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SAFO: Femi, let me school you on game. This is what you need to do.

Okay so you want to take the cowards way out abi? First you need to change your persona. Become someone totally different from the person your girl fell in love with. I mean a complete 180.

You have to do things that antagonize her. Start with little stuff and then gradually work your way up to the really repugnant type shiit. In other words just become an azzhole. Now don't become too obvious because if she has half a brain, she'll figure out what you're really up too.

Eventually she'll start pulling away from you and over time she will end the relationship which should free you from guilt since ur such a pansy azz and can't even man up and tell her how you really feel.

If you need any key phrases to use or what to focus on. Holla back and I'll let you in on some more game.

Dat's just too coward. Like I've said 'I cant lie just to make her read the lines'. In one of my post on this thread I said something about ' Telling her that 'the dress I once told her fitted on her well; is now exposing her body too much' or she should stop sending text messages to me; when she knows I love messages especially if it's from her.' just cant do it! Anyway; d key phrases may be needed by oda pple: pls post so pple can gain from it.

That's mean! Hiv test result ke. Lailai; if she no wan go make she no go!

Onegai: You can show it in your character. But if I see any thread that says "2 wks of Malice and she's gone to another Man" or "NL pls advise me" (check the romance first page to understand whose thread it is) or anything like that, I will get on and laugh on the thread, like 190. Because she showed you her character rather than act like a decent person and tell you it's over.

lol!

kk; maybe she has someone else bt the point still remains 'how could she break up with someone via text'? It's quite funny u know! Ur point is highly noted; break it gradually. Hmnnnnnnn!

Whizkay: "U r so perfect nd i dnt disav u, i nid to work on my sef...blablablah. Make it sound luk u r d one wu z wrong nd shez ryt nd u wud want her to move on wif a beta guy, den walk away...it wud take ha some tym b4 she realises dat shez been dumped...it myt work nd may not..

Don't think It wud work 4 me cos I never look down on myself/d person I'm going out with; How will 'I tell her dat she's too good for me? That all is my fault! I know what the answer wud be: she will just tell me dat 'am I complaining'! Anyway, thanks dude!

Cupidkc: Very funny thread...
Well, you dont have to say it 'verbally'...just show it in your "character".

hmnnnn! That's what i've been tryin to tell Onegai ; but she thinks all people that goes that way are just immatures!

ATMC: @all, u know when u r in a rship nd things go awry, its usually difficult to talk things over just like dt...there seems to be a break in communication nd i think dt's y those lines come out d way they do, not really cos d parties r immature buh cos our emotions play us many atimes. This accounts for d reason y a rship counsellor has a break up nd a marriage counsellor gets a divorce. They r not immature, they r simply played by their emotion. This leaves most of us crying for help!

Thanks jare! I think u get it well spelled out 'emotions'. Just can't say those words (it's over). Guess it's an emotional thing after all. It's much easier 4 me to ask a lady out(Omotola) than calling it quit with sum1 (pepper seller).

Onegai: Reason no. 3,123,652 I don't understand boys. You want to be treated like a man, yet you don't want to act like one. You pretend till she realises and leaves, shey? Don't you realise everything you do shapes you for the future? Or abi you will keep ignoring the problem till it leaves, then marry and miraculously expect that when problems come in marriage, you will ignore it till it leaves or know how to solve them, after all, you havs SOOO much experience dealing with stuff. Then you now see thread: "my wife is contacting her ex, what should I do, am so confused"

So what do u suggest I do? To tell her that 'the dress I once told her fitted on her well; is now exposing her body too much' or she should stop sending text messages to me; when she knows I love messages especially if it's from her. Things are just not working out 'she knows it so do I'. Just wished I've a better way of saying it (It's over)! Never really told anyone that. Maybe that's why I have too many GFs; just cant say it in a matured way like you said. We are just too different!

Onegai: Seriously, you don't wake up having problems in your relationship and magically fix them with a breakup. Your breakup reflects your relationship, I've seen this 100% of the time. If you go about it immaturely, you will regret, because you made that decision to break up with an immature mind. So better think things through and be slow to break up, just as you were hopefully slow to enter the rel.

Well noted; thanks! But I've seen some relationships that one can't break slowly/one cant break without a fight. because I was once in that relationship before and my saving grace was 'my relocation'. Immature breakup like u'ved highlighted is not good but it also depends on the circumstances involved! Anyway; thanks.

cowgurl: THERE IS NO EASY WAY OUT ON THIS Op, no matter ow u serve it, it wil def hurt.

I know; but I've never in my life told someone 'It's over': I just pretend things are going to be well till she reads the line but It's not easy though!

When all roads seems heading to a stumbling block n d only way out is calling it quit. Though I know there is no right time/special moment of breaking someone's heart; especially if the person is truly in love with you. My curiousity grows when my friend(girl) told me she just ended her relationship of 5yrs with a phone text message (funny isn't it). Maybe that is the reason I ended up with so many GFs! Just want to know how u pop d pop question. Or how u got d message (bang). D method being used, without much hard feelings.

dunnio: some kids grew up with their upper tooth first wic means a lot if u understand me,but other kids always say what the will do if they find themselves in a situation they never expect,so...ur friend should just have her word!

He is still bending on what to do: He is tempted to give it a try.

Fellywood: @Phemi3, please advise your friend to prepare his will before venturing into this dangerous water. I am very sure she will kill him

oucch! He is going through the thread as well; if he likes let him go ahead. A word is enough for the wise! Thanks.

reap40: Just leave him to find out by himself! Maybe he dint know that life has no duplicate. If he's as flirt as u perfect him; then tell him to move on than riskin his life 4 notin. Like I ve said 'life has no duplicate'.

Yes ooo! It does not have duplicate (life); Will tell him to move on with his life without him tryin to sleep with someone that plans to end his life. Your point is well noted, thanks!

hmnnnn! So?

'No more free p....ny', very funny! but dat does not give her the right to take his life. If she knows his intentions then why did she still wants to go to bed with him (with threats)? No be 2day dem don dey jilt each oda now. n as 4 d orange seller; she can still ve him even afta death, if dat's what she tinks!

OK2NVME: Apart frm d ashies, which i paid good money for, and who also lead parallel lives cos dey(ashies i had been with) will let any man part wit his hard earned dough when conered by dem, my exes who cheated on me in d past n continue 2 cheat since, accordin to one of dem, she cant get enuf of me. yeah rite! d oda girls where inbtw ashies n one nite stands. these hoes runnin around these days makes a man not willin 2 comit. or havent u heard dat u can never make a hoe a house wife. am no perv n so also ops friend. at d end of d day water go find level. its not my fault dat i slept wit all those women afteral it takes 2 to tango. dont hate d playa hate d game!

So it's because 'u had ur heart broken', dat's why u sleep around and breaking peoples heart. One tin I just believe is that, there is someone(special) for everybody. Those girls that said u cant really satisfy them; maybe re not really meant for you. Check yourself my friend before you use your Wife to do 'Awilo sharp sharp'. Life is too short for you to play around with! One love broda!

simply irresponsible!

queensmith: The op probably is a pervert, uncontrolled sexual desire isn't normal. Neither is obsession with sex. The op is abnormal and probably needs help dealing with it.

I'm not the one being obsessed with sex (my friend). I share ur view that he needs to be check mated.

Gbam! U hit the nail on the head. Cant wait for my friend to read this. Thanks

queensmith: You intentionally introduce him to 3 different chicks, one with HIV, one with hepatitis C and the 3rd with hepatitis B. Get another chick with with malaria or yellow fever to kiss him on the lips and he should be dead in 4 months.

Trust me you will be doing the world a favor

Very funny! Dat's high way to the grave. Hepatitis AB & co. O da ju ni e ooo!

ronkebp: Have you ever seen a woman openly declaring that she would kill a man if he dumps her? if someone does, it should not be taken with a pinch of salt, it is becomes a serious matter, and if that your friend decides to damn whatever the consequences might be, i pity him, because he might not be able to come back to tell us the story.

Maybe I dnt ve much encounters with girls that threatens life n death; bt sumtin in my mind tells me she cnt do it. I jst cnt tell him to go ahead because it involves death (no remedy). Sum girls sha!!!

ronkebp: Oh!!! yes, she will surely kill him.

I hope not! Why do you sound so precise?

you re beginning to sound like my friend; always angry when it comes to ladies. Pele tie!

OK2NVME: i sent u a friend request

Do you think she wud accept ur friend request with all ur escapades(23 girls in march). I dnt think so, unless she's a pervert as well!

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Oh well, that's his problem. He clearly doesn't see an issue with it. He's been warned. Whether or not be wants to take note of that warning is up to him. All you can do is talk to him and pre-write his eulogy [/quote]Can she really carry on with those threats? Will try to talk with him sha! Thanks.

[quote author=Inked_Nerd]@OP: The only person who know the extent of her seriousness is she. You friend has been warmed so if he likes, let him try to use the girl and dump her, then later on we'll hear about his pieces being scattered all over some road in Nigeria.[/quote]Dat's is the risk I'm not willing him to take! No life afta death (no 2nd chance).

freecocoa: You people want to force me outta NL with the kind questions una dey ask but God power pass una own.

It's not want you think! what he intends sayin is that no one knows tomorrow except God. It is not a blasphemous speech.

OK2NVME: Your friend is no pervert, he is just sowing his wild oats. If I were him I would have called her bluff and still phucked her (if she was cute and didnt reek of stench). Since January this year I have slept with 23 girls, 5 were ashies, 9 one nite stands , 3 were ex chics wantin some mo and the rest were in between ashies and one nite stands.

Na wa ooo! Another s3x addict here! Thought; it was only my friend (addict). 23 girls in 2012 when we r still in march! Got a question for you; ve u eva been in this type of suituition before?

I wonder oooo! 'playin God' How would I ve known she meant evil or not? still waiting for an answer.

I'm confused as well!

I have friend(guy); who dates anytin (not gay). He dates babes of his age mate, under age and those who are well older than him. He dates low class n high level babes. To even crown it all; he even patronizes ash**wo! I'm sayin this for you to know how raw he is! Last week, he came to my house for an advice; which I don't ve answer to. He said he met a girl (a bread seller) whom he intend to sleep with without wasting much time on her. On the D ... DDay, she told him that she knows his intention and that if he ever tries of using and dumping her; she's going to kill him. He said sometin in her voice seems(real) that this girl is not threaten him @ all. So he stopped making the advances (dint bleep her)! The question the guy puts to me now is that ' had it being he bleepd her; will she actually kill him as threaten? Or is it just an empty bluff? He's still expecting my answer. Let me know ur (nairalanders) opinions and advice. Pls no comments from pervert as well! Thanks.