleaning the hotel rooms, run errands, do DJ work. I don't observe my off days. All these wouldn't have been my problems if this man was not an abusive type. He assaults me verbally, calls me all sorts of derogatory names, speaks to me in the most despicable manner, even before my subordinates. There's no staff who doesn't have closing and resumption time except me. My colleagues call me "Workaholic", but this man calls me "Lazy".
If I step out for just 20Mins, calls will come in needing my attention at the hotel. He wants me to be working 24/7, yet, I have no place to sleep in same hotel. I'm exposed to harsh weather conditions and Mosquito bites . Even slaves have more prestige and honor than me.
At this moment, I don't mind get a new job elsewhere and taking a pay cut, as long as my sanity is intact. I'm mentally and psychologically wounded. I already had a bad childhood and same thing is playing out in my adulthood. My self-esteem is affected.

For the records, four of my predecessors all left on a quarrelsome note. As a matter of fact , no former staff ever left happily. Nobody has ever said anything good about same boss. If you call workmen to come fix an issue, he wouldn't pay them after work. Everyone is saying same thing about one person.
Only this month, I have already been booked six times for offences I know nothing about. And if u complain, he will book you further. No staff ever gets their complete salaries by the end of the month. It's a very pathetic situation I've found myself. I wish I had elder ones or even parents who I can lean on while I quite this job. My mental health is at stake. Psychologically, I'm affected.

Mods, please push this to the front page. I need advice Pls.

Nlfpmod, mynd44

It's well with us.

If anyone cherishes humanity and sanity, such people should please kindly take me out of this job before I die of depression and frustration from my boss. Pls !
My blood pressure is already very high due to lack of sleep and rest coupled with insults and verbal assaults

LexFlex10:
Obiobino, Oyi'nem

Anya okpani

Emmaari:
Obiobino, ukolo be?

Obi'obi no okpani. Daudu...

LexFlex10:
Proudly IDOMA

Oyi'nem, Abole ke ?

Emmaari:
Number 10 is my middle name (Alechenu)
Proudly idoma..

Oyi'nem

Karlifate:
Oh!

Your response is lousy

Wotowotoman:
Something wey you go use carry enough OS to go do oblee for club abi? 🤔

Nooo Sir, I don't do that sir.

It's Fuuud I want and survival

Tohmey:
I'm am dropping $5,000 on it Portugal or draw

This amt can change my life right now
There's no hope of survival tomorrow

Amovingman:
Blame obasanjo,yar adura and Jonathan for it not tinubu

Leave tinubu alone please

We're seeing people's making billions of naira during tinubu tenure in Nigeria

Congratulations to you and your family

Kingrshd3:
Even during Jonathan's time people are depressed so it's not because of the leader or time but it depends on what u are doing or ability to work smart to make money ..

What type of job do you do??

You're yet to respond to my response sir

Kingrshd3:
Even during Jonathan's time people are depressed so it's not because of the leader or time but it depends on what u are doing or ability to work smart to make money ..

What type of job do you do??

I'm being enslaved by my employer and I have no other alternative than to bear the pains.

Any day OBI's name is not mentioned, Nigeria will cease to exist.
Obi is a Big Name!

Times are extremely hard. Very difficult!

I'm depressed

Karlifate:
Okay. What do you do, by the way?

I work as a hotel supervisor. I work 24/7. No rest, no off day. This WASN'T the agreement we had before I was employed. I'm just a month old into the job.
Aside spending all my days working, the boss insults me and my colleagues at all time. He can't be around and you'll be happy.
Everyday I get booked/surcharged for offences I didn't commit. If the cleaners don't do their jobs correctly, I will get penalized. Everything here is toxic.
At night I don't sleep because I'm guarding the Gen, inverter and NEPA and keeping records.
I want to stop but I can't . Because I owe people and I need to pay. I'm tired of life

Sirhush:
Style plenty just wait make i meet the love of my life too

See me here na.
What's holding you