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Too much Earrings
Too disgusting

4ward4:
Nice meeting you Engr. I am also an Engineer, Civil Engineering precisely. With a M.Eng in it.

Thank Bro. God bless you

4ward4:
You will be excessively charged, since I'm Roaming. Not withstanding I will be always here to kill boredom.
If you die today, life will still go on for the baby you are so bothered about.
Glad you are alive so give time some time.Go to their house with an elder from your Side, preferably your dad and mum as this is a serious issues . Apologize to her entire family on your knees for your Deceit and let your Elder do the remaining talking about the co parenting and how you would like to voluntarily contribute to the child upkeep. You did a big mistake by sending third parties to go help beg at the instance, when they found out it was a case of Deceit, they grew hatred for you.
Your wife will on her accord come back to you one day, but how soon is what we can say . Keep apologizing, sending gifts and be of good cheer.

You are so amazing you, God will continue to equip you with deep knowledge, you are good counselor and you are always on point. My Name is
Engr. Olaoluwa Adeniyi Alexander
Msc. Computer Engineering
Modakeke, Osun State

4ward4:
Same to you. Shits happens and we can't keep blaming ourselves.
If she ever brings a divorce paper, don't push it too far. Grant it to her.

Alright, though presently she has not thought of that, or may be that is what she thinking about now, Anyhow she want it i m ready to dance to her tunes, sir how about the baby what can i do to initiate co-parenting please i still need help on that. if you don't mind if i can put a call across

4ward4:
Leave that to her. Time might heal her she she might still want you, unless you want to take up another wife. Then you can go ahead for a final divorce. if not just do what I have advised at first.

Thank you very much you are God sent your advice restore my peace of mind God bless you in all endeavors
Happy Sunday

4ward4:
The church uses the Canon Law, and let me tell you something interesting. The Church will dissolve your Union to your wife Based on Canon Law. Why because their was a Deceit before marriage.
So also will the Country marriage law do, you are even lucky she didn't file for damages ,since all act was on Deceit.She for empty your pocket.
Young man ,accept the very fact that your marriage is over and seek for redress in co parenting.
Take two or more parties to your Ex-wife inlaws and agree willingly to a amount you will ne contributing for the child upkeep.
Since the marriage is logically dissolved on Deceit , it is in the place of your wife to decide if she would love to continue in future.
Time heals all wound , give them time but contribute your quota. Don't send anyone to plead on your behalf anymore .

The marriage was consummated at Ikoyi registry Lagos, there is no need to seek for divorce? i just need to know because i can stay alone like this.

litigator:
They always want free legal services and a lawyer that will spend his/her money for them like some sort of Santa. If he is ready, I am just a WhatsApp message away.

i m ready now

4ward4:
The church uses the Canon Law, and let me tell you something interesting. The Church will dissolve your Union to your wife Based on Canon Law. Why because their was a Deceit before marriage.
So also will the Country marriage law do, you are even lucky she didn't file for damages ,since all act was on Deceit.She for empty your pocket.
Young man ,accept the very fact that your marriage is over and seek for redress in co parenting.
Take two or more parties to your Ex-wife inlaws and agree willingly to a amount you will ne contributing for the child upkeep.
Since the marriage is logically dissolved on Deceit , it is in the place of your wife to decide if she would love to continue in future.
Time heals all wound , give them time but contribute your quota. Don't send anyone to plead on your behalf anymore .

Thank you very much this is the final submission to the question that being disturbing me since. I'm grateful to all the contributors God bless you all

Kobojunkie:
And you are sure this second baby she had belongs to you?

100 percent

Kobojunkie:
Your ex-girlfriend had a baby before you met? And she had another baby for you?

Yes

Kobojunkie:
1. So she had the baby before she left you or she left you and then had the baby, and you only found out about it on Facebook?

2. So, you are currently married right now but your wife does not know of this baby that you had with your ex-girlfriend?

She had a baby before we met

Kobojunkie:
You weren't married to her. You admit she was previously married before you met her. You are not certain the child is even yours, to begin with, but you go around telling potential suitors that you have a child — I don't understand why you do that to yourself. I guess I am trying to understand why you want this child so badly when you have no evidence that it is yours.

From the first woman I have a baby boy with she was previously married before I met her and had a baby girl she left me when things were bad, though we never married each other. When I met other ladies I told them I have an issue before but they turn me down. That was why I kept from this lady I got married to legitimately

frozen70:
You are not a man yet

Dey play

Every thing you told us here is 💯 pure lies

i swear on my mother grave everything i have discussed here truth, this is coming from a bleeding heart why could i coined out all these what do i need to gain if it to deceive this is what is paining me seriously if in your capacity you have help to heal my bleeding and troubled souls

frozen70:
Is your family aware of this trauma or you are keeping it away from them

You don't have to give yourself more tension than the one on ground

Just be calm, you have a daughter and they already know

Just move on if you can, time will sort all these tension out

This is difficult to do i have tried it sir is difficult what can i do

Kobojunkie:
You found out your ex-gal friend had a baby on Facebook. You have never seen the baby nor confirmed that the baby is even yours to begin with. But you proposed to 3 different women after the discovery, telling all 3 of them that you have a baby, and they all turned you down?

Yes

Kobojunkie:
1. So, you were married to the woman in question and then something happened causing her to jettison her marriage to you then? Or was the child born out of wedlock, which one is it?

And you seem already looking to remarry --- you claim you already proposed to 3 women only to be turned down by them?

Previously i have proposed to three women all of them turn me down whenever i told them that i have a baby that was the reason i it kept from this woman though i have intention of telling her later but i never knew it will come out earlier

Kobojunkie:
1. So, you were married to the woman in question and then something happened causing her to jettison her marriage to you then? Or was the child born out of wedlock, which one is it?

And you seem already looking to remarry --- you claim you already proposed to 3 women only to be turned down by them?

The woman that had baby for me i never married her, in fact i discover later that she was married to a man in Lagos before we met though she told me she had a baby but she said it happened when she finished from secondary school. Later i knew she actually married the man, but she left one her own when i lost my job and things gone sour but after i gained my strength back that was when i met this lady, this is the real problem what an i do now please

4reala:
Na only you waka go marry her? What about your family? What are dey doing about it?

i have consulted almost everybody now i know that im on my own, what can i do now please

frozen70:
Honestly you must have done something wrong to warrant this nonsense

Since they blocked you from calling them and changing their lines, what about hrie place of residence, is there a Dog there preventing you from going there

You are yet to tell us what happened from toasting her, getting married and antenatal to delivery

Assuming you don't have any blame, what about your family, are they aware of this nonsense

As i m typing this i m crying bitterly because there is nobody to help, even during the wedding nobody offers any assistance the major issue there is what i have said up here, i have told them i m so sorry but they insisted that they don't want to see me, i told them if they want to take their daughter is okay but they should let me see my daughter, please house i need your help please

opera1:
The story is incomplete. Where were you during the naming ceremony?
Where is the mother?
what happened to her?
and did you play your responsibility as a father?

Lot of things must have been wrong and the solution is with you IF you want to see your child or not.

How please guide me, they were threatening me with police and all this i don't have anybody what can i do when they said they don't want to see me

Mindlog:
I certainly know that there is more to it than what you have shared but I would suggest you go to one of the welfare offices in Lagos and lay your issues, I believe they would get in touch with her and get her to come to their office with the child.

Can i reach you via phone or chat, please can i DM you

Both mother and the daughter have been sharing the pictures online with everyone who cares to listen to them. I paid her bride price I did not impregnate her out of wedlock I have not filed for divorce what can I do please

Foodqueen:


Summary.....

He had a child with an ex.

He met 3 ladies, they all refuse to marry him cos he have a baby mama.

He met another lady, didn't tell her he has a child before cos he doesn't want her to leave( he said, he was growing old and seriously searching).

He married her legally.

She later found out about the child outside.

Now she's gone and isn't coming back.

He has sent pastors, all in vain.

Please that is the summary I need help I want help this is getting out of hand I cannot call them because they have blocked me in all communicable channels. I don't know the name of the baby please help me out

phidipe:
I have been having disappointment anytime I proposed to a lady telling her about my relationship and having a child though not legally married to the woman. Three times I told them that will be end of that relationship but this I kept it from because I'm not getting younger anymore. Somehow she got to know and since then things have been lopsided I have apologize severally sent pastors but they refused to yield please what can I do

Sir, she is in Lagos I'm in Akure Ondo State I did not know when she put to bed neither when the baby was christen I just saw the picture posted on the Facebook tagged my grand-daughter. That was when I knew she has delivered of a baby girl, they kept everything away from me. Is not that I don't have what it takes to take care of her all the expenses but they decided to acted that way please I need your help for the past four months now I don't know the fate of the baby. Both mother and daughters including my wife changed their numbers blocked me on all social media everyone I sent to help me out will later turned against me. I have made several effort to apologize but they turn a blind eyes on me please Lawyer in the house I need your help

ibechris:
Tell us the whole story...an issue can't just happen.

I posted what happened here

Samantha124:
I can advise you only if you can tell me what happened.

I have been having disappointment anytime I proposed to a lady telling her about my relationship and having a child though not legally married to the woman. Three times I told them that will be end of that relationship but this I kept it from because I'm not getting younger anymore. Somehow she got to know and since then things have been lopsided I have apologize severally sent pastors but they refused to yield please what can I do

I have been having disappointment anytime I proposed to a lady telling her about my relationship and having a child though not legally married to the woman. Three times I told them that will be end of that relationship but this I kept it from because I'm not getting younger anymore. Somehow she got to know and since then things have been lopsided I have apologize severally sent pastors but they refused to yield please what can I do

Please I need the service of Lawyer in this Forum I got married legally both church and Registry at Ikoyi Registry Lagos. An issue happened till today I have not seen my child nor know the name of the child. Please help a brother in pain I need your assistance I don't know what to do because I'm helpless
Thanks in anticipation of your mature advices

Dear Nairalander
Is it possible to view recently added friend on Facebook though it has been set private, can it be bypassed

the issue is this anytime i think about my wife that just left though not divorce yet, anytime her though comes to y mid the picture of the old room i live in before flashes my mind. please what is the correlation between this and the vision of the old place

peggywebbs:
Please give more context to this dream. What were you doing in those places in the dream. If you're unable to get it, pray to God to give you understanding. If you are having a reoccurring dream, then it means you are missing out the message. If it was just one dream of your old place, that would have been retrogression, but since it's happening repeatedly, pay attention to all the elements in the dream. Like the people, what you're doing, if anyone is saying something or even the clothes around the dream.

But nothing else matters other than putting your dreams into prayer and asking God for interpretation.

every time i thinks about my wife that just left without divorce the picture of our old room come to my mind she has a baby for me. what is the meaning please help

Please help me, this issue is killing me gradually. how do i get over this bad dream of dreaming about the Old places i have lived in before, my former schools. And this is causing massive set back and bad luck for me. please help me