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Kobojunkie:
Maybe you should start spending more of your time away from your overbearing and indoctrinated parents then. You are a college student, find hobbies, spend more time at the library reading books and broadening your mind. Come back home after church is over or something.

Brother, I try to do this...
But when I'm back to the state ..they burden me with pastor and church all the time...they expect me to be perfect or saint ...you talk back to them now . they'll say you're shouting at them or talking back at them...you just have to listen when they're talking
I don even tire

Kobojunkie:
You say you are 21, are you not in college or something?

Basically, you need to get the fk away from your zombie parents or else you might end up becoming that which they are trying to force on you.

I'm in the university

SenorFax:
Ever heard the quote, "The best leaders are the ones who don't ask for the job".

Just say it's okay, what will be will be. Just play along till you are able to stand on your feet and get a good job or business. Don't be negatively driven by their request. Everybody has a plan, just the way you have yours, and nobody needs to know about yours. Shhhhhhhh.
Just be calm while you silently carry out your plan.

I've been doing just that..
They will find a way to make you talk when you're trying your possible best not to..

Ammishaddai:
Bros, it seems you're not in higher institution yet . Gain admission and you'll see how their perspective will change

I'm in 200l about to enter my 300l..boss sir

This is not a simple argument in the house...
Sometimes they will say I was called to be one...but I thought when you pray that you don't need something he listens and changes your destiny...
Please I need adviae

Good Evening Nairalanders..
Its been long since I posted here, I just have to again....please I have a problem at home with my family, especially my mom and Dad..

My dad is a pastor, doing well for himself and I support my dad , I don't mean bad for him
But the problem I have is they've been telling me to be a pastor, and I'm tired of the songs everyday... Actually I don't want to be a pastor and I don't have any desire or zeal to be a pastor, I've tried to explain to them most of the things I want to be in life ... still yet they're forcing the word pastor into my life.. I believe someone can do other things and still get loved by God, I don't want to get the title pastor behind my name...I know being a pastor is not a bad thing but I don't desire..I desire other things apart from being a pastor. My parents force me to preach in church which many times I do it not to emba them in public but deep down I know I don't desire... I literally do other things to the glory of God in church, I play keyboard, I sing in church, I clean the church...and I've also prayed to God I don't want to be a pastor...
I asked them why I should be a pastor no strong reason, because in the family most of the male children are pastors.. etc
I'm 21years old

Please what should I do?
At least I have gotten to a stage in life where I can make some decisions for myself...but my parents are not just allowing it, not only in this pastoral issue...

Please I need your advise. Thanks

ethicallyright:
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Keep quiet good for nothing right wing terrorist. Hypocrite lying with the name of God.
You sheep support a vulgar reality star capitalist who doesn't want global health insurance but demonize a good man who has pledged a substantial amount of his wealth for that cause.

Stop spamming Nairaland please.

Wat is this one typing

I scored 246 in jamb, like to study medical laboratory science, but which university do you think I should consider... Which school nairalanders. Some said I should consider unizik, oau... Nairalanders which do u think?, ur opinion needed. Thank you

Hmm,okay

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Good evening nairalanders,not d best write up ..
I'm Victor pls I long to school in Canada,my point of writing here is to know if I can get a scholarship and if any one can direct me to one ... I'm not financially stable and the course I intend to study is medical lab science...I have good waec results all my results re okay....please ur opinion is welcomed,happy Sunday to you all

Graxie:
This is painful, what is your mother saying?

Hmmm, forget matter o..nothing

Stephenomozzy:
Pheurly2

Just close your eyes, and breathe.

Normal

Pheurly2:
Nobody talks to me...no friends....lonely...stay in a room all day...i feel I'm turning to a different person...i mean bad. D more I stay iinor...d more I change....funny part..dad is a minister....

Pain has eaten deep..i feel it

Nobody talks to me...no friends....lonely...stay in a room all day...i feel I'm turning to a different person...i mean bad. D more I stay iinor...d more I change....funny part..dad is a minister....

sageb:
lucidly said, the op should also read Victor Frankl's "Man search for meaning" it helps alot.

Hmmmm

Stephenomozzy:


I can't advice you to leave the house and try to survive on your own under harsh conditions.....Your mind is still clouded with pain

Hnnnm...if u are here seeing me...they just want everything done by force....their own alone. .pls is food , house, school fees enough. For bringing up child. There are most times I choose not eat,I nor die...i sleep without clothes....is it enough for bringing up a child. ?

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[quote author=Stephenomozzy post=88965200]Leaving home without adequate resources will further deepen you into depressive thoughts, plus now that the world is on lock down, there's not much by way of being far away you can go.

Turn out the negative vibes that you may be receiving from your family, maybe their words and actions are reopening your scars, but you can do better.

Remember, the pain you're feeling now is not environmental, it is mostly psychological. You can't run away from your mind...embrace the pain, but don't let it define you. It's a tough world out there already.. don't make it harder for your self



[b]LOCKDOWN HAS BEEN EASED MAN..i just want to... ..you're mKing cry.... I'm very emotional...i wanna leave

Take it down abeg. ..
An old video sef

Stephenomozzy:
Hey... You don't have to recount your experience again on a public forum... I can't say i understand what you went thru, but I can say this.... YOU CAN'T FIND MEANING AGAIN.... just take it easy on yourself....

I don't understand..pls explain better

brodalikeme:
Leaving home to fend for yourself will further expose you to more danger considering your young age.

Your family may have betrayed your trust but you should learn to forgive them or at least use whatever platform they provide you in the interim.

Develop yourself, it’s important. Building a future for yourself at your young age and educational qualification will require all the mental toughness, goodwill and luck there is.

Also pray, pray, pray. God is sovereign over everything and He alone can help you chart the course of your life.

It is well bro. God be with you

What I passed through. Those my parents. Were not there for me. Nobody to talk to. I was threatened that they hurt me if talk...for 11 years I kept it to myself...told them last year still yet no emotional support...telling me his life history...if he talked to me earlier as his first son...will I hVe passed through such. D same said he wld slap me if I said anything again...imagine.......i want to leave home...i'm set to...their own is just chores..greet them...do that do this..they sent me to school...not d course I want sef....i want to leave...before I hurt someone....just advice wat I should do to survive.

Stephenomozzy:


You have given too much power to that extremely bad event of your life and have let it become a deciding factor of your worth in life.

Sometimes, it's hard for others to fully understand the pain you're going through so they might find it frustrating that their little efforts are not getting thru to you and may give up.... But jusy because others have given up on you doesn't mean you should give up on your self. Try to see a counselor, or someone you can talk to freely.

You play the piano...beautiful! Can you compose a victory song for yourself? To be your balm when you hurt.

Also, remember how it was when you started learning to play the piano? You learnt notes and when on to triads and then other full chords!

Try to apply same process to your life dear... One note at a time, till you find yourself again.

Never give an abuser the POWER OVER YOUR LIFE. You're a Survivor!

I want to leave..i'm serious..i know what I'm saying bro

Stephenomozzy:

If u want me to post how I was abused. I will. ..
Just pls help

Good evening,I'm a guy that posted that was sexually abused...and my parents are not helping me...no one is...i feel used , useless and worthless...i am depressed..i'm 20 ....i can't bear it any longer...i almost committed suicide...God saved me o... I've decided to leave home..i'm going far away..i play d piano..how wld i start up ,pls advice me..thank u..nairalanders....i'm tired of everything...help please..

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cooluzi:
iswear africa parent re the worst

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