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Fantastic date....we somehow moved the date from sat to sunday. I'm just coming back from dropping her off. She was cool during the date. All eyez were turning my way while we walked the floors of a giant plaza. We watched a movie together titled "The Vow". Fantastic movie. New release. We ate pop corn together from one wrap while we watched. Our teeth crunching each fluffy bit silently, and sipping coke. We held hands during the movie and talked intermittently. I thought like going further. On second thought I was asking myself, what was I doing in a movie theatre while I should have been home with her and having fun. Next time certainly am taking her home. The earlier it happens the better. We've done enough of talking...I'm thinking. She's so dignified in everything she does. That's what pulls me. So graceful, poised, classy and cool. She's not brash, not archaic. I certainly caught the attention of some "abokis" in the plaza. She asked me "what is it? I told her I hope your guys aint gonna cause me trouble one day. She was surprised and asked "why?. She didn't see any reason why. But I was a bit worried about that. We held hands in the car and we had tense moments. I thought it was too early to make a move. Next time am taking her home or somewhere private, period. I can't wait. She takes her prayers seriously though. I had to drop her off at home about 7pm on time for prayers. I like the fact she is devoted. I am a devoted Christian too. Just that am a bit randy...you can call me what you like, but that's the reality.

Wow..today I dropped her off again and guess what? I popped the question. Would you be my gf? The answer was a resounding yes. I told her that ave been trying to tell her about this all this while but not had the liver. She laughed. I guess this was romantic to say. She asked me whether I was afraid of what her reaction would be, I said yes. She now said "Let's give it a try". She's going out with me on saturday. I feel over the moon. Wow. I cant believe it men.

Dear readers,
I met this fulani girl one day at work. She works where I work ( a large multinational company)...there are too many ppl so you dont know everyone. I met her at the exit one of the days...she was leaving and i was leaving...I held the swivel door for her to pass through. She thanked me and walked past. I followed her. She was dressed and wrapped up properly and you could tell she is muslim. I asked where she was going and she told me. I offered her a ride in my car...she politely declined. I insisted and told her I was going her way, so it makes sense to drop her off. She relented and agreed to ride with me. I dropped her off. We talked and I told her about myself. I took her number and the next day I also dropped her off. It's become a routine now. She calls me whenever she finishes and we go together. I began to develop feelings for her. I've told her am a Christian. We've not spoken so much at length but I now send her text messages. She told me she likes me very much. Just yesterday she told me she thinks about me very much. She's so beautiful and cute. I don't know what to do. Day before yesterday I placed my hand on her lap and she did not take it off or complain. She got me a poster the other day as present. We now exchange presents. I offered her money yesterday and she declined. She told me she doesnt want my money. I can tell she misses me very much anyday. She called me one weekend and I can tell she was missing me. She tells me too. I'm in a fix people. What do I do? I'm a devoted born again Christian but men, for the first time and caught in this kind of stuff...can someone advise me?

Thanks

Posters, someone please help me out. I need to know if my site manager is duping me. The DPC for my 3 bedroom house plus the Boys Quarters cost me 1.3million in Abuja. Please advise me, is this cost outrageous? Currently, doing the blockwork for both buildings (Main house and BQ) is costing me around 900,000 up to the Lintel level. Is this cost realistic? or am I being duped? I was present when the DPC was cast so I ensured they used the correct mixture of cement. I have not been present for the blockwork because am away on business trip. Particularly, my site manager buys one trip (20 tons) of chippings(gravel) for 65,000 naira, is this realistic?
Thanks for any response you can give.

I have had this girlfriend for the past 11 months now and we've gotten on very well. She's even gotten pregnant for me but somehow along the line she decided to abort due to circumstances beyond her control. She introduced me to all her family including her other sistas. We all get along very well as family. I know their mum and eldest brother and even inlaws in the house. There is this her immediate elder sista who's just got married one yr ago. I met her first when she came to my gf's birthday. One of the days my gf brought all her sistas including dat one for clubbing and all of us really had a nice time and they passed the nite in my house in different rooms though. Over the months I noticed she was getting fond of me and asking of me all the time. I thought this was normal as (1) I'm her sista's bf and (2) I didnt think there was anything wrong as she's married and newly married at that so she wont toy with a bad idea.

However, towards the end of last yr, my gf travelled to the USA for an exam and I was terribly lonely. Her sista called me and we was like got chatting, somehow we agreed innocently just to meet and say hello. We met twice. The last time we met was a week b4 my gf was due back to 9ja. I thought it was normal as usual but this time sparks flew. I cant figure how it started but we kissed, touched and nothing more dan dat happened. This set her on fire. She started calling me everyday and night. I asked her about her husband, she said everything was fine, just dat she wanted me. I asked her if this will nt upset her sista, she said we should not let her know and besides she still wants me to actively date her sista. She even started giving both of us nice advice on how to get along very well. However she keeps calliing, and she's just fixed a date that we can go and relax in a hotel together. I'm still worried and scared my gf will find out.

What should I do pls.

I'm really happy for all the advice on here. I take full responsibility for all that happened. I know we both have a choice to terminate the baby. She has expressed her strong views on keeping the preg, but occasionally she has the ups and downs. Few days ago a doctor in Nigeria where she went for a check up asked her how old she was, when she mentioned, he freaked out and started haranguing her, giving her lessons on morality and how dat she is not supposed to keep the baby. Girl got worried, and is just starting to come round again. Initially, I was for terminating the preg, but something keeps ringing in me that I would regret it if I tried to do it. So am really scared doing it. It would be a much more bigger scandal and problem if something happens to her. Personally, I'm not thinking of breaking up my marriage because I love my wife. I've read posters here who think I dont love my wife. The contrary is the case. I love her so much and she knows this. It's just dat sometimes men get very giddy and seedy and cant help it. Religion or no religion, men here know what am talking about. Some of those lecturing me probably have issues like this. I am really not thinking of telling my wife now. I cant handle it and I dont think she can. Its out of the question for me for now. However, just day before yesterday, the visa application the girl and her family made got approved and she has a visa to Gods own country. We started the visa process b4 finding out about the preg, so dont jump to conclusions. She wants to study abroad. Her sistas and bruvas all know me. Her mum knows me too. They've also found out dat am married and has slammed the girl on many occasions but she doesnt wanna let me go. Shes calling their bluff. Her family is affluent and want her to go abroad and would be paying her fees . If they know about the preg. they may withdraw support, but am not worried. We both want her to travel before they get to know. Am grateful for all the support but I would need more advice. I'm scared if she goes abroad things will change. On the other hand, I'm happy that it will get her out of my sphere for some time. What do you all thinkg pls.

Mr Prsdnt we have retested for HIV since 3 months and its all clear, including hepatitis B etc etc, girl is simply crazy, @190 pregnancy is not for her bf, he's away on campus and has not visited for 6 months. I've spoken to him too, occasionally. Girl is totally out of her mind and just booted him. She's now 20yrs old though, this Sept, I'm really freaking out on the wide ranging repercussions. I have a boy and a girl, and really would have liked another child.(my wife can't give me any now.doctors have told me), despite this, there was no motive, it was an accident and i really dont want the ugly situation, but gradually am beginning to accept it, i know the bubble will burst someday and all hell will break loose.Well, and girl is telling me she will not embarrass me someday, and that she will keep it a secret, so, so (I dont trust those words), I know this will haunt me one day.

Denzel2009 my wife has seen her, but she doesnt know jack. She visits our house occasionally posing as my younger brothers friend but since she reported the pregnancy i've asked her to keep away. My younger brother suspects what's going on but keeps mum. I see her often when she needs me to do so. However, we cant keep hiding forever. What am worried of is the impact on my wife and kids,

Hello All,
I got this nagging issue which I'm looking for advice on. I have been dating this 19yr old girl, I didnt tell her I was married, cos my wife travelled out nd I desperately needed companionship. It started innocently. I offered her a ride cos a bus she was travelling in from school broke down on the way. I dropped her off where her eldest sister was waiting to pick her up. I took her number and called her just to make sure they got home safely as it was getting late in the evening. I forgot all about it. After about 3 days I got a call from her. I didnt even save her numba so I asked who it was. She said she was the girl I helped three days ago, that so I had forgotten her? I gave her an excuse why I didnt have her numba. So it started like "can we have lunch somewhere? She accepted and we met that day. We met again after two days. The next week on a friday I asked if she can go out with me that evening. She accepted. We went out. I didnt tell her much about myself cos I thought it was just one of those things and that nothing about me really matters as it's just a one time stuff. So we went out to a bar. She doesn't drink though. That evening we had our first kiss. I kissed her neck. She asked me if she can go home? I said yes of course but she should get in the car. We got in the car and I made for the direction of my house. She asked me where we were going, I said my home. Regardless of her protestations, I persisted. We made our first love dat night. I asked if she liked it, she said it was great. Her bf even called and she lied (she was straight with me though. she told me about him on the first day). After we slept together, she kept calling me almost every one hour. She was like going crazy. I even got afraid at a point cos I didnt know what had come over her. Since she told me she had a bf, I thought we were just having a fling. I also presumed she knew I was married, I didnt  hide anything in my house (I would later realise she was so blind). We used condoms all the time, one day after we had dated for about 5 months, we came back from clubbing and there was no condom, I did it without CD. Nxt day both of us were scared. We ran to a doctor and had  HIV TEST and other tests. She's now pregnant and does not want to abort. She also knows am married. She wanst to have the baby for me. What should we do? Tests were negative and we were happy, but the pregnancy is another factor. I have two kids already with my wife soalthough am not in favour of abortion i realy need advice on what to do.