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rexkexmilan:
Is it Possible to "Love Yourself"?

Like, How does Someone Love His/Her self?

Na the same question wey me too dey wan find out

I have actually heard people say you can't love anything until you've loved yourself. Now where I don't get it is, isn't excessive love for oneself narcissistic and isn't that attribute bad and what some people will call selfishness? Is their any joy in someone loving themselves.
I want to hear from you guys, ladies and gentlemen, tell me why you love yourself, what attributes do you look out for when admiring yourself. Are there things you dislike about yourself, things you wish you could change, spell them out here let's see how much you know yourself and appreciate yourself.

anigbajumo:
And u fink northerners will vote for Igbo?

Except you want to tell me that after Buhari's tenure they would want to vote for another Northerner again for the Presidency, PDP should understand that Nigerians are swayed and they are sympathetic, bring an Igbo man, Nigerians will see your logic and would sympathetically vote for that Igbo man. Whether the North likes it or not, an Igbo President will sell more than a President from another region, especially in this period of Biafra agitation

They should continue appeasing the North as if they are the only region born to rule. Instead of resetting the system they are still running to the North, what happened to backing the South East and the Igbos who have not seen either the President or Vice President role. PDP getting it wrong since 1782

Pinshure of the mother or the boy

This is the sms I received, but since I wasn't sure of the duration, I decided to subscribe to my 1.2gb wey I dey sure

I got this message yesterday especially after I had recharged for my monthly subscription. I no come know how I wan take get double subscription because of the awoof wey follow this message.

Christianity, Pastors and Churches deceiving Nigerians since 1887.
What is my own, I only pity those who believe their Pastors more than the God they are supposed to serve.
Even China wey sabi produce fake things don ban to produce fake Christianity because naija don already take over that market and no want competition.

Christianity, Pastors and Churches deceiving Nigerians since 1887.
What is my own, I only pity those who believe their Pastors more than the God they are supposed to serve.

No, but really, op is absolutely right. In our emotional moments when we go into moments of Truth, most of the girls I've spoken with attested to the fact that they've had abortions before, some will be so sincere to you that they will even tell you they've had like 8-9 abortions.
It's not a false presumption, I attest and concur to this fact, no sense berating the op because the revelation puts you in a bad light. Accept the single fact. Naim make Oyinbo better pass us, they concur to the fact that they are promiscuous, they are gays, they sleep with their parents, siblings etc, but here we will swear to the high heavens that we are not what we are.
Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeew!!!

intbizoil:
Op if you are really 32 then you are no longer a kid. This girl is wasting your time, she is just using you. What will come out of this whole quagmire won't be nice at all.

Thanks for the advice, guess it's not worth it, I just hope she doesn't introduce another trick to want to use to hold me down such as crying or promising that she would call and end it in my presence.

Op, this article is sure and steadfast, so true, I am unmarried, but I have lots of married friends who are still cheating on their wives with their concubines and mistresses.

mrkay101:
My brother ur jst pouring water on a big stone. I sense dat u'v invested a lot of emotion into this so called relationship dats why ur still thinking on what to do

Also my mind they tell me say becos u never chop am yet NA em make u still stuck on her

Spot on bro, you just nailed it, but I still care about her, just thinking I could get some encouragements from nairalanders to keep on though

Dahveydson:
Dear OP, save yourself the stress and heartache, break off ties with her now. It's a good thing she told you, and it will be unfortunate to believe she will change all of a sudden.

Imagine getting married to her and she continues her ways, she will remind you that you knew she was was like before marriage.

That's my 2 kobo

No be lie you lie bro, I've brought the issue to her, but she swore to high heavens that I don't know her well enough, that once she is done with him, she is done.
I gave her instances where I have fled from my previous girlfriends who are married and with kids, yet still wanted me to do them, either claiming their husbands were not good in bed, or he doesn't touch them, another claims her husband is gay. It's a natural principle of life, wherever you like run to, once that man wey hold your mumu button comes calling , it doesn't matter where you are, you will run to answer. With the kind of power he holds over her, it would only take a short while before she runs back to tell him how bad I've been treating her.
I've just been afraid of being called a quitter, of not loving her enough to pursue her.
Me, I am tired!

My main motivation is that all through my time wooing and dating girls, I have never allowed myself be discouraged by a girl telling me she has a man, I just feel no gurl is single, therefore I have what it takes to snatch any girl I like from her man.
Currently I have won this girl's heart, she loves me very well, she comes to my house, we kiss, and make out, but what I don't understand is why is it taking her a lifetime to call it quits with a married man who she knows doesn't come with a future. Were this to be a single guy am fighting over her for, I for understand but this matter tire me, abi the man dey use jazz?
For me I think the koko according to her na say the man is 40 and sexually hyper active pass most guyz, but even me sef sure for my own side via the sex part, just say she never try me. I no go lie, I gbadun the girl sha cos she is fun to be with and very lovely, but I no wan die of high BP just yet, so I go just find way dey collect my own offering, and be looku looku like Mavin

yomi007k:
Op make I advice u like say u be my only Blood brother.

She has succeeded in putting u in chains n now its ur turn.

1. Psychologically forget abt marrying her or having a future wt her becos u go suffer. If she asks abt marriage, tell her 2 give u time.
2. Believe that she belongs to the married man n u r jus d side bf.
3. Continue "chopping" ur own share wt a smile on ur face. Don't argue,don't be jealous. Keep ur swag together.
4. Don't let ur hustle fall.
5.Plan for thy own future-becos u af tried.
6.Don't cheat on her.

The above moves if well practised will mk u a free man.
She will end up picking u becos u have more loyalty dan d married man n She will be desperate for u with time.


#shalom

Thank you for your advice, me sef just want dey chop, cos when I asked her how she would feel if I were to start dating another girl on the side, she boldly told me to carry on and just stopped chatting, I now remembered one rule about women (if she tells you to do what you like, abort whatever that thing is, there is trouble) I am just so disappointed with her, though I like her so much, cos she is fun to be with, but I think there are still better girls out there. Thank you

Anyss:
My dear OP beta move on cos dat issue na ha village person cos am. Buh d bad new be say d person don die tey tey and na even for sun dem bury am so u no fit go appease am self

Lol, you funny oh

SirJeffry:
I know a lady who has dated this married man for over 6years now and still counting. She keeps fighting other much younger numerous girlfriends of this her sugar daddy without realizing that a woman's life is like a flower. She's about 33years now but looks like a ghost upon all the make-ups.

Bro, that thing dey like smoking, you don't quit until it quits you.

Please, don't share in her curses by marrying or continue dating her.

Such ladies never go unpunished, so run for your life bro.

If you ask her, she will tell you that young single guys don't understand her. Now that I know of her sex romp with this man, I am tempted to ask... Is this what makes you claim that young single guys don't understand?

saopauloman:
okay.. u wan put ur life?

What do you advice? Make I avoid?

Cutehector:
Is she on facebook?

Yes! And why do you ask?

Hi guys,
I am 32 and I met this girl who is 27 years old and I admired her and I didn't waste any time to express myself to her, we got talking and exchanged contacts, started chatting on whatsapp, and from then on, we got emotional and fell in love with each other, she had come to my house like three times now, I have always played it cool, we only make out, when I initiate sex she will tell me to hold on. Not now.
Anyway, one day she called me out on whatsapp and gave me a shocker! That she was in love with a married man, in fact that she has a thing with married men, and it has been so for her since she was in the University and that she's currently dating a married man whose wife and kids are staying out of town, but he owns an apartment in town, which she normally goes to spend the weekend with him.
The thing is, since she opened up to me about it, I have tried to persuade her to pull out of it, but she seems incapable of that. We promise ourselves love and make out, express how we love each other, but most nights she still goes to spend it with the man, on weekends when she closes from work, his driver picks her from the office, to her parents house, where she picks her weekend things and Jets off on a weekend cruise with the man.
Her parents are wealthy, she is working and earning a six figure salary but claims she just can't end it with the man anytime soon.
When I prodded her to know why she is so in love with a married man, she claimed the man has always been there for her, especially when she conceived for him, though it ended in a miscarriage cos she couldn't bring herself to abort it cos of her religious beliefs. She feels it is not easy to end a three year relationship that abruptly. If I threaten to leave her, she throws her hands up in exasperation stating that the man has been there before me, there's nothing she can do about it other than to give it time.
She has promised to call it quits before the year runs out, but I still feel she is not doing enough. She finds it easy to tell me about the man, but will not dare tell the man about me. She said it causes problems anytime she tells the man she wants to leave, because he has told her he will only let her go when she actually finds a man who has paid her bride price and is actually walking her down the altar.
I really love her and I think she loves me too, but I don't want to take the signs lightly, I really need advice from you guys whether I should damn the consequences and stick with her or just call it quits with her. I need to mention that I quite appreciate her sincerity, frankness and honesty in respect to this issue, but I feel she could do better. I feel her truthfulness and sincerity is a virtue, compared to most girls who are runs girls and would sleep with several men and still pretend to be Saints.
I need your candid advice. Please talk to me

Cc: lalasticlala
please do the needful, I need people's advice on what steps to follow.