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Brotherly, truly you are going or have gone through alot but the kind of life you want your kids depend on you. If you end up a miserable man because of the fact that you don't want your children to have a taste of broken home, later you will be broken likewise them. please choose a good life by staying away from their mother but do your responsibility on them especially financial responsibility. Those kids deserve a father that can give them a good life.
I am also from a broken home, at 8 mum moved out myself and my 11year old brother with dad went through alot but dad had a great dream despite the fact that our mum wasn't there and now bro, am a Pharmacist and my brother an Engineer all thanks to our dad. Divorced or not, the life of your children depends on your fortune and readiness to play your part from afar.
If you keep going to her because you want to stay close to your children and you allow your wife to destroy you, this children will blame you in life for not standing your ground when you supposed to
My advice: keep sending them money, If she allows you to see them fine if not keep playing your part as a father without much contact. soon or later the children will figure it out and they will know that you are always playing your part. It's only when you have a good life that you can extend it to your children

Lastly: divorced is not always a curse, and it doesn't mean all children from broken home will be miserable in life. Am one and am living a good life, my dad is living a great life likewise my mum.