chizobamgbume:
This kind nagging husband sef!!!

Na watin I see inside marriage turn me to nagging husband.abi make I die of HBP? Am going insane already, u don't have an idea and I pray u don't go tru same if u are a man.

Thanks NL for ur advice,comments,suggestions . Really appreciate them.its obvious my wife has made up her mind and it's kinda painful she has to use this medium to tell me.gracias all and finally God bless us all.

susubrown:
Will I be stupid to hit a person who I know is very very hot tempered,who is far stronger than me,i am not that stupid,i have never hit him and this this the 7 time he is hiting me,

Na waoooo, y do u enjoy lieing to get sympathy.u have Neva hit me woman? God plz help this woman.i can't count d number oof times she has hit me I wud show u guys marks on my body when I snap them. My hit u 7 times. How many times have we spent together in d last 2 years? Is it up to 7 times? How I wish Odion cud really explain or express herself I wud ve loved it.

susubrown:
For the cheating,i have been acussed of sleeping with the driver in my office,his friends and even his oga,this is an isan person who an they believe anywoman that cheats will die ooooooo,the cheating part is baselesss,totally baseless.for the best sex part,when I was pregnat he kept sending text messges with another phone cliaming it was a woman who I was sleeping with her husband,i went to the woman in real life and she denined ever doing that,the husband even reported the matter to the station but the person kept acussing me I was sleeping with her husband when I was 8. Months pregnact,so one day I reply the message do your worst,yes I had the best sex with your husband,that is what he is talking about. immediately I sent the text my husband forwarded the message to everybody that a woamn I have been sleeping with sent it to him,yes the line is not registered in his name but right now that sim is with me because I found that sim in his pocket,

Mheennn this woman, plz stop lieing and don't allow me to start washing our dirty linen on nairaland. This am talking about was just some few weeks back ooooo. She told me point blank in d sitting room ooo dat she had d best sex of her life wit a married man.mind u ask any Ishan man it has been reverted now, any woman dat does dat is on her own. Can u imagine what my wife is saying.found wich sim in my pocket? Na set up oooooo.i don tire for all this talk.its just painful dat my wife wud not admit her faults.now it's glaring for u all to see.dats 1 of our biggest challenge.

susubrown:
Hello pls check bloosm profile check when he registered and check when he registered I was so shocked he is a member of nairiand,i don't intend to take the baby from him like I have alwaus told him he has a right to see her when he wants to as long as he is not violent towards me,i have been acussed of slepping with him,even with the driver in my office self.infact everybody.he is here loving his daughter ask him go takes care of her.the last time he bought babyfood was oct,november is almost gone I am the one handling the responsiblity,I am not complaning.i have never hit him with pole that is a lie,a big lie.

I know pple wud start commenting and saying. Am lieing but no need to argue. This is really d problem, u don't wanna admit to ur own faults.i come here and write dat u have Neva hit me wit iron, even dat nite u woke me up wit strokes of iron on my back.have always been responsible for my child, even d last time I bought food was early Nov wich I gave to my wife's Dad d day I meet him to discuss all these issues.ask her 2 weeks ago I called her up and asked her let's sit to discover d way forward especially as regards our daughter but she refused and asked me to discuss anything I have to say with her father.thankGod she said it's only this few weeks I did not buy food.mind u all she has been living her parents house for 2 years now, immediately after d marriage while d apartment I rented for 2 years is wasting away.
As for her relationship wit brossam I wud not dignify her by saying anything about it,but mmayb she has forgotten what she told me about it. I wanted to rest my case with my last post but I had to reply this.

Today in conclusion, I pray susubrown u gve us d chance to set things right.No human or marriage is perfect but we need to confront our imperfection and face a sometimes painful past, including the truth that we have both been insultive,abusive and offended each other countless times.

cococandy:

Did you beat your husband with an iron rod like he says you did? Are you saying he's lying about that?
And whatever happens make sure that girl gets to know and have a relationship with her father. You don't have the sole right to the child. She's jointly 'owned'.

Also important are you willing to own your faults in this and make peace or is your mind strongly made up about the divorce?

Please NL help beg my wife coz she is hell bent on denying me any relationship wit my daughter.she knows I love my daughter wit all my heart and wud do anything for her.so she wanna punish me by taking d girl away from me. Plz I wud wanna b a part of my daughters life no matter d outcome of her decision.

susubrown:
I am not emotionally attached to my ex,i have not talked to him since 2007 when we broke up,i carried the bag with my belonging to his house,the visa application and the pictures.
Y is it now he is complaining about it,he has never mentioned this matter once and I am surprised he decided to bring it to nairia land.a yes I am a bad person,continue,u will curse me pains only for a while but God will repay u back,everypain and heart break u have caused me

My dear u know u have Neva sat me down to really explain anything to me. Am not complaining but it hurts me dat whenever we argue u always compare me wit ur ex's, saying I was a mistake. Have I ever compared u to my ex? I did not bring it on nairaland for make u,me or d marriage look bad but to get neutral opinion since u refused to talk to me. Note have Neva said u are Bad person, we both have our flaws wich I always want to let u know but u Neva gve me d chance.i never intend to cause u any pain or heart break and if I did It was Neva intentional. Please find it in ur heart to forgive. Me, AM SINCERELY SORRY.

raumdeuter:
^^ WHat kind of relationship do you, your wife and brossam share

Hmmmm I no fit talk ooooo
E b like say na only dem fit answer d question. Correctly sha. Make I no talk make dem no say I dey over talk.

raumdeuter:


How is brossam related to you and your wife?

Brossam is not related to me in anyway but for his relationship with my wife I wud like either of them to start how they are related.me no fit talk am ooooo
But truelly he is not neutral in this matter coz he has Neva heard my side of d story and have Neva spoken to me whether face to face or on phone.

cococandy:

Mmm. Okay.

So you never beat her (your wife) like she said? I mean apart from the one time you admitted she called your family useless and you slapped her. You didn't beat her frequently that she had to use armed robbers as excuse to explain away the bruises?
I know why I'm emphasizing on the beating part because domestic violence is a no no in my opinion.

And more importantly why did you bring the issue to NL? Are you willing to own your faults in this case and work towards a solution or you just want to make her look bad?

Like u rightly said I did that 1ce. But after then have not done that until truthfully this last time. When I accused her of flirting she told me point blank dat yes and they gave her d best sex of her life.i won't lie I got angry and slapped her.d armed robber talk was Becoz of her phones dat she cud not find and she had to cover up coz pple were trying to reach her.i brot d pix thing to NL coz I wanted neutral opinion and Neva wanted to make her look bad. I totally admit dat I have my own faults in d whole of this matter and have even. Told her. I think there is more to this than meets d eye, I have even suggested to her dat we need help but she is always saying dat she does not need help,dat am d only 1 dat needs help.I Neva put this on NL to make her look bad, but we really need help.both physical (counselling) and spiritual.

intbizoil:
wow what a tale. I pray God heals your marriage. Mr Op and the wife give peace a chance. Op leave your ego, I know you are hurt cos of the pics please she is your wife. Stop the beating pls. Mrs susu pls forgive and accept your husband for the sake of your baby girl. One of the greatest danger to any marriage is third parties especially exes. From henceforth Op stop contacting your ex if it would make your wife happy. I hope to hear good.news soon.

Thanks intbizoil , was only wondering y a woman u luv wud hide such a thing from her husband b4 and after wedding.well that's in d past now.right from this moment all contact wit my ex has stopped.but wud like to state categorically I Neva had any sexual relationship wit d ex in question.

cococandy:
Don't know who to believe but brossam who I suppose is neutral in this matter has seen the bruises on madam's face which looks as bad as if she was attacked by robbers.

I believe you can sort things out except that you've added violence to your issues which for me is always a deal breaker.
So before one of you kills the other, kindly stay apart for now.

BTW how's the child in this marriage being taken care of?

Trust me brsosam is not neutral at all in this matter.i know what am saying and d reason's I say he is not neutral.i did not expect less support from him for my wife.i know my wife actually put him into this to gve whatever she says credence. I have friends on nairaland but did not involve them to take my side.i only post this topic to enable me clear my mind and head by reading opinions of neutral pple.

cococandy:
Don't know who to believe but brossam who I suppose is neutral in this matter has seen the bruises on madam's face which looks as bad as if she was attacked by robbers.

I believe you can sort things out except that you've added violence to your issues which for me is always a deal breaker.
So before one of you kills the other, kindly stay apart for now.

BTW how's the child in this marriage being taken care of?

Trust me brsosam is not neutral at all in this matter.i know what am saying and d reason's I say he is not neutral.i did not expect less support from him for my wife.i know my wife actually put him into this to gve whatever she says credence.

brossam2001:
Hi Peeps.

Didn't really want to comment but just realize I have to..
I have tried in my capacity to merge this cracking marriage even while I was in the United state. because of my belief that what God joined, man (EX) is not permitted to put asunder . like what I always tell the woman whenever I see her you must not allow your marriage to fail. Several times she has met me and complain that she wants a divorce and I think my advice has been what is still keeping the marriage.
And God will keep this marriage the desire peace must return back to the marriage.

I remembered there was a day the woman told me that if shevdies inside the marriage my conscience will fight me since I am the only one telling to remain there, from that day I had a rethink ......


My advice to my Bro...your wife loves you and like every other woman she desire to be love in return pls and pls don't humiliate her by the excessive beatings. I saw the swellings and blood clots all over her face, she told her colleagues that she was attacked by armed robbers, but she opened up to me and I cried in my heart when I saw her face, she told me how you chase her out with cutlass a day before and how you naked her along the streets. Pls bro, love her, she loves you and you will see the best in her

To my Sis...pls initiate the peace move even if your husband is not ready to...every man has ego and I am sure he is sorry by now, you even told me. Give him a kiss on the right side of his cheeks (not left side).

I pray God to make this couples happy and be the best couple in town. Shalom

@ sulieman I now my wife involved u in this to bear her witness but truelly am tempted to react to ur comment but on a second tot I wud rather stay calm and wiat for d day I wud see u so we can talk.she is ur friend and she has told u these things and we live in d same town u Neva cared to say let me know what's happening from this man's own perspective.when ever u call her or she calls u, u only ask is ur husband and Dats d end. Even while we were courting and we had issues ur advice to her was don't put ur egg in 1 basket. I first day I saw u @ 1st junction wit my wife when we were preparing for wedding, my wife left me and went to see u wit d courtesy of excusing herself and u just looked at me from d taxi witout saying hello.well all dat is in d past now and am not angry oooo, all am trying to say is dat if u really have her interest @ heart u wud have called me or even come to my house to say look at what my friend told me ooo,not coming here to support her claims witout hearing from me.do u really know ur friend and what she can do? Plz I don't wanna go into details. But u know dat she does not follow me to church instead she calls u to come and talk her to ur own church.

andromida:


Your husband believes you mistreat him maybe you should actually listen to him and hear what he wants from you. I know you are fed up but for whatever reason you married him one last chance you don't have to rush back to be together. You can build a whole new different relationship because whatever you had looks washed up maybe something new can grow.

Thank u andromida @least some1 understands where am coming from,my wife treats me like shit, even when I do everything to make her happy.i sit her down to tell her d things she does dat I don't like but she always feels am trying to intimidate her saying she is. A big girl and a graduate dat if I want a girl to do d things am talking about I should have married a village small girl. She does not respect me insults me @ will and even goes to her family to insult me calling me names.she does not listen to me but other pple and her parents especially on issues concerning our home.even to d extent she shares our plans @ home wit her parents in details.when I try to let her understand dat it's not like dat she become angry and tell me shut up, my dear if I say 1 she wud say 100.i have suffered a lot in her hands that it now looks like am d woman while she is d man.friends no longer come to our house especially my friends coz she hates all of them.

susubrown:
Can see my husband is meant on scoring some points,my dad sent that text cos he was tired of seeing me battered.this man would size my phones for days,and I always give the gist of armed robbers attacking me.truth is I am tired of this whole stuff,i wish u guys can see me now,i am now a shadow of myself.what stop this man from calling me to settle our differences.must it resort to me been beaten and chased round the house like a common thief,i need to leave for my daughter,i didn't wait to get married all thses years for this

Am not here to score any point my wife but to say d truth so dat neutral pple will see everything as it is.her father I meet we sat down for 4 hours to discussed and he promised me he was going to talk to his daughter I should gve him 2 weeks, only to come back some days later wit dat txt coz my wife told him I called her and ogbanje. But did not ask my wife what she called me before I called her dat. The truth is dat my parents inlaw do not want her in my house for reasons I can not share here.u know my wife is d first daughter and d only 1 working. U leave where u have stayed b4 na but u have Neva stayed in my house but ur parents place only come to my house as if we are just BF and GF.i don't touch ur phones except u collect my phones and start calling numbers on my phone.i Neva chase u or beat u, whenever I try sitting down to talk to u what do I get insults to d extent u tell me dat am talking rubbish and say dat u are a graduate and not 1 village girl, dat if I want someone dat will do watever. I should go and marry a village. U guys need to see what I have gone in d hands of this woman, even this woman went as far starting a building project witout me knowing uptil now which she started when I was suspended from work.Now I can't even think straight Na only God dey see me tru.her plans is make me not b involved in my daughters life by taking her away from me. I Neva expected dat this is what I wud get in marriage.i Neva planned for this. Funny enough we still call each other my husband and my wife on nairaland.

susubrown:
So because I forged wedding pic because of papers,which I wasn't given 8 years ago,i should be maltreated,i don't get*
My parents didn't know it was between me and my ex.
The embassy discovered and didn't give us the visa again

Nobody maltreated u, instead u maltreated me and made me felt worthless to the extent it affected my job and I was suspended from work for 10months without coz I cud not hold it together when I almost went mad. Ur parents were aware of the wedding thing if not after telling ur mum y wud her only comment b is it ur picture, go and bring dem back.plus in d pix were ur siblings and other relations.

andromida:
This marriage right now is heavy with hatred and bitterness. No one is owning their stuff everyone is the victim of abuse. The part where the wife texted "I don born ooo" made me laff I know I know serious stuff.

Everyone has their pastors giving advice and prophecies. Maybe it's time you two sit down and ask yourselves if you want the marriage or not and if you do what are the rules. If you don't maybe a trial separation will clear your heads and possibly give clarity on the way forward to be or not to be.

Thanks a lot for ur contribution, u are truelly correct.ve tried talking to her to sit down let's talk of d way forward but the interference of her parents has not really helped.right now my wife said I can't talk to her anything I want to discuss now should b wit her father coz he is d 1 handling d issue, so where do u want me to start from when our every discussion and plans as man and wife is subject to approval she gets from her parents.it seems am d 1 pushing for d marriage, recently d father sent me a txt asking me to plz start divorce proceeding. Wishing me a happy and blissful future.wud ve loved to paste d txt but I don't wanna disrespect any1.

susubrown:
Me slap him,i fit,thank God he has said he has short temper,then I will then dare slap him,jezzzeee I can't try that,yea I knew about the ex and when he brought her to me I helped her get a job and even gave her were to stay,so fine y would I acuse him of dating her and still help her and even allow her sleep in the same bed with me.i am a very very open person,i only accused him when the ex kept calling late at night,,in the fb messagehe told her to come to ph. So they could start thier life together and he married her cos she refused and I accepted

Plz pple kindly ask her what put d mark on my face dat day,mayb it was d witch in my village.my wife is stubborn and cold blooded and can do anything. U accused me coz of d fake prophesy u were given before the prophesy u Neva had any issue wit d same ex dat u helped to get a part time job when I was dating u.woman say d truth and let pple know how to help u.i wonder how u will bring up our daughter wit all these lies. My ex Neva called me @ nite. Even d txt she sent I showed it to u and I Neva invited her to PH. D day u started d accusation was when u were given d fake prophesy, dat was y u slapped me after d counseling coz of phone call. I ended d relationship wit d girl and married u y then wud I b asking her to come to PH to start our life.does dat make any sense.mind u as at d time u are talking of now I was squatting wit 4 friends in 1 room in PH. My dear speak d truth and don't lie all in d name of scoring points or making me look bad like u have been doing, when pple do not know d truth.

We got married and we were looking for an apartment where she wud stay, found places but she Neva liked them and it was getting close to when I will report to place of work in PH. Even when we were looking for a place her mum asked where we wanted to get d place and she was told d mum said it was too far which d dad asked far ffrom who.eventually we cud not get a place b4 I went to resume in PH. So I asked her to stay in my family house wit my mum while we look for a place she wud like.again her Mum said she can not stay wit my mum.after much talk she moved into my family house while I went to PH. I came back after 1 week to see her and go for a deliverance appointment wit her.d fateful morin I was bathing when I heard a shout I ran out wearing only my boxers and I saw dat my wife went to my phone and was checking my phone and saw a fb chat wit my ex, immediately I came out she started shouting and hitting me, beating while I sat on d floor begging her.d chat was an harmless chat and in due time am gonna paste it for all to read.as she was shouting, beating me my mum heard and came begging her all to no avail,she was already packing her things saying she was done wit the marriage and dat d only thing btw us was d marriage certificate which she wud tear if she lays her hand on it.so she took d marriage certificate and tore it to pieces in d presence of my mum despite my mum plea for her not to do it.as she was doing dat she completed it by saying USELESS FAMILY in my mum's presence that was when I got angry and slap and hit her.eventually I called my pastor who came and talked coz I refused her moving her things until I see her parents first.my pastor came and said I should allow her go out to calm down. She left d house and Neva came back that day.called her lines but she did not pik.had to call her dad and told him everything who said he was gonna talk to her.that night she did not come home, d next day my mum called d dad and told him dat her son and her daughter had some mis understanding, she left home and did not come back tru out d nite, she asked if she was in his house. D dad told my mum dat if he did not see his daughter dat he was going to arrest my mum,same man I called and reported was happened d previous nite.
That was how my wife left d house and went to her parents house to stay.all theses happened after I saw d wedding pix few days after our wedding which she did not tell me.so she stayed in her parents house saying she cannot stay in wit my mum.i went back to my station and gave her d money for d house rent(200k). We later saw an apartment wich I askked her to check out if she liked it. She did checked d place out and likked it, to pay became an issue coz she spent 40k out of d rent witout telling me.i came from PH reported to d dad who pleaded wit me to make up d balance, which I did and went to pay for d apartment myself.my wife refused to clean up d place to move in.i was coming from PH to benin every weekend to clean up d place, painted d apartment and moved our things into d house. Still my wife refused to stay in d house and was still staying wit her parents.saying only her can not stay in d house. So I had to b coming to benin every weekend, even at that I will come from pH and will b d 1 to sweep,mob and do all the house chores even to cook for me was an issue.she said I beat her up when she was pregnant wich is a big lie. Dat fateful day I came to benin and she left her parents house to my place, I was very tired and slept off, @ nite what I heard where I was sleeping was strokes of iron on my head and body. My wife was beating me wit iron from this moveable wardrobe shouting dat I was still communicating wit my ex.she went to my phone to check my call log.this am telling u was around 12/1 am midnight.immediately she started packing her things saying. She was leaving dat nite.i had to lock everywhere coz how wud I allow a pregnant woman wonder out dat time of d nite.i locked d door and told her dat when it's morning when her parents come we wud know wat to do.d mext morning when I opened d door my landlady came coz she heard her shout at nite and asked what was happening immediately she started shouting dat I hit her wit hammer on her stomach.God I was surprised and started crying coz this woman can send some1 to jail wit her lies. Her mum came and took her aware and dat was the end she left d house I have paid for 2 years in dat house while I still pay for my accommodation in PH too.my wife has Neva stayed in d house in benin for 1 week. D next thing d mother came wit her younger sister fought me and packed her things away from d house.she said I insult her, abuse her and redicule her wit her ex.cam u imagine talking to ur wife and she compares u wit her ex saying they are better than u,even compare u wit ur friends saying dey are better than u. U will BlackBerry in d house and ur wife will call anoda married man to come and take her to church after u asked her to come to church wit u and she refused. Saying I wished her death with text msg wit anoda sim.dat same person sent me txt msg telling me dat my wife slept with her husband knowing fully well dat he was married. Even d man in question called my wife 1 day in my presnce calling her a Maga coz she was spending money on d guy.it was none of my bizness coz when she was sleeping wit d married man I did not even know her @ all. I Neva threatened her wit msg or whatever or even chased her wit cutlass. This is a woman dat said she went to a church and they said dat I wanted to kill her wit poisoned lacasera.she changed her hospital and did not tell me, even registered in d hospital wit her maiden name.she did not tell me anything even her due date until she delivered and she sent a txt "I don born ooooo" I can paste names of people who are not even related to me and their contacts for clarifaication.its only my wife's parents that supports her in her ways, to d extent dat d mum was asking me dat she does not know y my wife does not respect me.how much do I hve her for feeding money.plzz pple tell her to provide d sim and go to d police for investigation. Fast forward d last incident I was driving and she asked for my phone to call wich she obviously did not do but instead went tru my call logs and saw my ex number on it, started shouting and ranting, I simply asked for my phone back coz she sat at d back seat of d car while I was driving she stoned me on d head wit d phone(blackberry) I almost had an accident dat nite,i was angry and slapped her.
This is my wife who I saw chats wit a man on her phone, I called her at nite and sat her down asking her for explanation wich she she bluntly told me she owes me no explanation.this gus calls her morning and nite and whatsapp her luv messages.finally dat nite my wife told me point blank dat I cannot stop men from toasting her.plz pple askk her if all I said are lies.do u know dat there was a day my wife fought me!,beat me up and tore all my clothes when I called my pastor to come she took some of her clothes and tore them wit scissors saying she was going to lie on my head dat I beat her and tore her clothes.i recorded d whole thing wit my laptop and fortunately there was this 10years old girl staying who later confessed to my pastor dat it was my wife that tore her own clothes.i have videos of my wife beating and tearing my clothes insulting me and calling me Bad head,dat I was a mistake.even the mum calls me dat too.

Nairalanders I wud like to respond to my wife's story and accusation.I hope all will analyse this story and judge based on the truth and not sentiments or gender.As I see all matured pple and couples. On nairaland as neutral persons who will judge wit unbiased minds.Plz kindly b patient to read as it will b a lenghty write up although I will try to shorten it.

I meet my wife in 2011 november 11 to b precise in a church programme in my church.saw her and chatted wit her her coz fortunately we attended d same university although we wer not friends in sch but in d same faculty.little did I know dat her coming to my church was arranged by my pastor's wife who told her she had someone in church dat she wud want her to see.mind u guys I got to know about all these from my wife close to when we were about getting married. My wife told me they use to have prayer sections together and dat was where my pastor's wife was praying and talking about my ex.fast forward I asked my wife on a date and eventually proposed to her wich she accepted. All these happened early 2013,toward d end of 2013 say august, sept, oct I got info in my place of work that I wud transfered from b/c to PH. Wich I discussed wit my wife then and we concluded we do d wedding in b/c b4 I go to PH.she just got a job in b/c then too,so we decided since she just got a job she wud stay in benin for now while I stabilize in PH b4 we decide again d way forward.plz nairalanders I want u guys to takke note of this,while I was dating my wife I Neva lied to her,i was sincere and open. I told my wife dat d only shortcoming I think I have is my short temper wich I also told her father d day I went to see him and ask for her daughter's hand in marriage.the father confirmed dat from my pastor's who I see as my father coz my biological father is late.so I don't know where d issue of rush comes in dat she is talking about.even b4 marriage d parents went to see a prophet and she told me dat d prophet told her dat he did not see my wife's face dat my heart is for another girl. Since dat prophesy my wife's attitude changed and Neva trusted me,during one of. Our marriage counselling section,after d counselling on our way going home, a call entered my phone wich I did not want to pik.my wife insisted I must pik d call coz d call was from a female friend, eventually I piked and my wife said she must see who was calling and started dragging d phone from me which lead to her slapping me on d street of okhoro in benin, even gave me a mark on my face.i said nothing and only called my pastor who said we should come and see him in d church.my wife got into a bus and was still screaming in d bus dat she was gonna deal wit me, along new lagos road in benin.on getting to church pastor spoke to us and settled us. But I was angry and 2 days later went to drop d clothes for d traditional wedding in her office. But later family members especially my mum and younger brother spoke to me and suggested I see d parents. Went to see d parents who after telling them wat happened, d next thing d mother said was what am I saying now? Is it dat I don want to go on wit d wedding again or what. Later she said her daughter said she did not slap me but only drag my phone from my ear and dat was when she injured me. That mayb she was jealous.

flyca:
@susubrown
Ok, madam. We have heard your bit. Please cool down lets wait for married uncles and aunties in this platform to speak. Please calm down ma, ok?

@phatxplorer
Is what your wife saying true? What do you have to say about it?

OP, I sha fear you o
You wrote your first posts like you were sinless.
What ever it is, you don't have to beat another man's child. You don't respect her parents. You have been married for two years, why didn't you report to her parents or you send her home alive? Will you be happy another man beats your daughter or sister?

Nairalanders I. Knew she was. Goona see the post and reply wit all sorts of lies and accusations.i brought this up here so neutral persons witout vested interest to gve matured advice and contribution especially married couples.this woman knows how to wipe up sentiments with her touching stories,am gonna explain all the story in bits.its not all about the wedding pix she did not tell me about.let me emphatically state here that my wife knew everything my ex wich my pastor's wife told her about and wich I told her about too.i mean every single thing that transpired btw us I told her thinking she was matured enough coz I was already done wit my ex.even when I was dating my wife I introduced my ex to her for a part time job which she assisted her.my ex is a student of a tertiary institution .i swear to God I have Neva cheated on my wife except u consider a harmless facebook chat wit my ex as cheating. She only chated wit me on fb saying dat she heard ve been transferred to anoda city and ask if am there wit my wife wich I answered No. For clarity Iam gonna look for the chat and find a way to post it online.

jaymejate:
There is fire on the mountain wwhich can be quencdo whatever tever you caatever you can
First of all, you know that during courtship, there
questions you should have asked and some research you shoulPlease have done. That's what coThrough thisship is for. Definitely for this to happen, you didn't do the right thing during that period.

The Solution

It has happened and that's it, just sit her down. Talk to her, women get soft mind, hit that mind with soft words. Tell her, anyone can make mistakes and everyone has his or her own past.
Through this, she will tell you the truth. Then do whatever you can, love her to the fullest just to make her forget that previous man. Cos what God has joined together let nothing put asunder.



Please FORGIVE HER. Hope say i mak sense small?

Did my home work well though but not thorough coz I believed her parents were clergy,although she said she dated d guy for 8 yrs but hide d part of having a trad wedding wit him.she is not even remorseful dat she lied and brut d pix to her matrimonial home which was found some days after wedding.

Mindfulness:
*sighs*

What your wife did was wrong but that doesn't mean that she is wrong. Try to understand why she did it. She was probably afraid of telling you the truth. The rest is up to you now.

Hiding the truth and not saying a word of it not until it was found out through the pix amounts to deciet.

Plz am new on nairaland and I need you guys candid advice and opinions.what would you do if after marriage, you found marriage pix of your wife with another Man whom she only told u dat they dated. Numerous traditional wedding pix wit d guy even kissing.and when u confronted the woman, she says the wedding was not real but only arranged coz of some travelling plans.she did not say this b4 u married her ooo.and she kept the pix and brought them to ur matrimonial home.